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When Extreme Ownership Goes Wrong

Your level of accountability is most correlated to your results and happiness in life. Many that interact with learn this information and take-off with this idea and really start to live out the four factors of accountability in their lives and start to feel different results pretty quickly. However, many run into a similar experience I did where they start to over-reach when it comes to accountability and start taking extreme ownership for their results and noticing some struggles. In...


Lessons From 85 Speaking Engagements in 2019

It was a heck of a ride jumping from around 40 speaking engagements in 2018 to 85 sessions in 2019. I'm beyond grateful and, as I reflect back, I have learned so much. I have summarized all of these lessons and packaged them up for you in this podcast episode. As you go from city to city and interact with various clients from all of the industries we get to touch - you start to see patterns or themes emerge. These themes become very interesting and, in my free, time I sit in...


Why You HAVE to Play Favorites at Work

A conventional leadership wisdom out there is that you CANNOT play favorites at work. However, did you know that the same leadership will not please a high-accountable mindset and low-accountable at the same time? This creates an interesting consideration we go into on this podcast. Many organizations haven't come around to the fact that they have some employees that default to a lower state-of-accountability each day. This is more of a victim-mindset where they believe that most of their...


Don't Confuse High Performers with High Accountables

One common confusion with leadership and our philosophy is that people miss that high performance does not necessarily correlate with your highest accountable employees. This podcast clarifies and explains why this is so important to understand. For years organizations have focused diligently on measuring performance and when many hear our work they say, "Of course! We just need to keep spending all of our leadership capacity on our highest performers and get rid of low...


Overcoming That's the Way We've Always Done it

"Well...that's the way we've always done it" is one of the most frustrating statements for leaders and organizations to hear for the reason to not change the way we are doing something. This statement reveals a bigger issue than most might realize once you start to understand the power of learned helplessness. This episode dives deep into victim-mindsets and how to overcome an individual or team that is locked into learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is the belief that our actions...


Exploring the Deeper Layers of Drama

Having the courage to explore the first layer of drama at work is big, but many miss the opportunity to start peeling back the layers of drama that truly get in the way from our teams being highly successful and happy. This episode dives into this idea of the deeper layers of drama that exist and a few tools to identify them and move beyond them. These deeper layers can be sneaky and out of our awareness until we investigate them. This is something I haven't talked about a ton yet as we...


FULL KEYNOTE: Ditching the Drama at Work with Reality-Based Leadership

Listen in on a full keynote of mine on how to ditch the drama at work with Reality-Based Leadership. Ever wondered what it would be like to sit in the front row for one of my sessions? That's what you are listening to here! This session was one of my best yet. Concise and straight to the point with a TON of energy and practical tools to start leading more drama-free, engaged and results-driven teams. This group was super interactive and all-in to the philosophy so it made for a great...


With Great Influence, Comes Great Responsibility with Drama

Does your drama you bring to the table impact others more the higher up you get in your career? This was a great questions asked by a recent executive leader at one of my sessions that got me thinking. This podcast breaks down my thoughts on whether the impact of our personal drama as a higher-level leader in an organization is grander than our initial research has discovered. In our research at Reality-Based Leadership, we found that your overall value that you bring to your work...


Enabling - The Killer of Accountability

"How can I make someone do something I need them to do at work?" is one of the most common questions I hear as I speak to groups across the country. Most are surprised to find out that trying to change someone is nearly impossible - but you can stop enabling them. Enabling the behavior you don't want is typically what leads to so much conflict or behavior that isn't what you prefer. This podcast dives deeper into this killer of accountability and gives you some practical ideas to ease the...


The Hypocrisy of Transparency at Work

So many people are asking for transparency at work, but are then upset when it happens. Transparent feedback from their leaders seems to ignite the ego. Transparent numbers about how they are doing in their performance can trigger excuses. The transparency of the new internet world has been causing a ton of disruption as well because the tracking and analytics can show the true results of our work. What we thought would do well in the market (for example a video project we created) only...


A Call for Universal Good Mental Process

Today's episode features an idea that has been keeping me up at night. Could there ever be some universal good mental processes that everyone agrees on that lead to more happiness and results in our lives? If so, could they become non-negotiable as professional ways to behave in meetings and discussions. I'm fascinated with this idea and share some of those good mental processes as examples in this episode. Drama is an enormous interference in our life and at Reality-Based Leadership we...


Wellness at Work Means Wellness in Life

Workplace wellness is a hot topic out there and an important concept for me and I loved diving into what ditching the drama means for this movement on the Redesigning Wellness podcast with Jen Arnold. We discuss the main sources of drama draining people’s energy at work and what that means for the push for more wellbeing in the workplace. Loved this podcast and am so grateful for the opportunity. If you are looking for practical strategies to improve your personal wellness at work and the...


7 Deadly Sins of Conventional Leadership Wisdom

Many of us follow leadership wisdom that is passed down to us or that we have read and heard in management seminars of the past. Are they currently helping or hurting? Our research is showing that many are fueling drama instead of reducing it. This podcast discusses the top 7 deadly sins of the current leadership approach and what we can do to course-correct for a more peaceful workplace. One of the most interesting parts of the work I do is that I get to hear many messages out there...


BONUS EPISODE: Employee Engagement is Broken - Full Keynote

**Apologies for the scratching noise on some of the audio throughout the clip. There was a little interference between the two microphones I was wearing. Hope you can hang in there for the content! Many organizations have gone all in on employee engagement. Coke and pepsi in the breakroom, increase vacation days, flexible working hours and whatever it can be done to improve employee circumstances. While watching this trend, our organization was worried an over-rotation on engagement,...


Joy or Misery, My Choice

There are two ways to go through each day - joy our misery, our choice. I was reminded of this powerful lesson after a recent morning I had when I thought my car was stolen after getting home late from a speaking engagement. I thought this lesson I share in this episode can show the impact of living the philosophy on the daily and how the same events can have drastically different results if we understand our ego and poor thinking. Even though this is a different setup for an episode - I...


How to Love Your Job Again

What if I told you that the job you hate today can become the job you love tomorrow? It sounds too good to be true, but I have had so many attendees reach out after our sessions and say that this is what happens in their mindsets after they learn our principles. I am actually fascinated with the recent trend that so many people are longing to start their own business or enter the gig economy because they cannot find joy in their job anymore. I'm not against someone starting their own...


How to Be More Confident as a Leader

Many people are searching for ways to increase their confidence as a leader, but find themselves holding back. In a recent session of mine, an attendee loved the content but didn't know how to confidently give the techniques a try and wanted some advice. This episode breaks down my thinking on how to truly increase your confidence with some simple techniques and mindset shifts. So many people believe most of your confidence comes from being competent and building skills. Once those skills...


How Clarity Amplifies Your Leadership and Impact

Clarity is a secret weapon in leadership. So many of us are unaware of the impact of our level of clarity (or lack there of) we bring to the table and how it influences team dynamics. In a recent team workshop focused mainly on this topic, I had huge learning moments around this topic and how it can greatly improve your leadership and the level of drama on your team. I’ve realized that clarity is what’s left – after the drama is gone and leaders seek and facilitate more clarity at all...


How to Maximize Top Talent on Your Team

The famous Steve Jobs quote is "We don't hire the best talent to tell them what to do, we hire the top talent so they can tell us what to do." In this episode, I add my commentary to this quote to ensure top talent stays drama-free in what they suggest for you to do for ideas. By understanding a few of these filters as a leader you can ensure that you get the best out of your most talented people far into the future without limiting them. Too often we have incredible people on our teams...


Dealing with "Change for Change's Sake" at Work

Many people who are frustrated with the rapid pace of change in their organizations bring up this concern that their companies are pushing changes just for change's sake. They are convinced that the company is not being strategic about the direction and reason for many of the changes they are implementing. This episode dives into navigating this frustration and will give you some answers to approach this situation from a place where you can add the most value with the least amount of...