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I Only Say This Because I Love You - Talking In Families

Deborah Tannen

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Description:

Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? Linguist Deborah Tannen reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic -- even when we're all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages -- unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen explores what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom. This eye-opening audiobook explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers -- and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters, why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives. BY helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

Language:

English

Narrators:

Patricia Mulholland

Length:

12h 39m


Chapters

Free Sample

05:00

Chapter 1
Chapter 1

29:27


Chapter 2
Chapter 2

21:33


Chapter 3
Chapter 3

21:37


Chapter 4
Chapter 4

17:58


Chapter 5
Chapter 5

21:03


Chapter 6
Chapter 6

20:51


Chapter 7
Chapter 7

21:06


Chapter 8
Chapter 8

26:53


Chapter 9
Chapter 9

18:48


Chapter 10
Chapter 10

18:01


Chapter 11
Chapter 11

18:00


Chapter 12
Chapter 12

12:30


Chapter 13
Chapter 13

17:38


Chapter 14
Chapter 14

18:06


Chapter 15
Chapter 15

17:59


Chapter 16
Chapter 16

14:52


Chapter 17
Chapter 17

24:02


Chapter 18
Chapter 18

21:12


Chapter 19
Chapter 19

20:37


Chapter 20
Chapter 20

21:42


Chapter 21
Chapter 21

23:18


Chapter 22
Chapter 22

24:00


Chapter 23
Chapter 23

23:59


Chapter 24
Chapter 24

23:59


Chapter 25
Chapter 25

20:34


Chapter 26
Chapter 26

24:27


Chapter 27
Chapter 27

24:19


Chapter 28
Chapter 28

23:56


Chapter 29
Chapter 29

21:14


Chapter 30
Chapter 30

21:17


Chapter 31
Chapter 31

21:08


Chapter 32
Chapter 32

20:59


Chapter 33
Chapter 33

15:53


Chapter 34
Chapter 34

21:15


Chapter 35
Chapter 35

24:07


Chapter 36
Chapter 36

21:37