Coming Back: Conversations on life after loss

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What does life look like after the funeral? After the divorce is final? After the diagnosis? Society doesn't teach us how to cope with loss, but we are experiencing loss every day. Whether your loss is a person, a relationship, a job, a pet, or a dream, loss shapes who you are and how you choose to live in the world. Join Shelby Forsythia, Intuitive Grief Guide as she explores the ideas, resources, and stories that help us "come back" to life after death, divorce, illness and more.

What does life look like after the funeral? After the divorce is final? After the diagnosis? Society doesn't teach us how to cope with loss, but we are experiencing loss every day. Whether your loss is a person, a relationship, a job, a pet, or a dream, loss shapes who you are and how you choose to live in the world. Join Shelby Forsythia, Intuitive Grief Guide as she explores the ideas, resources, and stories that help us "come back" to life after death, divorce, illness and more.

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Episodes

71: Grief is a Clusterfuck with Alison L. Miller

2/13/2019

Get ready for grief-appropriate language! Alison L. Miller and her husband, Chuck, had a life and a future together. In just three weeks' time, he was dead and sitting in an urn in the passenger seat of her car. Committed to make good on a promise she made to her dying husband, Alison is on an Odyssey of Love driving across the country in a bright pink car so Chuck can find her out on the road. This week we're talking about how the five senses help us process grief, how grief makes us mad at...

Duration:00:57:05

70: Dead Moms Club with Alica Forneret

2/6/2019

Alica Forneret's mom was sick for most of her life. But her dad always reassured her that if things got bad enough, he would tell Alica when she and her sister needed to come home. That day came in October of 2016 when Alica's mom died in the ICU. This week, we're talking about how love sometimes looks like control and planning, the power of having people with similar losses around, how you can use your gifts to help someone who's grieving, and where Alica got the idea for her popular Dead...

Duration:01:11:12

E69: Allowing Grief to Be Holy with Rabbi Anne Brener

1/30/2019

Rabbi Anne Brener stumbled across traditional Jewish mourning rituals as she was preparing for her wedding. Her fascination with these ancient prayers and rituals plus knowledge of psychology and a collection of her own personal griefs called her to deeply explore the world of Jewish mourning and write the book Mourning & Mitzvah: A Guided Journal for Walking the Mourner’s Path Through Grief to Healing . Today we're talking about how God can be described as "a place" for mourners, the...

Duration:00:52:55

E68: An Invitation to Joy with Melissa Lyons

1/23/2019

Melissa Lyons is not a grief expert. But her mysterious message-turned-children's-book I Will Always Love You is helping grievers all over the world feel peace, comfort, and even joy after a loved one dies. We're talking about how each of us is served the crappy buffet of grief, what to do when we're charged with a mission from the Universe, and how the emotion of joy gets marginalized in grief. Also this week, I'm digging into those moments when grief makes us feel like a failure. Melissa...

Duration:01:01:42

E67: Nailing My Feet to the Floor with Catharine H. Murray

1/16/2019

Catharine H. Murray's middle son, Chan, was diagnosed with a rare and complicated form of leukemia at the heartbreaking age of five. After Western medicine did all it could do, Catharine, her husband, and her three boys moved to a remote cabin in Thailand where Chan spent his final months. Today we're talking about her book Now You See the Sky, a beautiful memoir that recounts the devastating reality of the loss of her child... and how death asked her to "nail her feet to the floor" to stay...

Duration:00:49:21

E66: Perspective is a Hell of a Drug with Kate Manser

1/9/2019

Three back-to-back losses left Kate Manser with a severe case of death anxiety. Mortality was lurking around every corner. When the freak death of a friend on Mount Everest marked the fourth death in a short amount of time, Kate had a flash of insight: "I might die tomorrow." This profound statement became the fire under her ass: "If I might die tomorrow, I'm going to build a life I love today." We're talking about how death anxiety feels in the body, how grief makes us diagnose ourselves...

Duration:00:49:20

E65: Living in the Baby Steps with Katie Huey

1/3/2019

Katie Huey's dad was fine until he wasn't. A sudden heart attack took him from her family in her early twenties and Katie was plunged into a year of spiraling confusion, compounded by both her and her husband's unexpected job losses. We're talking about Katie's faith (how prayer often looks like gratitude lists), what the experience of grief is like as an introvert, and how her blog, 52 Beautiful Things, changed in the aftermath of her father's death. Also this week, I'm announcing the...

Duration:00:46:46

In the Meantime: What I Know for Sure

12/26/2018

Five years after my mom's death, asking my heart what it knows for sure. Season 5 of Coming Back premieres January 2, 2019! In the meantime... https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe to Coming Back: https://apple.co/2CMqhhEhttp://spoti.fi/2CMr16khttp://bit.ly/2m08eJrhttp://bit.ly/2m1JWilhttps://tinyurl.com/y8elxq9thttp://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss in my private Facebook group, The Grief Growers' Garden:...

Duration:00:12:05

In the Meantime: I'm Gonna Have a Pizza

12/19/2018

I'm honoring one of the hardest days of my life by eating a pizza. This week, I'm recalling my memories of that day five years ago and reflecting on an unexpected message I received. Season 5 of Coming Back premieres January 2, 2019! In the meantime... https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe to Coming Back: https://apple.co/2CMqhhEhttp://spoti.fi/2CMr16khttp://bit.ly/2m08eJrhttp://bit.ly/2m1JWilhttps://tinyurl.com/y8elxq9thttp://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief...

Duration:00:13:55

In the Meantime: Our Bodies Remember Grief and Trauma

12/12/2018

Grief and illness are definitely related. This week, I'm sharing resources for further reading on how our bodies "keep score" of the trauma we have experienced. Season 5 of Coming Back premieres January 2, 2019! In the meantime... https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe to Coming Back: https://apple.co/2CMqhhEhttp://spoti.fi/2CMr16khttp://bit.ly/2m08eJrhttp://bit.ly/2m1JWilhttps://tinyurl.com/y8elxq9thttp://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the...

Duration:00:11:37

In the Meantime: A Couple of Wedding Stories

12/5/2018

My dad is getting remarried this weekend, so I'm sharing a few wedding stories that remind me of my mom including details I learned about her wedding after her death. Season 5 of Coming Back premieres January 2, 2019! In the meantime... https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe to Coming Back: https://apple.co/2CMqhhEhttp://spoti.fi/2CMr16khttp://bit.ly/2m08eJrhttp://bit.ly/2m1JWilhttps://tinyurl.com/y8elxq9thttp://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue...

Duration:00:10:36

In the Meantime: Why I Still Listen to My Hometown Radio Station

11/28/2018

Part of life after grief is letting yourself do things you'd think were "silly" or "weird" before. This week, I give myself permission to get nostalgic and revisit my younger self this time of year. Season 5 of Coming Back premieres January 2, 2019! In the meantime... https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe to Coming...

Duration:00:14:16

E64: SEASON 4 FINALE: The Power of Finding Your People + A Giveaway!

11/21/2018

It's the end of Season 4 of Coming Back! I'm sharing some final thoughts with you from this season's episodes as well as some upcoming events, including another double-book giveaway! Enter the giveaway by supporting Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 12/31/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Back themed stickers,...

Duration:00:13:15

E63: Doing the Grief Shuffle with Glen Lord - Bereavement Cruise 2019

11/14/2018

Death didn't exist in Glen Lord's family—at least not in his childhood. After losing his four-year-old son Noah to complications of a tonsillectomy, he found himself angry and lost. Realizing the need for genuine, accurate information on grief, Glen founded The Grief Toolbox and the Walking Through Grief Support Series to connect with others in the midst of loss. Today we're talking about what it's like to grow up in a death-averse home, the three things we need to recover from grief, and...

Duration:00:44:45

E62: Giving Men Permission to Grieve with Herb Knoll - Bereavement Cruise 2019

11/7/2018

Herb Knoll walked away from his life after his wife died of pancreatic cancer. In finding little to no support for widowers in books and grief groups, he forged his own path, spending nine years interviewing widowers and experts. The result of his research is his book, The Widower's Journey. This week, we're talking about anticipatory grief and how a number of caregivers fall ill during the caregiving process, what it's like to have losses occur on holidays and birthdays, and what men need...

Duration:00:55:15

E61: Wearing Grief Shoes with Lynda Cheldelin Fell - Bereavement Cruise 2019

10/31/2018

A premonition dream of her daughter's death was became reality in 2009 when Lynda Cheldelin Fell lost her third child, Aly, in a car accident. Shortly after, her husband suffered a stroke leaving him with permanent disabilities. This "double whammy" of grief brought Lynda to a place that she describes as "far more than the '5 Stages.'" Today we're talking about how grief turns us into 2.0 versions of ourselves, how our lives after loss are made up of collateral blessings, and what it's like...

Duration:00:53:28

E60: Learning to Dance Again with Robin Chodak - Bereavement Cruise 2019

10/24/2018

Robin Chodak lost her husband to suicide in 2005 and was instantly plunged into a world of myths and misinformation about suicide. Today, we're talking about the complications of grief due to suicide, the burden of saying "suicide is preventable," and what really helped Robin do a 180 in the aftermath of her husband's death. Also this week, I'm sharing my three biggest fears in the wake of my mom's death that I revealed in an interview on Moments of Hope with Lynda Cheldelin...

Duration:00:52:45

E59: Grief at a Round Table with Peggy Langenwalter & Trish Comer - Bereavement Cruise 2019

10/17/2018

Peggy Langenwalter and Trish Comer had their respective rugs pulled out from under them when their husbands died. "Widow" became their new, unwelcome reality and dealing with the loss of a spouse became their daily focus. On this first group discussion on Coming Back, we're talking about what it's like to take on the role of a deceased partner, how grief doesn't give a damn about convenience, and how everyone's voices are heard when we welcome grievers to a round table. Also this week, I'm...

Duration:01:11:23

E58: Giving People Back to Themselves with Cathy Cheshire - Bereavement Cruise 2019

10/10/2018

Cathy Cheshire wants you to change your mind, AKA the thoughts you think about grief. This week, we're talking about the losses that challenged her to develop mindfulness, including the deaths of her two sons, and the belief that grievers can heal themselves when given the right tools to do so. We're covering what it feels like to be punished for telling the truth about your loss, learning to love the people who could not love us, and how grief work is essentially a practice of "giving...

Duration:00:48:21

E57: There Is Life Beyond Bereavement with Annah Elizabeth - Bereavement Cruise 2019

10/3/2018

Seven years of non-stop losses drove Annah Elizabeth to ask, "What makes some people resilient and others crumble under the weight of grief?" That questioning led her to uncover her system of recovering from grief, The Five Facets of Healing. Today we're talking about how we spend the rest of our lives finding resolution for grief, how the second and third year of loss tend to be the hardest to cope with, and how not believing you're healing is a weird part of the healing process. Also this...

Duration:01:00:55