Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box

Should you let your partner read your texts? We get this question a LOT. When you’re feeling insecurity or mistrust, this kind of radical transparency can seem like an easy solution. But is it ethical? Does it work? Here’s the definitive answer we give our clients.

The biggest challenge in polyamory Is not time, nor jealousy, nor communication, But something much more deep-rooted: Contrast and fear, That shines a light on weaknesses that were never clear.

You’re feeling stuck. On the one hand, you’re tired of struggling in your polyamorous relationships. The relationship needs to be fixed. But you’re not the one causing these problems. Your partner is to blame. And they don’t seem motivated to change. What should you do?

The holidays are a natural incubator for conflict. Especially if you’re in a polyamorous relationship. Here are four hacks that allow our polyamorous clients to not only survive the holidays but to create memories and experiences that bring their relationships even closer together.

Many people think jealousy is the cardinal sin of polyamory. But those feelings are normal. And when you use them the RIGHT way, jealousy can actually be the key to healing your relationship.

You and your partner agree to open your relationship under one condition: It’s JUST about sex. No feelings. And for a while that works out pretty well. But now it’s happened. Someone caught feelings. The other partner is feeling hurt and betrayed. And you’re both trying to figure out: what does a path forward even look like?

When your spouse tells you they are no longer interested in being romantically involved with you, what do you do? It’s a tough situation. But you can get your spouse back. Here’s how.

“Ya’lls can be a little negative about polyamory. Why can’t you talk about the positive things?” We got this question from a listener. So this week, we’re discussing why we don’t sugarcoat and the consequences that being overly optimistic can have for your relationships.

Relationship Anarchy sounds great in theory. But the way most people practice it leads to confusion, hurt, and ruined relationships. In this episode, we discuss how you can build relationships that value freedom and autonomy while still allowing your partners to feel cared for.

If you’re in a polyamorous relationship, communication is key. Here are 5 powerful questions to help take your communication to the next level.

You’re in a polyamorous relationship. You’re a man. But you can’t find polyamorous women to date. It's frustrating. Not only that, but you might also be in a place where your partner is having ZERO trouble finding people. And that disparity is bringing a flood of jealousy and challenges. Here’s how you can find those amazing partners for yourself.

Veto power is a common agreement in polyamory. But do vetos WORK? The answer is an emphatic no. In this episode, we discuss how veto power undermines the very security you’re trying to create, and what you should do instead.

When you’re polyamorous, it’s incredibly hard to find a good coach or counselor. And when your marriage and family are on the line, you can’t settle for anything less than the best. But how do you figure out WHO is the best? In order to be truly amazing, an expert needs to have paid the price in three different areas. Let’s break them down.

You may think that you can’t heal a polyamorous relationship on your own. But you have more power than you know. And when you embrace your power, you can transform your relationship. Even if your partner isn’t willing to do the work.

Are you polyamorous and having trouble finding your “unicorn?” The reason you’re having trouble finding a partner isn’t that they don’t exist. It’s because what you’re offering isn’t attractive. Here’s what couples do wrong when they’re looking for an incoming partner, and how you can attract the amazing humans you are looking for.

If you and your partner have separated, is your relationship over? Here’s the process that our polyamorous clients use to heal a separation and bring the relationship back together. Even if their partner is hopeless and they’re the only one who is willing to try.

Our partner Amanda joins us to discuss our family vacation to Florida. Plus we reveal an awesome new project.

Having relationship problems? Thinking about going to therapy? There are 5 clues you can use to weed out the experts who can help you from those you shouldn't give the time of day. Find out what they are in this episode.

Triads and quads. Unicorns and dragons. Group relationships are something lots of polyamorous people want. And they can be beautiful when done well. But they’re VERY easy to do wrong. In this episode, we discuss 5 surprising facts you should know if you’re in (or considering) a group relationship.

Rach and Chel were caught in a depressing cycle. They were arguing all the time. They were hardly intimate. There was no affection. Their 10-year relationship was close to done. So how did they get from the edge of disaster to dancing naked in the kitchen (and dating a triad) in a matter of weeks? We’ll let them tell you. 😎