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Join us for fun and substantive discussions on how to make human relationships awesome in the 21st century. Now with 30% more wisecracks and tangents! If you've got a brain AND a heart, you're going to like this.

Join us for fun and substantive discussions on how to make human relationships awesome in the 21st century. Now with 30% more wisecracks and tangents! If you've got a brain AND a heart, you're going to like this.
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United States

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Join us for fun and substantive discussions on how to make human relationships awesome in the 21st century. Now with 30% more wisecracks and tangents! If you've got a brain AND a heart, you're going to like this.

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English

Contact:

801-719-5229


Episodes

#24 - Initiating in Dating (and in friendships)

5/18/2019
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Special guests Amber and Jessica join us for a jolly conversation about initiating in friendship and in dating. We learn a little bit about the Kardashian family, Jessica's favorite color (leopard print), the fundamentals of being engaging and inviting with pre-friends, the tragedy of mutual interest without initiative, and cultural norms about initiation (the US is more gender-egalitarian about initiation). We discuss research findings on the types of methods of initiation: not...

Duration:01:31:11

#23 - The Two Human Languages: Logic and Feeling (or, how to not sabotage your communications with others)

4/24/2019
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We discuss a critical topic in human relationships: the two fundamental languages of logic and emotion, and how to speak the correct language at the right time. This time, we draw from Stephen Covey's excellent The Spiritual Roots of Human Relations as we delve into the intricacies of effective and ineffective human communication, how not to escalate conflicts with our communication, and especially how to recognize and empathize with the current emotional (or non-emotional) state of others.

Duration:01:21:27

#22 - Risks, Regrets, and Rewards: how to ensure your life and relationships are awesome instead of lame

3/16/2019
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We get fired up as we cover a lot of ground regarding the role of risk, regret, and reward in personal growth and especially our relationships. But first, Bryce talks about women at the gym, Paul talks about law firm mascots, and we both talk about our friend whose mistake of going to law school was the most freeing bad decision of his life. We talk about humankind's high sensitivity to loss (more sensitive than to gains, even), and bias towards risk aversion, as well as the critical...

Duration:01:17:43

#21 - Siblings: The Cause of, and Solution to, our Conflicts

1/24/2019
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This time, we take a break from talking about the Other Cold War to explore the influence of siblings - for good or for ill - on us as children and even as adults. Paul and Bryce discuss an argument they had prior to recording, and how, according to research, their sibling-filled upbringings may have helped them manage the conflict effectively. We talk about family micro-cultures, how younger siblings will model their behaviors on older siblings (for better or for worse), how having older...

Duration:01:12:47

#20 - The Other Cold War: To attract, or not to attract? Part 2

1/5/2019
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We continue our episode on the role of attraction in the dating world with fellow podcasters Steph and Tracy. Paul tells us about the time he was floored by friendliness in college. Steph tells us about her very specific tastes (men who wear hats and do accounting), Tracy discusses her more broad tastes (men with emotional intelligence and growth mindsets). Bryce makes the point that being appealing to others (within healthy bounds) is actually an important aspect of empathy. We discuss the...

Duration:00:53:16

#19 - The Other Cold War: To attract, or not to attract? Part 1

12/18/2018
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Returning guest Steph and new first-time guest Tracy join us for a continuation of our series on The Other Cold War, our metaphor for how single people fail to engage with each other, and we begin an engaging conversation on the topic of attractiveness in the single's world. We discuss "chemistry", physical and non-physical types of attraction, choice in our attraction, gender differences in attraction (such as how physical attraction, in practice, is as important to women as it is to men,...

Duration:00:44:02

#18 - The Other Cold War: What science reveals about gender differences (and why it matters), Part 2

11/28/2018
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The thrilling conclusion of our episode on gender differences, with special guest Shayla. Brace yourself for laughs and fascinating insights!

Duration:00:58:45

#17 - The Other Cold War: What science reveals about gender differences (and why it matters), Part 1

11/5/2018
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After several weeks away, we're back with our most power-packed episode yet! Returning - and newly engaged! - special guest Shayla joins us as we introduce a new metaphor for the modern landscape of disengagement in human relationships - The Other Cold War - and then discuss what modern science and technology have revealed about gender differences rooted in physiology, and how those differences affect our relationships. Prepare to have your thoughts provoked!

Duration:00:58:24

#16 - Confidence

9/15/2018
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I can confidently say this is one of our best episodes yet! We explore various topics related to that most precious of psychological resources, confidence! We cover a lot of ground: cultural cues of friendliness, positive reinforcement, internal and external obstacles to confidence, depression and anxiety, how confidence is like a muscle, the Cognitive Triangle, self-image and Psycho-cybernetics, affirmations and self-talk, qualities of those most successful in escaping singleness (hint:...

Duration:00:53:02

#15 - The Importance of Fathers

9/1/2018
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We discuss recent findings on the importance of fathers, with special guest Paul's nephew Dallin! We get about 50% more personal than usual this time around, too.

Duration:01:05:15

#14 - Myers Briggs Pt. 5: Lifestyle - do you prefer to be decided, or to be informed? (Judging vs. Perceiving)

8/10/2018
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Episode 14! We welcome back the Nickersons who help us discuss the finer details of "Judging" vs. "Perceiving" and how that can affect relationships for good and ill. Cloud the dog obediently listens in silence with nary a comment. Enjoy!

Duration:01:13:58

#13 - Myers Briggs Pt. 4: Making Decisions (Thinking vs. Feeling)

7/30/2018
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More about Myers Briggs - this time we delve into Thinking vs. Feeling with guest hosts the Nickersons (and dog Cloud)!

Duration:00:59:08

#12 - Myers-Briggs Pt. 3: Obtaining Information (Intuiting vs. Sensing)

7/21/2018
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We continue our discussion of Myers-Briggs, going over the first of the main cognitive functions - obtaining information - which Myers-Briggs breaks down into intuiting vs. sensing. Guest host Shayla joins us again, enjoy!

Duration:00:44:28

#11 - Myers-Briggs Pt. 2: Extraversion vs. Introversion

7/14/2018
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We continue our discussion of Myers-Briggs, going over extraversion and introversion. Guest host Shayla joins us again, enjoy!

Duration:00:44:14

#10 - Myers Briggs Intro

7/8/2018
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We give an intro to Myers Briggs typology, tell a few stories, and crack a few jokes. Paul tries to wax philosophical on God's personality type, but Bryce puts the kibosh on that! All around, a great episode!

Duration:00:48:00

#9 - Fear: The Great Preserver, or the Great Destroyer? Part 2.

7/1/2018
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The dramatic conclusion to our discussion on fear, where we further explore the role of fear in relationships. Lots of personal stories, and other juicy content! We consider how some concerns may actually be less about the emotion of fear than about rational risk management. Steph recounts her stint as a successful matchmaker, and how it helped her overcome some of her own dating fears. She introduces us to some important classifications of single people: beautiful people, interesting ducks,...

Duration:00:42:36

#8 - Fear: The Great Preserver, or the Great Destroyer? Part 1

6/24/2018
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"Fear plays an interesting role in our lives. How dare we let it motivate us? How dare we let it into our decision-making, into our livelihoods, into our relationships? It's funny isn't it, we take a day a year to dress up in costume and celebrate fear?" - Robert California from "The Office" This time, we are joined by special guest Steph Shoell, creator of the excellent Notable Peeps and Utah Fan Club podcasts! See: http://www.notablepeeps.com/ and http://www.utahfanclub.org/ We recap...

Duration:00:34:43

#7 - The Virtues and Vices of the Virtual (YouTube version)

6/11/2018
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This time we had a special guest: our good and awesome friend Shayla! We take some time to recap loneliness and to consider the sobering new findings on suicide in the US, then discuss theater and whether there is a gender difference in its appreciation (the linked article indicates that there is). Then we discuss the downsides and upsides of technology and the virtual world in regards to human relationships. Lots of talk about Facebook, text messaging, platitudes, platypi, Paul's love of...

Duration:00:57:09

#6 - The Loneliness Episode

6/5/2018
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Probably our soberest, least funny episode yet! Paul and Bryce do a late-night recording (consequently, Bryce is more tired and less boisterous than usual), Bryce wonders why women like theater more than men, and we speak favorably of dancing's ability to bring women and men together in culturally acceptable ways. Then we discuss the increasing atomization of American society and the loneliness epidemic, interspersed with Paul's and Bryce's Oregon Trail recollections, and parrot stories from...

Duration:01:02:25

#5 - The Good Relationship Equation: Finding the Right Person + Being the Right Person

6/5/2018
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We discuss the most important math equation for creating great relationships, something all relationship-minded single people MUST seriously consider (and if they don't, they forfeit their right to complain ;-D ). But before then, we get an update on trends in arranged marriages, Paul reveals the "best" Supreme Court Justice, and Ben Franklin speaks from the grave about the downside of relational choice. We consider the male thrill of the hunt as apex predators, and whether there is a female...

Duration:00:49:14