Divorce University Online

What Is Parallel Parenting? In Episode 57 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the concept of parallel parenting. If you’re not familiar with this term and you have continuing conflict with your co-parent, then this is a must-listen episode for you. Parallel parenting is the best way to eliminate co-parenting conflict, particularly in the early period following the divorce or breakup. As a parent, conflict is one of the most harmful things you can expose your children to so...

What Do You Want On Your Tombstone? In Episode 56 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss tombstones. Ok, we know it sounds a bit morbid but you’ll love hearing our favorite funny ones. More importantly, we discuss legacy and how your current choices in your divorce will help to create the legacy you leave for your family, be it good or bad. Listen now to learn steps you can take to create a lasting legacy of love, life and impact regardless of your current situation. For more...

My Ex Is A Liar! In Episode 55 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how to handle an ex that continually lies. Why do they lie? What do you do if they are even willing to lie to the Court? If their lying is working, should you lie too? Most importantly, how do you take down a liar? We answer all your questions about liars in this episode. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!

So, You Think Your Ex Is Crazy? In Episode 54 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how to handle crazy exes with high-conflict personalities such as Narcissist and Borderline. We’ll give you strategies for dealing with these impossible personalities and help you insulate yourself from the insanity! Listen now to give a try. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!

Why Am I Losing My Custody Case? In Episode 53 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss what happens when you aren’t getting the results you want in your custody case. It’s easy to blame your attorney, your ex, or even the Court. The problem is, you have no control over any of those people involved in your case. So, what can you do? The one thing you have control of is you. We’re going to give you specific strategies to turn the tables on your custody case using the only thing...

Pride Goeth Before Destruction, In Episode 52 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how pride, especially in divorce, creates the sense that “I’m the only on” or “you don’t know my ex”. We tend to feel like our situation is so much harder or more difficult than the next persons. When you can begin to cultivate humility instead of pride, you begin to see your situation in a more objective way which allows you to identify your part in the conflict. This allows you to have more...

Feelings – Yours, Mine, and Ours! In Episode 51 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the root of many problems before, during and after divorce, feelings. Feelings around divorce are a constant rollercoaster, one day you’re happy your ex is gone, the next you feel angry about it, and the next you are in total grief and crying about it. Sound familiar? Yeah, we’ve been there too. So, what do you do? It’s not like you can just turn off your faucet of feelings Join us now to...

It’s All About Control! In Episode 50 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our human need for control, which is at the heart of conflict in many divorce cases. Many times the conflict shifts from trying to influence your spouse to trying to influence the Court. And the Court often becomes a “superparent” in these battles. So, how do you stop the struggle for control and minimize the Court’s management of your family life. Join us as we share our best strategies, especially if...

Vindication: The Heart of Post-Divorce Conflict. In Episode 49 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our human need for vindication. We see it in almost every case and it’s natural. More importantly, it’s the driving force behind a vast majority of high-conflict Court battles. If vindication is what so many are seeking, why is it we rarely see the Court process satisfy this need? It all comes down to what the Court can’t control in this process. What is that? Listen now to...

No Fault Divorce…….Really? In Episode 48 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we look back on the evolution of “no fault divorce” and examine how the shift to no fault divorce changed the divorce process. What was the idea behind the “no fault” revolution? Did it accomplish what the Court’s were trying to accomplish. Do we really have “no fault” divorce? How did this influence the battleground we see in today’s divorce process? Join us to understand the history of no fault divorce and...

Cover Your……..Monkey’s Butt! In Episode 47 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss three specific action that make you look like a “monkey’s butt” to the Court and to your ex. Why should you care? Because this can have a significant impact on your case. We also discuss what you can do to turn it around if you’ve made mistakes that leave the Court thinking you are the problem instead of your difficult ex! Listen now to find out! For more information please visit us a...

Got Parental Alienation? In Episode 46 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the devastation that is parental alienation. As much as we would love to think one parent would never do this to another, it happens. So what should you do? How do you handle this? And, more importantly, what shouldn’t you do? The Court often has difficulty dealing with this issue and that’s why your own actions and reactions become even more important if the other parent is trying to alienate you....

Why Won’t the Pain Stop?! In Episode 45 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the pain that is divorce. We always say that if a person has never been through a divorce, you can’t possibly explain the extreme emotional pain of it. We often try to (unknowingly) hold on to the relationship and since we are divorcing, the only way to do that is through negative contact, or pain. This results in conflict and sometimes people use the Court system to play out that conflict in an...

DON’T Behave the Way You Feel! In Episode 44 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how important it is for you to behave differently than you feel. Let’s face it, we are often filled with grief and extreme emotion at a point where the Court is expecting “Adult Behavior” from us. You can’t always control the way you feel but there are things you can do to help you control the way you behave. Although a divorce or breakup can feel like a tearing down process, it’s often a...

REVENGE: We All Want It! In Episode 43 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the most common feeling we see in working with divorcing clients, the desire for revenge. While we aren’t always willing to admit this feeling, we definitely all have it on some level. We have the need for revenge because we all want vindication, whether it’s financial or emotional. So, what can you do? How do deal with those feelings in a way that helps you move forward in your own life and...

The Five Stages of Divorce Grief Recovery. In Episode 42 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the emotional process of moving through divorce which in effect, is a process of grieving. If you are familiar with the work of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, you’ll recognize our discussion around the 5 stages. No matter what stage you’re at, you’ll recognize parts of yourself and current emotional processing. We’ll also share tips on how to move quickly through to the other side of grief,...

Wisdom from on High – 5 Biblical Quotes to Live By After Divorce or Separation. In Episode 41 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we share our 5 favorite biblical verses that helped us personally during our divorces. Divorce is not easy regardless of which religious beliefs you hold. However, the Bible can provide us with some comfort and wisdom to help us understand how to deal with what is happening to our marriage and our family relationships and how to forge a path forward into the...

One Powerful Idea to Revolutionize Your Co-Parenting Relationship. In Episode 40 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we analyze the difficulties of co-parenting. How do you deal with conflict? How do you get privacy from your ex and get them to leave you alone? Most parents are frustrated with their co-parent and the manipulation that is often used by one of the parties to cause the other parent as much grief as possible. How do you create a boundary that protects your sanity and...

Do You Know the ONE Resource That Will Turn the Tables on Your Divorce? In Episode 39 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we help you assess what you actually want from your post-divorce life and how to get it. Most people utilize resources such as aggressive lawyers, financial experts and therapists to try to help them get to their post-divorce life. Often, these resources keep you stuck in the mire of divorce. So, what’s the one resource that can help move you forward? Listen now to...

How can you combat post-divorce grief? In Episode 38 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we examine the different areas of our lives that grief can creep into following a divorce. In our experience working with clients, this is an area that everyone struggles with. We’ll also each share how this affected each of andus personally, professionally, and on the homefront during our divorces 13 years ago. More importantly, we’ll give you tools you can use to overcome this overwhelmingly...