All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t see eye to eye with you on some of the most important aspects of life? Maybe it’s domestic responsibilities, parenting styles, intimacy, finances, or even how you handle marriage challenges. The truth is, when it feels like you're constantly clashing, it’s often because you’re not aligned on your values—the deeper essence of what drives your decisions. In today’s episode, we’re unpacking why these differences can feel so intense and how they tie back to core values versus specific expectations. Whether it's a clash between traditional and modern views on roles, a difference in how you view intimacy, or how you approach finances, these fundamental values impact everything. I’ll share key insights on how to: This episode is for anyone who’s feeling stuck in these deeper conflicts and wants to find real alignment and peace in their marriage. If you're ready to uncover the root issues and make empowered choices that bring you closer, tune in now. And if you'd like my personal help navigating the biggest expectation clashes in your own marriage, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You’ve probably heard the term “inner work” thrown around in the personal development world, but what does it actually mean, and how does it impact your marriage? In today’s episode, we’re digging into why inner work is one of the most powerful tools you can use to transform not just yourself, but your relationship. Whether you’re just starting your personal growth journey or looking to expand your current growth plan, this episode will help you understand why this work is essential—especially when it comes to the way you show up in your marriage. Inner work isn’t just about self-improvement—it’s about understanding your triggers, breaking unhealthy patterns, and creating emotional resilience that positively impacts every part of your life. So if you’re ready to start building a stronger, healthier version of yourself, and unlock a more connected, peaceful relationship with your partner, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover exactly how to get started on the path of personal growth and transformation, right now. Also mentioned in this episode: If you'd like my personal help walking you through your own inner transformation, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call by visiting my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the secret to more peace, connection, and closeness in your marriage wasn’t about getting your partner to change, but instead, learning how to tolerate your own emotions? In today’s episode, we’re diving into a game-changing skill that can dramatically shift how you handle those intense emotional moments in your relationship: emotional tolerance. In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to: If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and want to break the cycle, this episode will show you how to start making lasting change—by learning to feel your feelings without letting them take over. Also mentioned in this episode: If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and you’re ready to learn how to navigate your emotions with more ease, I can help. Book your complimentary consultation HERE, and let’s explore how we can work together to help you respond, not react—leading to a more peaceful, fulfilling marriage.

Most couples get stuck in a pattern of blaming each other for the issues they’re facing—whether it’s the partner withdrawing, being overly critical, or just not feeling understood. But the key to shifting these dynamics lies in understanding yourself first. In this episode, we are doing an even DEEPER dive into the often overlooked ways couples keep themselves stuck. Continuing our previous conversations, I go layers deeper into the anxious and avoidant attachment patterns and how they contribute to common struggles, including: Understanding yourself at this deeper level empowers you to break the cycle of frustration and move toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how self-awareness can not only improve your connection with your partner but also help you choose the changes that will actually lead to lasting transformation. Also mentioned in this episode: If you're ready to stop feeling stuck in cycles of conflict and distance—and start creating the marriage you truly want—I invite you to consider private coaching with me. Together, we’ll work week by week to: ✅ Break the patterns that keep you disconnected ✅ Build emotional safety and true understanding ✅ Create communication that brings you closer, not further apart ✅ Rekindle the friendship, warmth, and peace you both long for You don't have to guess your way through this. You don't have to keep hoping things will "just get better." With the right support, you can rebuild a marriage that feels good again. Book your complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Ever feel like you and your partner cannot communicate effectively? You're talking one thing, and they are hearing and reacting to another. Communication break downs are very common for couples who have different attachment styles. Today we are taking another deep dive into how the anxious and avoidant dynamic leads to communication issues. I break down exactly why communication breaks down between these two attachment styles, and how this pattern is secretly keeping you both stuck. This episode is a must-listen if you're tired of feeling misunderstood and want to finally break the cycle. Tune in and discover how you can begin transforming your relationship—one conversation at a time. Also mentioned: If you feel like you're constantly missing each other, getting stuck in misunderstandings, or just can't seem to get on the same page, I can help. I have a few spots open for private coaching, where we'll focus on transforming how you communicate with your partner—so you can feel heard, understood, and connected. Book your complimentary consultation today, and let’s start breaking down those communication barriers for good: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the most common and challenging dynamics in relationships: the anxious-avoidant cycle. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a push-and-pull where one partner seems to be pulling away just when you need them the most, and the other feels suffocated by emotional demands, you’re about to discover why this happens—and how you can break free. We’ll dive into: By the end of this episode, you’ll have a better understanding of what’s really going on in your relationship and how to take the first steps toward healing and reconnection. If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and start building the intimacy and trust you both crave, this episode is for you. if you are ready to get help navigating some of the unique dynamics of being an anxious-avoidant couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more and book a complimentary consultation call HERE.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, one of the most common yet frustrating patterns in relationships. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, understanding this dynamic is the first step in breaking the cycle of emotional push and pull. We’ll explore 10 key things you need to know about this dynamic—including why both partners feel unfulfilled, why communication often breaks down, and most importantly, how you can start shifting these patterns for better connection and deeper intimacy. If you’re tired of feeling misunderstood or stuck in this emotional tug-of-war, this episode will give you the insights and tools you need to create more balance and understanding with your partner. Also mentioned in this episode: I have a few openings for private coaching. If you're looking to create a better dynamic in your marriage where you and your partner both feel close, I can definitely help. Book your complimentary call to discuss the ways my approach can support you: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the key to transforming your relationship (and your life) isn’t about rushing to the finish line, but instead giving yourself the patience to truly grow? In today’s episode, I challenge you to think differently about time, progress, and change. For many of us, impatience leads to feeling stuck, frustrated, and drained. But what if the opposite—infinite patience—could actually be the secret to moving faster and feeling more aligned along the way? I’ll take you through how giving yourself, and your process, a longer runway can provide the space to surrender and gain a new perspective that accelerates your growth. You’ll learn why this shift in mindset, combined with self-care, boundaries, and actively taking steps toward what you want, will help you experience less regret and resentment. Most people wait for their marriage to improve before allowing themselves to feel happy, but this episode shows you how to enjoy the process and embrace change in a way that makes it sustainable. If you’re ready to stop feeling behind and start moving forward with more joy, purpose, and clarity, this episode is for you. Also mentioned in this episode: Get my direct help in creating positive change that lasts in your marriage. Schedule a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, you’ll discover the top 5 beliefs that are essential for transforming your relationship and creating lasting change. If you’ve been feeling stuck, frustrated, or disconnected, shifting your mindset is the first step toward a better, more peaceful partnership. Inside you'll discover why these essential 5 mindsets are so important, how they will help you change the dynamic with your partner, and how they work together to create a more peaceful and fulfilling experience for you. You'll also have the opportunity to uncover which mindset might be most valuable for you to work on so that you start to make more progress. If you’re ready to dive deeper into these changes and want personalized support, I invite you to schedule a free consultation call to discuss ways we can work together to improve the way you feel and operate in your marriage. Visit DrChavonne.com

In this episode, we explore how different attachment styles define effort in relationships and why understanding these differences can be a game-changer. Whether you're more anxious, avoidant, or secure, your unique way of showing effort shapes how you connect with your partner and navigate challenges. I dive into the primary driving factor that determines what effort looks like for each attachment style and how misunderstanding those drivers can lead to miscommunication, distance and resentment. I also share where I see these differences show up the most: in domestic support, connection and vulnerability, personal growth, and the pace of progress in the relationship. By understanding the underlying motivations driving each attachment style’s effort, you can better communicate, reduce frustration, and create deeper, healthier relationships. Tune in for insights on how to recognize these patterns and start shifting them in your own relationship for more harmony and growth. Also mentioned in this episode: My practice is open to accepting new clients. Schedule a consultation call to learn more about my programs and how coaching can help you both come together and give your marriage the attention and effort it needs to truly thrive. BOOK YOUR CALL HERE: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we dive into how to recognize where your triggers are really coming from—whether it’s from you, your partner, or the relationship itself. Understanding the root of your emotional reactions is key to breaking unhealthy patterns and building a stronger connection. By identifying the source of your triggers, you can begin to heal, have more productive conversations, and break free from negative cycles. Not all triggers are the same, and understanding the difference is crucial for moving forward in your relationship. This episode invites you to reflect on your emotional responses and offers strategies to create meaningful change. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. If you’re feeling stuck in the same patterns, this is the kind of work that can transform your marriage, and I’m here to help you through it. Also mentioned in this episode

In this episode, we dive into the concept of communicating from the self. This is when, instead of blaming, shaming and criticizing your spouse, you simply express your feelings, your experience, and what's going on for you. It's a powerful way to express your needs and work through issues in a way that opens up the lines of communication, increases understanding, and helps you feel seen and heard. I give you 8 specific approaches to try, and encourage you to pick on to master in every conversation you have this week. This work is simple to understand, but the real transformative power comes when you apply it regularly in your life. And if you are looking for help improving your communication so you can have an easier, more connected and fulfilling marriage, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to discuss how my coaching programs can help you get the results you're looking for. Visit my website here to do that: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we dive deep into the results you’re getting in your relationship—both positive and negative. Are you feeling connected, supported, and fulfilled? Or are arguments, frustration, and disconnection more frequent than you’d like? We often point to surface-level reasons for struggles in relationships—poor communication, unmet expectations, and stress. But those are just the tip of the iceberg. To truly shift the dynamic in your marriage, we need to go deeper and uncover the root causes of these negative results. In this episode, we explore the 5 underlying issues I see most often at play whenever a couple is producing results in their relationship that they don't want. By looking beyond surface issues and addressing the real causes of conflict, you’ll gain insight into how to shift your relationship results, create deeper connection, and break free from unproductive cycles. Tune in for practical advice on how to take responsibility for your role in your marriage and make lasting changes that support mutual growth. Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married Program Private Coaching

In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the power of a marriage reset—why taking a step back from the chaos of everyday life can bring you closer together and reignite the spark in your relationship. Whether you’re feeling emotionally distant, disconnected, or simply stuck in the day-to-day routine, a reset can help you reassess your connection and renew your commitment to each other. You’ll learn: By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to reset your relationship and start fresh, building a stronger, more intentional partnership. Tune in for a conversation on how taking the time to pause and reconnect can transform your marriage—starting today. Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married - my coaching program where you learn the 6 core skills all couples need - but no one teaches them. It's open for enrollment now! Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

In today’s episode, we explore how to manage intense emotional moments in relationships, especially when triggered by something your partner says or does. I break down the four key steps that happen in these moments and provide practical strategies to help you slow down and navigate the emotional storm. We start by understanding how a trigger is created and what it does inside your body and how to truly tune in to uncover your needs in the moment. I share specific thoughts and actions you can use to calm yourself, reframe your reactions, and approach the situation with more clarity and compassion. Plus, I’ll walk you through some reflective questions to process the deeper layers of what happened and how to heal from it. Tune in for a deeper understanding of emotional triggers and how to handle them in a way that supports your relationship and your own well-being. Also mentioned in this episode; Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass - happening February 17th. Learn more and sign up for free here: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals How to be Married Program - opening for enrollment on February 17th - learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

What makes a marriage truly thrive? Whether you're engaged, newly married, or years into your relationship, there are five key areas that every couple must get right to build a strong foundation. In this episode, we’re breaking down the essentials that lead to long-term love and connection. I cover: If you want a marriage that’s built to last, don’t miss my upcoming Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass on February 17th! This live session will give you the tools and insights to strengthen your relationship at any stage. Register now: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals/ Also mentioned in this episode: Communication Styles Masterclass Attachment Styles Masterclass

In this episode, we’re diving into a transformative topic: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or have been together for years, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to reflect on your role in creating the kind of marriage you desire. What You’ll Learn: Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married Program - opens for enrollment on February 17th. This program teaches you the 6 most essential skills all couples need to not only become a great partner, but to build a lasting, fulfilling, and joyful marriage that thrives through every season of life. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

Welcome to the NEW podcast! We’re shaking things up to better reflect the work I do with couples and individuals—helping you love your marriage again, navigate major decisions, or build a strong foundation for your future. Marriage isn’t just about the partnership; it’s deeply tied to how you show up as an individual. Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors shape the connection, communication, and fulfillment you experience in your relationship. In this episode, we explore what it truly means to show up for your marriage by diving into five foundational areas of self-awareness and growth. These five areas come together to shape your role in the relationship and define the experience you create—not just for your partner, but for yourself. As we explore these concepts, ask yourself: What does my best self look like in this marriage? What do I want to contribute to this partnership, and how can I show up in a way that reflects that? This is the work that creates real transformation—from the inside out. Let’s dive in and uncover what showing up as your best can mean for your marriage and your life. Also mentioned in this episode, my new program, How to Be Married. Read all about it here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

Does it ever feel like you and your spouse just go around in circles over and over again? It's so common for couples to stay in the same kinds of negative cycles. In this episode, we dive into why we repeat unhealthy patterns in relationships and how to break free. I share with you where your patterns come from, why we choose familiar over the "right and healthy" thing, and how our brains are driven to try to solve issues the same way over and over again. I explain the greatest key in actually changing things for the better and offer you the three most important areas to explore when it comes to your current patterns. Also mentioned in this episode: The Happy Marriage Checklist! The key to changing your patterns is being deeply aware of what they are. This checklist provides you with a complete self assessment process for you to uncover what you and your partner are doing that either brings you closer or drives you farther apart. Get your free checklist instantly by going here: https://drchavonne.com/checklist/

What does it mean to grow together as a couple? It’s not always as simple as it sounds. This episode is all about navigating those differences and creating a process that works for both of you. Here’s the thing: growth will look different for everyone. I break down what growing together as a couple looks like, particularly for couples that experience the anxious - avoidant attachment style dynamic. In this episode, we dig into: Growing together doesn’t mean you won’t stumble along the way, but it does mean committing to showing up—for yourself and for each other. I've created a brand new resource to help you and your spouse have an initial conversation about where you are and where you want to be as a couple. Download my free "Happy Marriage Checklist: 10 Essential Habits for Lasting Love" HERE