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The Velvet Rage - Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

Alan Downs

The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger—a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.

The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger—a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.
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The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger—a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.

Language:

English

Length:

7h 14m


Chapters

Introduction
Introduction

29:08


Part 1, Chapter 1
Part 1, Chapter 1

16:24


Part 1, Chapter 2
Part 1, Chapter 2

21:43


Part 1, Chapter 3
Part 1, Chapter 3

15:46


Part 2, Chapter 4
Part 2, Chapter 4

26:03


Part 2, Chapter 5
Part 2, Chapter 5

14:04


Part 2, Chapter 6
Part 2, Chapter 6

14:01


Part 3, Chapter 7
Part 3, Chapter 7

22:54


Part 3, Chapter 8
Part 3, Chapter 8

12:29


Part 3, Chapter 9
Part 3, Chapter 9

17:35


Part 3, Chapter 10
Part 3, Chapter 10

07:39


Part 4, Chapter 11
Part 4, Chapter 11

20:46


Part 4, Chapter 12
Part 4, Chapter 12

01:03:01


Part 4, Chapter 13
Part 4, Chapter 13

22:23


Part 4, Chapter 14
Part 4, Chapter 14

44:04


Part 4, Chapter 15
Part 4, Chapter 15

53:03


Part 4, Chapter 16
Part 4, Chapter 16

33:40


Part 4, Chapter 17
Part 4, Chapter 17

00:06