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Everyone has an opinion. Everyone wants to be heard.

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Everyone has an opinion. Everyone wants to be heard.

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Episodes

Encore Talking Politics Beyond Creative Sound Bites and Partisan Noise

12/18/2023
In a world filled with manipulated media sound bites and elusive politician responses, I'm sure many of us can relate to the frustration. On the next episode of Stop Telling and Start Listening, we have a unique guest, Adam Frisch, who ran for a congressional seat in Colorado in the closely contested 2022 election. Adam is the first politician to accept our invitation, and I'm excited not because I endorse his politics (frankly, I don't even know his views), but because I'm eager to engage in a genuine learning conversation. It's a chance to delve into what he believes, why he believes it, and how those beliefs shape his politics. Even when if we don't see eye to eye, there's an immense opportunity to learn something from him and more about one another. Join me for an hour of authentic, information-packed dialogue, free from the constraints of two-minute commercial or media sound bites. We'll explore the current political climate, gain insights, and bridge gaps through the power of listening and learning. Don't miss this opportunity to truly understand the people behind the politics. Tune in to our next episode and let's start the conversation.

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Empowered Voice: Perspectives of a Survivor, Educator, Advocate

12/11/2023
Join me on the next episode of 'Stop Telling and Start Listening' on Monday, December 11 (11AM PT and 2PM ET) as we delve into the critical importance of educating our communities about pressing issues like bullying and suicide prevention. In this episode, 'Empowering Voices: Conversations with a Survivor, Educator, and Advocate,' we have the privilege of hosting the remarkable Tessa Milne. Tessa's story is a testament to resilience and triumph. As a survivor herself, she brings a unique perspective that goes beyond personal experience. Tessa is an educator and advocate, deeply committed to making a profound difference in the lives of others. Through her organization, Face Of A Survivor, Tessa collaborates with over 70 agencies, forging partnerships with police departments, clinicians, victim service agencies, schools, and private support groups. Her mission is clear: combat bullying, prevent suicide, and amplify voices that too often go unheard. Join us for candid and heartfelt conversations as Tessa shares her work, her journey, and underscores the vital importance of resilience. Gain a deeper understanding of these crucial issues and learn how you too can make a lasting impact in your own community.

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Encore Exploring Truths, Beliefs, and Subjective Realities

11/27/2023
In today's polarized and argumentative climate, many people often get truth and belief confused. The confusion, combined with a determination to win the argument, only increases the frustration in an intense discussion. These concepts are deeply interconnected and subject to interpretation and individual perspectives. Because the are so closely connected it is easy to fall into an argument as the individuals involved might be discussing a subject from two different perspectives. It can get even more confusing if someone comes into the discussion from a third point of view often referred to as subjective truths, formed out of personal experience and perspective. In this episode, I will tackle the challenges associated with arguing from these different perspectives while providing ideas for lowering the tension in these intense polarizing arguments.

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Encore Listening and Volatile Topics

11/20/2023
We all have certain subjects or topics that, depending on the participants, are almost guaranteed to lead to an intense discussion. And, I use the term loosely. Some subjects simply trigger passionate arguments which often result in the engaged parties passionately and rapidly taking sides, fighting from their position, and not really engaged in trying to learn or understand alternative or controversial viewpoints. Today's lightning rod topic feature a discussion about Palestinian Human Rights Issues. Before you jump to a conclusion about this episode and all the reasons why you might skip it, I would encourage to reconsider reacting to the topic of the show and make time to participate in a listening and learning exercise. While my guest will be discussing their passion for addressing human rights issues in the middle east, I will be focused on having an engaged learning conversation to accomplish the following: 1. Understand why this issue is so important to my guest 2. Learn about the challenges and obstacles associated with their mission 3. Explore ways this issue can be adequately addressed beyond the arguing, defending and blaming which defines much of the conversation today. While some topics or issues elicit intense emotional perspectives, there is always an opportunity to learn more about a subject and the benefits are significant, provided you are able and willing to make the commitment to learn beyond your present beliefs, opinions, and experiences. Join me Monday, June 26 at 11:00AM PT or 2:00PM ET. You'll be glad you did!

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Reacting vs. Responding: Building Bridges, Not Barriers

11/13/2023
Have you ever found yourself caught in the whirlwind of a hasty reaction, only to regret it later? Or perhaps, you've hastily drawn conclusions, realizing afterward that you lacked the full information needed for a wiser decision? Don't worry; we've all been there. In this upcoming episode of Stop Telling and Start Listening airing on Monday, November 13th at 11AM PT and 2PM ET on Voice America, we're diving deep into the captivating world of reactive versus responsive behaviors. Join us as we unravel the profound impact these two approaches can have on the outcomes we experience in life. Discover how these seemingly simple words can lead to vastly different results and how you can steer clear of those outcomes that haunt us with regret. We'll not only explore how to recognize these situations but also provide you with the actionable steps needed to transform or redefine future outcomes. In a world where tensions run high, this discussion promises to be your compass for improving relationships and decision-making, reducing the stress and tension in your life, and ultimately steering clear of those regrettable moments that linger in our memories. Mark your calendar and join me for this enlightening conversation, because on Monday, November 13th, we're set to embark on another enlightening journey on Voice America. Don't miss it!

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Am I Doing Enough? Exploring Your Inner Drive

11/6/2023
Have you ever found yourself intensely focused on a goal or achievement, only to question if you're truly doing everything you can to reach it? Or perhaps you've looked at someone else's success and wondered what secret actions they're taking that you're missing out on. In the upcoming episode of 'Stop Telling and Start Listening,' join hosts ShaRon Rea and me as we delve into the driving forces that fuel our ambitions. We'll investigate the emotions that propel us forward and examine whether they are healthy, reasonable, or truly inspiring. This episode will be a deep dive into the world of success, seeking approval, craving affirmation, yearning for recognition, and battling fears. We'll explore how these diverse drivers can either empower or hinder our performance, and how they can either fill our lives with joy or steal it away. Tune in for an insightful conversation that will help you better understand your inner motivations and the impact they have on your journey towards success.

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Speaking Out Against Stigma: A Tribute to Triumph over Trauma

10/30/2023
Join me on the next episode of “Stop Telling and Start Listening” for an inspiring conversation with Tomay Douglas, a trauma survivor and fierce advocate for survivors, as she challenges harmful narratives. Are you ready to be inspired? Tomay shares her journey from trauma to triumph, shedding light on the strength and resilience that lie within survivors. She believes in raising awareness to create a world where we all play a part in prevention, intervention, and healing for those who have experienced trauma and marginalization. In this episode, you'll discover strategies to challenge harmful narratives and empower survivors. Tomay's message of hope and empowerment resonates deeply with anyone who has faced adversity. Mark your calendars for Monday, October 30 at 11:00AM Pacific and 2:00PM Eastern and be a part of this transformative conversation. Don't forget to subscribe and share with others who need to hear this powerful message.

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Growth Beyond the Trauma: An inspiring transformational journey

10/23/2023
Join us on an inspiring episode of “Stop Telling and Start Listening” as we welcome a very special guest, Keelin Washington. In this captivating conversation, we'll delve into the theme of celebrating our growth journey, even when it's paved with challenging obstacles. Keelin's remarkable life journey, from survivor to advocate, is a testament to the power of resilience and personal growth. She'll share her insights on how to find strength and purpose amidst adversity, drawing from her own experiences in the field of human sex trafficking advocacy. We'll explore the importance of acknowledging and embracing the hurdles we face along the way, recognizing that they are integral to our personal development. Keelin will offer valuable perspectives on how these challenges can ultimately lead to transformative growth. Tune in to discover how Keelin's work in designing reintegration programs for survivors, her public speaking engagements, and her appearances in documentaries have contributed to her remarkable growth journey. Her story serves as an inspiring example of how we can find triumph in the face of adversity.

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Amplifying Unheard Voices: Messages of Hope from Dark Origins

10/16/2023
On the next episode of Stop Telling and Start Listening we will be shedding light on the power of storytelling and amplifying voices often unheard. My guest, Deb Shapiro, is dedicated to helping others share their stories, even those that explore dark, uncomfortable topics like human trafficking, incarceration, breast cancer, and more. She coaches and empowers courageous survivors and advocates to share their deeply personal experiences, revealing the strength of the human spirit in the face of adversity. These narratives are not just tales of struggle; they are stories of triumph, resilience, and transformation. Engage in our live conversation to gain insights into how she brings these difficult journeys into the light and inspire positive change. This episode promises a transformative journey, offering a fresh perspective on the most challenging aspects of the human experience. Mark your calendar and join us in amplifying voices that matter, voices that illuminate the path to hope and change.

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Fear: An Unhealthy Distraction to an Inspired Life

10/9/2023
Are you tired of fear holding you back from the life you've always dreamed of? Good news! My next radio show episode, Fear: An Unhealthy Distraction to an Inspired Life, will transform the way you view fear and experience its impact on your journey to fulfillment. Join ShaRon Rea and me as we embark on a profound journey into the depths of fear's influence in our lives. Through our candid discussion, personal experiences, and insightful comments, we'll explore the psychology of fear, shining a light on how it can hinder our productivity, steal our dreams, and stand between us and the life we truly desire. In this episode, you'll discover practical strategies and empowering insights that will help you not only overcome fear but also turn it into a powerful force for inspiration, purpose, and meaning. Don't miss out on this transformative podcast, airing live on Monday, October 9 at 11AM PT and 2PM ET. It's time to conquer your fears and start living the life you've always imagined!

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Resonating Voices: Stopping the Silence

9/25/2023
It's incredibly important to recognize that trauma is indeed a deeply personal experience. What may be traumatic for one person might not be the same for another. This individual variability makes it even more vital for us to create safe spaces to share our struggles and seek support when needed. Connecting with others who can provide understanding, empathy, and support can make a significant difference in one's healing journey. Sharing our pain, fears, and vulnerabilities can be a transformative experience, as it helps break the isolation that often accompanies trauma. The upcoming episode, Resonate Voices: Stopping the Silence, helps address the critical aspect of healing and growth through community and connection. Join me, with guests, Madam D and her Masculine Voices bring valuable insights and perspectives to this discussion as they shed light this topic and share their commitment and experience in encouraging individuals to seek help and heal.

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Living your values: Unpacking the power of personal principles

9/18/2023
Values are principles or beliefs that guide our behavior and decision-making. Staying true to one's stated values is important for maintaining personal integrity and authenticity. It can sometimes be challenging, especially when faced with difficult choices or external pressures. What do my values say about me? What are my core values? How do I live them out? To what extent am I living in integrity to my values? What is the impact of me not being consistent to them? These are all questions ShaRon Rea and I will tackle in this week's episode of Stop Telling and Start Listening on Monday, September 18 at 11AM PT and 2PM ET.

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Habit forming - finding and managing your time

9/11/2023
Time is a commodity - you either invest it or you use it. Once gone, it cannot be reused, so we need to make the most of the time we have. For those who say they don't have time, I say find time. The challenge in finding time, is developing habits and routines that maximize your time and minimize wasting it. In today's episode, I will talk about forming habits that serve your higher priorities, leverage the resources available to you, and engaging in behavioral shifts which actually help you find more time.

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Encore: Finding alignment with your personal passions and values

9/4/2023
Finding a balance between financial success and personal fulfillment is crucial for overall well-being. The concept of a soul salary is a thought-provoking way to frame the idea that nourishing your inner self is just as important as pursuing monetary rewards. Prioritizing your time and energy in alignment with your passions, life purpose, and mission can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying professional life. It's important to recognize what activities or responsibilities drain you and steal your joy, as these can contribute to burnout and dissatisfaction. Making intentional choices about how you spend your time can have a profound impact on your overall happiness and sense of accomplishment. For those who might feel out of alignment with their current approach to time management and investment, this episode featuring Jessica Kaskov (Jess@joyfulnesswithjess.com) offers valuable insights and strategies for recalibrating your priorities and fostering a better balance between personal and professional needs. Tending to your inner well-being is as crucial as pursuing financial success resonates with the idea that holistic success involves both external achievements and internal contentment. If you're looking for advice or strategies on how to better align your professional pursuits with your passions and values, exploring the podcast episode you mentioned could be a worthwhile investment of your time.

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Sonic Intricacy: Exploring the Layers of Listening

8/28/2023
While I have never really thought about this before, there are multiple ways to listen. People can listen actively, passively, empathetically, critically, and in various other ways depending on the context, their intentions and needs, and the general situation. Listening differently, depending upon context and situation is a big shift from my blunt, impolite, and less than teaching directive, “just shut up and listen.” Join ShaRon Rea and I, as we talk about Sonic Intricacy and how we can utilize different forms of listening to engage in learning conversations with others. For ShaRon, this subject is a passion of hers and I am looking forward to learning more about it through our conversation.

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The Four Pillars of Personal Leadership

8/21/2023
Join host David Cooke for a discussion on personal leadership and the four pillars or principles behind effective personal leadership. Personal leadership involves taking responsibility for your actions, making informed decisions, and inspiring others through your behavior and values. It's not only crucial for your own growth and success but also impacts how you influence and lead those around you. Effective personal leadership can lead to improved relationships, increased productivity, and a positive impact on both professional and personal spheres of life.

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The Intellectual Mind and Listening Tension

8/14/2023
When intellectuals believe they are right, it's often due to their confidence in the thoroughness of their analysis, research, and understanding of a subject. However, it's essential to maintain humility and openness to consider alternate viewpoints, as intellectual thinking should involve continuous learning and adaptation based on new information and perspectives. Often it can be difficult to engage in a productive interactive conversation with “superior minded” individuals. As much as I enjoy all conversations, these often are the most challenging for me. Please join ShaRon Rea and I for a discussion around discovering ways to engage in conversations with highly intellectual, sometimes superior minded individuals.

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Behind the Badge: The other story

8/7/2023
Behind the Badge: The other story Behind the Badge explores the stories, experiences, and challenges as shared by my guest, Korky Vander Ploeg, a retired law enforcement officer with twenty-seven years direct experience. While we are often exposed to the negative side of law enforcement in our media, we are reminded, there are more than two sides to every story. In today’s podcast we will delve into the human side of police work and the complexities and challenges few of us have had an opportunity to learn about. Korky’s insightful and thoughtful perspectives provide just the type of conversation we need to be having when discussing or debating the issues of law enforcement. Join Korky and I, as we engage in a learning conversation and gain a deeper understanding of the broader issues related to law enforcement, such as police-community relations, police reform efforts, and the ongoing evolution of modern policing practices, as well as provide a honest conversation of the difficulties police officers face as they serve their communities today.

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Listening and Citizenship

7/31/2023
Democracy or Republic – what is the United States? What does that really mean anyway? How important is the distinction for us, as citizens? What are our rights AND responsibilities as citizens? No, this is not a civics class, or a discussion on government. My guest, ShaRon Rea and I are going to engage in a discussion about citizenship and what that means in terms of rights, responsibilities, and freedoms. When so many of us are engaged in divisive conversations about these buzzwords we raise the questions: 1. What obligations to we have as citizens of this country to our fellow citizens? 2. How do we define the actions and behaviors relating to responsible citizenship? 3. If we listen, learn, and understand the views of others, what are the possibilities for this country and we battle each other over legal, moral, value and belief related issues? Even though we are not supposed to talk about religion and politics, ShaRon and I know how to do this and have a healthy outcome? Want to hear how its done, Join us…

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Listening and Religion in America Today

7/17/2023
They say there are two things we aren’t supposed to talk about in public – religion and politics. In the next episode of “Stop Telling and Start Listening” my special guest, Doug Vrieland, and I are going to break that rule and wade deep into a discussion about religion in politics and politics in religion. Join us for an interesting discussion about these two subjects in relation to evangelical church in the United States today. Doug and I have had several private conversations about the politicization of the modern Christian, evangelical church and the impact of these behaviors on our society – believers and non-believers alike. I have always enjoyed the way Doug articulates his own struggles to support a denomination he loves while battling with the manner in which today’s evangelical church inserts its beliefs into the political issues today. I invited Doug to have one of our conversations on the show because his comments, concerns, and struggles are interesting and enlightening. It isn’t easy to talk politics and religion with most people, but Doug has nice way of authentically and constructively sharing his views without being confrontational, condemming or critical.

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