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You're Wearing That? - Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation-logo

You're Wearing That? - Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation

Deborah Tannen

Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women's lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language-but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three-hair, clothes, and weight-while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen's humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You're Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the mo

Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women's lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language-but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three-hair, clothes, and weight-while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen's humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You're Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the mo
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Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women's lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language-but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three-hair, clothes, and weight-while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen's humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You're Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the mo

Language:

English

Narrators:

Cassandra Campbell

Length:

9h 35m


Chapters

Chapter 1
Chapter 1

04:01


Chapter 2
Chapter 2

03:49


Chapter 3
Chapter 3

03:07


Chapter 4
Chapter 4

03:45


Chapter 5
Chapter 5

04:09


Chapter 6
Chapter 6

03:32


Chapter 7
Chapter 7

02:45


Chapter 8
Chapter 8

03:15


Chapter 9
Chapter 9

02:33


Chapter 10
Chapter 10

04:46


Chapter 11
Chapter 11

03:58


Chapter 12
Chapter 12

04:06


Chapter 13
Chapter 13

02:59


Chapter 14
Chapter 14

04:38


Chapter 15
Chapter 15

03:59


Chapter 16
Chapter 16

02:56


Chapter 17
Chapter 17

03:37


Chapter 18
Chapter 18

03:06


Chapter 19
Chapter 19

01:41


Chapter 20
Chapter 20

04:21


Chapter 21
Chapter 21

01:12


Chapter 22
Chapter 22

02:43


Chapter 23
Chapter 23

04:28


Chapter 24
Chapter 24

04:21


Chapter 25
Chapter 25

03:33


Chapter 26
Chapter 26

02:25


Chapter 27
Chapter 27

04:59


Chapter 28
Chapter 28

05:03


Chapter 29
Chapter 29

04:06


Chapter 30
Chapter 30

04:03


Chapter 31
Chapter 31

01:31


Chapter 32
Chapter 32

03:21


Chapter 33
Chapter 33

04:05


Chapter 34
Chapter 34

03:21


Chapter 35
Chapter 35

04:05


Chapter 36
Chapter 36

01:35


Chapter 37
Chapter 37

04:01


Chapter 38
Chapter 38

04:03


Chapter 39
Chapter 39

03:37


Chapter 40
Chapter 40

03:46


Chapter 41
Chapter 41

03:01


Chapter 42
Chapter 42

05:07


Chapter 43
Chapter 43

02:21


Chapter 44
Chapter 44

03:10


Chapter 45
Chapter 45

03:48


Chapter 46
Chapter 46

02:59


Chapter 47
Chapter 47

02:53


Chapter 48
Chapter 48

03:38


Chapter 49
Chapter 49

03:08


Chapter 50
Chapter 50

03:48


Chapter 51
Chapter 51

01:23


Chapter 52
Chapter 52

03:38


Chapter 53
Chapter 53

01:25


Chapter 54
Chapter 54

03:22


Chapter 55
Chapter 55

02:38


Chapter 56
Chapter 56

04:14


Chapter 57
Chapter 57

01:56


Chapter 58
Chapter 58

04:23


Chapter 59
Chapter 59

03:37


Chapter 60
Chapter 60

02:43


Chapter 61
Chapter 61

03:55


Chapter 62
Chapter 62

03:34


Chapter 63
Chapter 63

01:42


Chapter 64
Chapter 64

02:54


Chapter 65
Chapter 65

01:57


Chapter 66
Chapter 66

04:00


Chapter 67
Chapter 67

03:53


Chapter 68
Chapter 68

02:39


Chapter 69
Chapter 69

03:35


Chapter 70
Chapter 70

03:10


Chapter 71
Chapter 71

03:20


Chapter 72
Chapter 72

03:49


Chapter 73
Chapter 73

01:28


Chapter 74
Chapter 74

05:10


Chapter 75
Chapter 75

02:58


Chapter 76
Chapter 76

04:09


Chapter 77
Chapter 77

02:30


Chapter 78
Chapter 78

03:56


Chapter 79
Chapter 79

01:53


Chapter 80
Chapter 80

03:58


Chapter 81
Chapter 81

03:10


Chapter 82
Chapter 82

03:50


Chapter 83
Chapter 83

02:50


Chapter 84
Chapter 84

03:03


Chapter 85
Chapter 85

03:49


Chapter 86
Chapter 86

03:12


Chapter 87
Chapter 87

03:59


Chapter 88
Chapter 88

03:06


Chapter 89
Chapter 89

02:59


Chapter 90
Chapter 90

03:12


Chapter 91
Chapter 91

02:53


Chapter 92
Chapter 92

03:41


Chapter 93
Chapter 93

03:35


Chapter 94
Chapter 94

02:47


Chapter 95
Chapter 95

01:40


Chapter 96
Chapter 96

03:39


Chapter 97
Chapter 97

02:08


Chapter 98
Chapter 98

03:19


Chapter 99
Chapter 99

02:52


Chapter 100
Chapter 100

02:48


Chapter 101
Chapter 101

04:28


Chapter 102
Chapter 102

04:02


Chapter 103
Chapter 103

03:25


Chapter 104
Chapter 104

03:22


Chapter 105
Chapter 105

04:57


Chapter 106
Chapter 106

03:36


Chapter 107
Chapter 107

03:30


Chapter 108
Chapter 108

02:16


Chapter 109
Chapter 109

01:39


Chapter 110
Chapter 110

03:40


Chapter 111
Chapter 111

04:08


Chapter 112
Chapter 112

03:31


Chapter 113
Chapter 113

03:41


Chapter 114
Chapter 114

03:16


Chapter 115
Chapter 115

04:11


Chapter 116
Chapter 116

02:07


Chapter 117
Chapter 117

03:51


Chapter 118
Chapter 118

03:21


Chapter 119
Chapter 119

03:25


Chapter 120
Chapter 120

02:58


Chapter 121
Chapter 121

02:15


Chapter 122
Chapter 122

02:59


Chapter 123
Chapter 123

02:38


Chapter 124
Chapter 124

04:33


Chapter 125
Chapter 125

03:01


Chapter 126
Chapter 126

03:20


Chapter 127
Chapter 127

02:25


Chapter 128
Chapter 128

03:05


Chapter 129
Chapter 129

03:56


Chapter 130
Chapter 130

04:24


Chapter 131
Chapter 131

01:29


Chapter 132
Chapter 132

04:04


Chapter 133
Chapter 133

03:57


Chapter 134
Chapter 134

04:08


Chapter 135
Chapter 135

01:33


Chapter 136
Chapter 136

04:09


Chapter 137
Chapter 137

02:37


Chapter 138
Chapter 138

03:46


Chapter 139
Chapter 139

04:21


Chapter 140
Chapter 140

02:57


Chapter 141
Chapter 141

04:06


Chapter 142
Chapter 142

03:43


Chapter 143
Chapter 143

03:10


Chapter 144
Chapter 144

03:34


Chapter 145
Chapter 145

03:21


Chapter 146
Chapter 146

03:46


Chapter 147
Chapter 147

04:05


Chapter 148
Chapter 148

04:09


Chapter 149
Chapter 149

03:06


Chapter 150
Chapter 150

04:00


Chapter 151
Chapter 151

01:57


Chapter 152
Chapter 152

03:00


Chapter 153
Chapter 153

02:04


Chapter 154
Chapter 154

03:32


Chapter 155
Chapter 155

03:57


Chapter 156
Chapter 156

03:48


Chapter 157
Chapter 157

03:04


Chapter 158
Chapter 158

03:20


Chapter 159
Chapter 159

02:07


Chapter 160
Chapter 160

04:50


Chapter 161
Chapter 161

03:18


Chapter 162
Chapter 162

03:36


Chapter 163
Chapter 163

04:27


Chapter 164
Chapter 164

04:12


Chapter 165
Chapter 165

03:26


Chapter 166
Chapter 166

04:16


Chapter 167
Chapter 167

04:08


Chapter 168
Chapter 168

04:53


Chapter 169
Chapter 169

03:25


Chapter 170
Chapter 170

04:42