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#036: Poly Myths, the Dominant Perspective, and Hot Mermaid Chicks - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Today’s episode is part one of a two part Q&A, and we love hearing your questions and experiences, keep them coming! We talk about: building a poly-friendly society, the emotions behind jealousy and guilt in open relationships, the biggest myths of monogamy, what to do when a fantasy goes wrong, and intricacies between multiple partners in different power dynamics.


035 – Consent and Sexual Freedom With Susan Wright - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

If you’ve been listening to our show you’ve heard us mention the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) many times. On today’s episode we’re speaking with the NCSF’s founder Susan Wright about the important work the NCSF is doing, the current climate around kink and polyamory, and what to do if being kinky lands you in trouble. We’re also taking a deep dive into that most critical of topics - consent. We discuss the importance of consent, best practices for obtaining consent, and...


#034: You’re Not Broken: BDSM, Injury, and Illness - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Although we all hope it will never happen to us, at some point in our lives we will have to deal with an injury or illness that will affect our play partners, our loved ones, and our sex life. Today we’re going to discuss the painful struggles, the frustrating role reversals, and the disappointing emotions that result from having chronic pain or serious injuries in a BDSM relationship. We’ll also give you some advice on how to cope with these issues so you can enjoy your relationships,...


#033: My Poly Family: A Teen Answers Your Questions - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

As poly parents we have a lot of questions around the effects that our relationships have on our children. So, we decided to get the answers from straight from the horse's mouth. Mancub (our teenager) has grown up in a poly household since he was a toddler. He’s met (some of) our partners, formed sibling relationships with other polycule kids, cohabited with two of our partners who lived with us, and come out about his family at school. In this very special episode he’s going to give you...


#032: Pornhub Drama, Sex Toy Bloopers, and Wonder Woman - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

What do you say when your ten year old saw you on Pornhub (with someone other than your husband)? Can you be happy after discovering kink and then leaving it behind? What should you do when your dog swallows your butt plug (and your vet is threatening to file a report)? What skills do you need to survive as a monogamous person with a non-monogamous partner? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer these questions and more. PLUS: Cassie finds a cuddle buddy, we review Professor Marston...


#031: Touch of Flavor’s Guide to Healthy Power Exchange - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Power exchange. For some of us, it’s a need every bit as important as religion, being non-monogamous, or having a child. But as the power dynamic encroaches further into everyday life, boundaries can get murky. In a relationship built on inequality, what exactly constitutes a healthy relationship? On today’s episode we’re talking about power exchange, the rights of a submissive, and what it takes to build a power exchange relationship where all parties are healthy and thriving.


#030: The Power of Forgiveness with Sri Richard and Sri Namaste - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Forgiveness is a powerful and necessary tool in any relationship; one most of us take it for granted. Mustering up empathy and compassion for those we feel have wronged us is incredibly difficult. But in if you want to solve conflict and create healthy relationships, mastering forgiveness is essential. Today we are talking to Sri Richard and Sri Namaste about the role of forgiveness in our relationships (and in our lives as a whole). We are going to talk how to connect with your partners,...


#029 Beyond Orgasms – A Guide To Sexual Pleasure with Yarah Sutra - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Today we are going to be talking the Pleasure Priestess Yarah Sutra. We’re going to be discussing how to create pleasure, why orgasms don’t always matter, and why many of us are looking at pleasure the wrong way. We are also going to cover why you need to love your private parts, how to feel sexually empowered, and how to have fulfilling sexual experiences while saying fuck you to the patriarchy.


#028: Tops, Switches, and Submissives. Oh My! - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Do switches make better tops? Is Dom/Top drop even real? Are there slaves or submissives that are untrainable? Will learning to become a Master save my relationship? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel tackle your questions, and a TON of them are BDSM related! PLUS: We recommend some butt plugs, a listener puts Cassie and Rigel on the spot, and we have the longest blooper reel EVER.


#027: Practical Tantra with Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Most of us have heard about the sexual benefits of Tantra. But what is it exactly? Do you need a yogi’s flexibility to do it? An olympic athlete’s stamina? Can you do tantra with more than one person? In today's episode we’re talking with Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, the authors of Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. We’ll be discussing these questions, debunking some of the myths surrounding tantra, and talking about some...


#026: What Poly Folks Should Know About The Law with Ben Schenker - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Non-monogamy is a long way from being accepted by mainstream society. Many things that monogamous folks take for granted require extra effort in the poly world. Nowhere is that truer than when trying to replicate the basic legal rights that monogamous families enjoy. Today we are going to be talking to Ben Schenker, an attorney who provides legal support to LGBT and poly families. We’re going to be discussing legal steps that folks in non-monogamous relationships can take to protect their...


#025: When Your Faith And Sexuality Clash with Frenchie Davis - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Did you grow up in a religious family? Every religion has developed rules to try and regulate its followers sexual practices. But what do you do when your faith and your sexuality don’t align? In today's episode we are talking to Frenchie Davis about sex, spiritually and religion. A few things we discuss: what people get wrong about the bible, why most religions take such a dim view on sex, and the consequences of sex-negativity in religion.


#023: A Valentine’s Day Special - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

For some of us, Valentine’s Day can be a rough. Especially if you’re single or broke. Today we are giving you some Valentine’s Day survival tips and pick-me-ups. We’re also reviewing Around the World by Rob Hagains. This film is a prequel to Monogamish, an upcoming series about one couple’s journey into kink and poly. Around the World is being released on Valentine’s Day. What did we think? Listen and find out!


#024: Dying Alone Sucks (Here’s How to Avoid It) with Robert Kandell - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

We talk to a LOT of kinky singles, and one of the biggest fears they have is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have to. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook friends friends and can hook up by simply swiping right, why are more people single later in life now than at any time in our history? And what can you do to create amazing relationships and avoid being a statistic? Just in time for Valentine’s Day we’re talking to Robert Kandell about...


#022: How To Add A Third (Or Fourth) To Your Relationship - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Today our partner Amanda is back in the studio and we’re answering questions from a listener’s polycule about how to navigate group poly. The topics we’re covering include: how to divide time and attention, tips on adding a third, (or fourth, or more) to your group, handling conflicts with multiple partners, advice on finding a unicorn or dragon, and more.


#021: Disabilities, Gay Boots, and Lesbian Porn - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

When is it time to take a fantasy out of your head and into the bedroom? Why do straight chicks like lesbian porn? Is it racist to prefer partners with a certain skin tone? Can a Dom with disabilities find a sub? On our first episode of 2018 Cassie and Rigel are going to be answering the rest of your questions that were lost in the upside down. Plus: We reminisce about our kinky NYE party, Cassie kicks a girl with her rainbow boots, and we talk about if you should tell a date your penis size.


#020: Coming Out Poly with Tamara Pincus - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

The decision to come out as non-monogamous (or not) is a difficult one. There are a lot things that can go wrong such as losing your job, being rejected by friends,or distancing yourself from family. But in spite of the risks coming out can be incredible important because we want our partners and relationships given recognition. In today’s episode Cassie is talking to sex therapist and licensed social worker Tamara Pincus about when and how to come out as well as her new book on the topic.


#019: Help! My girlfriend stole my wife’s dog for ransom! - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

How do you tell your husband of 19 years that he’s gotten fat and ugly? Is is possible to find romance when you’re dying? How can you make your first threesome a safe one? What should you do when your girlfriend steals your wife’s dog for ransom? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer these and other (amazing) questions.


#018: Strap-On 101 with Jaki Griot - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Do you own a strap-on (or are you curious about them)? Do you want to use said strap-on to create mind blowing experiences for yourself and your partner(s)? We’ve got you covered! Today Cassie and the fabulous Jaki Griot talk about one of their favorite topics... strap-ons! As a 101 guide to strap-ons, this episode covers everything from how to choose dongs and harnesses, to how to wear a strap on, to scene prep, to tips for utilizing different holes, to aftercare and clean-up.


#017: Condoms, Friend Zones, and Big D***s - Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Why does my girlfriend bleed during sex? What should I tell my kids whose grandfather has come out as trans? How can I last longer in bed? Is it cheating when you break an agreement about using condoms… and then get pregnant? On today’s episode Cassie and Rigel answer your questions about sex, condoms, and more. PLUS: The boy who came to do our HVAC thinks Cassie is a serial killer, and we announce a kinky, sex positive NYE party in the Baltimore area.