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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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English


Episodes

Episode 28: ON-AIR COACHING: How to help a mom whose daughter takes her Yuck out on her

4/2/2020
Welcome to the first on-air coaching episode! (There will be many more to come.) In this episode, I coach mom Audrey, whose daughter, when she gets upset, tends to take out her Yuck on Audrey. In this episode, we focus on how Audrey can help her daughter cope differently. Just as importantly, we also discuss strategies for how Audrey can help reduce her daughter’s Yuck to begin with, and she creates a plan for how she can respond to her daughter in the moment. (Note: This episode is not...

Duration:00:38:02

Episode 27- Teaching Kids To Cope With Feelings in a Healthy Way

3/26/2020
You may already know that it’s important for kids to express their feelings. But what do you do when they express their feelings in a way that seems unhealthy -- if they become aggressive when they don’t get their way, become disrespectful when you set a boundary, or become fearful when they’re faced with change? The good news is that even though coping in a healthy way does not come naturally to most people, we can teach our kids to recognize their feelings and respond to them in a more...

Duration:00:21:34

Episode 26: A Strategy to Feel and Act Better in Times of Uncertainty

3/19/2020
Fear and uncertainty... It feels like those feelings are growing every day. And often with those feelings comes negativity. Just like we do with our kids, we also have to understand what’s causing OUR feelings and behavior. When we recognize how our current situation is “withdrawing” from us, we can find solutions -- not only for feeling more in control, but also for being a model to our kids of how we can feel and act better, even in times of uncertainty.

Duration:00:18:32

Episode 25: Stop Parenting So Hard In the Moment!

3/12/2020
Many of us are exhausted and would love to find ways to save time and energy. Although it doesn’t seem like it would be true, one of the ways we truly can save time and energy is to stop addressing negative behavior and big emotions as they’re happening. Instead, when we proactively give kids and teens what they need, the negative behavior and big emotions -- that take so much time and energy to deal with! -- simply don’t happen as frequently or intensely to begin with. In this episode, you...

Duration:00:17:56

Episode 24: Responding to Kids' Negative Behavior in the Moment

3/5/2020
Although it is more effective (and less exhausting) to handle kids’ big behaviors and emotions proactively, sometimes we simply have to deal with them in the moment. Unfortunately, our in-the-moment responses often make the situation worse -- especially because both we and our kids are in Yuck. In this episode, we’ll discuss an in-the-moment strategy that focuses on giving kids what they need and addressing the Yuck (ours and theirs!) so that we can experience the positive results that we...

Duration:00:21:25

Episode 23: A Simple Strategy to Feel More In Control (And Lose Your Cool Less)

2/27/2020
For many of us, life is stressful. But what makes us feel even more overwhelmed is when we want things to go a certain way -- we want our kids to act a certain way, we want our spouses to do something different, we want our plans to go smoothly -- and they don’t. So we try new and different strategies but when nothing works, we feel helpless and out of control… which only contributes to our stress and overwhelm. In this episode, we’ll talk about why we feel so out of control and how to shift...

Duration:00:11:19

Episode 22: How to Effectively Respond To Your Strong Willed Child

2/20/2020
Raising a strong willed child is not easy. Strong willed children tend to try to control situations so that they always get their way. They melt down or act out when we ask them to do something. They negotiate and resist even the littlest things. And in response, we tend to try HARDER to make them see or perspective or get them do what we want them to do… which only leads to more power struggles and negativity. But the reason we don’t see long-term results is that we don’t usually consider...

Duration:00:21:36

Episode 21: How Our Past and Our Present Make Parenting Harder (and How to Fix This)

2/13/2020
We’d all love parenting to be a little easier, and fortunately there are times when parenting does seem less difficult. Often during those easier times, our kids aren’t acting better; rather, WE’RE IN a better place and their behavior doesn’t affect us as much. But when we’re NOT in a good place -- when we’re triggered by our kids’ behavior, or when we’re stressed or overwhelmed with life in general -- everything kids do seems to be an extra burden that we have to deal with. If we want to...

Duration:00:15:11

Episode 20: What You Can Do To Teach Your Kids That They Can’t Always Get Their Way

2/6/2020
It’s incredibly frustrating when we ask our kids to do something they don’t want to do… or we tell them something they don’t want to hear… and they whine, complain, melt down, or become disrespectful. Not only is it exhausting to deal with the response, but their reactions make us worry about their ability to handle the fact that life is hard sometimes. Worse, the strategies we use to try to help them handle disappointment and frustration don’t usually help. In this episode, we’ll discuss...

Duration:00:15:59

Episode 19: Create a Parenting Avatar to Feel More In Control (And Less Guilty) as a Parent

1/30/2020
We’d like to be able to make parenting decisions confidently...and then feel good about the decisions we've made. And we’d like to know how to handle the situations we face with our kids every day. But the truth is that many of us question ourselves as parents, wondering how to decide what’s best for our children… or how to respond most effectively in the moment when they do things that we don’t want or expect them to do. We can increase our confidence in our decisions -- and feel more in...

Duration:00:11:01

Episode 18: Stop Assuming that Kids Just “Don’t Feel Like” Doing What They’re Supposed To Do

1/23/2020
You may recognize how important it is to understand what’s causing your children’s behavior if you want that behavior to change. However, for many of us it’s difficult to understand why kids do what they do. When we try, we only can see the situation from our perspective… which, unfortunately, only leads to negative assumptions (“they just don’t feel like doing what I ask”) that not only impact our relationship, but also impact how kids feel and act in the long run. In this episode, we’ll...

Duration:00:19:47

Episode 17: 2 Things You Need If You Want to See Long-Term Positive Change In Your Family

1/9/2020
It’s incredibly frustrating to have to address the same issues over and over with our kids. We don’t want to have to ask them again and again to get their shoes on, or brush their teeth, or put their dishes away. We don’t want to deal with the drama or disrespect every single time our kids don’t get their way. We want them to learn how to act more responsible and be more resilient… but it’s hard to make those changes in the first place, let alone make them last. In this episode, we’ll...

Duration:00:20:56

Episode 16: Handling the Holidays: How to Respond to an Attitude of Entitlement

12/26/2019
It can be incredibly fulfilling to watch our kids open their gifts, to see their eyes light up, and to know that they really enjoyed what they received. But sometimes, instead of appreciating what they have, kids might mumble a quick “thanks” and then look for more… or they might compare their stuff to others’ stuff and start complaining about what they didn’t get. And while we encourage them to be more grateful, we usually don’t see long-term results until we address what’s causing their...

Duration:00:13:50

Episode 15: Handling the Holidays: A Long Game Plan for Reducing Sibling Bickering

12/19/2019
When we think about the holidays, some of us imagine spending time with family and friends and making fun memories. Others think about the fact that our kids are going to be out of school, and they’ll spend that time whining, fighting, and complaining about each other... while we spend our time acting like a referee! It seems that the more we try to help our kids work through their issues, the more they whine about the unfairness of things. But when we address what’s causing the fighting to...

Duration:00:17:28

Episode 14: Handling the Holidays: A Long Game Plan for Kids Who Get Overstimulated or Overexcited

12/12/2019
It’s great to see our kids excited during the holiday season, but when that excitement turns into overstimulation and hyperactivity, behavior can get out of control. And while it makes sense to simply tell kids to “calm down” when they’re over-excited, that usually doesn’t work. Then we get frustrated with our kids’ defiance and things go downhill from there. But instead of feeling hopeless when kids are behaving like this, we can actually understand what’s causing their behavior and give...

Duration:00:12:45

Episode 13: Improve Your Connection With Your Child Even When You Don't Have Extra Time or Energy

12/5/2019
We all know that kids want to our attention. And we even recognize how much better their behaviors and moods are when we give them that attention. But with all of the demands in our lives these days, who has the time or energy to give them as much attention as they’d like? Instead of trying to fit in time to connect with them, learn how you can make a bigger impact with just a little time.

Duration:00:13:54

Episode 12: A Tool to Help Kids Who Worry a Lot or Who Have Low Confidence

11/21/2019
It’s heartbreaking when we recognize that our child doesn’t believe in themselves. Often when we try to build our kids’ confidence, we try to reassure them that everything is going to be OK; our goal is to make them feel better. But that technique doesn’t usually work in the long run because ultimately, building a child’s confidence is about teaching them how to handle difficult situations. When we teach kids that they can handle hard things, that’s when start to believe that they can handle...

Duration:00:15:41

Episode 11: A Strategy to Reduce Power Struggles and Meltdowns

11/14/2019
We know that it’s our job to tell our kids what to do, so it’s incredibly frustrating when we give them directions and they disrespect us, negotiate with us, or melt down when we set a boundary. And even when we’ve tried all of the tricks in the book, their behavior doesn’t seem to change in the long run. But instead of focusing on “making them” or “getting them” to change their behavior, we can actually reduce their resistance to begin with… so they have more long-term motivation to do what...

Duration:00:14:12

Episode 10: Improve Your Influence and Your Kids' Motivation By Showing Them They Matter

11/7/2019
We want our kids to act responsible and make healthy choices. Often, when they act irresponsible or disrespectful, we try to “make” them change their behavior by telling them that how awful they're acting or yelling at them or punishing them… which doesn’t tend to lead to better behavior. Instead, we can increase our influence AND foster internal motivation when we show them — not just tell them! — that they matter. While this strategy may not be intuitive, it is not complicated… and it is...

Duration:00:13:41

Episode 9: Give Kids What They Need, Not What They Want

10/31/2019
When we see our kids feeling bad, or when we sense that our relationship isn’t at its strongest, often we attempt to repair things by being “nicer” to our kids. We give in to them more, we do more for them, we buy them things and take them places. Interestingly, these nice gestures may not lead to the positive results that we hope for… which makes feel resentful and frustrated. Instead, we can use a very simple long-game simple strategy to improve kids’ moods AND our relationship at a deeper...

Duration:00:19:51