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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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English


Episodes

Episode 78: “When-Then” Statements: A Simple Long Game Tool for Reacting More Effectively

4/8/2021
You may have such good intentions about staying calm when addressing your children’s behavior. But when you’ve asked them to do something over and over, or when they’re being aggressive or disrespectful, or when they’re melting down over the smallest thing, it is HARD to keep your cool. In this episode, you’ll learn a simple tool for handling these situations more effectively… and in a way that you don’t regret.

Duration:00:15:47

Episode 77: What Works When Your Child Is Having a Big Emotion or Reaction

3/25/2021
If you have a child who tends to have big emotions or reactions, you’ve probably tried many different things to reduce the drama in that moment. But you may not have found much success, so you’re dealing with the drama over and over (or you’re walking on eggshells to prevent that big reaction!). In this episode, you’ll learn exactly what to focus on as your child is having a big emotion so that the situation goes more smoothly -- and so that you feel less helpless and depleted. You’ll also 2...

Duration:00:16:20

Episode 76: Answering Parents' Questions about Negative Reactions to Positive Feedback + Screaming as Child's First Response

3/18/2021
While it can be valuable to learn parenting tips and tools, it can also be helpful to learn how to apply those tips and tools to real situations! In this episode, you’ll hear answers to parents’ questions about what to do when a child gets upset when they receive positive feedback and how to address a child whose initial reaction is to scream -- even when they know they’re not supposed to.

Duration:00:20:49

Episode 75: Micro Deposits: How to Improve Your Relationship Even When You Don’t Have Much Time (Or Your Child Is Resistant)

3/11/2021
After a year of spending so much (sometimes negative) time with your children, you may feel that your relationship with them isn’t where you want it to be. But you may not know how to improve things except to “spend more positive time with them”...which you may not have the time or desire to do! And maybe you’ve even tried to improve your relationship, but your children are resistant. In this episode, you’ll learn how to make “micro deposits”-- actions that don’t take much time and that will...

Duration:00:14:54

Episode 74: Getting Time for Yourself

3/4/2021
As we’ve been home with our children more for the last year, one of the most difficult parts is that we haven’t gotten time for ourselves. For many of us, this lack of alone time has led to less patience, less connection with our kids, and a lot more Yuck (in everyone). And even though we know we need more time to ourselves, we may not know how to find it. In this episode, I’ll offer 3 tips for getting that time that you need so that you can start to find your patience, give your children...

Duration:00:09:44

Episode 73: How to Address Negative Behavior AFTER It’s Happened

2/25/2021
When a child is in the middle of a negative behavior, mood, or attitude, it’s hard to get them out of it. (Even if you’re able to, it takes a lot of energy.) The reality is, it is more efficient to teach children how to act differently when they’re NOT in that negative place. But who wants to talk about negative behavior after it’s happened? Often children will be resistant to these conversations… or the conversations don’t lead to change. In this episode, you’ll learn the 3 steps to a...

Duration:00:18:08

Episode 72: Guest Expert Ebone’ Granger: How to Raise Racially Conscious Children

2/18/2021
You may want to talk to your children about topics like race and diversity and inclusion, but how do you bring up these topics? When should you start talking about them, and what should you say? In this episode, guest expert Ebone’ Granger will share her tips on what to say to your children to foster race consciousness (with tips for children of different ages) and what to do if you haven’t started these conversations yet. She’ll also offer tips about how to handle it when others engage in...

Duration:00:29:59

Episode 71: Treat Yourself Differently: Yuck Dumps for You

2/11/2021
Many of us learned as children that if things were difficult, we should just suck it up and push through it. In reality, when we just suck it up and push through it, Yuck builds up inside of us and negatively affects how we treat others and how we deal with situations. In this episode, you’ll learn how YOUR Yuck dumps can lead to better behavior, moods and attitudes in you and your children. You’ll also learn a simple question to ask yourself to start your Yuck dump and how to make sure your...

Duration:00:14:20

Episode 70: Questions from Parents: How to Pause Before Reacting; Tools for Siblings; Handling Defiance

2/4/2021
While it can be valuable to learn parenting tips and tools, it can also be helpful to learn how to apply those tips and tools to real situations. In this episode, you’ll hear answers to parents’ specific questions about what we can do as parents to help us pause before reacting, which tools siblings need to get along (and how to teach those tools without condoning negative behavior), and what to do when a child is being defiant.

Duration:00:16:29

Episode 69: A Long Game Strategy for Addressing Children’s Lying

1/28/2021
Most children lie at some point, whether it’s over something small or something big. Of course any parent is likely to feel angry and concerned when a child lies. Unfortunately, when our responses come from a place of anger and concern, we usually respond in a way that doesn’t address the issue effectively. In this episode, you’ll learn 3 reasons children lie (it’s not just to avoid punishment), why our usual attempts to address lying tend to backfire… and how we can use a different strategy...

Duration:00:19:08

Episode 68: Treat Yourself Differently: Use “Neutral Thinking” to Save Energy

1/21/2021
We’re depleted, and often we don’t know how to break out of the cycle of exhaustion we’re caught in. One of the simplest ways out of this cycle, however, takes one of the simplest actions: Choose different thoughts. In this episode, you’ll learn about the concept of “neutral thinking” -- a strategy that may help even if you’ve struggled with affirmations or thinking positively. You’ll also learn how this strategy can save you energy and help you parent from a place of your values rather than...

Duration:00:15:16

Episode 67: 3 Questions To Ask Yourself To Set Effective Rules and Boundaries

1/14/2021
You know it’s important to set rules and boundaries if you want to raise responsible, resilient children. But how do you set rules and boundaries that children will actually follow? In this episode, you’ll learn the components of “effective” expectations. You’ll also learn 3 questions to ask yourself going forward if you want to set realistic boundaries for your children that lead to success rather than power struggles.

Duration:00:20:17

Episode 66: The 4-R Method: Action Steps for Long-Term Improvement in Behavior, Moods, and Attitudes

1/7/2021
You may want to stop using parenting strategies that don’t work and make you feel bad (what I call “band aid parenting” strategies). You may promise yourself that you’ll start using more respectful, effective, long-lasting strategies (what I call “long game parenting” strategies). But wanting to change and actually implementing new tools are often two different things. In this episode, I’ll teach you a process of small action steps you can take in order to shift from old habits to new ones....

Duration:00:21:23

Episode 65: Want Long-Lasting Positive Change In Your Family? Here’s What You Need (& How I’ll Help)

12/31/2020
It’s that time of the year when we’re all thinking about improvement. When it comes to your family, you likely want to see more respectful, resilient behavior and more connected relationships. But your attempts to make things better may not be leading to long-term results. In this episode, I’ll review the two things that must happen if you want to see long-lasting positive change… and how I’ll be supporting you in realistically incorporating these two changes into your life going forward.

Duration:00:17:32

Episode 64: Let Go Of… Putting Your Needs Behind Everyone Else’s

12/24/2020
For many of us, our days consist of doing things for other people, and IF there happens to be time left over (there usually isn’t), we might think about what we need. Unfortunately, putting our needs behind everyone else’s doesn’t just affect us; it affects our children. In this episode, you’ll learn why attending to your needs is necessary if you want to see improvement in children’s behavior. You’ll also learn how to identify where to start making SMALL changes… and how to increase the...

Duration:00:17:46

Episode 63: Let Go Of… Taking What Your Children Say and Do Personally

12/17/2020
Especially when we’re not in a good place as parents, it’s hard not to take it personally when kids say “I hate you” or “You never give me anything I want!” And when we do take it personally, the situation often goes downhill. In this episode you’ll learn why, in most cases, statements that seem to be about you actually AREN’T about you. You’ll also hear the one question you can ask that will help you take those statements less personally… and why this doesn’t mean condoning disrespect from...

Duration:00:18:23

Episode 62: Let Go Of… Believing You Won’t Feel Better Until Others Change

12/10/2020
When we’re feeling stressed or frustrated, one of the first things most of us try to do is change what’s happening around us. We think that if our kids would only act differently, if our spouse would only do more, if our mother would stop judging us… then we can feel better. Unfortunately, trying to make others change so that we feel better is usually ineffective, and it’s exhausting! In this episode, we’ll discuss a simple strategy that will help you feel better and more in control, even...

Duration:00:17:55

Episode 61: Let Go Of Trying to Change Children's Negative Attitudes

12/3/2020
It’s likely that your children and adolescents are complaining now more than ever… and let’s be honest, it can get pretty annoying. So it makes sense that your instinct is to try to motivate them to think more positively or have a better attitude. But this can take a lot of energy, and the effort usually isn’t necessary. In this episode, you’ll learn why I’m encouraging you to let go of trying to change negative attitudes. Instead, I’ll show you how to work WITH their complaints rather than...

Duration:00:17:28

Episode 60: How to Feel Better About This Holiday Season (Or Anything Else You’re Not Looking Forward To)

11/26/2020
Although holidays were stressful in past years, they also meant fun traditions, time with family, and (at least some) events to look forward to. Now, after an already-challenging year, this holiday season is going to look very different for most of us. It’s easy to wonder how you’re going to get through this time when things you’ve enjoyed about holidays in the past… aren’t happening. In this episode, you’ll learn a simple strategy (based on two sentences!) that will not only help you feel...

Duration:00:09:52

Episode 59: Why Children Don’t “Choose” To Act Negatively

11/19/2020
When our children misbehave, we often assume that they are “choosing” to do what they are doing. In reality, their negative behaviors and attitudes are more likely a sign of missing skills than a choice they are making. In this episode, we’ll discuss the science behind why children don’t “choose” negative behaviors or attitudes. You’ll also learn why this doesn’t mean that we excuse negative behavior...and what we can do to effectively address it.

Duration:00:18:03