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When children's behavior is difficult, parents need support, good information, and practical tools to reduce stress, understand their child's emotions, and build cooperation and warm connection in the family.

When children's behavior is difficult, parents need support, good information, and practical tools to reduce stress, understand their child's emotions, and build cooperation and warm connection in the family.
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When children's behavior is difficult, parents need support, good information, and practical tools to reduce stress, understand their child's emotions, and build cooperation and warm connection in the family.






Yes! You Can Playlisten When your Child is Upset

Your child grabs the one extra cookie you said he wasn’t allowed… What do you do? Or your daughter whines the minute she sees you pull out peanut butter for her toast... Or, when your son hears that his sister is having a sleepover he yells that you’re a mean mom...and that you have wrinkles! Yes he did. To Play or Not to Play...That is the Question Would you, could you playfully parent in these situations, or would you Staylisten to your child’s upset? A lot of parents ask us when...


How To Potty Train Your Child in 10 Easy Years

Since we have all personally gone through potty training and we will all have to go through it with our kids, you'd think we'd have nailed down one, surefire potty training method. But the 11,000 google results you get when you type in 'How to potty train my child,' clearly shows that a one-size-fits-all approach is about as likely as you getting a 5-minute shower with no disruptions. Yerright. Sadly, there is no magic potty training method. And sometimes it feels like you'll still be...


3 Smart, Sensitive Ways to Respond to Your Child's Anxiety

“Mom, I can’t go to camp today. I have a stomachache.” This is the third time this week your child has complained of a sore stomach, and yet she shows no other symptoms of being unwell. You wonder…is something else going on under the radar? Or, do you see all of these? what are the signs my child is anxious? Child anxiety is on the rise, but even if your child has not been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, all children have anxious moments. And what can look like defiance or...


Why is my kid swearing?

Have you ever asked your child to do something simple, like pack their toys away before dinner? For a second they stare back and you wide-eyed, all chubby-cheeked cherubic sweetness. And then they scrunch those eyes and tell you to $#@ off? oh no, she didn’t… Kids who cuss are more common than you might think. If you put those terms into any search engine results throw up videos full of kids swearing. Some people, apparently, find kids swearing hilarious. Others not so much. And as...


Try These Quick, Smart Tips to Conquer Your Parenting Overwhelm

You sink down on the rug in tears and wonder how you can ever keep going. Then you see your daughter’s abandoned stuffie under the sofa, next to an overdue library book, so you scoop them out, tuck them on the shelf, shove your hair in a bun, and get started with the laundry. What happened to your tears? You discarded them like your daughter did her stuffie. Welcome to mom overwhelm. Mom overwhelm is the science of feeling crushed by the weight of life and living it anyway! This week,...


Who Else is Watching Your Power Struggles?

Read on to learn why it pays to keep positive with your kids "Last cookie," you say, lightly. "No." Your son says. Then he stuffs the cookie into his mouth, grabs three more and runs from the room. You're just about to charge from the kitchen in a chase when your eyes fall on another set of eyes. Your younger son. Wide-eyed and wondering. Who's in charge here? his eyes seem to say. How far can we push you? Are you going to...lose it? This week we're talking the kid that pushes your...


How to Superboost your Parent Support Today

The baby woke at 4am. His brother just 45 minutes later. Since then you’ve been puked on, drawn on, and changed three diapers. You burnt a bagel and your kid tipped his cereal over in a rage. Now the baby is screaming because he’s hungry and your son is pulling at your pants leg because he wants to play. Oh yeah. And it’s only 7.53am. Who you gonna call? Ghostbuster’s won’t help. But there is someone else. A special person who will let you scream about how bad your morning has been, and...


Do you know when your child needs you most of all?

The last time you asked them to tidy their crayons, they smashed the whole box on the floor and ripped up the color sheet. You have to psyche yourself up when you need them to turn off the TV, because…BOOM! Epic meltdown. Forget about asking for a hug. Your child wriggles away from your hand on his shoulder. Does every request you make send your child into a raging meltdown? You spend life walking on eggshells. (As well as Lego bricks.) But, do you know what? This is actually when...


How to Respond to Your Kid's Mistakes in a Way You Can Be Proud Of

Do you know how bad your child feels when they mess up? They may look angry. They may look amused. They may show bravado. But in every kid that messes up is a pit of shame, sadness, confusion and doubt about their own self-worth. How do we know? Because aren't those the exact same feelings we adults feel when we mess up - when we really look inside? And we parents often heap on that shame. You get into blame and guilt, lectures and stand-offs. Just the way you were...


What to Do When Your Family Wants to Rule Your Parenting

How do you make like Meghan Markle and stand strong when you face loud and opposing opinions on how you *should be* raising your child? Meghan and Harry have broken many a protocol since bringing royal baby Archie into the world, from not using the royal family's preferred hospital to Harry holding Archie at a (delayed) press call. No-one is telling them how to raise a prince, not even the queen! How About You? How can you get the same support from your family when your ideas...


3 Reasons We Parents Can Suck at Setting Limits

Elle confesses that she really sucks at setting limits with her kids - and together she and Abigail suss out ways to make rules, boundaries and enforcing them a whole lot easier. Join us this week if you've ever battled with yourself about when to set limits, or found that whenever you do set limits your kids just don't seem to listen. Listen to the podcast this week and learn If you want to stop yelling and start setting calm limits, or you are sick of your buttons and boundaries...


What To Do When You Aren't So Psyched to See Your Kids

We know we love our kids, but that doesn't stop them being hard to like sometimes. This podcast is for you if you ever wondered how you were going to get through the next few hours with your kids close by. We talk about how we get to the point where the dread feels real and we share things you can do when parenting feels this hard. Listen to What To Do When You Aren't So Psyched To See Your Kids and We also wanted to take a moment to thank you for being here and seeking...


Why Does my Child Only Listen When I Lose It?

This week Abigail and Elle respond to a mom who feels like she sees power struggles, aggression and kickback when she's parenting the way she wants to, and compliance only once she gets mad. Are her efforts to parent kindly back-firing? And why would that be? On the podcast this week we talk about: Join us if you've ever felt like your efforts at being an empathetic parent are lost on your child and learn why that definitely is not what is happening! More Resources on Mean...


Setting Limits: The Hard No

You know about setting warm limits: Moving in calmly when you need to stop a behavior, but what happens when it feels like there is no chance to keep calm? Like, your child is about to stick their finger in the power socket. Or dashes out across a busy street. Then how do you set a warm limit then? On the podcast this week, we talk about the Hard No. And why no is hard! When no means no - and those times you aren't even sure your no needs to be hard. Join us this week for...


Help! My Kid Keeps Bragging

Where does the need to be competitive come from and why does it rub us parents up the wrong way? This week Abigail and Elle respond to one mom about her son's competitive streak. On Help! My Kid Keeps Bragging we talk about: Figure out what's causes a child to get competitive, and get new ways to handle things when your kids start telling you "I'm fastest," "I'm fittest," "I'm best." Get More Resources for Helping Competitive Kids Helping Super Competitive Children...


Finding Your Calm Place in Parenting (It Really Can Happen!)

So, you may be fairly new to Hand in Hand's approach or maybe you've been trying out the tools for a few months, even years. But at some point you'll probably - most likely when you are particularly tired or frustrated - ask, "Is Hand in Hand too hard???" We know! We've been there! This week, Elle and Abigail talk about when and why this question pops up. They explore the alternatives and share their own experiences about when it's happened to them - and don't forget Abigail...


Raising Resilient Girls...Part 2

Join us as we continue examining how nature, nurture and culture affects boys and girls, with social philosopher and author Michael Gurian. On Part 2 of this series, Michael talks about how we can use what science says to raise resilient girls. On this week's episode: Listen to Part Two of Raising Resilient Girls now more resources for raising resilient girls Learn more about Micheal’s work at www.GurianInstitute.com and read more about his approach to raising girls in his...


Raising Resilient Girls - with Michael Gurian

Social philosopher, family therapist, and New York Times best-selling author Michael Gurian returns to the podcast this week for some girl talk! Last time Michael guested with us, talk turned to boys. But why even separate talk about boys and girls? Michael explains the fundamental differences in brain science between girls and boys and why these difference affect: Michael suggests ways that we can observe what's happening in our girls' lives and support them to be strong and...


Parenting a Strong-Willed Child

You may have heard about how your tenacious, persistent, negotiating go-getter is developing the skills he or she needs to be a great leader in the future, but daily parenting a strong-willed child can feel like an uphill battle. All those constant requests, desires, energy and power play is a lot! This week Abigail and Elle weigh in on why parenting a strong-willed child can feel so demanding and draining, and how you can raise your strong-willed child without so many power struggles...


The Most Important Question To Ask When Your Child's Behavior Gets Hard

Did you ever think you got this parenting thing figured out only to find your child brings home some new parenting challenge? Where did the child you thought you knew so well go to? In the quest to find solutions to this sudden new and disagreeable behavior, you head to friends to compare notes, you hit Google for answers, or you even seek the services of a professional. After all, you want those words to stop, that aggression to fade, that resistance to disappear. But what...