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A podcast about sex for everyone, no matter your preferences, orientation, or relationship style — based on the popular live Chicago talk show, hosted by sex educator Karen Yates. Panelists, interviews, stories, Q and A, and more reflect a dynamic and all-encompassing view of sexuality. Join the juicy party!

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A podcast about sex for everyone, no matter your preferences, orientation, or relationship style — based on the popular live Chicago talk show, hosted by sex educator Karen Yates. Panelists, interviews, stories, Q and A, and more reflect a dynamic and all-encompassing view of sexuality. Join the juicy party!

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Episodes
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Building Stronger Open Relationships with Kate Loree [rebroadcast]

3/21/2025
Send us a text How do you work through the bad feelings that can damage good relationships? Polyamorous therapist and author Kate Loree chats with Karen about her comprehensive book “Open Deeply,” about consensual nonmonogamy and deep strategies to regulate you during conflicts. In this episode: Kate LoreeOpen DeeplyOpen Deeply podcastI’m looking for… Episodes on specific topicsThis episode’s transcriptBooks on relationships & sexualityA Wild & Sublime giftWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation and to download her free guide: Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communication. Step into The Afterglow! Our Patreon membership club brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:42:17

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Legislating for polyamory and diverse family structures

3/6/2025
In this final episode of our Polyamory in Depth season, Karen chats with David Carlson, campaign coordinator for OPEN, about how to begin legislating at the local level for nondiscrimination ordinances protecting polyamorous folks and those in diverse family structures. In this episode: The Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-MonogamyDavid Carson Karen YatesLegislative ToolkitGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:34:20

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Relationship Anarchy with Nicole Thompson

2/20/2025
Relationship Anarchy rejects rules and expectations in how we relate to each other. It’s mentioned more and more in the media, but what is it exactly? In this lively conversation, therapist Nicole Thompson explains that while RA can turn our relationships on their heads, it can also bring freedom. In this episode: Nicole Thompson Karen YatesRelationship Anarchy ManifestoRelationship SmorgasbordGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:49:58

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Living in a throuple, quad, & more! with author Laura Boyle

2/6/2025
Do you dream of living in a polyamorous pod? Do you have non-nesting partners? Kids? You might need to do your homework first. As part of our Polyamory In Depth season, author Laura Boyle (Monogamy? In this Economy?) talks through assumptions and expectations about polyam homelife. In this episode: Laura BoyleKaren YatesMonogamy? In this Economy?buy on Bookshop Six Recommended Books on NonmonogamyGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:01:03:52

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Are you Polywise? with author Jessica Fern

1/23/2025
When relationships transition from monogamous to open, or ENM agreements change, trouble may arise. As part of our Polyamory In Depth season, author and therapist Jessica Fern (Polywise; Polysecure) discusses how to navigate choppy waters. In this episode: Jessica FernKaren YatesPolywise PolysecureGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:50:45

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2024 Most Downloaded! "More: a Memoir of Open Marriage"

12/5/2024
Molly Roden Winter talks with Karen about her bestselling memoir More, which honestly chronicles opening up her long-term marriage while being a mother and then caregiver to her parents. Be on the lookout for our next season--"Polyamory in Depth" --starting in January! We are part of the Lincoln Lodge podcast network! Buy More through Bookshop. Help independent booksellers and Wild & Sublime! https://bookshop.org/shop/wildandsublime FEATURED: Molly Roden Winter - author @mollyrwinter on instagram Karen Yates - host, somatic sex educator, intuitive, energy worker I’m looking for… A Wild & Sublime giftEpisodes on specific topicsThis episode’s transcriptBooks on relationships & sexuality Check out the Wild & Sublime resource page Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:44:10

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Flirty fall entertainment

11/21/2024
Listen to steamy storytellers from our sixth anniversary live show as they heat up your earbuds. Plus the audience tells us about their oh-so-sexy breakthroughs. In this episode: Elizabeth GomezAshley MeyerKaren Yates Our live show was sponsored by uberlube and Rowan Tree Counseling! Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:30:02

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Thee Debauchery Ball with Khari B.

11/7/2024
Where are all the cool people at? Event producer and spoken word musician Khari B. discusses his legendary twenty-year event, Thee Debauchery Ball, a kinky house music party in Chicago for melanated people. Karen and he discuss Black sexuality, creating safe spaces, and the documentary Thee Debauchery Ball. Filmmaker David Weathersby joins the conversation midway to discuss the making of the film and watching the party’s evolution. In this episode: David Weathersby InstagramKaren Yates“Being Black and Kinky with David Weathersby” Thee Debauchery Ball infoWatch the documentaryThee Debauchery Ball The main show sponsor of the October 2024 show was uberlübe, high-performance lubricant. Show sponsor was Rowan Tree Counseling, a therapy practice that is anti-racist | queer-allied | poly-affirming | sex-positive. Available in Illinois! Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:37:32

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Redefining sex for more pleasure and excitement

10/24/2024
What’s keeping your sex life from being more exciting? Panelists discuss limiting beliefs and tips to move past them in this dynamic conversation. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. From the October 2024 live show. Panel with: Tazima ParrisLive OakSarah Sloane Karen YatesThe main show sponsor of the October 2024 show was uberlübe, high-performance lubricant. Show sponsor was Rowan Tree Counseling, a therapy practice that is anti-racist | queer-allied | poly-affirming | sex-positive. Available in Illinois! Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:46:00

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Pride: more love, more openess

9/14/2024
Panelists discuss issues facing LGBTQ+ folx inside their respective groups and across affinities, offering skills and strategies to combat isolation and forge bonds. Plus an interview with drag artist Cindy Nèro about her art and mentorship, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. From the June 2024 live show. GET TIX for our sixth anniversary live show in Chicago: Oct. 11, 2024! In this episode: Cindy NeroBrave Space AllianceLuke RomesbergCenter on HalstedLive OakKaren YatesThe June 2024 show was sponsored by Rowan Tree Counseling, a therapy practice that is anti-racist | queer-allied | poly-affirming | sex-positive. Available in Illinois! Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:01:01:20

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Sexy summer entertainment!

8/8/2024
Listen to performers from past live Chicago Wild & Sublime shows as they heat up your earbuds. Plus audiences tell us what sex secrets they’re keeping, and Karen presents a Sermon on the Pubic Mound about great sex. In this episode: GD2BlaqueIvoryAlan ColoradoKaren YatesThe live shows featured here were sponsored by Illinois-based Rowan Tree Counseling. Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:38:03

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“Naked” truth with memoirist Fancy Feast

6/27/2024
NYC burlesque artist Fancy Feast discusses her memoir, Naked: On Sex, Work, and Other Burlesques, and how being a fat performer, phone sex worker, and sex toy store clerk revealed to her Americans’ fears and expectations about sex. In this episode: Fancy FeastKaren YatesNaked buy on BookshopGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook! Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:55:55

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Zachary Zane is a BOYSLUT! [Rebroadcast]

6/13/2024
In this lively interview with bisexual mega influencer and Men’s Health columnist Zachary Zane, he discusses Boyslut, his recent book, now in paperback, that chronicles his sexual journey, as well as how to live a more shame-free, sex-positive life. [Rebroadcast] Get tix to our Chicago Pride Show on Friday, June 28, 8pm! Help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity! Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members’ club! In this episode: Zachary ZaneBoyslutGet it at Bookshop, our affiliate partner!Are you looking for…? A Wild & Sublime giftEpisodes on specific topicsBooks on sex and relationshipsBuzzsprout bonus! Thinking of starting your own podcast? Buzzsprout can help you create, host and promote it! Plus lots of useful tools and resources to streamline the process! Use our affiliate link for $20 off! Want to rev up your relationship? Host Karen Yates, a somatic intimacy coach, gives you easy tools to put into practice right away with her free guide: Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communication. Download today! Want to be Wild & Sublime out in the world? Check out our tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection to make a sexy statement. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:57:19

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Tristan Taormino—sex-positive trailblazer

5/30/2024
In this dynamic interview with award-winning author and sex educator Tristan Taormino, she discusses her memoir, A Part of the Heart Can’t Be Eaten, recounting her queer youth and relationship with her gay dad, making feminist porn, being a femme dyke, and why people aren’t having sex now. Get tix to our PRIDE SHOW. Chicago, Friday, June 28 at 8pm. In this episode: Tristan TaorminoKaren YatesA Part of the Heart Can’t Be EatenGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook! Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:01:08:27

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Overcoming jealousy and envy in relationships

5/16/2024
Our panel of sex-positive therapists discuss the roots of jealousy and envy, and share the best ways to approach these uncomfortable feelings in both open and monogamous relationships. From our May 2024 live show. For info and tickets to our live Pride Show in Chicago on Friday June 28, go here. In this episode: Matthew AmadorAri KimbleJames ChamerlikKaren Yates Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook! Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:39:26

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"Sex When You Don't Feel Like It" with Cyndi Darnell [rebroadcast]

5/2/2024
Do you and your partner have mismatched libidos? In this fascinating interview that turns many long-held ideas on their head, sexologist and author Cyndi Darnell talks about her book that helps people connect to their authentic desires and build connection. [Rebroadcast] In Chicago on Saturday May 4? Get tix to our live show and podcast recording! Buy Sex When You Don't Feel Like It on Bookshop, our affiliate partner. In this episode: Sex & relationship therapist, clinical & somatic sexologistSex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire available on our websiteBuzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:45:17

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Being Black and kinky with filmmaker David Weathersby

4/18/2024
Chicago documentary filmmaker David Weathersby talks to Karen about his work chronicling the Black kink community in Chicago, including his upcoming series Sex in Color and his film Thee Debauchery Ball. In this episode: David Weathersbyon Instagram.event info Thee Debauchery Ball on Amazon Prime or Tubi Karen Yates Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook! Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:38:09

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Using Tarot for Sex and Relationships

4/4/2024
Art therapist and counselor Alyse Ruriani explains how Tarot, the ancient divinatory card deck, can be a tool for self-growth and inner work around one’s sex life and relationships. Host Karen Yates uses herself as the subject in a reading–with a little bit of anxiety! In this episode: Alyse RurianiInstagram Karen Yates Rowan Tree CounselingTarot for Change Queer Tarot BookshopGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:46:40

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“Entwined”—expansive polyamory with author Alex Alberto

3/21/2024
Author Alex Alberto talks with Karen about “Entwined,” their memoir that explores polyamory, including community living, triads, pansexuality, and how the French and English language rate in describing being nonbinary. In this episode: Alex Albertoon InstagramEntwined BookshopRelationship anarchyRelationship anarchy tee and toteGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen’s free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here! The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:44:57

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Communication in bed—what's going on??

3/7/2024
Do you want to express yourself better in bed? Sex educator and host Karen Yates explains what might be getting in the way (a lot!) and offers solutions in this solo episode. In this episode: Wheel of ConsentKaren’s interview with Betty Martin The Art of Receiving and Giving on Bookshop BookshopSay It Better in BedDownload here!The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you early alerts and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook! Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Duration:00:08:32