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With or Without You - A Memoir

Domenica Ruta

A haunting, unforgettable mother-daughter story for a new generation-the debut of a blazing new lyrical voice Domenica Ruta grew up in a working-class, unforgiving Italian town north of Boston where in the seventeenth century women were hanged as witches. Her mother, Kathi, a notorious figure in this hardscrabble place, was a drug addict and sometime dealer whose life swung between welfare and riches, whose highbrow taste was at odds with her base appetites. And yet she managed, despite the chaos she created, to instill in her daughter the idea that art-via a classic film or a classical education-could transcend this life of undying grudges, self-inflicted misfortune, and the crooked moral code that Kathi and her cohorts lived by. With or Without You is the story of Domenica's unconventional coming of age-a darkly hilarious chronicle of a misfit '90s childhood and the necessary and painful act of breaking away, and of overcoming her own addictions and demons in the process. In a brilliant stylistic feat, Domenica Ruta has written a powerful, inspiring, compulsively readable, and finally redemptive story about loving and leaving. Advance praise for With or Without You "Freakishly brilliant, brilliantly freakish, this is one of the best memoirs I have ever read. Domenica Ruta has done something every artist with a failed family must do: She has created herself."-Gary Shteyngart " 'Make it new,' Ezra Pound directed, and Domenica Ruta has. Difficult childhoods are plentiful; the talent to transform adversity into art is in short supply. Unflinching in its regard, forgiving in its humor, With or Without You is that rare thing, a story you think you know transformed into one you have to read to the end."-Kathryn Harrison "In the world of memoir, Mary Karr's and Geoffrey Wolff's exceptional books burn and brighten, like actual stars among strings of tinsel. With or Without You is like that. I will read whatever Domenica Ruta writes."-Amy Bloom

A haunting, unforgettable mother-daughter story for a new generation-the debut of a blazing new lyrical voice Domenica Ruta grew up in a working-class, unforgiving Italian town north of Boston where in the seventeenth century women were hanged as witches. Her mother, Kathi, a notorious figure in this hardscrabble place, was a drug addict and sometime dealer whose life swung between welfare and riches, whose highbrow taste was at odds with her base appetites. And yet she managed, despite the chaos she created, to instill in her daughter the idea that art-via a classic film or a classical education-could transcend this life of undying grudges, self-inflicted misfortune, and the crooked moral code that Kathi and her cohorts lived by. With or Without You is the story of Domenica's unconventional coming of age-a darkly hilarious chronicle of a misfit '90s childhood and the necessary and painful act of breaking away, and of overcoming her own addictions and demons in the process. In a brilliant stylistic feat, Domenica Ruta has written a powerful, inspiring, compulsively readable, and finally redemptive story about loving and leaving. Advance praise for With or Without You "Freakishly brilliant, brilliantly freakish, this is one of the best memoirs I have ever read. Domenica Ruta has done something every artist with a failed family must do: She has created herself."-Gary Shteyngart " 'Make it new,' Ezra Pound directed, and Domenica Ruta has. Difficult childhoods are plentiful; the talent to transform adversity into art is in short supply. Unflinching in its regard, forgiving in its humor, With or Without You is that rare thing, a story you think you know transformed into one you have to read to the end."-Kathryn Harrison "In the world of memoir, Mary Karr's and Geoffrey Wolff's exceptional books burn and brighten, like actual stars among strings of tinsel. With or Without You is like that. I will read whatever Domenica Ruta writes."-Amy Bloom
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A haunting, unforgettable mother-daughter story for a new generation-the debut of a blazing new lyrical voice Domenica Ruta grew up in a working-class, unforgiving Italian town north of Boston where in the seventeenth century women were hanged as witches. Her mother, Kathi, a notorious figure in this hardscrabble place, was a drug addict and sometime dealer whose life swung between welfare and riches, whose highbrow taste was at odds with her base appetites. And yet she managed, despite the chaos she created, to instill in her daughter the idea that art-via a classic film or a classical education-could transcend this life of undying grudges, self-inflicted misfortune, and the crooked moral code that Kathi and her cohorts lived by. With or Without You is the story of Domenica's unconventional coming of age-a darkly hilarious chronicle of a misfit '90s childhood and the necessary and painful act of breaking away, and of overcoming her own addictions and demons in the process. In a brilliant stylistic feat, Domenica Ruta has written a powerful, inspiring, compulsively readable, and finally redemptive story about loving and leaving. Advance praise for With or Without You "Freakishly brilliant, brilliantly freakish, this is one of the best memoirs I have ever read. Domenica Ruta has done something every artist with a failed family must do: She has created herself."-Gary Shteyngart " 'Make it new,' Ezra Pound directed, and Domenica Ruta has. Difficult childhoods are plentiful; the talent to transform adversity into art is in short supply. Unflinching in its regard, forgiving in its humor, With or Without You is that rare thing, a story you think you know transformed into one you have to read to the end."-Kathryn Harrison "In the world of memoir, Mary Karr's and Geoffrey Wolff's exceptional books burn and brighten, like actual stars among strings of tinsel. With or Without You is like that. I will read whatever Domenica Ruta writes."-Amy Bloom

Language:

English

Length:

7h 13m


Chapters

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Chapter 1
Chapter 1

00:11


Chapter 2
Chapter 2

03:18


Chapter 3
Chapter 3

04:34


Chapter 4
Chapter 4

04:41


Chapter 5
Chapter 5

04:35


Chapter 6
Chapter 6

03:59


Chapter 7
Chapter 7

04:12


Chapter 8
Chapter 8

03:37


Chapter 9
Chapter 9

04:01


Chapter 10
Chapter 10

05:02


Chapter 11
Chapter 11

03:38


Chapter 12
Chapter 12

04:12


Chapter 13
Chapter 13

03:12


Chapter 14
Chapter 14

03:07


Chapter 15
Chapter 15

03:53


Chapter 16
Chapter 16

04:12


Chapter 17
Chapter 17

04:56


Chapter 18
Chapter 18

03:16


Chapter 19
Chapter 19

04:24


Chapter 20
Chapter 20

04:15


Chapter 21
Chapter 21

03:38


Chapter 22
Chapter 22

03:35


Chapter 23
Chapter 23

04:45


Chapter 24
Chapter 24

05:13


Chapter 25
Chapter 25

04:16


Chapter 26
Chapter 26

04:00


Chapter 27
Chapter 27

03:36


Chapter 28
Chapter 28

04:30


Chapter 29
Chapter 29

03:51


Chapter 30
Chapter 30

03:30


Chapter 31
Chapter 31

03:45


Chapter 32
Chapter 32

03:55


Chapter 33
Chapter 33

04:55


Chapter 34
Chapter 34

04:26


Chapter 35
Chapter 35

04:16


Chapter 36
Chapter 36

05:53


Chapter 37
Chapter 37

03:05


Chapter 38
Chapter 38

03:12


Chapter 39
Chapter 39

04:33


Chapter 40
Chapter 40

04:42


Chapter 41
Chapter 41

04:17


Chapter 42
Chapter 42

04:56


Chapter 43
Chapter 43

03:45


Chapter 44
Chapter 44

04:35


Chapter 45
Chapter 45

05:07


Chapter 46
Chapter 46

03:17


Chapter 47
Chapter 47

03:51


Chapter 48
Chapter 48

04:38


Chapter 49
Chapter 49

04:26


Chapter 50
Chapter 50

04:25


Chapter 51
Chapter 51

03:38


Chapter 52
Chapter 52

04:43


Chapter 53
Chapter 53

04:25


Chapter 54
Chapter 54

03:50


Chapter 55
Chapter 55

03:54


Chapter 56
Chapter 56

04:28


Chapter 57
Chapter 57

05:08


Chapter 58
Chapter 58

04:16


Chapter 59
Chapter 59

04:13


Chapter 60
Chapter 60

04:19


Chapter 61
Chapter 61

04:03


Chapter 62
Chapter 62

03:57


Chapter 63
Chapter 63

03:24


Chapter 64
Chapter 64

04:19


Chapter 65
Chapter 65

04:22


Chapter 66
Chapter 66

04:15


Chapter 67
Chapter 67

04:09


Chapter 68
Chapter 68

03:14


Chapter 69
Chapter 69

04:03


Chapter 70
Chapter 70

03:59


Chapter 71
Chapter 71

04:40


Chapter 72
Chapter 72

04:23


Chapter 73
Chapter 73

03:46


Chapter 74
Chapter 74

03:06


Chapter 75
Chapter 75

04:21


Chapter 76
Chapter 76

03:11


Chapter 77
Chapter 77

03:35


Chapter 78
Chapter 78

04:18


Chapter 79
Chapter 79

04:45


Chapter 80
Chapter 80

04:34


Chapter 81
Chapter 81

03:42


Chapter 82
Chapter 82

04:28


Chapter 83
Chapter 83

05:22


Chapter 84
Chapter 84

03:57


Chapter 85
Chapter 85

04:34


Chapter 86
Chapter 86

03:46


Chapter 87
Chapter 87

04:47


Chapter 88
Chapter 88

04:47


Chapter 89
Chapter 89

02:16


Chapter 90
Chapter 90

04:57


Chapter 91
Chapter 91

04:42


Chapter 92
Chapter 92

05:21


Chapter 93
Chapter 93

04:52


Chapter 94
Chapter 94

03:27


Chapter 95
Chapter 95

04:15


Chapter 96
Chapter 96

03:40


Chapter 97
Chapter 97

03:35


Chapter 98
Chapter 98

03:12


Chapter 99
Chapter 99

03:43


Chapter 100
Chapter 100

03:51


Chapter 101
Chapter 101

03:50


Chapter 102
Chapter 102

04:53


Chapter 103
Chapter 103

02:45


Chapter 104
Chapter 104

03:56


Chapter 105
Chapter 105

03:26


Chapter 106
Chapter 106

04:00


Chapter 107
Chapter 107

00:26