Refreshingly Human

What if there was a way to realise the subtle nuances in intolerance and ignorance? Join 2 brown girls one South African the other British, as they deep dive into experiences of racism and ignorance as multicultural women of color. In this episode, we dive deep into the complex issue of racism and its subtle manifestations. Our guest, Bola, shares her personal experiences and reflections on growing up in the UK. Racism becomes the ‘Norm’ Bola highlights how racism can be deeply ingrained in society, often going unnoticed or dismissed as the norm. She discusses the importance of education and awareness, acknowledging that as children, we may not have been fully aware of the racism around us. However, as we grow older, we start to realize the significance of racial issues and the need for education and understanding. Breaking free from the cycle of Ignorance The conversation delves into the sensitive topic of racial segregation in South Africa, where Hannah shares stories of maids being treated differently and the separation of people based on race. She emphasizes the importance of breaking free from such molds and expanding our perspectives to embrace diversity and different cultures. Having the tough conversations with love Bola and our host, Hannah, reflect on their own experiences and acknowledge the need for open dialogue and uncomfortable conversations about racism. They recognize the discomfort and defensiveness that often arise when discussing race, but emphasize the importance of facing these issues head-on. Tune in to hear this thought-provoking discussion on the complexities of racism, the need for education and awareness, and the importance of embracing diversity. Let's keep the conversation going and strive for a more inclusive and understanding society. "Racism is subtle and sometimes you do not realize or others do not realize they are being racist because they just see it as that's the way it is. And that's why I think it's complex and it's not so easy to define. Because it has made it so complex." Bola, The Refreshingly Human Podcast, S7 E4

Did you ever really think about the implications on our identity growing up in a different country from the generations before us? Crossing the boundaries of culture can present significant challenges for children as they navigate the experience of being immersed in one culture at home while encountering a distinct culture in their broader environment. This situation often results in varying expectations and role models, which can send conflicting messages about social norms and have a complex impact on the development of one's identity. In this episode of "Refreshingly Human," Hannah engages in a conversation with TJ Wey about her upbringing in America as the child of immigrant parents. They discuss how zhe learned to selectively adopt aspects of zir family heritage and the dominant culture, emphasizing the following points: "My Mom would say that I was her retirement plan. That’s where I felt like I really had to unpick it. Because it’s really easy to say, 'Here are the parameters to be a good Asian,' and follow that. However, when it starts hindering you from pursuing your own aspirations, you have to ask yourself, 'Okay, which aspects of this framework aren't serving me, and how can I forge my own path?'" TJ Wey, The Refreshingly Human Podcast, S7 E3

Have you had a conversation about the color of your skin growing up? Hannah Pillow did not, because she grew up in South Africa, where the color of her skin was ‘Normal’. But she soon discovered that in England, Brown meant: Different. Hannah sheds light on her journey from South Africa to England and the realization of her identity as a brown person. Join Hannah in this thought-provoking and entertaining podcast as we embark on a journey of self-discovery, cultural exploration, and candid conversations. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, Hannah aims to challenge stereotypes, promote empathy, and celebrate the vibrant tapestry of humanity. Share your own experiences of prejudice and racism, and let's create a space where diverse voices can be heard. Tune in to the Refreshingly Human Podcast, and together, let's break barriers and embrace our shared humanity.

Have you experienced growing up in a community that strongly emphasized cultural identity? For those of us who have, we learned from an early age the societal roles and expectations imposed upon us as girls and women. Breaking free from those predetermined notions and discovering our authentic selves can be a lengthy process. In Hannah's case, this exploration led her to distance herself from her family, husband, and country of birth, embarking on a solo journey. Hannah Pillow engages in a conversation with TJ Wey, delving into her transformative quest for liberation, which involved breaking away from an Islamic family, becoming an entrepreneur in her chosen country, and establishing a company that empowers women to embrace greater freedom and possibility worldwide. Key elements of her narrative encompass: "There was very little room for me to be a human being growing up. There were so many things that weren’t allowed because of this controlled environment that I was growing up in, because reputation was so important within the community. And reputation would often be disguised as wanting the best for me because of religion; that came with a lot of expectations that I had to be a clone of my mother. This is basically the influence of what I should be.” Hannah Pillow, S7 E1, Refreshingly Human Keep up to date with Hannah and the podcast: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/releasingtheshouldspodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HannahPillow12

Do we need to tolerate our families’ choices, opinions and mindset issues as the Blacksheep and rebels? Look, every family has a Blacksheep, or two, or three, but does that mean we need to accept the labels and boxes that are put on us? How do we go back to the family and hold space for our badass selves? In this episode I will give you 4 steps on dealing with your family as the Blacksheep and rebel so that you can go home and return feeling like the fucking badass that you are and not feeling like you need to apologize for who you are! Leave us a review on iTunes here to help us become the #1 podcast for rebels and Blacksheep: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/refreshingly-human/id1473583656 Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refreshinglyhumanpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HannahPillow12 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

https://linktr.ee/refreshinglyhuman ‘I felt like a failure, I felt like I failed being a human because I needed this pill’ I missed an important exam, I had a car full of hijabs to help keep my mother of my back, I had tension headaches and chest pains… I needed help. This is my experience with taking anti-depressants, let’s remove the shame of needing medical help to assist our mental health. Loving the podcast? Leave us a rating and review here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/refreshingly-human/id1473583656 Flashback episode with CBT practitioner Sarah: https://anchor.fm/breakthroughthis/episodes/S3-E9-Emotions-All-your-feelings-are-Valid--With-CBT-Practitioner-Sarah-Kilcullen-ene65c --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

Luke’s episode on the Haunting of Hill house made me cry…. I get so emotional when I watch both Luke AND Nellie’s episodes. In this episode I dive into how I can relate both characters and their ghosts to my own life? Let us know who you relate to and why on Instagram @Refreshinglyhumanpodcast Facebook: Refreshingly human podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

When you lose everything at a young age, how do you get it all back? Madara explains how she became the blacksheep of her family, decided to have a baby at 16 as she craved her own family after losing her parents at a very young age. How did she heal and come back from that? Tune in to find out https://linktr.ee/refreshinglyhuman Instagram: @refreshinglyhumanpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

Do you struggle with the fear of disappointing others? Perhaps others are letting you down? BK, the amazing and open Cohost of BK Spadez Podcast, gets real about what it felt like when he let his family down by STANDING UP for himself and how he found his way back to them. Bk Speaks to an important issue of putting ourselves and our mental health FIRST, before allowing the aggravators back into our lives and facing them. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

What does it feel like to be the Blacksheep of the family? Novacain's family created a rumor that she was pregant when she was 14 years old... What pushes us to be labeled the Blacksheep? Novacain openly discusses how she was shoved into an uncomfortable box and the stress that caused her internally as well as how it affected her relationship with her family. Tune in: https://anchor.fm/breakthroughthis/episodes/Our-Blacksheep-Experience-e18j0bt Facebook: Refreshingly Human Instagram: @Refreshinglyhumanpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

You are living in a global pandemic; your fear center is going whackadoodle.’ Some wise words from CBT practitioner Sarah Kilcullen. This pandemic has taken its toll on us, emotions can seem amplified beyond our control. Have you been able to identify your feelings? Are you feeling overwhelmed? Even without the pandemic, we live with a wide spectrum of emotions daily, can you identify how you are feeling at any given time? Do you know why we feel that way? Join me and Sarah Kilcullen as we delve into the emotions, fear, shame and joy in this episode of Feel the feels to learn more about some of our everyday emotions. You can find Sarah here: https://greendoortherapy.co.uk/ https://www.instagram.com/greendoor_therapy/ Instagram: Breakthroughthis Music by: Tomekeeper Productions - www.tomekeeperproductions.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

Do you consider yourself a resilient person? Why do you think resilience is so important? In this episode, Hannah and Laurie share some great examples of resilience and why it’s so important to fail fast to succeed faster. Find Hannah on Instagram @breakthroughthis --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

Do you guilt yourself for changing your mind? What emotions come up when you find an idea is not working and you might need to change course? In this Episode Laurie and I dive into how changing course can be the start of that million-dollar idea! The phrase ‘Fail fast and fail hard’ is so commonly used, we will put meaning behind this and show you why failure is THE option. Find out more about Hannah Pillow and Breakthrough journals here: https://hannahpillow.lpages.co/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

Tell me about your childhood’ is every therapist's go-to question and there’s a reason for that! In this episode we dive into the foundation of Entrepreneur Laurie Mallon, exploring her childhood, the trajectory she followed, and how she feels about it all. This is the episode for all you independent thinkers out there who have experience with imposter syndrome and want to learn why your childhood and trajectory play an important role in breaking you through the next thing. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

In this episode, I highlight the many rock bottoms I faced in my life. From my dad being murdered to my suicide attempt. In life, I broke through many dark times and now bask in the light that is my life and I want to tell you how I did that. If you are an independent thinker, who likes to work through stuff on your own, this is the episode for you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/breakthroughthis/message

Let's talk about the lessons I took away from living with a culture that was completely different from mine. This short series will highlight my new line of work. If you are a white person who needs help with cross cultural communication then you can find me on instagram @revolutionaryconversationguru and join an exclusive Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1203299186852321 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

I am saying goodbye on this platform, but I will be on a new platform! To see what’s next for me, follow me on @revolutionaryconversationguru on Instagram. New mission Harvesting understanding with cross-cultural communication between family members and close relationships so that we can unite with clarity and understanding. Free webinar on the 21st of June! Dm me for more details! Let us know your biggest takeaway from this episode. Send me a voice message on anchor:...

There is so much going on in the world, it can leave us feeling drained and hopeless. But I truly beleive that if we pull together collectively as HUMANS we can create immense changes to big injustices. I was asking myself, but what can I do? So I brought on someone, with first hand experience, to share with us the little things that we can do to make a BIG impact. What is the one thing you are going to do to stand up against injustice? Let us know your biggest takeaway from this episode. Send me a voice message on anchor: https://anchor.fm/refreshingly-human/message https://www.refreshinglyhuman.co.uk/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message

Growing up in a comunity tthat similtanously talks about sex and does not talk about sex at the exact same time can be confusing. In this episode I get into the details of how I learned about sex, and trust me, it's not what you think. Let us know your biggest takeaway from this episode. Send me a voice message on anchor: https://anchor.fm/refreshingly-human/message https://www.refreshinglyhuman.co.uk/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/breakthroughthis/message

Amir Yass identifies himself as the Queer Muslim. Today he openly shared his coming out experience but then we moved a step further to find out who Amir Yass is behind the labels. I can not tell you how much I love this guy, he is Refreshingly real, passionate and such a kind human being. What is the one thing that surprised you about Amir? You can find Amir here: https://www.instagram.com/amiryassofficial/ Let us know your biggest takeaway from this episode. Send me a voice message on anchor: https://anchor.fm/refreshingly-human/message https://www.refreshinglyhuman.co.uk/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/refreshinglyhuman/message