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You're Wearing That? - Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation

Deborah Tannen

Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women's lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language-but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three-hair, clothes, and weight-while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen's humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You're Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the mo

Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women's lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language-but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three-hair, clothes, and weight-while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen's humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You're Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the mo
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Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women's lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language-but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three-hair, clothes, and weight-while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship. With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen's humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You're Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the mo

Language:

English

Length:

4h 55m


Chapters

Free Sample

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Chapter 1
Chapter 1

04:00


Chapter 2
Chapter 2

04:16


Chapter 3
Chapter 3

02:28


Chapter 4
Chapter 4

04:41


Chapter 5
Chapter 5

03:53


Chapter 6
Chapter 6

04:25


Chapter 7
Chapter 7

03:14


Chapter 8
Chapter 8

04:49


Chapter 9
Chapter 9

04:42


Chapter 10
Chapter 10

04:48


Chapter 11
Chapter 11

04:01


Chapter 12
Chapter 12

04:22


Chapter 13
Chapter 13

03:49


Chapter 14
Chapter 14

03:01


Chapter 15
Chapter 15

04:18


Chapter 16
Chapter 16

04:33


Chapter 17
Chapter 17

04:02


Chapter 18
Chapter 18

04:00


Chapter 19
Chapter 19

04:11


Chapter 20
Chapter 20

03:41


Chapter 21
Chapter 21

02:46


Chapter 22
Chapter 22

03:34


Chapter 23
Chapter 23

03:25


Chapter 24
Chapter 24

06:00


Chapter 25
Chapter 25

03:35


Chapter 26
Chapter 26

04:39


Chapter 27
Chapter 27

04:42


Chapter 28
Chapter 28

04:02


Chapter 29
Chapter 29

04:49


Chapter 30
Chapter 30

03:30


Chapter 31
Chapter 31

04:01


Chapter 32
Chapter 32

05:06


Chapter 33
Chapter 33

04:10


Chapter 34
Chapter 34

05:04


Chapter 35
Chapter 35

04:02


Chapter 36
Chapter 36

03:21


Chapter 37
Chapter 37

04:50


Chapter 38
Chapter 38

03:23


Chapter 39
Chapter 39

04:22


Chapter 40
Chapter 40

02:25


Chapter 41
Chapter 41

01:42


Chapter 42
Chapter 42

03:55


Chapter 43
Chapter 43

04:11


Chapter 44
Chapter 44

04:29


Chapter 45
Chapter 45

03:29


Chapter 46
Chapter 46

04:14


Chapter 47
Chapter 47

03:39


Chapter 48
Chapter 48

05:40


Chapter 49
Chapter 49

03:00


Chapter 50
Chapter 50

03:26


Chapter 51
Chapter 51

04:43


Chapter 52
Chapter 52

03:18


Chapter 53
Chapter 53

05:13


Chapter 54
Chapter 54

04:54


Chapter 55
Chapter 55

00:42


Chapter 56
Chapter 56

03:53


Chapter 57
Chapter 57

05:04


Chapter 58
Chapter 58

04:28


Chapter 59
Chapter 59

02:08


Chapter 60
Chapter 60

04:38


Chapter 61
Chapter 61

03:39


Chapter 62
Chapter 62

03:14


Chapter 63
Chapter 63

03:04


Chapter 64
Chapter 64

05:15


Chapter 65
Chapter 65

04:52


Chapter 66
Chapter 66

03:37


Chapter 67
Chapter 67

05:04


Chapter 68
Chapter 68

04:27


Chapter 69
Chapter 69

04:40


Chapter 70
Chapter 70

04:27


Chapter 71
Chapter 71

05:24


Chapter 72
Chapter 72

05:02


Chapter 73
Chapter 73

03:17