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Inspiration and motivation for change makers who want to amplify their impact. Helping you to live better in a minute a day. Want answers? Email universe@thelinlife.com with your questions, comments or thoughts on life.
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Episodes

Episode 114 - Genuinely Repenting Apology

4/24/2019
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This is a continuation of the discussion on Gary Chapman's five languages of apology. If your apology language is Genuinely Repenting, you want to know that someone is willing to change to avoid hurting you again. It also needs to come from the heart. You feel an apology is most sincere when someone verbalizes a desire to change. You feel reassured when there is a dedicated plan. If the other person never sets up steps of action to ensure success, the apology has failed. I’ll try not to do...

Duration:00:00:54

Episode 113 - Making Restitution Apology

4/23/2019
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This is a continuation of the discussion on Gary Chapman's five languages of apology. If your apology language is Making Restitution, you find an apology most sincere when the person that has wronged you takes action to make it right. You’re not just listening for an admission of fault, but hey what can I do to make this better? What can I do to make this right? Or here’s what I’m going to do to make it up to you. Is that okay, do you think that will help? If you know someone like this and...

Duration:00:00:57

Episode 112- Accepting Responsibility Apology

4/22/2019
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This is a continuation of the discussion on Gary Chapman's five languages of apology. If your language of apology is accepting responsibility, you long to hear the words “I was wrong” from the person who wronged you. You are looking for maturity and you want to hear the offending party say "I was wrong and I take responsibility for my actions.” This can be very difficult for some people to admit they are wrong since it makes them doubt their self-worth or feel like a failure but it makes a...

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Episode 111 - Expressing Regret Apology

4/21/2019
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Of the Five Languages of Apology, Expressing Regret is probably the most straightforward one. This one is pretty simple, you are pretty satisfied with, “I’m sorry.” An immediate expression of sorrow for causing you pain goes a long way. How do people get this wrong? They combine it with an excuse, “I’m sorry I was late but I got held up at work.” How to fix this bad habit of turning apologies into deflections? "I’m sorry I was late. I did get held up at the office. But that left you in the...

Duration:00:00:57

Episode 110 - Languages Of Apology

4/20/2019
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In addition to the Five Love Languages, author Gary Chapman also explains that there are Five Languages of Apology. Ever wonder why sometimes your apologies seem to fall on deaf ears? You try to apologize but the other person just seems to get more hurt. Or have you ever had the experience where you are owed an apology but the other person just makes you feel worse. Words appear to be coming out of their mouth as they explain themselves but it’s making you more upset. You just can’t quite...

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Episode 109 - Mature Love

4/19/2019
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I want to introduce the idea of immature love and mature love. Immature love - you just love somebody the way you know how, the way you feel comfortable loving them. Mature love is loving somebody the way they need to be loved. You take it upon yourself because you care about somebody to learn their language and how to speak it and love them in a way that makes them feel truly cared for. I actually met a couple in Milan that met in a nightclub. Their eyes locked across the room and they...

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Episode 108 - Breaking The Love Bank

4/19/2019
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Yesterday, we talked about each individual having a love bank. I want to expand on that. Imagine that your love bank is experiencing a series of credits and debits. You give love and you receive love. Let’s say both you and your partner have been putting in pennies because you don’t know any better. Each person is actually working really hard and doing as much as they know how to do. It may only take one thing internally or externally to break the bank because the balance is so low. It could...

Duration:00:00:56

Episode 107 - Love Bank

4/17/2019
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What’s valuable about knowing a person's love language? If you are wanting to show them love and add to their love bank, you can choose to put in pennies (their lower scoring love language) or dollar bills (their primary love language). If you are a gifts person and wanted to shower love on a quality time person, you could buy flowers which would be a deposit of a penny or share a meal with them giving them your undivided attention which would be a dollar. If you are an acts of service...

Duration:00:00:59

Episode 106 - Advanced Physical Touch

4/17/2019
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In the realm of love languages, physical touch is about way more than sexual contact. Advanced physical touch is about registering exactly what someone’s emotional needs are and then giving that to them. If you have a partner whose love language is physical touch, what does this mean? If he is sad, that may mean a reassuring and caring embrace. If she is angry, that may mean coming over to lay a calming but firm palm on the shoulder. If they took the time to get all gussied up, that may mean...

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Episode 105 - Rejected Touch

4/15/2019
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If you have a partner whose primary love language is physical touch, a lack of initiation in physical affection and sexual intimacy can be a make or break issue. They will start to doubt themselves and wonder what’s wrong, questioning whether you still find them attractive. They will take it personally. I knew a women whose primary love language was physical touch. Her husband had a different love language and a low libido. Talk about trouble in paradise. He didn’t initiate in the bedroom...

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Episode 104 - Physical Touch

4/14/2019
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If physical touch is your primary love language, then you feel especially loved when a person expresses feelings for you through physical contact. You enjoy being embraced and feeling affection from someone you care about. In our culture, female friendships are more likely to share affection and emotional intimacy which is often missing in adult male friendships. Single men tend to think physical touch is their love language when in reality they are just starved for affection and intimacy....

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Episode 103 - Acts of Service Dating

4/13/2019
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Let’s dive a little deeper into the Acts of Service love language. Remember the quintessential service question: Does this act make their life easier and better? How about the early stages of dating since that’s a bit early for taking on household chores? When someone asks me on a date and invites me to dinner, this is an act of service. I am hungry. The person who feeds me is literally making my life better by satisfying a basic human need and for that, I’m incredibly grateful. If someone...

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Episode 102 - Acts Of Disservice

4/12/2019
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That saying the road to hell is paved with good intentions was probably invented by an Acts of Service person. Be careful not to make promises that you can’t keep with this person. If you say you are making dinner and then you get waylaid at work. You best order dinner because this person is relying on you to carry out your promise. Another one to avoid is the fake act of service. Suggest something but then have them do the behind the scenes work. I’ll pick up dinner but can you find a place...

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Episode 101 - Acts Of Service

4/11/2019
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If your primary love language is acts of service, you feel especially loved when someone pitches in to help you, perhaps running errands or household errands. You feel most loved when someone helps you carry out your responsibilities or makes your life easier. This could include simple chores like laundry or taking out the trash that requires some combination of planning, time, effort and energy. The question to ask is, "does this make this person’s life easier?" A great example is a mom I...

Duration:00:00:59

Episode 100 - Gifts That Keep Giving

4/10/2019
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Perhaps you’re still not sold on the idea that gifts is a legitimate love language. That it’s more about status symbols over experiences or people. You clearly don’t understand the gifts that keep giving. If you gift your whisky loving friend that fancy silicone ice ball mold, every time they engage in their favorite hobby of making drinks they will think of you. If your partner wears that fabulous watch, every time someone compliments it, not only is it reinforcement of positive feelings...

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Episode 99 - Selfish Gifts

4/9/2019
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If you are not a gifts person, you will likely confuse gifts with rewards. It’s like telling a kid if you finish all your homework, your reward is an hour of tv. That is a conditional reward. If you have to earn it, it’s not a gift. That’s why a paycheck is not a present. Have you heard of a selfish gift? That’s the gift you benefit from. It’s buying a tv for your wife who rarely watches tv. Or buying someone a top of the line food processor but they don’t really like to cook. Just because...

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Episode 98 - Receiving Gifts

4/8/2019
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If your love language is receiving gifts, you feel especially loved by tangible expressions of affection. It assures you that the other person is not only thinking about you but cares enough to show it. If you’ve had a bad day, having a loved one send you a token of their love speaks volumes to your heart. Non-gift people might misunderstand and feel like they have to buy your love but gifts are expressions of love and devotion. It’s a visible sign that makes you feel happy and secure in the...

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Episode 97 - Exceptional Quality Time

4/7/2019
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I once had a boyfriend that was really amazing at quality time. We would usually be able to spend the weekends together. We both worked pretty hard during the week but he would plan these really fantastic weekend adventures paired with an interesting new restaurant to try. I’m a big foodie so I always looked forward to our time together. We were only together for about 9 months but we never repeated an activity or meal. From the time I would see him at the beginning of the weekend until he...

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Episode 96 - Distracted Time

4/6/2019
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The opposite of quality time is distracted time. If you're spending the day with somebody whose primary love language is quality time, you could be in the same room but doing different activities and they would feel ignored. So when you say, “what do you mean, we spent the whole day together”, that person would not feel like they had your focused attention. A common but inconsiderate thing you might do to a quality time person is to constantly be on your phone, checking your emails,...

Duration:00:00:56

Episode 95 - Quality Time

4/5/2019
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If your love language is quality time, you feel especially loved when a person gives you undivided attention. You feel closer to people who give you focused energy. It’s more than just being in the same room or having proximity to someone. Quality time involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. It requires the emotional presence of both parties. When someone arranges to do activities that you love together, your memory bank will fill up...

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