Wild & Sublime

Pup play, leather, kink, sobriety, and the search for intimacy: In this erotic biography episode, one man shares his journey from Iowa musical theater kid (with a girlfriend) to out-and-proud L.A. leatherman — how he moved out of shame and hiding, and into making the deep relationships he was looking for. History of ‘The Eagle’ leather bars More about Leather Culture Join The Afterglow, our monthly membership club, for bonus creator notes, monthly sexpert Q&As, and more! Or make a...

What’s the state of dating during COVID now? Get the lowdown. We follow up with hashtag open's Sarah Sloane on dating and hookups a year into the pandemic and get tips you can use. Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on staying steady in hard times. In this episode: #openTazima ParrisWild & Sublime: Episode 1Find us online: Wild & Sublime on InstagramWild & Sublime on TwitterWild & Sublime FacebookWant a sneak peek into the sex-forward topics featured on the show? Join The Afterglow,...

Andropause: Is it real? Sexperts chat about testosterone and sex drive as we age and offer surefire suggestions for upping your mojo. We also tackle desire discrepancy in relationships. And a storyteller recounts losing his virginity in the height of a Texas heat wave. The AfterglowRight this way...Sept 2019 showMay 2019 show Tired of the ice outdoors? Why not stay inside and get slippery? Use code WILD for 10% off überlube silicone lubricant! Free shipping in the US. In this...

It’s Carnival next week, and we’re diving into the eroticism of this major festival. Sexologist and theatre artist Onika Henry joins Karen for a deep talk on the community, sexual freedom, and the roots of resistance that can be seen in the Carnival of Trinidad and Tobago. Onika HenryOnika’s Tedx talkA Valentine’s treat at The Afterglow! Sign up for our monthly membership program on Patreon in February and get a free book download -- any title from the SinCyr Publishing erotic lit...

Snowed in? How about some spicy reading material to keep you warm and cozy? Karen interviews therapist Meg Weber on her new memoir about a BDSM relationship, and publisher Sienna Saint-Cyr speaks about creating the consent-based erotica they always wanted to read. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on following your hunches. Meg WeberA Year of Mr. LuckySinCyr PublishingA Valentine’s Day bonus in The Afterglow! Everyone who signs up to be part of our monthly membership program on Patreon...

If you’re not in your body, where are you? Panelists respond to a listener who asks whether checking out during sex might be a sign of trauma. And a somatic therapist leads a guided visualization to bring pleasure into daily experiences. Get slippery! 10% off Uberlube with code WILD (Plus free shipping in the US!) In this episode: Diane LongPeterMatthew AmadorElmo PainterJuly 2019 live showWant to peek behind the curtain? Join our monthly membership program The Afterglow. Or make a...

Are you saying what you really feel and want in the sexual arena? Panelists offer strategies on communication — before, during, and after sex. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on anxiety and what it takes to move forward. Get 10% off Uberlube with code WILD (Plus free shipping in the US!) In this episode: Tazima ParrisPeter aka MksThingsHappinBrandon Hunter-HaydonMay 2019 live show Want more? Join our monthly membership program The Afterglow or make a one-time contribution Pitch...

What kind of relationships do you want to make? In this deep long-form conversation for ALL relational styles, ethical nonmonogamists discuss relationship structures, communication skills, trust, jealousy, and the all-important work of getting to know ourselves. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. The Ethical Slut Get 10% off überlube with code WILD (Plus free shipping in the US!) In this episode: Gabrielle SmithCooper Beckett#openThe Ethical SlutJoin our monthly membership program...

What would you do if you had complete body confidence in sexual situations? Our audience responds. Panelists offer strategies for getting out of your head and leading with pleasure. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. “If I had total body confidence, I’d…”Get 10% off Uberlube with code WILD (Plus free shipping in the US!) Niquie Dworkin Matthew Amador Pat Cochran Pat’s article: The One Thing That Keeps Us from Our Power Pitch us an article! Join our monthly membership club The...

When it comes to sex, who are you… really? In this cabaret-style episode, Sarah Sloane defines demisexual, aromantic, and asexual — and why labels are good as we understand more deeply who we are. Panelists offer tips to avoid projecting old experiences onto new relationships. And a storyteller shares how becoming a Domme helped her discover her true self. In this episode: #openTazima Parris Brandon Hunter-HaydonBest TherapiesLily BeThe Afterglow InstagramTwitterFacebookon our websiteBooks...

"It's dress-up, it's try-on, it's 'let's see,' it's what else, who else am I?" Karen interviews somatic sex educator captain snowdon on developing a mindful erotic practice that centers pleasure and embodiment. Plus, a joyful poem for Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Tis the season… to join The Afterglow! Come visit our members-only virtual afterparty with bonus goodies galore, starting at $5/month. Or make a one-time donation to support our ongoing sex-positive work. In this...

Monogamous, polyam, kinky or solo — we all get into sex ruts! Our panel discusses how to climb on out and bring a sense of play back into your sex life. Plus Karen's Sermon on the Pubic Mound on confronting trauma when trying new things. In this episode: Jason BestTazima ParrisHeather RiderMating in CaptivityCome as You AreScience for Sexual HappinessAll the books in this episodeThe Gottman InstituteWild & Sublime on InstagramWild & Sublime on TwitterWild & Sublime Facebook The Afterglow:...

What’s it like to embark on a new sexual lifestyle in middle age? Or to figure out—after unfulfilling long-term relationships—what kind of sexual being you want to become? Two real people tell their stories. Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about the possibility of change. In this episode: The Afterglowone-time contributionFull Color Life TherapyPeter aka MksThingsHappinFollow Wild & Sublime! InstagramFacebookTwitterWant to get updates and articles in your inbox? Sign up for...

Thinking of opening up your relationship? Planning a three-way? Or just chatting with new people at a virtual party? All great and highly recommended, but… what happens when jealousy enters the room? Our panel offers strategies for talking down the green-eyed monster. Plus, a storyteller’s forays into nudity on the internet, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sex-positive community. Wild & Sublime will be taking a 3 week break after this to plan our next season! Links: Jealousy in a...

As we face another round of public-space restrictions this fall due to a rise in COVID cases, we wanted to revisit this episode. Our panel gives great suggestions for thriving during this strange time, especially if you and your partner both work from home (and maybe also have kids). Plus a sexy Burning Man story, and host Karen Yates’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. #openepisode oneOn Bookshop, you can buy books we mention on the show and support Wild & Sublime and independent booksellers at...

How far would you go to feel better? Karen speaks with Christie Tate, author of the memoir Group on writing about sex, listening to the body, and her quest for intimacy through an unconventional process of radical transparency. Group is the November 2020 selection for Reese Witherspoon’s book club and a New York Times bestseller. Links: Christie Tate“Group” on Bookshop Are you in our membership club? Starting Nov 1, sex experts will answer anonymous sex and relationship questions just for...

Bisexual? Pansexual? Heteroflexible? What's up with that? Plus, our panel answers questions about kink, queerness, and LTRs from a live audience. A storyteller shares spicy episodes from his erotic life. Then, a Sermon on the Pubic Mound on owning your pleasure. Links: #open Elmo Painter Jera Brown OUTspoken LGBTQ Stories July 2019 live show Books mentioned on our pod Sex-positive resources for joining communities and more Get ready! Starting Nov 1, sex experts will answer anonymous...

Are you stuck in a sex rut? Karen talks with three knowledgeable guests from different corners of the sex-positive world about erotic creativity and how to sustain it. Their juicy in-depth conversation ranges from roleplay and kink to tantra and mindfulness. Guests: Links: NewCity interview with Karen Yates Institute for the Study of Somatic Education The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin Love the show? Support our work by making a one-time contribution! Show your love Or support us monthly...

Queer once meant gay, but does it still? Sarah Sloane talks gay vs. queer, and how a once-maligned word has taken on expansive new meaning. Matt Griffo sings a spooky-sexy song. Aiden Nicholson discusses the joys and importance of regular STI testing and getting comfy talking to partners about sexual health. Karen shares a sexy poem by Nobel Prize winner Louise Glück. Links: #open Howard Brown Health in ChicagoPoet Louise GlückMatt Griffo’s “Songs for Monsters” Support Wild & Sublime with...

The great philosopher Ludacris once asked, “What’s your fantasy?” Our panel discusses how to make your fantasies reality—or not. Therapist Carrie Jameson shares details about how to find a therapist who’s cool with kink. And Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about getting erotically comfortable with yourself. Links: Caitlin V NealTwisted TrystYes No Maybe ListKink Clinical Practice Guidelines ProjectKink And Poly Aware Professionals DirectoryMoche erotic pottery Books mentioned in this...