Your Parenting Long Game

Dealing with children’s lies can be very upsetting. When we know that they’re not telling the truth, we may feel disrespected and helpless and worry about how this behavior will impact our child (and our connection) in the future. How can we stop the lying once and for all – without harming our relationship? In this episode, you’ll learn: The real reasons our kids tend to lie The strategies that don’t stop lying behavior (and why!) The mindset shift we need to make in order to influence our kids to stop lying -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Dealing with children’s lies can be very upsetting. When we know that they’re not telling the truth, we may feel disrespected and helpless and worry about how this behavior will impact our child (and our connection) in the future. How can we stop the lying once and for all – without harming our relationship? In this episode, you’ll learn: The real reasons our kids tend to lie The strategies that don’t stop lying behavior (and why!) The mindset shift we need to make in order to influence our kids to stop lying -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

We love our children with big emotions, but sometimes our love isn’t enough to build their confidence, especially when their strong feelings confuse them so much. As a child I had trouble believing in myself, and I’d like to share my experience with you – and why your children are likely better off than I was! In this episode, you’ll hear: What I learned as a child with big emotions Two hard-to-hear things our children with big emotions often believe about themselves How Long Game Parenting strategies help our kids become more resilient and capable -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

We know that consistency is really important for our children with big emotions. But sometimes it feels like we spend all of our time enforcing limits – at the expense of our relationship! How can we teach our kids to do the things they need to do without feeling helpless or like we’ll have to nag forever? In this episode, you’ll learn: How to outsmart kids’ “avoider brain” How to find and address the real reasons for resistance How to get to the point where you can nag less so you can spend more enjoyable time with your children -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Raising a child with big emotions can feel like a roller coaster some days. One moment they might be yelling at you to go away… and the next moment they’re angry that you did what they asked. What do we do when our child does something that seems illogical and nothing we do is helping? In this episode, you’ll learn: What’s underneath kids’ seemingly-illogical behavior How to understand what’s going on inside our kids before addressing their (outer) behavior How to make a plan for handling your child’s big -- and sometimes illogical -- reactions in the future. (And it’s easier than you think!) -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

If you have a child who tends to have big emotions or reactions, you’ve probably tried many different things to reduce the drama in that moment. But you may not have found much success, so you’re dealing with the drama over and over (or you’re walking on eggshells to prevent their big reaction!). In this episode, you’ll learn: Why it’s so hard to shift things in the moment once a child is reactive What to focus on as your child is having a big emotion so that the situation goes more smoothly Two simple ideas to regulate ourselves when our kids are melting down -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Every day, I hear that children with big emotions are struggling -- not just with their emotions, but with their self-esteem. They don't understand or like themselves very much. Every day, I hear that parents who are raising children with big emotions are struggling -- wanting to support their kids and foster self-esteem, but feeling helpless. They know they have to set limits and allow kids to be uncomfortable, but these things lead to big reactions and emotions ...and they don't know how to manage these situations without making things worse. I created a program to solve these struggles -- to foster both resilience and confidence in your children...and honestly, in you as well! Not only will there will be more peace when you're setting limits or when things don't go the way your child expected... but there will be more peace as you realize your child believes in and trusts themselves to handle challenges they will inevitably face in life. In this episode, I'm giving access to a second part of one of the introductory lessons in that program. Do listen to the first part before this one! HERE IS THE HANDOUT FOR THIS EPISODE. HERE IS THE LINK TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE GROUP + 1:1 PROGRAM AND JOIN US. (Register before 11/2/23 and get more than 50% off. Classes begin at 12PM ET on 11/3/23 and replays WILL be provided.)

Every day, I hear that children with big emotions are struggling -- not just with their emotions, but with their self-esteem. They don't understand or like themselves very much. Every day, I hear that parents who are raising children with big emotions are struggling -- wanting to support their kids and foster self-esteem, but feeling helpless. They know they have to set limits and allow kids to be uncomfortable, but these things lead to big reactions and emotions ...and they don't know how to manage these situations without making things worse. I created a program to solve these struggles -- to foster both resilience and confidence in your children...and honestly, in you as well! Not only will there will be more peace when you're setting limits or when things don't go the way your child expected... but there will be more peace as you realize your child believes in and trusts themselves to handle challenges they will inevitably face in life. In this episode, I'm giving access to one of the introductory lessons in that program. (Part 2 will be released on 10/26/23.) HERE IS THE HANDOUT FOR THIS EPISODE. HERE IS THE LINK TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE GROUP + 1:1 PROGRAM AND JOIN US. (Register before 11/2/23 and get more than 50% off. Classes begin at 12PM ET on 11/3/23 and replays WILL be provided.)

You probably know from experience that the stronger our relationship with our kids, the more smoothly things go. But these days, when everyone is so busy, it can be challenging to find enough time to strengthen our relationships. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why a strong connection does make a positive difference in their behavior, moods, and attitudes A way to stop feeling guilty about how little time (or energy) you have to spend with them Quick ideas for small “deposits” that have a big impact -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with pediatric sleep consultant Bonnie Dimmick! Listen as I ask Bonnie 3 questions: 1. For families with toddlers, preschoolers or young kids that aren't sleeping independently, is it too late to help them learn? 2. How can I get my kids to stop stalling so much and all their curtain calls at bedtime? 3. All of a sudden my great sleeper refuses to fall asleep without me in the room and is waking up at night, what should I do? Listen as Bonnie asks me 3 questions: 1. How do you deal best with periods where a child has a very strong parental preference? 2. What are your best tips for handling kids who hate making mistakes and it feels like logic and modeling aren't working? 3. How do you get kids to practice hard things or try something new without bribery or how do you recommend handling this? ___________________________ FREE RESOURCES Rachel's free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Rachel's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Rachel's Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Many of us have tried to teach our kids healthy coping strategies, but often they don’t use those strategies in the moment when they’re upset. And then we feel helpless when nothing we say or do seems to help them calm down! In this episode, you’ll learn: An important reason that your child might not be using coping strategies What our kids need us to do in the moment when they’re in Yuck How we foster resilience and strengthen our relationship by giving our children what they need -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

When our kids have big feelings -- and even BIGGER reactions -- it can be a challenge to avoid getting sucked in. The good news is that even if they are being dramatic, complaining about little things, arguing with a sibling, or simply shutting down, it is possible to stay out of their Yuck and avoid making situations worse. In this episode, you’ll learn: What happens to our adult brains when our kids are stuck in Yuck Two steps we can take to parent from our values rather than reacting in a way we regret How simple changes we make can positively impact kids’ self-esteem and our relationship with them in the long run -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Mari Collins Harris! Listen as I ask Mari the 3 questions: 1. How does Ketshop help teach kids personal responsibility? 2. How can Ketshop help reduce clutter in the home? 3. How does buyer's remorse help children to learn budgeting? Listen as Mari asks me the 3 questions: 1. Chores vs. Allowance: how do you give your kids money without spoiling them? 2. How can you teach your kids to be generous? 3. How can we encourage our kids to use technology responsibly? -- Ketshop app: https://ketshop.com/ Rachel's free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Rachel's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Rachel's Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Homework can bring up lots of feelings in our kids with big emotions, including frustration, stress, and overwhelm. While we’d like our children to do homework without drama, what do we do when they won’t listen to logic or finish their work without fighting us every step of the way? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why our children struggle to complete their homework, even if they know how to do it One tool that can help our children stay on task (without nagging or fighting) How homework can teach our kids lifelong skills that will help them find success in the long run -- and strengthen our parent-child relationship along the way! -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

We know that it’s ideal to handle difficult parenting situations with patience and respect. But often when we’re tired or frustrated, our Yuck gets the best of us and we say and do things that we regret. And then, of course, we feel awful. But mistakes don’t need to make us feel guilty… in fact, making them can be quite helpful. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why it’s important to “mess up” as a parent An effective way to repair a relationship after we do something that hurts our child How we can use our mistakes to help children take responsibility for themselves as well -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Creativity Coach Beryl Young! Listen as I ask Beryl the 3 questions: 1. How did you personally discover the powerful connection between creativity and self-care, and what led you to become a self-care coach? 2. What are some common misconceptions or barriers people often face when it comes to integrating creativity into their self-care routine, and how do you help them overcome these challenges? 3. What advice do you give to those who struggle with finding time for creative pursuits amidst the demands of daily life and responsibilities? Listen as Beryl asks me the 3 questions: 1. I'm all about showing parents that it's essential to address your own needs for self-care and well-being while also attending to your kids needs. How do you recommend parents strike this balance between fulfilling their personal needs and the responsibilities as a parent? 2. I'm just about to enter parenting a teenager and my role as a parent I can feel shifting. I have more time for me but I worry about maintaining open lines of connection and communication with my kiddo. What advice do you have for fostering healthy communication and trust between parents and teenagers? 3. Teenagers (and kids of all ages really) are increasingly exposed to social media and digital technologies at younger and younger ages. How can parents effectively navigate this digital landscape and help their teens develop healthy screen time habits? -- Beryl's "100 Steps Photo Project Guidebook": https://beyoungcreative.com/100stepslonggame/ Rachel's free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Rachel's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Rachel's Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Many kids with big emotions resist doing what we ask them to do. And it can be exhausting to deal with this resistance day after day. But if the strategies we’ve tried to use to address resistance don’t work, what can we do instead? In this case study episode, you’ll learn: What we need to know about resistance in order to address it effectively What we’re unintentionally doing that contributes to kids’ resistance Two questions to ask yourself to help improve your influence with your child -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

When they are feeling big emotions, different children may behave in very different ways. Some children become “strong-willed” when they’re upset – they become resistant to us or try to make things go their way. Others act more “sensitive” when they’re upset – they become hard on themselves when they think they haven’t done something the right way. Despite the fact that these behaviors seem so different, “strong-willed” and “sensitive” children actually have a lot in common. In this episode, you’ll learn: What strong willed and sensitive children have in common Practical tips to help both types of children handle their uncomfortable emotions more effectively How we can help any child with big emotions become more confident in themselves and in their relationships -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with prenatal yoga teacher Deb Flashenberg! Listen as I ask Deb the 3 questions: 1. How does POSTnatal yoga benefit a new parent as oppose to just going back to their regular class? 2. What is one thing a new parent can do right away to help heal diastasis and help their pelvic floor? 3. What is your "go to" yoga pose to relieve upper back pain from breastfeeding? Listen as Deb asks me the 3 questions: 1. What are your suggestions for supporting anxious children? 2. How as a parent can we respond to kids’ stress and overwhelm, and how should we foster overall resilience? 3. What are some ways to make transitions easier even when time "warnings" and count downs have been given? ie- getting off a device, getting out of the house? -- Rachel's free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Rachel's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Rachel's Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/

Raising a child with big emotions can be exhausting. Not only are we trying to manage their emotions, but we’re often dealing with the emotions of siblings, spouses, ourselves…and everything else we have going on in our lives! However, it is possible to be less drained by the emotions around us, and we don’t need to make others change for it to happen. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why trying to reduce others’ emotions is NOT the solution to feeling less exhausted A simple mindset switch to make any “drama” easier to handle Tips that you can start using immediately that will lead to more energy -- Free coaching calls: https://rachel-bailey.com/coaching/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey Raising Resilience Membership: https://rachel-bailey.com/raising-resilience-membership/