UPDATE ON DAY 237+: My journal continues via the following locations: If you listen via SOUNDCLOUD, go to: https://soundcloud.com/user-656945584 If you listen via iTUNES, go to: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unsoulmated-2-or-how-to-survive-divorce-by-burning/id1426722406?mt=2 Or simply go to www.unsoulmated.com for all of the links available to listen to the entire show.
Day 212. I wrap up my vacation week with the inevitable lecture talk from my brother. This time, he focuses on my divorce and things I did wrong leading up to my marriage. All of which I am fully aware of and was in no mood to have those old wounds opened again.
Day 211. A suggestion from a friend regarding an interested party who happens to be Atheist makes me consider what it would be like to date someone who does not share the same religion as I, and whether or not it is even possible.
Day 210. I am having difficulty with the idea of having to one day talk to my children about relationships when I, myself, am now against having relationships. But in order to allow them to have healthy relationships of their own, I have to overcome my own biases before I can have "the talk" with them.
Day 209. An interesting quandary popped into my head: if given the chance, would I change my views on dating if the person I could date were a celebrity? Not that this would ever be the case but hypothetically speaking, I decide that if given the chance, I would have to give it a hard pass.
Day 207. Traveling with children can be difficult but one thing I learned today was that it wasn't difficult is being able to travel without missing my wife. In fact, I didn't once think about her today, which is strange because this time last year, we took this very same trip as a married couple, so you would think the memory of this would make me miss her, but alas, I did not.
Day 205.B. My rise to popularity in the local comedy scene is moving fast and I have already been invited to join some of the veteran comics for a entertainment website project they would like to start. I am genuinely excited by the prospects of doing comedy content for them and this project but the subject matter has me concerned how it could affect possible future career choices for myself.
Day 205. I continue my analysis of the Bible and how I believe it should be used in today's modern climate. This episode explores how I believe the New Testament was intended to override the inconsistencies and issues with the old law against the nature of human beings. The New Testament is a divine addendum to God's Law which He realize would be impossible for the humans that He created to follow. Jesus Christ didn't just die on the cross for our sins, but his sacrifice was also ushering...
Day 204. As I begin preparing for my upcoming vacation with my kids, I have time to ponder my thoughts on what the Bible actually means in today's climate and formulate a new idea as to why there is an Old Testament and a New Testament. Part 1 of 2, I speak to the Old Testament and why God decided it needed to come to an end to make room for a New Testament.
Day 203. Comics are notorious for inadvertently offending people and having to apologize when they do. I seem to already am building that reputation for myself as an aspiring comic but have decided that only the rarest of circumstances will get an apology out of me. On the most part, if you simply have a different opinion about a subject, that's not enough to warrant an apology.
Day 202. Amidst all of the firecrackers outside, I am reminded of a not so great memory of dating from before my marriage and the continued engagement with this person today really brings it home that I don't ever want to be in the position again where any of my decisions in life has to include one other to be on board with those life decisions.
Day 201. A quiet day can be ruined by people being annoying. I learn from my five year old daughter that her mother has been telling her something that her mother and I had previously agreed we would never tell our children, then I am later bombarded with a whole slew of unwarranted advice from a family member about how to be a comedian.
Day 200. I get an unexpected apology from someone I didn't require an apology, and still have not gotten an apology from someone who should apologize to me. This makes it easy to forgive one and not the other. Also, I elaborate more on the idea of subjective comedy and growth in joke writing.
Day 199. Once again, life shows me that no matter what I do, it will decide when new opportunities should arise at its own pace. A am surprised by a new development I was not expecting today, tomorrow, or anytime soon. I am really hoping this new opportunity pans out.
Day 198. I slight change in plans but I am able to still talk to my friend who got divorced shortly before I found out about my impending divorce. I see similarities between his divorce and mine. I also learn that my other friend has had a change in heart when it comes to his life philosophy.
Day 197. Saturday evening, I will be hanging out with some old friends. The significance of these old friends involve history between us, but more recently, one of these friends got divorced 3-4 months before my wife announced we were separating. It will be interesting talking to this friend for the first time since his and my divorce.
Day 196. It's been years since I have felt like I was a part of a family outside of my own biological family. And now with my own family partially broken up, the desire to belong has become greater and tonight's open mic opened my eyes to my potential new family.
Day 195.B. I mentioned in a previous episode a short one-act play I wrote called "Rocks". I used this as an example of how subjective comedy can be. I personally had a lot of fun writing this little play but still wonder if I will probably ever be the only person in the world that finds the play amusing. This episode, I do a cold read of the play for your listening (dis)pleasure.