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Recovery When You Love Someone Suffering From Addiction If you love someone who struggles with addiction, you’re not powerless over this disease. The type of addiction doesn’t really matter, because the impacts are the same. It could be alcohol, drugs (legal or illegal), prescription pills, pornography, gambling, or sex among other things. You don’t need to wait for your loved one to get better to start to feel joy, happiness, and love. Listen to this free podcast for encouragement, hope, and some fun (because addiction is already dark and depressing, so let’s try something different). If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when they start using again and worried this roller coaster ride will never end, you’ve found the right place for help and answers.

Recovery When You Love Someone Suffering From Addiction If you love someone who struggles with addiction, you’re not powerless over this disease. The type of addiction doesn’t really matter, because the impacts are the same. It could be alcohol, drugs (legal or illegal), prescription pills, pornography, gambling, or sex among other things. You don’t need to wait for your loved one to get better to start to feel joy, happiness, and love. Listen to this free podcast for encouragement, hope, and some fun (because addiction is already dark and depressing, so let’s try something different). If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when they start using again and worried this roller coaster ride will never end, you’ve found the right place for help and answers.
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Longmont, CO

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Recovery When You Love Someone Suffering From Addiction If you love someone who struggles with addiction, you’re not powerless over this disease. The type of addiction doesn’t really matter, because the impacts are the same. It could be alcohol, drugs (legal or illegal), prescription pills, pornography, gambling, or sex among other things. You don’t need to wait for your loved one to get better to start to feel joy, happiness, and love. Listen to this free podcast for encouragement, hope, and some fun (because addiction is already dark and depressing, so let’s try something different). If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when they start using again and worried this roller coaster ride will never end, you’ve found the right place for help and answers.

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3038030361


Episodes

Learning To Trust Again

10/13/2019
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Addiction lies. It has to in order to thrive. And we, as the partners, loved ones, and spouses, we get the brunt of these lies. Do you feel like you’re reading into everything, questioning each detail, asking clarifying questions, or wanting them to verify their story? Do you check their phone for ‘proof’ they’re telling the truth (or not)? I did. There’s no shame or judgment here. My ex-husband lied to me constantly. So I was always on guard. I had a strong intuition, but it was...

Duration:00:08:43

Their Long Road To Recovery And Yours Too

10/6/2019
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When we love someone suffering from addiction, we deeply desire for them to get sober. We dream of the day they decide to be done with alcohol, drugs, pornography, or whatever else, for good. Well today, we hear from a woman in our community who’s been married for over 35 years. And her husband has been in and out of recovery for years. She’s learned to trust her intuition, come out of denial, and discover herself, whether he’s sober or not. It’s a daily challenge for him, but she has...

Duration:00:59:16

Two Simple Lessons When Your Partner Suffers From Addiction

9/29/2019
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When we love someone suffering from addiction, it can be hard to see the light of day. Our once very accurate judgment and perception is now being manipulated into something else. I remember feeling so lost, thinking, “What is actually going on?” I felt crazy. Have you ever felt like that? As I started my own recovery and healing, I discovered that there are little tools and tricks that I could use in those moments to find clarity. To remind myself that I’m actually not crazy. I used...

Duration:00:18:26

Why It’s Okay To Change Your Mind

9/22/2019
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Here’s the deal: you reserve the right to change your mind at any time, for any reason. Why is that important? Because if you’re anything like me, you put a lot of pressure on yourself to make the “right” choice. And sometimes you may even get stuck or frozen in indecision, because you’re too afraid of getting it ‘wrong’. There’s no judgment here. I’ve struggled with this all my life. Whether it’s coming from your inner perfectionist, pressures from society's expectations, or even friends...

Duration:00:07:07

Why You Need To Take Care Of Yourself Every Day

9/15/2019
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When I was healing from loving a man suffering from addiction there was one thing that was part of all of my days: self-care. And I know, I get it, self-care is all the rage right now. But self-care should meet your needs, and not necessarily be ‘trendy’. My self-care right now is a bowl of ice cream and an episode on Netflix. My self-care has been physical movement, walking with my dog and kids, taking a bath with all my favorite soaps, among other things. My point is that it doesn’t...

Duration:00:09:54

How To Listen To Your Whisper And Let Go Of The Voice Of Addiction

9/8/2019
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Have you ever questioned whether to stay in your relationship or leave? It’s a big question. And that’s frankly an understatement. It’s a life-changing, wildly impactful decision of a lifetime. And listen, we never do judgment in this community. So whether you decide to stay or leave, that’s up to you. Today’s episode though, it’s about a whisper. A whisper within us that we may hear, or we may not be able to yet. The voice of addiction in our own heads is loud, ugly, demanding, and full...

Duration:00:12:27

A Simple Tool To Help When You Love Someone With Addiction

9/1/2019
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Everything in our life is a season. Some seasons are longer than others, and some may be harder than others. No matter what ‘season’ we may be in, we learn tips and tools to help us along the way. When I was married to a good man that suffered from addiction, that was one of the hardest seasons of my life. I learned all kinds of tips and tools to handle the disease, and some of these, I still use to this day. Today I’d love to share with you one simple tool that you can use every single...

Duration:00:09:18

How To Talk to Your Kids About Addiction

8/25/2019
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Here’s the loving truth: when you have children living in this situation, with their parent (or step-parent) suffering from addiction, you’ve got work to do. You must be the strong and sober parent. You’ve got to protect them, teach them how to be safe, and educate them. You must talk to them about addiction, no matter how awkward it may feel. And I totally understand having fears around it, I did too. But you can learn how to talk to them about it, and I have tips for you today. Find...

Duration:00:14:18

How to Create A Vision For Your Future (With or Without Them)

8/18/2019
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I believe in dream boards (or vision boards). And if you don’t know what I’m talking about, just google it. They sound incredibly hokey. They sound woo-woo, they sound a little like, "What?" But I stand by them. In my life, I’ve always had at least one vision board. And I’ve got crazy stories about these vision boards throughout my life, which I share in the Love Over Addiction program. So today is all about your future. Why it’s important to dream, envision, imagine, and how to actually...

Duration:00:17:39

How to Practice Self-Care During a Crisis

8/11/2019
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Stick with me here, because I know self-care is a buzzword right now. I’m not about buzzwords, but I am all about you learning the tools you need to handle this disease. When we love someone suffering from addiction, our lives become chaotic and out of control. That’s just the way addiction works. So on today’s episode, we’ll dive deep into your self-care, and how to maintain it during a crisis. It’s an important skill, and worth having these tools in your back pocket for the next time...

Duration:00:19:35

How To Choose Friends When You Love An Addict

8/4/2019
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When we love someone suffering from addiction, we will eventually become completely isolated if we’re not already. That’s what addiction wants, and frankly, what it needs to thrive. As you know, we believe that we’re not powerless over this disease. There are things you can do to take your power back from addiction, and today is all about finding connection. Today I share tips on what kind of friends to look for (and what kind of people you want to avoid), so that you can create...

Duration:00:14:24

How To Create Your Team Of Experts

7/28/2019
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Sometimes when we love someone suffering from addiction we can get into the mindset that it’s all on us. Everything falls on our shoulders, and we’re responsible for it all. And let’s be honest: many, many times, that is the case. We’re not in a ‘normal’ relationship. Our partners are suffering from addiction, which means that our lives are different. And here’s the deal: it can be really daunting to think about making all these changes and shifts to make a better life, so let’s break it...

Duration:00:14:29

The Enabling Behaviors You Need to Stop Now

7/21/2019
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When we love someone suffering from addiction, we do our very best to help them. We try everything we can think of, read, or find on Google. We try it all. With the most pure and best intentions. We want our loved ones to get sober, and stay sober for good, right? The reality is that all that energy we’re putting into our loved ones, we need to be putting into ourselves. Because addiction has hurt us too, and we deserve recovery. We deserve energy. We deserve grace. Today you’ll learn...

Duration:00:07:15

The Honest Truth About Finding Balance

7/14/2019
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In today’s culture it seems like we’re expected to be a certain way. Especially as women. We’re expected to balance life, work, children, self-care, all of it. Every day. With balance, grace, and ease. Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s BS. It’s not easy, especially when we love someone suffering from addiction. So today’s episode is a little different taste. It’s real, raw, and unscripted. It’s giving ourselves permission to be hot-messes and take the path of least resistance, just to...

Duration:00:10:15

When Addiction Steals Your Friendships

7/7/2019
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When we love someone suffering from addiction, we can start to become isolated. We may feel so wrapped up in our loved one’s issues, that we start to lose our joy, our friendships, and the things that really matter to us. When I was married to a good man that suffered from addiction I was lonely. So. Lonely. I remember longing for real friendship, and even being jealous of ‘friends’ I saw on social media posting pictures about all their girls’ trips. I let addiction steal my joy, including...

Duration:00:13:25

What To Do When Your Partner Is Mad At You

6/30/2019
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We’ve been doing a series all about types of aggression and tactics used. Because here’s the truth: When we love someone suffering from addiction “normal” advice doesn’t cut it for us. We need something more specific, because loving someone suffering from addiction is NOT a normal relationship. We’ve talked about how to handle your anger before, but what about theirs? Do you know how to respond when they’re getting nasty and mean? Are you sure they’re actually angry, or are they using this...

Duration:00:13:36

How To Stop Tolerating Lies From Your Partner Suffering From Addiction

6/23/2019
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We’re a community full of women that love someone suffering from addiction. And here’s the reality: our lives and relationships are different because of that. Have you ever had an evening like this? Let’s play this out: your partner comes home 4 hours later than expected. When you ask them where they were, they say something like, “I had to stay late at work tonight.” And here’s the reality: they did have to stay late at work, but only an extra half an hour. The other 3.5 hours they were...

Duration:00:15:06

Are You Being Manipulated By Addiction?

6/16/2019
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We must remember that although we love good people, they do suffer from a disease. And the disease of addiction is not nice. It’s mean. It’s ugly. And it does whatever it takes to thrive. Here’s the loving truth: if they don’t seek recovery, it gets worse over time. So, as the ones that love these people suffering, we have work to do. We need to prepare ourselves to deal with their behaviors, both good and bad. Today we dive deep into manipulation and a different tactic they may use, and...

Duration:00:12:13

When Experts Don’t Have Personal Experience

6/9/2019
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When we love someone suffering from addiction, the truth is that only we know how bad things really are. And when we start to seek a team of professionals, be it therapists, mediators, lawyers, or whomever, we must find the right fit. Because we love someone suffering from addiction, we have developed a strong intuition, and I encourage you to use that when you’re finding your professional team. I fired my first lawyer. She didn’t get it. She wasn’t respectful, and she didn’t listen. When...

Duration:00:14:23

How To React When They’re Playing Innocent

6/2/2019
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Last week we talked about covert aggression when you love someone suffering from addiction. So if you missed that episode, please go back and have a listen. This week we’re building on that - so what are tactics our loved ones might use when they’re being covertly aggressive? Let me ask you this: Does your partner ever play dumb? Forget things that have happened? Dispute fine details? Act oblivious? All of the above? Sing it sister. Because I hear you. I totally understand. My ex-husband...

Duration:00:10:27