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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit the most popular episode of SMR in 2025. Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships. Our conversation encourages listeners to engage deeply with their own feelings and reactions, fostering a willingness to change and grow in their sexual lives. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Many of us have preconceived notions about oral sex. Put another away, knee-jerk reactions. So how do these reactions impact our ability to experience more pleasure and connection during oral sex? What steps do I need to take to face these? Listen to find out. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Better Oral Sex #757 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the challenges couples face during the holiday season, including managing family dynamics, setting boundaries, and maintaining intimacy. How can we all be better at navigating the pressures of consumerism and family expectations while also understanding the importance of teamwork and preparation in a marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, our conversation shifts to highlight the need for couples to communicate effectively and support each other through the stress of the holidays. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Holiday Survival Guide #756 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, our conversation explores the dynamics of conflict in relationships, focusing on defensive responses and communication patterns that can escalate tensions. Pam and I share personal experiences of how defensiveness can hinder effective communication and lead to frustration between spouses. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we continue our conversation into why marital communication is so difficult. And it's not because we have trouble communicating! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post How Placating Hurts Marriage #755 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the the importance of preparing for marriage, character development, navigating conflict, understanding financial values, and fostering emotional maturity before marriage. We emphasize the need for open communication and trust, and how parents can guide their children in forming healthy relationships. Our conversation highlights that marriage is an ongoing journey of growth and development, rather than a destination. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, what surprised Pam and I most about marriage, based on what we thought it would be before we got married. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Before You Say I Do (For Real) #754 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the complexities of relationships, emphasizing the need to retune both sexual and marital systems to adapt to changing dynamics. Particularly when menopause happens. We want to encourage a focus on personal growth and understanding within the relationship, rather than solely on physical outcomes. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we explore more the idea of Exploration Nights and Connection Nights for couples looking to deepen their capacities emotionally and sexually. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Post Menopause And I Can’t Orgasm #753 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of teaching children about sex and sexuality in a healthy and age-appropriate manner. There is a need for open communication between parents and children, and sex education should not be a one-time conversation but rather an ongoing dialogue. We provide practical principles for discussing these topics, including the importance of using accurate terminology, discussing consent and boundaries, and creating a welcoming environment for questions. They also address common parental fears and encourage parents to start these conversations early and often. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we share age-tiered sex talk thoughts. In other words, how you adjust the conversation to the different ages as your children grow up. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Talk About Sex With Your Kids #752 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, let's have a conversation about solo sex (i.e. masturbation). And this episode it's Dr Corey solo, as he covers an email from a listener asking how to maintain sexual connection and intimacy when spouses are apart. I explore how individuals maintain their sexual feelings and desires in the absence of their spouse, including the role of personal reflection and communication in sustaining emotional closeness. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Solo Sex #751 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complexities of communication in marriage, particularly around sexual dynamics and desires. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding different needs and preferences in intimacy, the role of foreplay, and the challenges of vulnerability and control in sexual relationships. We encourage you to learn to ask better questions to foster deeper understanding and connection with their partners. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, what specifically can the husband do to address his desire to want to slow things down for more foreplay. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post I Want To Slow Down #750 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss a listener's email regarding premature ejaculation and the psychological factors that may contribute to it. We explore the dynamics of sexual desire, the importance of communication between partners, and strategies for retraining the nervous system to enhance intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the need for collaboration and understanding in sexual relationships, offering practical advice for couples to navigate challenges together. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we cover some specific techniques to try when PE is an issue and you want to maintain connection. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post In My Head #749 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore a complex email from a listener struggling with intimacy and respect in her relationship. We explore themes of sexual connection, the importance of boundaries, and the distinction between compatibility and respect. Our conversation emphasizes the need for personal empowerment, the significance of reclaiming one's voice and desires, and the necessity of facing fears in order to foster healthier relationship dynamics. Ultimately, we want listeners to prioritize self-respect and well-being in your relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, questions to ask yourself to address your voice in your sex life and marriage. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Whose Pleasure Is It, Really? #748 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, Gary Thomas joins me as we explore the intricacies of married intimacy, focusing on the importance of emotional connection and the five senses in enhancing sexual experiences. We discuss how cultural perspectives shape our understanding of intimacy, the significance of touch, sound, taste, sight, and smell, and how these elements can be integrated to create a richer, more fulfilling experience. Gary emphasizes the need for couples to adapt to changes in their sexual dynamics over time and to embrace new possibilities for connection. Learn more about Gary here - https://garythomas.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Paired App: Head to https://www.paired.com/SMR and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love today, Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Five Senses In Sex | Gary Thomas #747 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of love in action within marriage, addressing the common phrase 'I know he loves me, but...' and its implications. We discuss the difference between love as an emotion and love as demonstrated through actions, emphasizing the importance of tangible expressions of love. The conversation dives into the dynamics of self-deception, the fantasy versus reality in relationships, and the necessity of confronting unhappiness and uncertainty. We hope to encourage you to reflect on your own behaviors and the impact of self-respect in your relationships, ultimately guiding you towards a deeper understanding of love and action. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, questions and actions to take yourself to address your role and the system of your marriage. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Love In Action #746 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complexities of marital intimacy and emotional disconnect, sparked by a listener's email. We explore themes of self-love, communication barriers, and the impact of conditional love on relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth and taking responsibility for one's own emotional well-being, while also addressing the challenges of maintaining connection in a marriage. The goal? Learning to focus on being the spouse you want to be, regardless of your spouse's actions, and to navigate the dark sides of marriage with clarity and kindness. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, more specific questions to learn how to be honest with yourself in your marital situations. Sponsors … Paired App: Head to https://www.paired.com/SMR and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love today. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post I know he loves me, but… #745 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the complexities of marriage, focusing on health, sexuality, and the impact of personal choices on relationships. A wife emails us asking how she can help her husband care about their sex life. Our conversation explores how anxiety can manifest in physical ways, the importance of integrity in communication, and the need for collaboration in addressing marital challenges. We also emphasize the significance of facing personal issues and the impact they have on the relationship, encouraging listeners to engage in honest dialogue and seek solutions together. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, specific questions not only this wife can ask herself, but all of us can. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Can I Get My Spouse To Care? #744 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins me as we explore the intricate relationship between sexuality and spirituality, emphasizing the importance of intimacy and personal growth within marriages. We discuss the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the dynamics of relationships, while also highlighting the need for authenticity and self-discovery. Dr Jennifer also shares insights from her upcoming book and courses, aiming to help individuals and couples create deeper connections and joy in their relationships. Check them out here - https://finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Intersection of Sexuality and Spirituality | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #743 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the concept of outsourcing sexual desire within marriage. We explore how individuals often hand over the responsibility of sexual energy to their partners, leading to a disconnect in intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of owning one's desire, understanding the biological and environmental influences on sexual interest, and recognizing the dynamics of engagement and presence in sexual relationships. We encourage listeners to ask better questions about their desires and to collaborate with their partners in navigating intimacy. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, practical steps and questions to ask yourself to understand where you may be outsourcing things in your life. Sponsors … Paired App: Head to https://www.paired.com/SMR and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love today. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Stop Outsourcing Desire To Your Spouse #742 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of sexual initiation within marriage, focusing on the dynamics between higher and lower desire partners. What are the challenges of initiating intimacy, the pressures involved, and the importance of communication and understanding each partner's needs? Our conversation emphasizes the need for both partners to take responsibility for their roles in the relationship and to work together to create a healthy sexual climate. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, practical strategies for enhancing connection and navigating the intricacies of desire are discussed - things that both members of the relationship can be more aware of and then do differently. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Initiation Takes Two #741 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore into the complexities of vaginismus and its impact on sexual relationships. We explore the emotional and psychological aspects of sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding desire, inhibition, and shared responsibility in intimate encounters. Our conversation highlights the need to reframe sexual expectations and focus on connection rather than solely on orgasm. Through a listener question we encourage all couples to reflect on their sexual experiences and foster growth in their relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we go through specific questions and ideas for couples to ask of themselves and each other. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post My Body Shuts Down Right Before Orgasm #740 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore common phrases and beliefs about marriage that may not hold true. Phrases like 'You complete me,' the 50-50 marriage proposition, and the idea that love conquers all. We dive into the complexities of marriage, emphasizing the importance of individuality, communication, and realistic expectations. What are your own beliefs and what phrases resonate with you? Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we do a deep dive into the phrase "you can be right or you can be happy." Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Marriage Advice That Isn’t Helpful #739 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

An episode from the vault - Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others. Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships. Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Anxiety As A Smoke Signal | Dr John Delony #738 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.