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#99 - Let's Talk About Toxic Femininity

One of the subjects I come back to fairly often is the idea of toxic masculinity. It’s something that I personally feel is important to talk about because of how much it directly affects men and makes our lives that much harder and that much worse. However, whenever we talk about masculinity in any form, there is such a regular response from people, in the comments and on twitter and elsewhere, that you can practically set your watch by it: “when are you going to talk about toxic...


#98 - How To Build A Lifestyle That Attracts Amazing Women

When we talk about being more attractive to women, we tend to focus on the surface. We talk about how to dress, what to say, how to act. But that’s the polish, the sizzle, not the substance. It may get people's attention, but without any substance to back it up, it won't keep it. Your lifestyle is what makes you more interesting and more desirable to women. When you have built the right lifestyle, it will bring women into your life without effort. Show Highlights: ...and so much...


#97 - How To Develop a Mindset For Relationship Success

Success, whether in life or in relationships, doesn't come from having the perfect plan or never making a mistake. It comes a mindset that strips away the things that hold you back and keeps you focused on what matters. You learn to avoid all of the ways you sabotage yourself and develop the emotional strength it takes to get up and win. Whether you're looking for love or chasing your dreams, if you change your mindset, you change your life. Show Highlights: ... and so much...


#96 - This Is Why You Fail

How often has the frustration of being single gotten to you? How many times have you asked yourself: why aren’t you going to get any better? Why do other people find love and you don't? Why aren’t you able to build the life that you want to live and be the man you dream about being? It's time to talk about the reason why so many guys won't find a girlfriend or lover... and what you can do to avoid their mistake. Show Highlights: What is the Negativity Bias and why does it ruin your...


#95 - What Men Get Wrong About Women

If you’re looking for advice on dating women, then you're going to find many, many self-proclaimed experts in the female mind. The problem is that most of them are almost entirely wrong. Worse, they set men up for failure by insisting on an outlook that puts men and women in conflict. It's time to talk about WHY men often have a hard time understanding and relating to women... and why it's so important, if you want to be socially successful. Show Highlights: Why so much "advice"...


#94 - How To Be A Better Man

Over the last month, the nation has had one of many conversations about sexual assault and the affect it has on survivors. And as more women speak up, sharing their stories, sharing their pain and their rage, there are guys — guys who don’t want to be part of the problem, who want to be good men — who want to know what they can do to make things better. And the answer is simple: men need to step up. We need to learn to be the men we were always meant to be and the men the world needs right...


#93 - Flirting Mistakes That Women Hate

There's a lot of bad advice out there when it comes to flirting. Advice that not only does it not work, but is actually a masterclass in how to creep women out and occasionally piss them off. Meeting women can be hard enough without making flirting mistakes that’re going to backfire, messily and all over the place. The last thing you want to do is ruin your chances with a woman by making the wrong move. Women want to like you and for you to like them too. So don't screw it up. Learn how to...


#92 - How To Upgrade Your Style, Instantly

Learning how to dress well is one of the quickest and easiest ways to be more attractive. When you start dressing up sharp, you look amazing... and most people don't. But it takes very little to stand out and be sharpest dressed, most stylish guy in the room… and without spending a small fortune in the process. You just have to know the rules. Show Highlights: The one style rule that matters above all othersThe celebrity secret to looking incredible all the timeHow clothes are SUPPOSED to...


#91 - How To Plan The Perfect First Date

How many times have you had a first date that you thought was amazing... but never lead to a second date? First dates can be tricky and frustrating. A lot of guys are good at getting a first date, but can never turn it into a second or third date. No matter what they seem to do, they’re left with a series of first dates to nowhere with nothing to show for it. And the problem is that most first dates are just bad. If you want to get that second date, then you need to understand just what...


#90 - How To Be More Attractive... Instantly!

When we talk about being attractive, we tend to think of it in terms of being physically good looking. But there’s a difference between being good looking and being attractive. People can be stunningly beautiful but have all the sex appeal of a block of wood. Meanwhile there can be people who are ugly as sin and yet have an almost mystical level of sex-appeal. Being attractive isn’t about whether you have abs like whoah or cheekbones that you could cut cheese with. It’s not about your skull...


#89 - How To Improve Your Social Skills... Quickly

One of the mistakes a lot of people make is that they assume that social success is a binary. Either you’re good with girls or you aren’t and there’s nothing you can do about it. But the good news is: that’s not true. Dating, being more successful with women, even just being more socially fluent is a skill that you can practice, and if you can practice it, you CAN get better at it. And you can learn to improve those skills quickly by breaking things down and practicing those skills...


#88 - Why Nice Guys Lose (And Bad Boys Win)

Doctor's Note: There's a recurring audio issue with this week's episode that I wasn't able to fully eliminate. I've edited around it as best as I could but it'll crop up a couple times. Sorry about that. The idea that women like “bad boys” or “assholes”, and that there a bright line between guys who get dates — the assholes — and guys who don’t — the “nice guys” gets kicked around in dating circles as though it were gospel truth. It’s one that feels true, especially if you’re someone who...


#87 - How To Overcome Neediness

When it comes to dating, there is one common issue that men have that will kill any chance you have to build attraction or a relationship: neediness. Neediness and needy behavior is the Anti-Sex equation. No matter what else you have going for you in your life — you could travel the world, you could be world famous, you could be a millionaire with a mansion and a yacht — neediness will ultimately make people nope the hell out of your life, whether you’re in a relationship, or just trying to...


#86 - How To Approach Women In Groups

A lot of men don’t know how to approach women in groups — whether they’re with other women or a mixed group of men, women and more. As a result, they tend to focus on that one person… and end up coming across like a hyena trying to separate a gazelle from the herd. Fortunately, it’s actually very easy to join in a groups, in a way that not only encourage them to accept you, but help you make a powerful connection almost immediately. You just have to understand how to manage group...


#85 - Understanding The Difference Between Flirting and Harassment

Recently Henry Cavill gave his thoughts about flirting in a post #MeToo era during an interview with GQ Australia, where he claimed to be afraid that flirting with someone might lead to his being dragged through hell because… reasons. And while he has since apologized for his insensitive remarks, they struck a chord with many people: where do you find the line between welcome flirting and sexual harassment? Does it come down to “flirting is when women like you and harassment is when they...


#84 - Can Silicon Valley Save Sex Ed? A Conversation With Brianna Rader

The state of sexual education in America is appalling. If schools aren't required by law to only teach abstinence-only education, then at most we get a glorified plumbing lesson instead of what we really need to know. As a result: more and more people are turning to porn for lessons in sex and sexuality. But what if there's a better way? If the educational system fails us - either through ignorance or design - can we take sex-ed to the people? Can we disrupt sex education and give people...


#83 - What Terry Crews Can Teach Us About Standing Up For Male Victims

(Content Warning: Sexual Assault) On June 26th, Expendables and Brooklyn 99 star Terry Crews testified before Congress in support of the Sexual Assault Survivor’s Bill of Rights. As part of his advocacy for survivors of rape and sexual assault, Crews talked about his own experience of having been the victim of sexual violence. In doing so he challenged the narrative of what it means to be the survivor of sexual assault... and showed us how we fail male victims of sexual violence. Show...


#82 - How To Get Women To Approach You

Lots of guys get anxious about approaching women that they're attracted to. But what if there were a way to change that. Ever wished you were one of those men who had women coming up to them? You can be... if you understand why women are willing to approach some men and not others. If you understand the secrets to why women do and don't make the first move, you can learn to be the guy that women notice... and they'll be eager to introduce themselves to you. Show Highlights: Why women...


#81 - The Texting Mistakes That Cost Men Dates

How often has this happened to you: you've got a woman's number, but you never seem to be able to actually get a date. You may be doing great at first, but then you notice that it’s taking longer and longer for her to reply and those replies are getting shorter and shorter until you get... nothing. And now you're left wondering just what happened... and why it keeps happening to you. Texting may have been a godsend to shy, awkward guys who want to get dates, but you still have to know how...


#80 - How To Make New Friends (When You're Out Of College)

Men on the whole, and white, heterosexual men in particular, tend to have fewer friends than women and the friendships they do have tend to be shallower and less fulfilling. It’s really not uncommon for guys to look up and realize just how few friends they have outside of family members and romantic relationships. And by then… it feels like it’s too late. After all, it's easy to make friends when you're in college. But how do you go about making friends when you're a grown man? Show...