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Your Parenting Long Game with Rachel Bailey

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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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United States

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Podcasts

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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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English


Episodes

Episode 21: How Our Past and Our Present Make Parenting Harder (and How to Fix This)

2/13/2020
We’d all love parenting to be a little easier, and fortunately there are times when parenting does seem less difficult. Often during those easier times, our kids aren’t acting better; rather, WE’RE IN a better place and their behavior doesn’t affect us as much. But when we’re NOT in a good place -- when we’re triggered by our kids’ behavior, or when we’re stressed or overwhelmed with life in general -- everything kids do seems to be an extra burden that we have to deal with. If we want to...

Duration:00:15:11

Episode 20: What You Can Do To Teach Your Kids That They Can’t Always Get Their Way

2/6/2020
It’s incredibly frustrating when we ask our kids to do something they don’t want to do… or we tell them something they don’t want to hear… and they whine, complain, melt down, or become disrespectful. Not only is it exhausting to deal with the response, but their reactions make us worry about their ability to handle the fact that life is hard sometimes. Worse, the strategies we use to try to help them handle disappointment and frustration don’t usually help. In this episode, we’ll discuss...

Duration:00:15:59

Episode 19: Create a Parenting Avatar to Feel More In Control (And Less Guilty) as a Parent

1/30/2020
We’d like to be able to make parenting decisions confidently...and then feel good about the decisions we've made. And we’d like to know how to handle the situations we face with our kids every day. But the truth is that many of us question ourselves as parents, wondering how to decide what’s best for our children… or how to respond most effectively in the moment when they do things that we don’t want or expect them to do. We can increase our confidence in our decisions -- and feel more in...

Duration:00:11:01

Episode 18: Stop Assuming that Kids Just “Don’t Feel Like” Doing What They’re Supposed To Do

1/23/2020
You may recognize how important it is to understand what’s causing your children’s behavior if you want that behavior to change. However, for many of us it’s difficult to understand why kids do what they do. When we try, we only can see the situation from our perspective… which, unfortunately, only leads to negative assumptions (“they just don’t feel like doing what I ask”) that not only impact our relationship, but also impact how kids feel and act in the long run. In this episode, we’ll...

Duration:00:19:47

Episode 17: 2 Things You Need If You Want to See Long-Term Positive Change In Your Family

1/9/2020
It’s incredibly frustrating to have to address the same issues over and over with our kids. We don’t want to have to ask them again and again to get their shoes on, or brush their teeth, or put their dishes away. We don’t want to deal with the drama or disrespect every single time our kids don’t get their way. We want them to learn how to act more responsible and be more resilient… but it’s hard to make those changes in the first place, let alone make them last. In this episode, we’ll...

Duration:00:20:56

Episode 16: Handling the Holidays: How to Respond to an Attitude of Entitlement

12/26/2019
It can be incredibly fulfilling to watch our kids open their gifts, to see their eyes light up, and to know that they really enjoyed what they received. But sometimes, instead of appreciating what they have, kids might mumble a quick “thanks” and then look for more… or they might compare their stuff to others’ stuff and start complaining about what they didn’t get. And while we encourage them to be more grateful, we usually don’t see long-term results until we address what’s causing their...

Duration:00:13:50

Episode 15: Handling the Holidays: A Long Game Plan for Reducing Sibling Bickering

12/19/2019
When we think about the holidays, some of us imagine spending time with family and friends and making fun memories. Others think about the fact that our kids are going to be out of school, and they’ll spend that time whining, fighting, and complaining about each other... while we spend our time acting like a referee! It seems that the more we try to help our kids work through their issues, the more they whine about the unfairness of things. But when we address what’s causing the fighting to...

Duration:00:17:28

Episode 14: Handling the Holidays: A Long Game Plan for Kids Who Get Overstimulated or Overexcited

12/12/2019
It’s great to see our kids excited during the holiday season, but when that excitement turns into overstimulation and hyperactivity, behavior can get out of control. And while it makes sense to simply tell kids to “calm down” when they’re over-excited, that usually doesn’t work. Then we get frustrated with our kids’ defiance and things go downhill from there. But instead of feeling hopeless when kids are behaving like this, we can actually understand what’s causing their behavior and give...

Duration:00:12:45

Episode 13: Improve Your Connection With Your Child Even When You Don't Have Extra Time or Energy

12/5/2019
We all know that kids want to our attention. And we even recognize how much better their behaviors and moods are when we give them that attention. But with all of the demands in our lives these days, who has the time or energy to give them as much attention as they’d like? Instead of trying to fit in time to connect with them, learn how you can make a bigger impact with just a little time.

Duration:00:13:54

Episode 12: A Tool to Help Kids Who Worry a Lot or Who Have Low Confidence

11/21/2019
It’s heartbreaking when we recognize that our child doesn’t believe in themselves. Often when we try to build our kids’ confidence, we try to reassure them that everything is going to be OK; our goal is to make them feel better. But that technique doesn’t usually work in the long run because ultimately, building a child’s confidence is about teaching them how to handle difficult situations. When we teach kids that they can handle hard things, that’s when start to believe that they can handle...

Duration:00:15:41

Episode 11: A Strategy to Reduce Power Struggles and Meltdowns

11/14/2019
We know that it’s our job to tell our kids what to do, so it’s incredibly frustrating when we give them directions and they disrespect us, negotiate with us, or melt down when we set a boundary. And even when we’ve tried all of the tricks in the book, their behavior doesn’t seem to change in the long run. But instead of focusing on “making them” or “getting them” to change their behavior, we can actually reduce their resistance to begin with… so they have more long-term motivation to do what...

Duration:00:14:12

Episode 10: Improve Your Influence and Your Kids' Motivation By Showing Them They Matter

11/7/2019
We want our kids to act responsible and make healthy choices. Often, when they act irresponsible or disrespectful, we try to “make” them change their behavior by telling them that how awful they're acting or yelling at them or punishing them… which doesn’t tend to lead to better behavior. Instead, we can increase our influence AND foster internal motivation when we show them — not just tell them! — that they matter. While this strategy may not be intuitive, it is not complicated… and it is...

Duration:00:13:41

Episode 9: Give Kids What They Need, Not What They Want

10/31/2019
When we see our kids feeling bad, or when we sense that our relationship isn’t at its strongest, often we attempt to repair things by being “nicer” to our kids. We give in to them more, we do more for them, we buy them things and take them places. Interestingly, these nice gestures may not lead to the positive results that we hope for… which makes feel resentful and frustrated. Instead, we can use a very simple long-game simple strategy to improve kids’ moods AND our relationship at a deeper...

Duration:00:19:51

Episode 8: When You Can't Get Your Kids to Clean (Or Do Other "Boring" Things)

10/24/2019
It seems that almost every day kids resist us when we ask them to do the things that have to get done -- brushing their teeth, getting dressed, eating meals, doing homework, getting ready for bed. And often the daily resistance leads to a negativity in our homes and in our relationships. Fortunately, it is possible to teach kids and teens how to do the “boring” everyday tasks in a way that actually strengthens our relationship AND their resilience. Learn the long-game strategy for teaching...

Duration:00:14:42

Episode 6: When You Feel Like You Don't Like Your Child

10/10/2019
Sometimes we have days where we are dealing with so much from our kids that we just don’t like them. In those situations, we usually try whatever we can think of to get them to change. But they don’t, and then we become even more frustrated and resentful. Fortunately, there is another simple shift that we can make that alleviates so many of those negative feelings towards our kids. Even better, this “long-game” strategy is more likely to motivate your children to make changes on their own,...

Duration:00:12:18

Episode 5: How to Stay in Control, Even When You're Stressed

10/3/2019
If we’re being honest with ourselves, we can admit that how we respond to our kids has more to do with how WE'RE doing than what our kids are doing. (When we’re in a good place, we can be calm and patient. When we’re stressed or overwhelmed or tired, calmness and patience go out the window.) And unfortunately, when we respond from a place of our own Yuck, we do things we regret -- AND we lose our influence over our kids. That’s why, if we want to raise more responsible, resilient kids, we...

Duration:00:13:30

Episode 4: How to Stay in Control, Even When Your Kids Are Driving You Crazy

9/24/2019
Hearing the word “no” from our child when we ask them to do something -- or any other type of defiance or disrespect -- can send us into a rage! Unfortunately when we lose our cool, we also tend to lose our influence over our kids. It is possible to stay in control of ourselves even when our kids are being disrespectful so that we can address their behavior more effectively. Learn the step-by-step, long-game strategy for not letting your kids’ reactions control yours.

Duration:00:17:24

Episode 3: How To Show Your Kids You Mean What You Say

9/24/2019
In many cases, our kids don’t listen or do what they’re supposed to do until the third or fourth time we ask… or until we yell or threaten to take away something they care about. However, it is possible to teach kids that they need to listen the first time we ask them to do something. To improve our influence, we have to show kids that we mean what we say. Learn the step-by-step, long-game strategy for showing them that they need to take you seriously.

Duration:00:15:18

Episode 2: Your Parenting Long Game: The Framework

9/16/2019
You want to know how to get long-term results in improving kids’ behavior, moods, and attitudes, but how do you do this? We’ll discuss the 3 reasons that kids misbehave in the first place (you have to understand these if you want this to change!), and then we’ll discuss the Parenting Long Game model and how it addresses all 3 of those reasons. You’ll also see what this looks like using an example of a mom who’s frustrated because her kids don’t do what she asks them to do.

Duration:00:32:28

Episode 1: Band Aid Parenting vs. Long Game Parenting

9/16/2019
You have likely tried many different strategies to reduce the power struggles, meltdowns, negotiations, and negative attitudes in your home… but even if those strategies work in the short run, you’re not seeing long-term results. Learn WHY the tools you’ve been using rely on what I call “Band-Aid Parenting” -- and why band-aid parenting only leads to short term results. I’ll also discuss the framework for “Long Game Parenting,” which relies on long-term solutions for improving behavior,...

Duration:00:14:41