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The show where we discuss all things related to the foster care system and early childhood trauma. From foster parents, trauma experts, former foster kids and beyond, we’ll take a deep dive into the complexities of the foster care crisis in an effort to better understand how to fix it!

The show where we discuss all things related to the foster care system and early childhood trauma. From foster parents, trauma experts, former foster kids and beyond, we’ll take a deep dive into the complexities of the foster care crisis in an effort to better understand how to fix it!


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The show where we discuss all things related to the foster care system and early childhood trauma. From foster parents, trauma experts, former foster kids and beyond, we’ll take a deep dive into the complexities of the foster care crisis in an effort to better understand how to fix it!








Discovering Your Story to be a Better Parent with Ce Eshelman

Join us as Ce Eshelman, LMFT walks us through how to discover what happened in our childhood and how that impacts how we show up to working with children today. Ce Eshelman, LMFT, is an attachment specialist, author, and founder of The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships. With 27 years of experience and training in marriage and family therapy, she began specializing in attachment and trauma healing 18 years ago after adopting her two children from the foster care system. In...


Determined to be Dad with Steve Disselhorst

Steve always knew he wanted a family. Raised catholic he grew up thinking he was destined to marry a woman and have children. When he was confronted with his attraction to men and the eventual realization that he was gay, he gave up, that dream of having a family and chose the route of gay singledom. As the times changed and he gained greater self acceptance he re-ignited his dream for a family and stared the journey toward parenthood. Steve is the author of the book Determined to Be Dad...


From Kinship Care to Single Adoptive Father with Barry Farmer

Barry Farmer is a Native of Richmond, Virginia. He grew up in Kinship Care with his grandmother from ages 5-18. For the last 15 years he's been devoted to working inside and outside the classroom with youth and their families. At age 20, Barry became a foster father with a local therapeutic agency to further help youth within his community. At age 22 he adopted his oldest son. Three years later, Barry's two younger sons were placed in his home, making him a proud father of three amazing...


Juvenile Justice and Child Protective Services with Angela Flores

Join Angela Flores, Juvenile Justice Worker, as she explores the intersections between juvenile justice and child protective services. As a child who has experienced generational foster care, she offers services to children in her community and has a vision to attend law school, to further contribute to the justice system.


Redefining Normal with Alexis and Justin Black

Both Alexis and Justin are proud foster care alumni as well as recent graduates, authors, and business owners. They both join us this week to share their honenest and vulnerable story and to promote their book Re-Defining Normal. After both spent time in fostercare they met in college and through a healing journey have developed a healthy relationship with eachother, getting married this year. Together, they've created ROSE (Rising Over Societal Expectations) Empowerment Group, a company...


Adoption's Profound Impact, Even When Adopted at Birth with Marianne Estridge

Marianne tells of her story of being an adoptee and how it shaped her childhood and early adulthood. She tells us that even though she was adopted at birth to extremely loving parents, that she still felt like she didn't belong, that something was wrong with her, that she wasn't wanted. Her birth certificate says that her birth father denied paternity which left her wondering why? When she saught answers to that question by finding her birth father she was retraumatized as an adult. Listen...


The Journey of a Birth Mom with Ashley Mitchell

We, as a society, talk about adoption, adoption, adoption and often focus on the child's life after adoption, but what about the birth mom? Listen to Ashley Mitchell discuss her journey through an unwanted pregnancy to an eventual decision to find an adoptive family for her son. She walks us through finding out she was pregnant, a trip to the abortion clinic, hiding her pregnancy for nearly 8 months, choosing a family for her son and then going home after the birth childless with a body...


Trauma Informed Holidays

This week, as we prepare for Thanksgiving, we discuss how holidays can trigger foster and adopted children. Join us as we explore how not to impose our ideas, customs and traditions on others and instead choose to keep an open mind and implement their ideas into our realities.


Challenging Anti-Reunification Culture and Ensuring Representation with Lauren Flynn

Lauren Flynn from joins us to wrap up our conversation from last week. This part of the conversation focuses on challenging anti-reunification culture and ensuring representation for transracial adoptees. Follow Lauren on instagram @loflynnfam


Fostering and Adopting Medically Fragile Children with Lauren Flynn

This week Lauren Flynn from the blog joins us to talk about fostering and adopting medically fragile children. She walks us through her journey and gives us her real perspective on how we view children with disabilities and how her expectations and views have changed since opening her doors to children with medical conditions. Follow her on instagram @loflynnfam


Fostering as a Single Parent with Jenn Thatcher

In this week's episode Jenn Thatcher joins us to discuss how she chose to foster as a single parent. She shares her journey of fostering over eight children and eventually the decision to close her doors. Follow Jen on Instagram @lovegodloveorphans


Navigating Sticky Situations with Rebecca Britt

On this week's episode we dive into some sticky situations submitted by Stable Moments locations. Many people ask "how does the approach look in action?" Here are some practical trauma informed responses listeners can use when they are faced with sticky situations.


Breaking Down the Different Types of Adoption with Jennifer Fairfax, Esq.

Jennifer Fairfax, Esq. gives us the low down on all the different types of adoption, the difference between open and closed adoptions and why adoptive parents choose which path. Jennifer's life has intersected with the areas of adoption and family building since she was a teen. Her adult goddaughter is an international adoptee from Korea and her adult nephew is a domestic adoptee. She, herself, underwent fertility treatments to become a parent and has found assisting others in buidling...


Healing Trauma through Media and Play with Darren Fink

In this week's episode Darren Fink from Transfiguring Adoption tells us about his own adoption journey of four children and how their family uses magical creatures and play to address sensory, attachment, emotional and behavioral challenges. His experience lead him to write a family book A Guide to Magical Creatures Around Your Home and to start Transfiguring Adoption where reviewers use a trauma informed lense to review books, movies and video games for certain trauma triggers and...


Reflection and Clarity of Vision with Rebecca Britt

In this episode I take some time to reflect on what we’ve learned in the first 35 episodes and reposition ourselves with a new vision for the podcast. Listen in while I talk about a new vision to build an army of people that are interested and willing to take responsibility for our foster youth and who are supportive of foster and adoptive families. I want this to be a place where community members feel like they can make a difference, where they feel good enough to make that difference and...


The Stuff Nobody Talks About with Marcy Tocker

In this episode Marcy gives her real and raw experience of being a foster parent. She breaks down the trials and triumphs to give us a look behind the curtain as a foster parent. Marcy is a liscensed clinical therapist with focuses in animal-assisted therapy, play and art therapies, and attachment theory. Marcy has also completed her Stable Moments certification and is launching her program at her nonprofit Grey Muzzle Manor. Grey Muzzle Manor Sanctuary, Inc. Website:...


Creating Trauma Sensitive Schools with Dr. Melissa Sadin

This week Dr. Melissa Sadin joins us to talk about the role of school in the foster care crisis and how creating trauma informed schools is really the first step to ending the foster care crisis. She gives us the roadmap to becoming trauma senstive and why we need to be proactive and not trauma responsive. Dr. Sadin has served as a special education teacher, a gifted education teacher, and a building administrator. Most recently she served as a director of special education. Dr. Sadin has...


Ambiguous Loss and Lifebooks with Beth Tyson

Beth joins us this week to talk about what ambiguous loss is, and how it impacts foster and adopted children and their families. We both discuss the role grief plays in being trauma informed, and how often we breeze right over what a child has lost and jump right into our trauma responses. We also discuss lifebooks and how critical they are to helping a child keep a documented timelime of their story and all its complexity. Beth has a M.A. in Counseling Psychology from Eastern University,...


Loving Relentlessly after Foster Care with Tori Petersen

Tori shares her experience in foster care as a former foster youth, foster care advocate, & foster mom and how that fuels her ife’s passion to raise up & nurture her own family, as well as advocate for the restoration of family. She shares her life vulnerably with hopes to let her Abba Father be known & loved through stories, to offer hope to the hurting, & to serve people from all kinds of backgrounds. Tori Petersen is a national speaker, writer, and advocate for the preservation of...


From Foster Care to Foster Mom and Social Worker with Kristine Pienkowski Part 2

Kristine joins us in part two this week to tell us how her time in foster care has allowed her to help foster and adoptive parents help children feel safe. Her story is that of true resilience as she shares how her experience drove her to get a Social Work degree, become a foster mom and start working with humans and horses at The Ranch of Hope Reins. The Ranch of Hope Reins is where Stable Moments is holding their certification training in October. Follow them on facebook.