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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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English


Episodes

Episode 67: 3 Questions To Ask Yourself To Set Effective Rules and Boundaries

1/14/2021
You know it’s important to set rules and boundaries if you want to raise responsible, resilient children. But how do you set rules and boundaries that children will actually follow? In this episode, you’ll learn the components of “effective” expectations. You’ll also learn 3 questions to ask yourself going forward if you want to set realistic boundaries for your children that lead to success rather than power struggles.

Duration:00:20:17

Episode 66: The 4-R Method: Action Steps for Long-Term Improvement in Behavior, Moods, and Attitudes

1/7/2021
You may want to stop using parenting strategies that don’t work and make you feel bad (what I call “band aid parenting” strategies). You may promise yourself that you’ll start using more respectful, effective, long-lasting strategies (what I call “long game parenting” strategies). But wanting to change and actually implementing new tools are often two different things. In this episode, I’ll teach you a process of small action steps you can take in order to shift from old habits to new ones....

Duration:00:21:23

Episode 65: Want Long-Lasting Positive Change In Your Family? Here’s What You Need (& How I’ll Help)

12/31/2020
It’s that time of the year when we’re all thinking about improvement. When it comes to your family, you likely want to see more respectful, resilient behavior and more connected relationships. But your attempts to make things better may not be leading to long-term results. In this episode, I’ll review the two things that must happen if you want to see long-lasting positive change… and how I’ll be supporting you in realistically incorporating these two changes into your life going forward.

Duration:00:17:32

Episode 64: Let Go Of… Putting Your Needs Behind Everyone Else’s

12/24/2020
For many of us, our days consist of doing things for other people, and IF there happens to be time left over (there usually isn’t), we might think about what we need. Unfortunately, putting our needs behind everyone else’s doesn’t just affect us; it affects our children. In this episode, you’ll learn why attending to your needs is necessary if you want to see improvement in children’s behavior. You’ll also learn how to identify where to start making SMALL changes… and how to increase the...

Duration:00:17:46

Episode 63: Let Go Of… Taking What Your Children Say and Do Personally

12/17/2020
Especially when we’re not in a good place as parents, it’s hard not to take it personally when kids say “I hate you” or “You never give me anything I want!” And when we do take it personally, the situation often goes downhill. In this episode you’ll learn why, in most cases, statements that seem to be about you actually AREN’T about you. You’ll also hear the one question you can ask that will help you take those statements less personally… and why this doesn’t mean condoning disrespect from...

Duration:00:18:23

Episode 62: Let Go Of… Believing You Won’t Feel Better Until Others Change

12/10/2020
When we’re feeling stressed or frustrated, one of the first things most of us try to do is change what’s happening around us. We think that if our kids would only act differently, if our spouse would only do more, if our mother would stop judging us… then we can feel better. Unfortunately, trying to make others change so that we feel better is usually ineffective, and it’s exhausting! In this episode, we’ll discuss a simple strategy that will help you feel better and more in control, even...

Duration:00:17:55

Episode 61: Let Go Of Trying to Change Children's Negative Attitudes

12/3/2020
It’s likely that your children and adolescents are complaining now more than ever… and let’s be honest, it can get pretty annoying. So it makes sense that your instinct is to try to motivate them to think more positively or have a better attitude. But this can take a lot of energy, and the effort usually isn’t necessary. In this episode, you’ll learn why I’m encouraging you to let go of trying to change negative attitudes. Instead, I’ll show you how to work WITH their complaints rather than...

Duration:00:17:28

Episode 60: How to Feel Better About This Holiday Season (Or Anything Else You’re Not Looking Forward To)

11/26/2020
Although holidays were stressful in past years, they also meant fun traditions, time with family, and (at least some) events to look forward to. Now, after an already-challenging year, this holiday season is going to look very different for most of us. It’s easy to wonder how you’re going to get through this time when things you’ve enjoyed about holidays in the past… aren’t happening. In this episode, you’ll learn a simple strategy (based on two sentences!) that will not only help you feel...

Duration:00:09:52

Episode 59: Why Children Don’t “Choose” To Act Negatively

11/19/2020
When our children misbehave, we often assume that they are “choosing” to do what they are doing. In reality, their negative behaviors and attitudes are more likely a sign of missing skills than a choice they are making. In this episode, we’ll discuss the science behind why children don’t “choose” negative behaviors or attitudes. You’ll also learn why this doesn’t mean that we excuse negative behavior...and what we can do to effectively address it.

Duration:00:18:03

Episode 58: How Our Relationships Can Affect Our Children’s Relationships With Siblings and Peers

11/12/2020
Of course we want our children to have great relationships with their siblings, other family members, friends, and peers. But what happens when our children struggle with these relationships? While we can suggest ways they can act differently, we tend to underestimate the impact that our own relationships have on our children’s relationships. In this episode, we’ll look at the impact that we do have, and you’ll learn simple ways that you can use your relationships to improve theirs.

Duration:00:17:17

Episode 57: Supporting Siblings of the Children Who Take So Much of Our Time and Energy

11/5/2020
Many of us spend the majority of our parenting time and energy trying to address the behavior, moods, and attitudes of the same child... But what about the siblings of these “challenging” children who don’t receive as much of our attention or energy because they’re simply “easier”? Should we worry about them? Do they need more? In this episode, you’ll learn how to identify when children may (or may not) benefit from more support... and the two simple things you can do to ensure that these...

Duration:00:17:59

Episode 56: A Strategy to Reduce Overwhelm When You Have Too Much On Your Plate

10/29/2020
The demands on our time and energy are greater than ever before. And many of us have already TRIED taking things off of our plate and decreasing our expectations of ourselves, but we’re still feeling overwhelmed. In this episode, I’ll offer a strategy for how to reduce the feeling of overwhelm by shifting how you see your time...so that you can feel more productive and less exhausted.

Duration:00:20:14

Episode 55: When Children Become Defensive or Blame Others (Instead of Accepting Responsibility)

10/22/2020
We may believe that it’s our job to foster responsible, respectful behavior in our children. But what if we try to talk to them about their behavior and they refuse to acknowledge that they’ve done anything wrong? What if, when we bring up things they’ve done (or haven’t done), all they do is defend themselves...or blame others? In this episode, we’ll discuss how to understand and handle this type of behavior effectively -- not only in children, but in anyone!

Duration:00:11:19

How My New Business Partner and I Are Joining Together To Help YOU

10/15/2020
Most of us want to raise responsible, resilient, confident children -- without feeling overwhelmed ourselves. I started my business over a decade ago (and this podcast a little over a year ago) because I genuinely know how to help parents do just that. So when the pandemic hit and parenting became even MORE of a challenge for so many MORE parents, I knew I had to help; but honestly, I couldn’t figure out how to do it without burning myself out! So I joined forces with Christina (Chris) Croll...

Duration:00:22:11

Episode 53: Having Your Child’s Back: Why Unconditional Support Is NOT Permissiveness

10/8/2020
It’s relatively easy to show kids how much we support them when they’re doing what we want them to do. But what happens when they are not doing what we want? During those times, many of our children feel that we are NOT supportive… which often makes them think that we only “accept” them when they are being the person we want them to be. In this episode, we’ll discuss why we must demonstrate unconditional acceptance if we want to raise responsible, resilient, confident children. You’ll also...

Duration:00:15:36

Episode 52: Tools to Help with Distance (and Traditional) Learning With Guest Experts Debbie Rosen and Lindsey Thoms

10/1/2020
As the novelty of a new school year is starting to wear off, kids’ behavior may be becoming more and more frustrating. Often in response to this behavior, our instinct is to ask “How can we make them do what they’re supposed to do?” instead of “WHY aren’t they doing what they’re supposed to do?” In this episode, I interview two experts, Debbie Rosen and Lindsey Thoms, who discuss that frustrating school-related behavior is often related to under-developed executive functioning skills… and...

Duration:00:26:31

Episode 51: Respectful Discipline: What It Sounds Like to Balance Firmness With Respect

9/24/2020
Many of us were raised to believe that when you’re responding to kids’ behavior, you can either be firm OR you can be respectful -- not both, and definitely not both at the same time. Not only is it possible to balance firmness and respect, but it’s actually essential to do so if you want to be a powerful positive influence in children’s lives. In this episode, we’ll discuss why balancing these two qualities is necessary, and what it actually looks and sounds like to respond with firmness...

Duration:00:16:20

A Simple Strategy for Handling Parenting Mistakes (So You Can Feel Less Guilty)

9/17/2020
No matter how many parenting tools you have, no matter how good your intentions are, you’re going to make mistakes as a parent. You’re going to do things you regret. And while you may KNOW that you’re going to make mistakes -- that you’re human and far from perfect -- you may still worry about how your “mistakes” impact your kids. In this episode, you’ll learn why it’s actually important for your children to see you making mistakes. You’ll also learn a simple strategy for handling those...

Duration:00:13:44

Episode 49: How to Find Consequences that Work

9/10/2020
We know it’s our job to teach our kids how to act more responsible. But what happens when you can’t find consequences that work to motivate long-term responsible behavior? In this episode, you’ll learn why most of the strategies we use as consequences aren’t effective in the long run… and what to do instead to foster internal motivation so that kids do what they’re supposed to do, even when we’re not around.

Duration:00:18:43

Episode 48: How to Handle Your Yuck In the Moment So You Don’t Do Things You Regret

8/27/2020
Many parents these days are feeling guilty, especially as we’re stressed or depleted and taking that Yuck out on our families (or dealing with Yuck in other ways that we regret). The truth is that most of us DON’T know how to deal with our Yuck in a healthy way. In this episode, we’ll discuss why so many of us struggle in this area... and how we can use that knowledge to act more in line with our values and experience less guilt and regret.

Duration:00:16:03