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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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English


Episodes

Episode 88: How to Make It Easier for Children To Use Healthy Coping Strategies

6/17/2021
As you may know, negative behaviors (aggression, disrespect, defiance, meltdowns, shutdowns) often indicate that a child is not coping in a healthy way. And you may have tried to teach your children to use healthier coping strategies many times in the past… but they still don’t use those strategies as often as you’d like them to. In this episode, you’ll learn why children have such a hard time using healthy coping skills. You’ll also learn what you can do to make it easier for them -- and...

Duration:00:16:46

Episode 87: How to Teach (Even Resistant) Children to Think More Positively

6/10/2021
Of course we want our kids to think more positively. Not only do we know the reasons that positive thinking is healthier, but let’s be honest, hearing constant negativity can be draining! Unfortunately, encouraging and reminding some kids to think more positively doesn’t seem to help. In this episode, you’ll learn why certain kids are more resistant to thinking more positively. You’ll also learn how to respond effectively to their negativity and how to foster more resilience so you don’t...

Duration:00:14:28

Episode 86: Creating a To DON’T List

6/3/2021
When the same situation tends to not go well over and over, it can be helpful to make a plan for how you want to handle that situation differently in the future. And when you’re making your plans, it’s a good idea to include the actions you DON’T want to take -- things that you know from experience make the situation worse. In this episode, you’ll learn how a “to DON’T list” leads to less stress and negativity. You’ll also learn the benefits of creating that list… not just when it comes to...

Duration:00:14:10

Episode 85: A Formula for Firm and Respectful Responses That Will Improve Your Influence & Relationship

5/27/2021
We want our kids to listen to us and do what they’re supposed to do, but often the way we try to teach them how to act responsible negatively affects our influence and our relationship. In this episode, you’ll learn a simple formula for how to be both firm AND respectful so that your children are more likely to do what you ask them to do...and internalize the lessons that you’re trying to teach.

Duration:00:15:22

Episode 84: Questions from Parents: Siblings Who Tell on Each Other, Convincing Children to Change Behavior

5/20/2021
While it can be valuable to learn parenting tips and tools, it can also be helpful to learn how to apply those tips and tools to real situations! In this episode, you’ll learn how to motivate children to focus on themselves instead of what their siblings are doing. You’ll also hear the answer to another question about how to convince children that they need to do what we ask them to do.

Duration:00:16:41

Episode 83: A Long Game Strategy for Kids With Strong Willed Behavior & Big Emotions

5/13/2021
“Strong willed” behavior -- kids’ questioning, negotiating, defying -- can be incredibly frustrating to deal with. And it makes sense that when we see that behavior, we try to get children to change. But that strategy is often ineffective, making us feel helpless to address the situation effectively. In this episode, you’ll learn why strong-willed behavior is actually a coping mechanism for children who have big feelings. You’ll also learn how understanding that connection can help you...

Duration:00:17:50

Episode 82: How to NOT Be So Exhausted by Others’ Emotions

5/6/2021
One of the things that exhausts us most as parents is having to deal with others’ big emotions -- especially when we’re dealing with them so frequently. Of course we always want to try to teach our kids tools to deal with their own emotions...but in the meantime, it is possible to feel less exhausted no matter how others around you are acting or feeling. In this episode, you’ll learn simple steps you can take to protect yourself from being depleted by others’ emotions.

Duration:00:16:37

Episode 81: Raising Children With Healthy Self-Esteem (But Not a Sense of Entitlement)

4/29/2021
We all want our children to feel good about themselves, and often we try to instill a sense of confidence by praising or complimenting them. Unfortunately, praise and compliments often lead to a sense of entitlement rather than healthy self-esteem. In this episode, you’ll learn the two components of healthy self-esteem as well as simple actions you can take to start to incorporate these concepts into your life.

Duration:00:14:18

Episode 80: Questions from Parents: Not Letting Kids “Get Away With” Disrespect + Child Only Wants More Attention When Others Are Around

4/22/2021
While it can be valuable to learn parenting tips and tools, it can also be helpful to learn how to apply those tips and tools to real situations! In this episode, you’ll hear answers to parents’ questions about addressing disrespect (which often doesn’t go well in the moment) without letting kids “get away with it”; and why children may demand more attention -- and act as if you never give them any! -- when others are around.

Duration:00:19:31

Episode 79: When Children Say Mean Things About Themselves

4/15/2021
While it’s difficult to see children being mean to others, it’s just as hard to hear them being mean to themselves, saying things like “I’m stupid,” “I’m ugly,” or “I have no friends.” And often the way we respond to those statements doesn’t seem to make them feel better. In this episode, you’ll learn why our (logical) responses may do more harm than good… and what you can say and do instead to improve how your child views themselves.

Duration:00:16:33

Episode 78: “When-Then” Statements: A Simple Long Game Tool for Reacting More Effectively

4/8/2021
You may have such good intentions about staying calm when addressing your children’s behavior. But when you’ve asked them to do something over and over, or when they’re being aggressive or disrespectful, or when they’re melting down over the smallest thing, it is HARD to keep your cool. In this episode, you’ll learn a simple tool for handling these situations more effectively… and in a way that you don’t regret.

Duration:00:15:47

Episode 77: What Works When Your Child Is Having a Big Emotion or Reaction

3/25/2021
If you have a child who tends to have big emotions or reactions, you’ve probably tried many different things to reduce the drama in that moment. But you may not have found much success, so you’re dealing with the drama over and over (or you’re walking on eggshells to prevent that big reaction!). In this episode, you’ll learn exactly what to focus on as your child is having a big emotion so that the situation goes more smoothly -- and so that you feel less helpless and depleted. You’ll also 2...

Duration:00:16:20

Episode 76: Answering Parents' Questions about Negative Reactions to Positive Feedback + Screaming as Child's First Response

3/18/2021
While it can be valuable to learn parenting tips and tools, it can also be helpful to learn how to apply those tips and tools to real situations! In this episode, you’ll hear answers to parents’ questions about what to do when a child gets upset when they receive positive feedback and how to address a child whose initial reaction is to scream -- even when they know they’re not supposed to.

Duration:00:20:49

Episode 75: Micro Deposits: How to Improve Your Relationship Even When You Don’t Have Much Time (Or Your Child Is Resistant)

3/11/2021
After a year of spending so much (sometimes negative) time with your children, you may feel that your relationship with them isn’t where you want it to be. But you may not know how to improve things except to “spend more positive time with them”...which you may not have the time or desire to do! And maybe you’ve even tried to improve your relationship, but your children are resistant. In this episode, you’ll learn how to make “micro deposits”-- actions that don’t take much time and that will...

Duration:00:14:54

Episode 74: Getting Time for Yourself

3/4/2021
As we’ve been home with our children more for the last year, one of the most difficult parts is that we haven’t gotten time for ourselves. For many of us, this lack of alone time has led to less patience, less connection with our kids, and a lot more Yuck (in everyone). And even though we know we need more time to ourselves, we may not know how to find it. In this episode, I’ll offer 3 tips for getting that time that you need so that you can start to find your patience, give your children...

Duration:00:09:44

Episode 73: How to Address Negative Behavior AFTER It’s Happened

2/25/2021
When a child is in the middle of a negative behavior, mood, or attitude, it’s hard to get them out of it. (Even if you’re able to, it takes a lot of energy.) The reality is, it is more efficient to teach children how to act differently when they’re NOT in that negative place. But who wants to talk about negative behavior after it’s happened? Often children will be resistant to these conversations… or the conversations don’t lead to change. In this episode, you’ll learn the 3 steps to a...

Duration:00:18:08

Episode 72: Guest Expert Ebone’ Granger: How to Raise Racially Conscious Children

2/18/2021
You may want to talk to your children about topics like race and diversity and inclusion, but how do you bring up these topics? When should you start talking about them, and what should you say? In this episode, guest expert Ebone’ Granger will share her tips on what to say to your children to foster race consciousness (with tips for children of different ages) and what to do if you haven’t started these conversations yet. She’ll also offer tips about how to handle it when others engage in...

Duration:00:29:59

Episode 71: Treat Yourself Differently: Yuck Dumps for You

2/11/2021
Many of us learned as children that if things were difficult, we should just suck it up and push through it. In reality, when we just suck it up and push through it, Yuck builds up inside of us and negatively affects how we treat others and how we deal with situations. In this episode, you’ll learn how YOUR Yuck dumps can lead to better behavior, moods and attitudes in you and your children. You’ll also learn a simple question to ask yourself to start your Yuck dump and how to make sure your...

Duration:00:14:20

Episode 70: Questions from Parents: How to Pause Before Reacting; Tools for Siblings; Handling Defiance

2/4/2021
While it can be valuable to learn parenting tips and tools, it can also be helpful to learn how to apply those tips and tools to real situations. In this episode, you’ll hear answers to parents’ specific questions about what we can do as parents to help us pause before reacting, which tools siblings need to get along (and how to teach those tools without condoning negative behavior), and what to do when a child is being defiant.

Duration:00:16:29

Episode 69: A Long Game Strategy for Addressing Children’s Lying

1/28/2021
Most children lie at some point, whether it’s over something small or something big. Of course any parent is likely to feel angry and concerned when a child lies. Unfortunately, when our responses come from a place of anger and concern, we usually respond in a way that doesn’t address the issue effectively. In this episode, you’ll learn 3 reasons children lie (it’s not just to avoid punishment), why our usual attempts to address lying tend to backfire… and how we can use a different strategy...

Duration:00:19:08