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Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t? Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job. As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t? Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job. As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t? Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job. As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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English


Episodes

Let’s Talk Buddha Dharma: Practicing The Six Perfections

5/16/2022
What qualities do you consider the most important to cultivate as a human being? While we each have our unique characteristics and personality differences, there are specific traits that distinguish human beings as good or… not so good. Sometimes, moral ethics can seem blatantly obvious. You may think, “Of course being honest is a quality of a morally ethical person!” or “No one is THAT perfect”. However, moral ethics is not that easy to remember to do when actually applied in our everyday...

Duration:00:55:23

Nothing Can Stop Your Elephant - Not Even the Monkey Talk!

5/9/2022
What do you think of when you see an elephant? When I am hurt, in pain, confused, or frustrated, I turn to the symbol of the elephant. Elephants are an analogy for our inner wisdom, and nothing can stop yours from moving towards awakening and freedom. One year ago, I made a commitment to myself to release one podcast episode a week for a year. I have always loved being behind the microphone from my years on talk radio, so it wasn’t a coincidence that I was drawn to podcasting. Throughout...

Duration:00:19:23

Why the Time Out is Your Relationship’s Best Friend

5/2/2022
Are you guilty of judging others for their primary response when they are flooded? Next time you find yourself judging a friend, couple, ex, or anyone else for acting irrationally when experiencing high emotions, STOP and take a good look in the mirror! Think back on a fight with your current or previous partner - what was the ugliest, most hurtful thing that you said or did when you were flooded? What did they say or do to you? Was your primary response fight, flight, or freeze? On last...

Duration:00:34:09

Will Smith was Flooded! The Science Behind “The SLAP”

4/25/2022
When I got back from my retreat, I caught up on some of the world news and events that I missed - including the now infamous slap that Will Smith gave Chris Rock at the Oscars. Will losing his mind for a moment is a fantastic example of the irrational actions we ALL can take when we become flooded. Yup, you are just like Will…so stop judging him and look in the mirror. What is the worst thing YOU’VE ever done when you got triggered? Today, I’m talking all about flooding - that...

Duration:00:31:28

Death, Cake, and Living Large: Birthday Presence Part Two

4/18/2022
All of us have an expiration date. It’s a simple reality… None of us know exactly how long we're here for. Maybe you find that frightening, maybe you find it downright depressing. But here’s the thing: we can take it as simple fact and an inspiration to really live life fully—to tilt our lives to doing more of that which deeply matters to us. Instead of wasting time on the things that are more trivial or distracting or not important, we can use it as a catalyst to live the way we really want...

Duration:00:54:19

Silence and Birthday Presence

4/11/2022
Have you ever noticed the incredible effect that total, utter silence has? It can enable us to see shades of nature we’ve never noticed before, connect to the song of the treefrogs, and even form a never-before-had appreciation for the gentle buds on the springtime trees. Maybe the thought of being alone with your mind for a month makes you a little uncomfortable, maybe it makes you introspective—or maybe it scares the hell out of you! Whatever your feelings on it, we can all agree that...

Duration:00:24:20

Help! I Want Sex—They Don’t! Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

4/4/2022
“Dr. Cheryl, I want sex more than my partner does… help!” You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question in its many forms. Whether you’re the partner feeling guilty for your lacking libido or the partner with the insatiable drive—YOU. ARE. NORMAL. Yes, both of you! For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and...

Duration:00:19:20

Am I With the Wrong Person? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

3/28/2022
What’s the most lonely feeling in the world? Laying in bed next year snoozing sweetheart thinking, “Am I with the wrong person? Is this it? Where's the passion?” Believe me, I get it. You love them, but you’re just not feeling in love with them anymore. For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your...

Duration:00:20:23

Should I Share My Taboo Fantasy with My Partner? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

3/21/2022
“Dr. Cheryl, I have a wild sexual fantasy, should I share it with my partner?” “Dr. Cheryl, how can I explain my dark, lusty sexual energy to my sweetheart?” “Dr. Cheryl, sometimes I have crazy fantasies that I would never do in real life, does that mean I am somehow messed up?” These are all very real and very valid questions that I get all the time. Sometimes, even those of us who would consider ourselves sexually progressive and liberated have trouble accepting what we’ve come to see...

Duration:00:19:11

Do Healthy Couples Argue? Your Love & Sex Questions Answered

3/14/2022
If you're very young and foolish—or maybe you're old and foolish—falling in love early on might feel like your sweetheart understands you and can see inside your soul like no one has ever done before. Of course, some of this may be true. That’s why you feel such an intense bond. But love is a hard gig. You and your mate are not actually the same person, disagreements will happen, and they do not have to indicate a bigger problem. For the next few weeks, I’m sharing answers to some of the...

Duration:00:17:45

Why Seeking the Perfect Life Causes Suffering—Love the Life You Have

3/7/2022
What would you do if you could pop out of your current life and into all of the multiple lives you could have had? What if you'd married the person you said no to? What if you turned down the job that you don't like? What if you’d actually pursued your dreams? Today, I’m sharing a talk that I gave to a Buddhist group that I teach here in Canada. I’m talking all about why it’s so hard to be happy for no reason, and why we can’t seem to help but imagine the grass being greener on the other...

Duration:00:42:10

Unhappy in Life or Love? Rewrite the Story in Your Mind

2/28/2022
When you are unhappy, why are you unhappy? Life would be a heck of a lot simpler if there was a go-to answer to that question, wouldn’t it? Generally, we’re unhappy when something in our lives isn’t going quite right. You might be in pain, you might be mourning a loss, you might be worrying about money or your career or your love life. But even that last one is a little tricky: When we're unhappy in our romantic relationship, why are we unhappy? Today, I'm talking about the number one cause...

Duration:00:27:59

Burn Your Romance Novels and Save Your Relationship

2/21/2022
Picture it: a gorgeous, tanned man with huge, hulking muscles and long flowing hair clutches a beautiful waif wearing an artfully tattered dress… maybe they’re in front of a fire or in a picturesque field or sea side. There’s an obvious reason these types of books have an everlasting fan-base, but the fact is, relying on fantasy for your expectations of real life simply isn’t healthy—nor is it sustainable. Today, I’m talking about fantasy, fiction, and why avoiding living in the real world...

Duration:00:28:35

Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 4: Tantalize

2/14/2022
Do you know the saddest phrase in the English language? "Too late." I speak with so many couples who are splitting up because, “The passion is gone,” “We just drifted apart… somehow,” “I love them but I’m not in love with them,” “We never make love,” or, “It’s just too late.” But here’s the thing: it’s not too late, and there are still many things you can do to recapture that spark. For the past three weeks, I’ve invited you to join me for a series of chats, culminating today, in order to...

Duration:00:27:12

Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 3: Tease

2/7/2022
Remember when you and your sweetheart first met and a day spent apart felt like an eternity? Remember the electricity you’d feel whenever you thought about seeing them at the end of the day? That chill that you got when you’d get that sexy, anticipatory text from them? Even if we’re settled in a long relationship, even if we see each other every day, there’s still a way to bring that anticipation back—it just takes a little practice. For the next four weeks, I invite you to join me for a...

Duration:00:25:28

Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 2: Talk

1/31/2022
“Honey, we need to talk.” If you’re anything like me, just reading that probably sent a little chill down your spine or maybe even made a pit in your stomach. It’s one of the most dreaded phrases in a relationship for a reason—but there’s no need for it to be that way. Talking doesn’t have to be scary at all. In fact, learning how to talk to your sweetheart about the tough stuff in a productive way is a major key to relationship happiness and longevity. For the next four weeks, I invite you...

Duration:00:23:21

Reboot Your Relationship in Four Weeks Part 1: Touch

1/24/2022
If you’re anything like most of us, by now you’ve probably kissed most of your New Year’s resolutions goodbye… but what if I told you there was another way to use this year to renovate your relationship? And it would only take five minutes a day? AND at the end of four weeks, you’d walk away with a sexier, steamier, more loving, more romantic relationship? Okay, sure, Cheryl, this sounds just a little too good to be true. But what if it’s not? For the next four weeks, I invite you to join...

Duration:00:18:50

Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 2

1/17/2022
If you understand THIS ONE THING, it can radically improve your life. Don’t hang on to pain— it is in the past. Just Let Go. Here’s a story to illustrate that - One day, there were two monks walking a path. They came to a stream where there was a noblewoman looking to cross, but with no way of doing so. The monks were not allowed to touch a woman, yet the older monk picked the woman up and carried her across the stream, put her down, and walked on. The younger monk, scandalized, was beside...

Duration:00:43:17

Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 1

1/10/2022
Sometimes our best laid plans and intentions go awry, not because of anything we’ve done, but through forces completely beyond our control. A meticulously planned holiday is disrupted by inclimate travel weather, a special occasion is ruined by a partner’s foul mood, a long-awaited trip is brought down by bad news from a friend… of course we’re left upset and disappointed. But have you ever noticed that the more we dwell on a negative situation, the worse our situation becomes? Instead of...

Duration:00:36:29

No “Thing” Can Make You Happy - Happiness Is an Inside Job

1/3/2022
Welcome to the first episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants of 2022. Today, I talk about how you can be happy, content, and filled with loving kindness and grace… even when things are incredibly difficult in your circumstances, financially, and emotionally. Have you ever found yourself hedging your happiness on one tangible thing? It could’ve been something small, like a really beautiful outfit for a special occasion, or maybe you bought a new bike for mountain biking. Maybe you finally bought...

Duration:00:20:53