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Hold On to Your Kids - Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers-logo

Hold On to Your Kids - Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

Gordon Neufeld

Like countless other parents, doctors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté have had to confront their children becoming secretive and unreachable. Focused more and more on their friends, they recoiled or grew hostile around adults. Why? the problem, Neufeld suggest, lies in attachment; children are increasingly forming stronger attachments to their friends than to the adults in their lives. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behavior. This peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident - as do the solutions, none of which are impossible or even costly to undertake. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. the concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to parent and satisfy their children’s inborn need to find direction by turning towards them for their source of authority, contact and warmth. Daniel Maté’s warm and sensitive narration, gift with dialogue, and engagement with the authors writing make this an enjoyable and informative listen. Published by Post Hypnotic Press Inc. Distrubited by Big Happy Family LLC.

Like countless other parents, doctors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté have had to confront their children becoming secretive and unreachable. Focused more and more on their friends, they recoiled or grew hostile around adults. Why? the problem, Neufeld suggest, lies in attachment; children are increasingly forming stronger attachments to their friends than to the adults in their lives. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behavior. This peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident - as do the solutions, none of which are impossible or even costly to undertake. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. the concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to parent and satisfy their children’s inborn need to find direction by turning towards them for their source of authority, contact and warmth. Daniel Maté’s warm and sensitive narration, gift with dialogue, and engagement with the authors writing make this an enjoyable and informative listen. Published by Post Hypnotic Press Inc. Distrubited by Big Happy Family LLC.
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Like countless other parents, doctors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté have had to confront their children becoming secretive and unreachable. Focused more and more on their friends, they recoiled or grew hostile around adults. Why? the problem, Neufeld suggest, lies in attachment; children are increasingly forming stronger attachments to their friends than to the adults in their lives. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behavior. This peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident - as do the solutions, none of which are impossible or even costly to undertake. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. the concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to parent and satisfy their children’s inborn need to find direction by turning towards them for their source of authority, contact and warmth. Daniel Maté’s warm and sensitive narration, gift with dialogue, and engagement with the authors writing make this an enjoyable and informative listen. Published by Post Hypnotic Press Inc. Distrubited by Big Happy Family LLC.

Language:

English

Narrators:

Gabor Mate, Daniel Mate

Length:

12h 17m


Chapters

Introduction
Introduction

09:00


Chapter 1
Chapter 1

17:47


Chapter 2
Chapter 2

16:16


Chapter 3
Chapter 3

21:58


Chapter 4
Chapter 4

23:10


Chapter 5
Chapter 5

20:23


Chapter 6
Chapter 6

20:40


Chapter 7
Chapter 7

17:48


Chapter 8
Chapter 8

17:31


Chapter 9
Chapter 9

20:30


Chapter 10
Chapter 10

22:00


Chapter 11
Chapter 11

16:44


Chapter 12
Chapter 12

17:51


Chapter 13
Chapter 13

22:01


Chapter 14
Chapter 14

19:40


Chapter 15
Chapter 15

18:16


Chapter 16
Chapter 16

25:06


Chapter 17
Chapter 17

26:07


Chapter 18
Chapter 18

18:28


Chapter 19
Chapter 19

16:12


Chapter 20
Chapter 20

25:41


Chapter 21
Chapter 21

18:08


Chapter 22
Chapter 22

16:11


Chapter 23
Chapter 23

16:30


Chapter 24
Chapter 24

15:59


Chapter 25
Chapter 25

14:21


Chapter 26
Chapter 26

23:56


Chapter 27
Chapter 27

13:54


Chapter 28
Chapter 28

12:20


Chapter 29
Chapter 29

15:42


Chapter 30
Chapter 30

14:15


Chapter 31
Chapter 31

20:27


Chapter 32
Chapter 32

21:38


Chapter 33
Chapter 33

22:05


Chapter 34
Chapter 34

17:26


Chapter 35
Chapter 35

16:34


Chapter 36
Chapter 36

17:39


Chapter 37
Chapter 37

18:12


Chapter 38
Chapter 38

29:24