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When children's behavior is difficult, parents need support, good information, and practical tools to reduce stress, understand their child's emotions, and build cooperation and warm connection in the family.

When children's behavior is difficult, parents need support, good information, and practical tools to reduce stress, understand their child's emotions, and build cooperation and warm connection in the family.
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When children's behavior is difficult, parents need support, good information, and practical tools to reduce stress, understand their child's emotions, and build cooperation and warm connection in the family.






Two Ways To Conquer Separation Anxiety

Changes in routine or surroundings often trigger separation anxiety, and as parents, we often see it play out at daycare or school drop-off. And it's really no secret why. We rush to get out on time, we have our never-ending running to-do list chattering, and on top of that we see other children run off happily to meet friends while our own tearful child clings to our legs crying, and all in front of the teacher. No wonder Elle says that even the words "separation anxiety" have her breaking...


Lying: Why Children Lie And Ways to Respond

Have you ever? This week on the podcast Abigail and Elle are looking at the lies our kids tell and why. And we discuss practical strategies you can use when you discover your child in a lie - that don't rely on punishment. Join us this week on the podcast and discover: Listen now to Children Lying: Why Children Lie And Ways to Respond more resources about children and lying This in-depth article talks about the different lies children tell and what they can mean with advice on how to...


Why are we parents so scared of disappointing our kids?

Are you shy of disappointing your kids? Over the last few episodes, Abigail and Elle have been decoding emotional projects - in part one we looked at noticing behaviors which signal an emotional project, and in part two we spoke about when and how to work on an emotional project using the Hand in Hand tools. Why it's OK to Disappoint Our Kids For the last part in this series, we're taking a look at how disappointment is linked to the emotional project, why we, as parents, are so scared of...


Ep 47 Working with a Child's Rigid Behaviors

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Defiance, Upsets and Power Struggles: Solving Common Child Behavior Problems

Ever feel like you are trying to cope with every common child behavior problem in the book? Every single request seems like it's met with resistance. If someone were to ask you what you are up against in your parenting, you'd shout "everything!" It's frustrating It's draining It's totally upsetting And it makes parenting feel just about impossible. What if One Thing Was Causing These All of These Problem Behaviors? What if we told you that actually, there is one central issue here?...


An Entirely New Spin on Kids and Sharing

To share, or not to share, is that the question? So many parents in our parent groups and The Parent Club come to us with questions about sharing, it's a subject that we knew we had to cover! Why is sharing such a hot-topic conversation? Well, sharing brings on big feelings for parents and children and there are so many differing thoughts and views on how to handle sharing. And sharing can feel unfair, or questionable. Like when your child demands another child's toy at a playgroup,...


Growth Mindset, Winning, and Why It's Important for Your Child

How can we help children towards building a positive self-identity? An "I Can!" attitude? This week Abigail shares the life-changing moment she cracked her tens times tables at 8-years-old, and how this win led to a paradigm shift in mindset - between what she thought she could do and what she could actually do. A sense of accomplishment and winning can spur a sense of interest, self-directed learning and discovery, but how can we work with a child to help them win at challenging tasks,...


Happier Parenting: Why Owning Your Parenting is Key

Have you ever woken up in the morning and vowed to yourself that you are going to make it A GREAT DAY? And then, 10 minutes later, your kids are bickering over who got the best bowl, homework is missing, and you can't find your purse? And it's like, seriously?!! What happened? And it continues like that, on a downward spiral, all through the day. Worrying about getting to school on time, sniping at your children who are sniping at each other, bribing a kid to take a class, threatening a...


How Do You Respond To Your Kid's Questions?

Abigail responds to a mom who has difficulties answering her young daughter's questions - most likely because it feels like answering will confirm her child's worst suspicions! And Elle admits finding some of her kid's simple questions difficult - especially when they ask her if she's leaving for work. Even when she's half out the door, she admits, she doesn't want to 'fess up and just tell them she's going. What's going on? Avoidance! Getting Honest about Honest Parenting This week on...


A Four-Point Plan for Getting Back to School With Less Stress

Summer is winding down for Abigail and Elle. That means it's almost time for their kids to head back to school! So this week the hosts ask: How do YOU feel? That's also the first step Abigail and Elle outline in a four-point plan for getting back smoothly into the school routine. Join us for a Back to School Connection Plan We hear a lot about how difficult life is for our children going back to school, but what we hear about less is how difficult it can be for parents too! So this week...


A Little Lite Listening Partnerships Demonstration

A lot of parents ask us about our tool for parents, the Listening Partnership, about how they should run and what they should sound like, so this week on the podcast Elle and Abigail give a demonstration of the tool. New to Listening Partnerships? What Are They Anyway and How Do They Help Parents De-stress? Listen Partnerships are one of Hand in Hand's five parenting tools and is the only tool to focus on parent self-care. These sessions can really help lighten the load! Parents can use...


Sibling Rivalry: Abigail and Elle Talk Soothing Sibling Battles with Evie Granville

This week we're replaying a wonderful podcast we recorded on sibling rivalry with Evie Granville of Modern Manners for Moms and Dads. Join us as we decode what's driving the behaviors between Evie's two children, and share with here how to approach Sibling Rivalry from a Hand in Hand approach. On this special guest podcast, you'll learn: Listen in to lots of anecdotes and real-life situations about brothers and sisters, battles and squabbles, love and connection in this episode! More...


What To Do When The Kids Go Wild!

Imagine this. Your kids are on a playdate. Everything is fine. There are a few giggles. Some stomping. The next minute? The kids are laughing manically, and the house is so trashed it looks like it has seconds until it falls down around you. The kids have gone wild. What To Do When The Kids Go Wild! This episode on the Hand in Hand Parenting Podcast we're talking about those moments kids seem to lose all control. Why does crazy happen and what can you do when it hits? Ever felt like, as...


"Am I a Useless Parent?" Why There's no "pass" or "Fail" in Parenting

Am I doing ok in parenting? Am I failing in this thing that matters so much? Did I mess this whole thing up? If you come in search of answers in parenting and you find an approach that speaks to you, do you feel a higher pressure to "succeed" - in the approach and in your parenting? So many of us ask this! And, from reading your thoughtful posts and comments, we see many of us worry that we are failing in Hand in Hand, or failing in parenting as a whole. Well, we have news for you,...


Getting Past a Child's Perfectionism: What Drives Children's Rigid Behaviors?

Have you noticed that sometimes your child just becomes rigid? Say he is building a tower and decides the next block for the tower "has to be" the red block. The one after "has to be" blue? Or, he wants the cars all lined up the "exact same way" Or she cannot allow any cups on a table while she is coloring? This week we're looking at the times a children's behavior becomes rigid and what's at the root of a child's "perfectionism." We look at how these behaviors form. How the brain...


"Let's NOT talk about the kids": What Can You Do When Parenting Feels Lonely

How did you feel when you found the Hand in Hand Parenting approach? Most of us feel a sense of relief when we try one of the tools and have a positive outcome. We read the blog posts, listen to the podcast. Try a few more tools. We see changes. That's exciting! Things feel pretty good. You can't wait to tell the people you love most that you have found a breakthrough in your parenting. Except, when you try, they don't want to know. Your partner has no time for listening to a child cry....


Celebrate Your Microwins: Learning to Let Your Kids Win a Little When You Set Limits

The title of this podcast is Celebrate Your Microwins: Learning to Let Your Kids Win a Little When You Set Limits But what's a microwin? Although this sounds like a good piece of business advice, the art of the microwin is a nuance of Hand in Hand's Setting Limits tool, and can make the tool even richer when you set limits with your kids. Taking Setting Limits to New Heights Hand in Hand comes from the stance of being on your child's side when you set a limit, and you can read more...


Kids and the Art of Travelling With Them

Packing Schedules Meltdowns New foods, new people, new places, new things Traveling with kids brings a whole suitcase full of the unexpected! It's easy to forget how special traveling with kids can be, amid the chaos and confusion of going away, so much so it can feel easier to say "we'll just stay at home." Yet it's these times away that can prove so special. They can really come to shape a family and bring parents and kids so much closer. So how can parents prepare for traveling...


Handling Parenting Stress: Why You Can't Give What You Didn't Have

No matter how well we try and prepare for parenting, this role does lots to point out what feel like failings. We might not be able to comfort our kids as we imagined we would, we might find ourselves yelling, or stressed and in moments of complete overwhelm. This happens to all of us from time to time. Even child therapists, teachers and nannies and child carers can find themselves lost in handling their parenting challenges with their own kids. This week on the podcast Elle and Abigail...


Angels Away, Hellions at Home: Why Do Some Kids Save Their "Bad" Behavior for Home?

Has anyone ever told you what an angel your child was? A school teacher, a parent after a playdate? And you thought? Huh??? An angel? Certainly not at home! This week on the Podcast we are chatting about why our children can be hard to deal with at home even when he or she is seen as an angel outside. Why, oh why, oh why?! Why Kids Save Their Big Feelings and "Bad Behavior" for home? Abigail and Elle talk about why kids save their big feelings and "bad behaviors" for home, and how...