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Pathway to Recovery is an S.A. Lifeline Foundation podcast featuring hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. We have conversations with experts and individuals who understand the pathway to healing from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma because we believe that recovering individuals leads to the healing of families.

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Pathway to Recovery is an S.A. Lifeline Foundation podcast featuring hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. We have conversations with experts and individuals who understand the pathway to healing from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma because we believe that recovering individuals leads to the healing of families.

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English


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Q&A - How do recovery principles change the way I parent?

6/25/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss applying recovery principles in parenting and how these principles can positively impact parenting style. They emphasize the importance of surrender, trust in God, and the shift from control, fear and pride to surrender, faith, and humility. Personal anecdotes and member shares from the SAL book highlight the positive impact that recovery can have on family dynamics and individual serenity. Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference here. https://salifeline.org/conference-2024/ 0:00 Q&A - How do recovery principles change the way I parent? 00:53 Summer Break and Podcast Updates 01:36 Announcing the 2024 Virtual Conference 03:48 Parenting and Recovery Principles 04:19 Personal Reflections on Parenting in Recovery 08:36 Applying Recovery Steps to Parenting 11:32 Real-Life Experiences and Testimonials 16:15 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:18:21

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Step 3 - Willingness, Boundaries, and Relief w/ Brittany B

6/18/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast , host Justin B. and guest Brittany B. discuss the transformative power of the 12-step recovery program, focusing primarily on Step 3. They touch on the significance of turning one's will and life over to the care of God, the importance of willingness and boundaries, and the principle of sharing and growth. Brittany also shares how practicing these principles brings relief and peace into her life. Brittany shares personal experiences and insights on the application of the steps, her journey in dealing with her husband's addiction, and how acceptance and serenity play crucial roles in recovery. The conversation highlights the interplay between acceptance, personal boundaries, and spiritual growth. Resource from this conversation: Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach: https://amzn.to/3XovB2z 00:00 Introduction to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast 00:55 Brittany's Journey to the 12 Steps 02:48 The Power of Sharing in Recovery 07:47 Understanding and Embracing Step Three 10:27 Personal Experiences and Challenges in Recovery 14:43 Navigating Support and Resources 23:55 Struggles with Blame and Surrender 24:11 The Process of Surrendering Blame 25:07 The Role of Humility in Surrender 28:02 The Serenity Prayer and Its Impact 30:54 Expectations and Disappointments 34:25 Acceptance and Boundaries 42:10 Understanding God and Spiritual Growth 45:10 Advice for Newcomers and Veterans 47:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:49:18

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Q&A - Why and how do I decide to turn my will over to God?

6/11/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B discuss the challenges and importance of Step 3 in the recovery process: making the decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God. They delve into why this can be difficult, and how it is a daily commitment rather than a one-time action. The dialogue includes personal experiences and insights on how relinquishing control to the God of our understanding can support long-term recovery and spiritual growth. 0:00 Q&A - Why and how do I make the decision to turn my will over to God? 00:45 Exploring Step Three: Turning Will and Life Over to God 01:28 Challenges in Surrendering to God 02:17 The Daily Decision and Its Importance 03:59 Spiritual Shifts and Personal Experiences 06:23 Faith in Action: Moving Beyond Outcomes 08:26 The Role of Faith and Works in Recovery 12:19 Trusting God's Plan and Finding Purpose 14:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:15:56

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Your Nervous System During and After Sexual Betrayal w/ KayLee Dunn

6/4/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes guest expert KayLee Dunn, a psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach. KayLee shares her expertise in helping individuals, especially women, rebuild trust and heal after intimate betrayal. She discusses the role of the nervous system in betrayal trauma, introducing concepts like neuro-intuitive boundaries and survival mode responses. The conversation delves into practical ways to self-regulate, the importance of self-compassion, and the power of pausing and observing one’s reactions. They also explore the dynamics between betrayed and betraying partners, emphasizing understanding and intentional responses. Whether new to betrayal recovery or an old-timer on this journey, Kaylee offers insightful advice and hope for navigating the complex path of healing. Connect with KayLee at kayleedunn.com 03:43 Understanding the Nervous System 04:54 Personal Experience and Neurointuitive Boundaries 07:57 The Role of the Nervous System in Trauma Responses 14:05 Self-Compassion and Understanding Reactions 20:28 Practical Steps for Healing and Self-Education 23:37 Harnessing Your Inner Survivor Skills 27:18 Connecting with Higher Power and Intuition 35:07 Mindfulness and Meditation 37:20 Safety and Stabilization in Healing 41:50 Observing and Regulating Responses 48:27 The Importance of Community and Support 55:04 Final Thoughts and Resources Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:01:01:33

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Q&A - How can I respond to trauma triggers in a healthy way?

5/28/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and S.A. Lifeline executive assistant Jeni Brockbank discuss how to manage trauma triggers effectively. Jeni shares insights on understanding trauma triggers and emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, self-care, and setting boundaries. The episode includes a discussion on practical steps to take when faced with trauma triggers—pause, breathe, practice self-care, and seek support. Jeni also shares a personal experience and the episode ends highlighting the importance of reaching out to others for support in the journey of recovery. 0:00 Q&A - How can I respond to trauma triggers in a healthy way? 01:06 Understanding Trauma Triggers 03:02 Role-Playing a Trigger Scenario 04:28 Practical Steps for Managing Triggers 08:37 Personal Experience and Self-Compassion 10:54 Review and Final Thoughts Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:14:16

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Step 2 - Love, Hope, and Trust w/ Harvey E.

5/21/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, host Justin B. and guest Harvey E. discuss the transformative power of Step Two in SAL 12-Step and in general 12 Step programs. Harvey, a 69-year-old Orthodox Jewish dentist and a recovering sexaholic, shares his journey of over 35 years struggling with same-sex attraction while being married, and shares his experience, strength, and hope of life in over 10 years of sobriety. They delve into the importance of recognizing a Higher Power's ability to restore sanity, focusing on the critical words 'that' and 'sanity' in Step Two's language. Harvey emphasizes how defining and understanding these terms was crucial in his recovery. Harvey discusses his personal experience with therapy to address the trauma from his upbringing and the role this played in his recovery. By redefining their understanding of God and embracing love, hope, and trust, they illustrate how recovery can lead to a deeply fulfilling life. Harvey's insights into the importance of self-love, the elimination of the ego, and fostering a personal relationship with a loving, omnipresent God are explored as foundational elements for successful recovery. 00:00 Welcome to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast 00:30 Introducing Harvey E: A Journey of Recovery and Faith 01:41 Diving Deep into Step Two: Belief and Restoration 04:16 Exploring the Nuances of 'Sanity' and 'Insanity' in Recovery 10:21 The Impact of Addiction on Self and Relationships 21:08 Reimagining God in the Recovery Process 23:52 Navigating Modern Challenges and Finding Solace in Faith 25:03 Reimagining God: From Punishment to Support 29:25 Exploring the Second Step Inventory and Personal Growth 35:16 The Impact of Trauma and the Role of Therapy in Recovery 42:44 Embracing the Mystery of God and the Journey of Faith Check out our new Ambassador program here. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:49:08

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Q&A - What is one of the biggest obstacles in recovery?

5/14/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, Justin and Tara discuss the importance of overcoming fear as a major obstacle in successful recovery from addiction and betrayal trauma. The discussion delves into personal experiences with fear and the significance of surrendering to a higher power to gain serenity. They emphasize the need for replacing self-reliance with God reliance, and choosing to place faith in God not in outcomes. It is in this practice that one can face any calamity and maintain serenity. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:14:32

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Post Discovery Triage Care: Establishing Safety & Stabilization for the Betrayed and Betrayer w/ Amanda Christenson

5/7/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland talks with therapist Amanda Christensen about first steps to take immediately following discovery of sexual betrayal. Amanda shares her personal and professional experience, emphasizing the importance of safety, stabilization, and recovery steps for both the betrayed and betraying partners. For the betrayed, prioritizing self-care, seeking support, and gradually setting boundaries are essential. The betraying partner must commit to sobriety and close all doors to acting out. The episode discusses establishing a structured recovery plan, including therapeutic disclosure, and pausing before making major life decisions. Amanda and Tara stress the importance of time, patience, and support in healing process for both partners. Connect with Amanda at https://hopemft.com Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:48:28

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A Neurosurgeon's Perspective: Making a Case for Sexual Addiction & Hope for Recovery w/ Don Hilton

4/30/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, Tara shares a recent presentation given by Dr. Donald L. Hilton Jr., a neurosurgeon and academic who has studied the effects of pornography on the brain. Hilton discusses how his background informs his understanding of addiction and recovery, offering insights into the nature of addictions (including sexual addiction), and the journey towards healing. Insightful stories, analogies, and quotes are used to explore the complexities of addiction, the impact of addictive behaviors on others, and the concept of recovery as a transformative process. The discussion also covers techniques for building empathy for others, the significance of a safe, supportive environment for recovery, and the idea that recovery is a continual journey of self-improvement and understanding. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:48:12

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Q&A - Is God powerful enough/good enough to restore me to sanity?

4/23/2024
Send us a Text Message. Hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. delve into the crucial question of whether the God of one's understanding is strong enough to restore sanity in the context of recovery. They discuss the common doubts and struggles individuals in recovery face regarding their perception of a higher power, including feelings of abandonment and the question of God's existence and benevolence. Justin shares his personal journey of reevaluating his understanding of God five years into sobriety, inspired by the concept of 'firing' an old God and 'hiring' a new one to better support his recovery. They emphasize using the step two inventory exercise to identify and challenge preconceived notions of God influenced by authoritative figures in one's life. The hosts encourage listeners to reflect on their own beliefs and the impact these may have on their recovery process, underlining the need for a belief in a trustworthy, loving, and powerful God in the path towards sanity and healing. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:13:31

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Step 1 - I Didn't Think it was My Problem w/ Julie M

4/16/2024
Send us a Text Message. The podcast episode features Justin B. and guest Julie M. discussing her personal journey through betrayal and recovery due to her husband's sexual addiction. Julie shares her initial reluctance to seek help for herself, believing she wasn't the one with the problem. However, upon realizing her life was unmanageable, she turned to the SAL 12 Step program for support. Throughout their conversation, they touch on learning to let go of control, finding strength and hope in community, and the gradual process of learning to trust in others, one's Higher Power, and oneself after betrayal. Check out our new Ambassador program here. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:39:54

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Q&A - What does it mean to be powerless and making room for the miracle when we 'give up'

4/9/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. explore the concepts of powerlessness and unmanageability in the context of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. They discuss how admitting to these states can be challenging yet crucial for individuals dealing with addiction and for those who are in a relationship with them. Justin shares his personal journey of denial and eventual acceptance of his powerlessness over addiction, highlighting the relief and empowerment that comes from surrendering to a higher power. The episode emphasizes the importance of admitting one's limitations to open the door to hope for recovery. The dialogue encourages listeners to 'experiment upon the word' by admitting powerlessness and unmanageability to unlock a pathway to recovery. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:12:07

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The Value of Therapeutic Disclosure & Tips and Strategies for Best Outcomes w/ Dan Gray

4/2/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes Dan Gray to discuss therapeutic disclosure in the healing process for individuals affected by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Dan emphasizes the critical role of disclosure to help break the cycle of secrecy and shame surrounding addiction, highlighting the benefits of therapeutic disclosure for both the addict and their spouse. He explains the ideal circumstances for disclosure, including the involvement of therapists for both parties to prepare and guide them through the process. Dan outlines common pitfalls of informal disclosures and stresses the importance of professional assistance to navigate the complex feelings and consequences involved. Additionally, the conversation touches on the considerations for support people, such as family members and faith leaders, advising them to listen, support, and avoid pressuring the individuals involved. Dan concludes by offering hope and advocating for reaching out for support and assistance in facing these challenging situations. To connect with Dan, you can reach him via phone or email. Phone:801-891-6857 Email: dgray@lifestarnetwork.org Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:52:53

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Q&A - Should I call it sexaholism or sex addiction and why does my sobriety definition matter?

3/26/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. explore a listener's question about the distinction between calling oneself a sexaholic versus a sex addict, and the implications of that decision. The discussion delves into the SAL definition of sobriety, highlighting the importance of personal values in determining what terms and definitions one chooses to embrace for successful recovery. Justin shares a personal account of seeking loopholes in sobriety definitions and the dangers it posed to his recovery. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:12:18

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Step 0 - Willing to go to Any Lengths...Even Connect with Others w/ Bryan F

3/19/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Justin B. speaks with SAL 12-Step member Bryan F. about 'Step Zero,' a concept not formally recognized in the traditional 12 steps but crucial for initiating the journey towards true recovery. Bryan emphasizes the importance of community building as the foundational piece of Step 0 and taking responsibility for his recovery instead of relying on others like his spouse to lead out. Bryan discusses how his recent relapse brought him back to SAL 12-Step and discusses how a separation from his wife is helping him see himself and his situation more clearly and drawing him closer to God. He also emphasizes the transformative power of getting a sponsor, being rigorously honest, and letting go of outcomes in the recovery process. Both Justin and Bryan stress the significance of continual effort in personal recovery and the benefits of being involved in 'parking lot' meetings for additional support and connection after formal meetings. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:32:15

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Q&A - What first steps should I take post discovery of sexual betrayal?

3/12/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss strategies for moving forward after the discovery of betrayal in relationships. The episode emphasizes the emotional turmoil that follows discovery, and the importance of establishing safety and stabilization. They share personal stories, including Justin's own missteps post-discovery and the journey towards healing. Tara and Justin advocate for setting boundaries, seeking support outside the marital relationship, and the necessity of finding a supportive community for both the betrayed and the betrayer. They stress that healing from addiction and betrayal is a shared but individual journey that requires patience, understanding, and outside help. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:16:13

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The Drama Triangle & Navigating Communication after Sexual Betrayal w/ Dorothy Maryon

3/5/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this special episode, therapist Dorothy Maryon presents on communication after betrayal for the SAL 12-Step Men's Online Workshop. Dorothy delves into the drama triangle—a concept explaining common unhealthy communication patterns that hinder relationship repair. She discusses strategies for breaking free from these patterns by understanding attachment and trauma. Additionally, Dorothy discusses the difference between 'drama' and 'trauma' and highlights the importance of partners recognizing and responding to betrayal trauma sensitively and constructively to establish safety. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:45:06

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Q&A - How do boundaries and bottom lines interrupt the cycle of addiction?

2/27/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this Q&A, hosts Tara and Justin provide some final commentary on the subject of setting boundaries and bottom lines in the recovery process. They emphasize how boundaries and bottom lines can effectively help break the cycle of addiction and suggest that the creation of these action plans should take place during moments of relative peace prior to the triggering event or emotion. They also consider the benefit of having a sponsor to use as a sounding board and accountability partner when establishing boundaries and bottom lines. They end with encouragement to those struggling to implement boundaries, assuring that persistence and time will slowly rewire the addicted brain and strengthen a person's ability to follow through and experience the healing fruits of this vital recovery practice. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:19:05

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Healthy Boundaries for Protection and Peace w/ Karin C. and Jan S.

2/20/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this episode, host Justin B. speaks with SAL 12-Step members Karin and Jan to discuss the importance of setting healthy boundaries in recovery from betrayal trauma. Both Karin and Jan share their own experiences navigating relationships affected by betrayal. They describe setting boundaries as a way of protecting themselves and their own peace. They also discuss the necessity of maintaining personal commitment to recovery work, regardless of the outcome of their relationships. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:01:02:23

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Q&A - What are the differences between boundaries and bottom lines and how do you apply them in relationships?

2/13/2024
Send us a Text Message. In this Q&A episode, host Tara McCausland interviews Steven and Rhyll Croshaw, co-founders of S.A. Lifeline Foundation, who share their experiences and insights on setting boundaries and bottom lines in relationships and personal recovery. They discuss the differences between boundaries and bottom lines. Steven explains how he sets his 'bottom lines' - personal safeguards established to protect him from negative triggers. Rhyll talks about the importance of allowing individuals to set their own bottom lines and that boundaries give betrayed partners choice in responding to behaviors that cause them to feel unsafe. They conclude with how a lifestyle of setting and holding boundaries and bottom lines has healed and enriched their marriage which has been affected by sexual betrayal and addiction. Find the Circles Model here. Support the Show. SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12Step Meeting Donate Contact to ask questions or make comments Transcripts

Duration:00:23:06