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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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English


Episodes

Episode 223: When You Remind Your Child To Use Their Coping Skills But They Don’t Listen

6/23/2022
It can be incredibly frustrating when our big-emotion children refuse to use their coping skills in heated situations. And when we remind them to use these strategies, they often just get more upset! What can we do in those moments to get them to calm down? In this episode, you’ll learn why children are unlikely to use coping strategies when you remind them to, and what we can do instead to de-escalate these situations.

Duration:00:13:28

YPLG Episode 222

6/16/2022

Duration:00:12:00

Episode 221: When You Do Something Fun For Your Child and They Still Don’t Do What You Ask

6/9/2022
It can be so frustrating when we do something fun for our children -- take them somewhere, play a game with them -- and then when we ask them to do what they have to do -- brush their teeth, go to bed -- they don’t listen! Shouldn’t doing things for our kids make it more likely that they’ll do what we ask? In this episode, you’ll learn why “deposits” don’t always improve behavior (and may actually make it worse) and what your children really need in those situations in order to behave better.

Duration:00:09:58

Episode 220: When Siblings Are Impacted by a Big Emotion Child

6/2/2022
Siblings of children with big emotions may be impacted by their sibling’s controlling behavior, anger, meltdowns, and more. While they sometimes fight back, often these children give in to preserve the peace…which may eventually lead to resentment and other negative feelings. In this episode, you’ll learn what siblings need from us when they’re feeling resentful, how to help them make a plan for situations that frustrate them, and what changes we need to make for long-term peace in our homes.

Duration:00:12:47

Episode 219: When Your Child Keeps Pushing Your Boundaries

5/26/2022
Many children with big emotions push boundaries…over and over. And of course we give in; we’re tired of fighting with them and we’ve seen that they don’t give up until we give them what they want. In this episode, you’ll learn why firm boundaries are even more important for kids with big emotions, how to avoid getting stuck in a power struggle, and what our kids need to learn in order to respect boundaries in the future.

Duration:00:12:20

Episode 218: When Your Child Complains Every Time They Have to Do Something They Don’t Want to Do

5/19/2022
Kids know that they have to do things they don’t want to do: brush their teeth, put their stuff away, do their homework -- and yet, they still complain day after day. Even when we ask them to stop complaining or whining, it doesn’t stop for long. In this episode, you’ll learn why whining and complaining is a symptom of something deeper for kids, how to avoid being sucked into their Yuck (and save our energy), and what to teach them to help them stop complaining in the future.

Duration:00:12:14

Episode 217: When You Can't Convince Your Spouse to Change How They Respond to Your Child

5/12/2022
It’s very common for parents not to be on the same page when it comes to parenting. After all, parents come from different backgrounds and often have different perspectives about what will “work.” Often when this happens, each parent will spend a lot of energy trying to convince the other that they need to change -- a strategy that is rarely effective. In this episode, you’ll learn why it’s important to stop trying to convince your spouse or co-parent to change, and what you can do instead...

Duration:00:12:03

Episode 216: When Your Child Struggles With Parties or Other Events

5/5/2022
Now that birthday parties and bigger gatherings are happening again, there’s a lot of excitement. But with children with big emotions, there can be struggle as well. Often big-feeling children are hesitant to join big events, and when they do, they often come to us, full of frustration, upset, or other Yuck. In this episode, you’ll learn what children actually need in these situations in order to be more resilient so they (and we) can enjoy these gatherings more.

Duration:00:10:56

Episode 215: When You're Looking for the Right Thing to Say to Calm Your Child DOwn

4/21/2022
We all want to know what to say to put an end to a situation that is going downhill. When our children have big reactions, or when they’re being disrespectful because they’re upset… we want to know how to make them stop. The problem is, most of what we try makes the situation worse, not better. In this episode, we’ll talk about why trying to find the “right thing” to say can backfire and what action to take instead to improve a situation more quickly.

Duration:00:15:07

Episode 214: Managing Difficult After-School Hours With Big Feeling Children

4/14/2022
Many parents say that one of the worst parts of the day happens right after school. Often when they get home from school, children are often disrespectful (to you and to their siblings), demanding, or just plain irritable! In this episode, you’ll learn why the after-school hours are particularly difficult for children with big emotions and what you can do to make this time of day less miserable for everyone.

Duration:00:12:08

Episode 213: When Your Child Keeps Saying "It's Not Fair!"

4/7/2022
We are all very familiar with the whines and complaints of “it’s not fair!” And some of our kids may be melting down or getting incredibly angry when they perceive an injustice. But when we try to explain to our children why things really ARE fair (or why they have to accept that things aren’t fair!), the situation gets worse. In this episode, you’ll learn what’s really causing the “it’s not fair!” lament and what children really need in those moments in order to feel and act better.

Duration:00:14:12

Episode 212: When Big Emotions Aren’t Loud (And Look Like Worrying, Sensitivity to Criticism, Low Confidence)

3/31/2022
Often when we think of “big emotions” we think of tantrums, meltdowns, and big reactions. But many big-feeling kids don’t express their emotions loudly. Instead, they may worry, or get sad, or shut down. And of course it’s just as important to be able to support children whose big emotions are quieter. In this podcast, you’ll learn to understand what’s going on in the world of a child whose big emotions are a little softer… and what we can do to empower them and foster long-lasting...

Duration:00:16:20

Episode 211: How to Make Sure YOU Are In Charge, NOT Your Child’s Emotions

3/24/2022
If we’re being honest, how often do we change our plans or our boundaries because we’re trying to avoid our children’s big emotions and reactions? We may clean up after them instead of asking them to do it… or give them extra time on screens or with a friend instead of enforcing a clear end time… because we want to avoid the inevitable big reaction when we do set that firm boundary. Unfortunately, letting our children’s emotions lead our home isn’t healthy for us or for them. In this...

Duration:00:15:55

Episode 210: When Your Big-Emotion Child Is Disrespectful

3/17/2022
Often children with big emotions can be disrespectful -- calling you names, refusing to do what you ask, wanting to be first and best all the time, being rude to siblings and friends. We try to tell them that disrespect isn’t acceptable, and we may even punish them for it, but that doesn’t seem to reduce the disrespect. In this episode, you’ll learn why trying to make disrespect go away is ineffective… and what you can do instead to help your child want to act more respectful on their own.

Duration:00:15:19

Episode 209: Why Children With Big Emotions Are At Higher Risk for Low Self-Esteem (& What We Can Do)

3/3/2022
We know how important it is for children to feel good about themselves. Unfortunately, we may recognize that our big-feeling children often don’t seem to have a lot of confidence… and no matter how we try to improve how they view themselves, it doesn’t seem to help. In this episode, we’ll talk about why children with big emotions are at higher risk for low self esteem and which simple actions you can take to help improve how your child views and trusts themselves.

Duration:00:18:52

Episode 208: How Our Past May Fuel Disagreements With a Spouse / Co-Parent

2/24/2022
Many couples who are raising children with big emotions disagree about how to handle children’s behaviors, moods, and attitudes. Often it’s very hard for either parent to consider the other’s point of view because each is so convinced that their own is correct. Interestingly, this “stubbornness” may be related to what both parents learned from their own personal experiences. In this episode, we’ll discuss how our past can impact our relationship with our spouse or co-parent and how we can...

Duration:00:15:03

Episode 207: Why Your Child Really Doesn’t Want to Control You (Or Anyone Else)

2/17/2022
Many of our kids seem like they wish they were in charge. They tell us (and others) what to do, they try to get us to bend our rules, and they say mean things that seem meant to hurt us. While their behavior certainly appears controlling, in reality, children don’t want to control us or others. In this episode, you’ll learn what is really underneath controlling behavior, why seeing their behavior as controlling makes situations worse, and what you can do instead to handle this type of...

Duration:00:14:44

Episode 206: When Your Child's Behavior Seems Illogical

2/10/2022
Sometimes when kids get upset, we understand why -- someone was mean to them, they didn’t get their way, they had to stop doing something they were enjoying. But other times, their behavior or feelings seem completely illogical. Sometimes it seems like they get upset for no reason, or sometimes we do what they ask and they still get upset! In this episode, we’ll talk about why children’s behavior may be completely illogical and how you can respond in those situations (when nothing seems to...

Duration:00:13:32

Episode 205: How To Make It Less Exhausting To Deal With Drama In Your Home

2/3/2022
Even when you use strategies to help reduce drama in your home, difficult situations are still going to happen from time to time. The good news is that these situations do not have to exhaust you! In this episode, we’ll talk about why we are so exhausted by our kids’ drama (it’s not the situation itself!) and what you can do so that these situations don’t take so much energy to manage.

Duration:00:13:39

Episode 204: When You Stay Calm and Situations Don’t Get Better

1/27/2022
You’ve learned how important it is to stay calm when a child is melting down or acting out. That in itself can be difficult, but what should you do if you are able to stay calm and it doesn’t seem to help… or even if your calm upsets your child more? In this episode, we’ll discuss why staying calm may backfire and what truly helps to diffuse dramatic situations.

Duration:00:14:28