Your Parenting Long Game

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Mari Collins Harris! Listen as I ask Mari the 3 questions: 1. How does Ketshop help teach kids personal responsibility? 2. How can Ketshop help reduce clutter in the home? 3. How does buyer's remorse help children to learn budgeting? Listen as Mari asks me the 3 questions: 1. Chores vs. Allowance: how do you give your kids money without spoiling them? 2. How can you teach your kids to be generous? 3. How can we encourage our kids to use technology responsibly? -- Ketshop app: https://ketshop.com/ Rachel's free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Rachel's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Rachel's Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Homework can bring up lots of feelings in our kids with big emotions, including frustration, stress, and overwhelm. While we’d like our children to do homework without drama, what do we do when they won’t listen to logic or finish their work without fighting us every step of the way? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why our children struggle to complete their homework, even if they know how to do it One tool that can help our children stay on task (without nagging or fighting) How homework can teach our kids lifelong skills that will help them find success in the long run -- and strengthen our parent-child relationship along the way! -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

We know that it’s ideal to handle difficult parenting situations with patience and respect. But often when we’re tired or frustrated, our Yuck gets the best of us and we say and do things that we regret. And then, of course, we feel awful. But mistakes don’t need to make us feel guilty… in fact, making them can be quite helpful. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why it’s important to “mess up” as a parent An effective way to repair a relationship after we do something that hurts our child How we can use our mistakes to help children take responsibility for themselves as well -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Creativity Coach Beryl Young! Listen as I ask Beryl the 3 questions: 1. How did you personally discover the powerful connection between creativity and self-care, and what led you to become a self-care coach? 2. What are some common misconceptions or barriers people often face when it comes to integrating creativity into their self-care routine, and how do you help them overcome these challenges? 3. What advice do you give to those who struggle with finding time for creative pursuits amidst the demands of daily life and responsibilities? Listen as Beryl asks me the 3 questions: 1. I'm all about showing parents that it's essential to address your own needs for self-care and well-being while also attending to your kids needs. How do you recommend parents strike this balance between fulfilling their personal needs and the responsibilities as a parent? 2. I'm just about to enter parenting a teenager and my role as a parent I can feel shifting. I have more time for me but I worry about maintaining open lines of connection and communication with my kiddo. What advice do you have for fostering healthy communication and trust between parents and teenagers? 3. Teenagers (and kids of all ages really) are increasingly exposed to social media and digital technologies at younger and younger ages. How can parents effectively navigate this digital landscape and help their teens develop healthy screen time habits? -- Beryl's "100 Steps Photo Project Guidebook": https://beyoungcreative.com/100stepslonggame/ Rachel's free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Rachel's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Rachel's Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Many kids with big emotions resist doing what we ask them to do. And it can be exhausting to deal with this resistance day after day. But if the strategies we’ve tried to use to address resistance don’t work, what can we do instead? In this case study episode, you’ll learn: What we need to know about resistance in order to address it effectively What we’re unintentionally doing that contributes to kids’ resistance Two questions to ask yourself to help improve your influence with your child -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

When they are feeling big emotions, different children may behave in very different ways. Some children become “strong-willed” when they’re upset – they become resistant to us or try to make things go their way. Others act more “sensitive” when they’re upset – they become hard on themselves when they think they haven’t done something the right way. Despite the fact that these behaviors seem so different, “strong-willed” and “sensitive” children actually have a lot in common. In this episode, you’ll learn: What strong willed and sensitive children have in common Practical tips to help both types of children handle their uncomfortable emotions more effectively How we can help any child with big emotions become more confident in themselves and in their relationships -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with prenatal yoga teacher Deb Flashenberg! Listen as I ask Deb the 3 questions: 1. How does POSTnatal yoga benefit a new parent as oppose to just going back to their regular class? 2. What is one thing a new parent can do right away to help heal diastasis and help their pelvic floor? 3. What is your "go to" yoga pose to relieve upper back pain from breastfeeding? Listen as Deb asks me the 3 questions: 1. What are your suggestions for supporting anxious children? 2. How as a parent can we respond to kids’ stress and overwhelm, and how should we foster overall resilience? 3. What are some ways to make transitions easier even when time "warnings" and count downs have been given? ie- getting off a device, getting out of the house? -- Rachel's free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Rachel's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Rachel's Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Raising a child with big emotions can be exhausting. Not only are we trying to manage their emotions, but we’re often dealing with the emotions of siblings, spouses, ourselves…and everything else we have going on in our lives! However, it is possible to be less drained by the emotions around us, and we don’t need to make others change for it to happen. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why trying to reduce others’ emotions is NOT the solution to feeling less exhausted A simple mindset switch to make any “drama” easier to handle Tips that you can start using immediately that will lead to more energy -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

We want our kids to use healthy coping skills when they are dealing with discomfort. But what do we do when they regularly “forget” or fall back on unhealthy strategies when they are disappointed or frustrated? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why trying to make or convince children to use healthy coping skills doesn’t work Why children genuinely struggle to use these skills, even when you’ve reminded them over and over What children really need in order to successfully (and consistently!) handle their big feelings more effectively -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Certified High Performance Coach Julie Lowe. Listen as I ask Julie the 3 questions: 1. You're a high performance coach – what does it mean to live a high-performance lifestyle exactly? Can anyone adapt to it, or is it just for the super-organized amongst us? 2. In your book, A Few Good Habits, you talk about how relying on willpower and motivation alone can be misleading and set us up for failure. Why is that and what should we do instead? 3. Many people are on the hunt for a 'magic bullet' solution to better their lives. You, however, advocate for simplicity and returning to basics. Tell me more about this philosophy and what that looks like. Listen as Julie asks me the 3 questions: 1. For a child with ADHD who struggles with emotional outbursts, could you share some practical advice on how parents can effectively calm the situation and help their child manage these strong emotions? 2. Many parents struggle with the constant battle over 'device time'. Can you share a fun yet effective way to inspire kids to willingly switch off their devices? 3. We hear a lot about fostering resilience in kids. Could you share a real-life example of a parent-child interaction that encourages resilience in a situation of stress or anxiety?

Children with big emotions often want to be in charge. They try to control the schedule, their siblings, and even us! But trying to take away control leads to power struggles… and giving them MORE control doesn’t lead to better behavior. The good news is that there is a way to motivate our children to be more flexible and responsible without taking away all of their control or giving them too much of it. In this episode, you’ll learn: What leads to better behavior with kids who like to be in control How to easily find the right balance between permissiveness and firmness What our kids really need from us so that they can develop confidence, internal motivation, and a better parent-child relationship - Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Many children with big emotions also experience symptoms of anxiety -- at school, at bedtime, even in relationships with friends and siblings. It can be challenging for us to help our child when they’re worried, especially when it seems like most strategies aren’t effective. How can we make things better in the moment when children are experiencing symptoms of anxiety? In this episode, you’ll learn: What’s going on in the brain during anxious moments What’s most effective to focus on when a child is worrying Three actions we can take in the moment to help children move through anxious symptoms more quickly Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with pediatric nurse practitioner and sleep consultant Kelsey Alford. Listen as I ask Kelsey the 3 questions: 1. How should you handle sleep regressions? 2. How to know when is the right time to make sleep changes ? 3. How do you stay kind and firm when you are exhausted? Listen as Kelsey asks me the 3 questions: 1. How do you deal with parent preferences? 2. How do you deal with transitions away from/stopping devices (especially over summer)? 3. How do you deal with fears- how much to validate and when (night time vs daytime)? ___________________________ FREE RESOURCES Rachel's free coaching calls Rachel's free Facebook group

Of course we want to raise responsible, respectful children. But the strategies that we are most comfortable with – like punishments and rewards – don’t seem to be effective with our kids, especially those with big emotions! How can we teach children to do what they need to do when traditional strategies often lead to worse behavior, meltdowns, or unhealthy self-esteem? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “traditional” ways of motivating better behavior aren’t effective for many children How punishments and rewards can actually make some kids feel and act worse Strategies we can use instead to motivate responsible behavior _ Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Many children with big emotions struggle to express what they need. Some tend to demand that things go their way…while others rarely stand up for themselves. How can we teach our children to ask for what they need without offending others or letting others walk all over them? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why we need to identify what’s causing our children’s behavior before we try to change it The scientific reasons why a child might struggle to be assertive (and why our pushing usually makes things worse) How to teach important life skills -- like standing up for themselves respectfully -- without harming their self-esteem or our parent-child relationship Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with school counselor and author Ashley Bartley, who is the author of five social emotional learning books for children. Listen as I ask Ashley the 3 questions: 1. How can I help my child with time management? 2. How can I establish routines in my home to make the mornings go more smoothly? 3. What strategies would be helpful for a child experiencing separation anxiety? Listen as Ashley asks me the 3 questions: 1. How do you handle kids refusing to do homework? 2. How do you handle kids refusing to do chores? 3. How do we minimize screen time with our children?

When we are raising children with big emotions, we have to take care of ourselves, too. But how do we find the energy we need when we’re exhausted by meeting everyone else’s needs and have NO extra time? In this episode, you’ll learn: The scientific reason why our bodies are constantly in fight or flight mode The differences between self-care and self-treatment Three questions you can ask yourself that will give you more energy…right now! Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Let’s be honest: Raising a child with big emotions can feel HARD. As we try to manage their reactions, their behavior, their emotions (on top of everything else in our lives), we may feel exhausted, helpless, resentful. How can we continue to support our kids when things just seem so difficult? In this episode, you’ll learn: What we can do when we feel stuck in our Yuck A new perspective to help regulate our emotions and keep our cool A tip that allows us to respond from our values, even when we’re struggling ourselves Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with coach and consultant Nadine Stille, who helps moms find more balance and joy as working parents. Listen as I ask Nadine the 3 questions: 1. How can moms/ parents prioritize their own wellbeing? 2. What are quick ways to get calm and grounded for when it's stressful all around you? 3. What are some ways to bring more joy into everyday life of a busy mom/ parent? Listen as Nadine asks me the 3 questions: 1. Even with routines in place and plenty of advance acknowledgements, what else can parents and caregivers do, to avoid drama, knowing that their child reacts strongly to certain words and activities, like 'It's time for bed', 'Let's get dressed' or 'We're having dinner now and we'll switch off the tv'? 2. What's one activity that parents can do to help both young and older kids to be more confident in their own abilities and worth? 3. For anxious kids that get easily overwhelmed or stressed by new situations, what's an easy step to help them build more resilience?

If you are raising a child with big emotions, you may be gaining confidence handling outbursts in the safety and privacy of your own home. But what happens when our kids get anxious or frustrated in public places? How do we help our kids handle their big emotions in crowded stores or at family events? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the judgment of other people affects us so much and makes outbursts even worse In-the-moment strategies to help when children express big emotions in public Tips to give your child what they need so that these outbursts are less frequent