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Exploration and fulfillment in BDSM Mistress Alisa is a professional and lifestyle Dominatrix who offers BDSM Counseling. Her specialties are in issues pertaining to the BDSM lifestyle, lifestyle-related addictions (sex, pornography, and masturbation), and healthy relationship building. You, too, can explore and find true fulfillment in BDSM.

Exploration and fulfillment in BDSM Mistress Alisa is a professional and lifestyle Dominatrix who offers BDSM Counseling. Her specialties are in issues pertaining to the BDSM lifestyle, lifestyle-related addictions (sex, pornography, and masturbation), and healthy relationship building. You, too, can explore and find true fulfillment in BDSM.
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Exploration and fulfillment in BDSM Mistress Alisa is a professional and lifestyle Dominatrix who offers BDSM Counseling. Her specialties are in issues pertaining to the BDSM lifestyle, lifestyle-related addictions (sex, pornography, and masturbation), and healthy relationship building. You, too, can explore and find true fulfillment in BDSM.




Mending A Relationship After Infidelity

Men cheat for many reasons. Actually, both men and women cheat, for many reasons. However, Mistress Alisa's speciality is in working with men. And, in this program, she takes a direct approacch to addressing many of the issues that men face while trying to heal broken relationships, due to infidelity. The steps provided in this segment are sure to yield results for those who follow the advice. Though the work will not be easy, it will absolutely be worth the effort for most men who chose...


5 Struggles of a Submissive Male

What goes on in the mind of a submissive male? Mistress Alisa is the "submissive whisperer" and She can crack the code. In this podcast, She points out 5 struggles that submissive men face in the lifestyle and in life, in general. She gives tips for working through these challenges and for coming out on the other side of them. This podcast is also great for women who may see that their male partners are struggling, but they do not seem to be able to put their finger on what the problem...


Porn And The 20-Something-Year-Old

Young men are being attracted to the lure of addiction at younger and younger ages these days. The impact that can have on a 20-year-old is massive. By the time the young man understands that he is addicted, every aspect of his life has been impacted by his obsession with p--o--r--nography. Mistress Alisa weighs-in on the issue. For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com


The Victim Mentality

When you know your truth and you live it, then nothing and no one can stand in your way. On the journey to wholeness and healing, many who seek recovery find themselves stuck in a rutt because they live their lives like victims. They have given their power and have therefore relinquished their own ability to be strong for themselves. Thinking like a victim and acting like a victim suck the very joy out of life. If you want to live a life that is free and beautiful, one that represents that...


The Life You Want To Live

On a daily basis, sex addicts face extremely negative feelings like: judgment, guilt, shame, embarrassment, self-doubt, and even self-hatred. They wonder how to break free from addiction in order to be the people they have always wanted to be, and in order to live the lives that they have always wanted to live. When faced with all the unhealthy behaviors that they seem absolutely obsessed with, it can be overwhelming to even think about how it could be possible to live a full and rewarding...


Mistress and the "dominant" Male

Mistress Alisa receives several messages of inquiry from men who identify as Dominant. In this segment, she explains why she has, thus far, refused to work with such individuals. This is the story of Mistress Alisa and the "dominant" male who inspired this segment. It is also an invitation for any truly Dominant males in the lifestyle to reach out to Mistress Alisa. She would love to hear from you!


Tumultuous Relationship Cycles

This podcast was inspired by yet another real-life situation. Mistress Alisa talks about the patterns that a specific client has found himself in for over 2 decades. She uses this case study to help shine a light on the decisions and behaviors that keep people going in cycles that they claim they want to break out of. If you find yourself in the midst of tumultuous relationship cycles, there is going to be a common denominator: you. Mistress Alisa helps talks about breaking dysfunctional...


Fix Me

In this segment, Mistress Alisa helps addicts to understand what to expect from counselors, as well as what addicts need to be able to expect from themselves. Addicts are required to work for their own freedom. The truth is that no one can "fix" you. This is your journey and others can support you, at best. But there is no one who can "fix" you or take all of your problems away. Consider the amount of time that you invested in getting yourself into a precarious situation. Now, expect to...


Secrets: Fuel For Addiction

Secrets have consistently been one of the biggest issues that keep My clients from walking in freedom and from walking in their truth. Secrets, lies, manipulations, deceptions. They all belong to the same family of untruths. We are more aware of direct deceptions, however, and not as much attention is placed on the dangers of keepingsecrets. How to reveal your secrets, when to reveeal your secrets, and to whom your secrets should be revealed. I discuss these issues while also impressing...


What Is A Dominatrix?

There are so many definitions of what a Dominatrix is and is not. Mistress Alisa challenges the status quo and introduces personal insights into what a healthy version of a Domme looks like. Mistress Alisa has made a name for herself in BDSM as a Dominatrix who helps Her clients to peace in the lifestyle. Her clients embrace and live their personal truths. Being a Dominatrix does not give one a license to be an immoral person. Being a Dominatrix is an honor and it requires a great deal of...


Freedom In Letting Go

The importance of "letting go" cannot be underestimated - both in life and in BDSM. Mistress Alisa explains what it means to let go, and for the first time She publicly recounts a precautionary tale of what happened when She was in a relationship with a wolf in sub's clothing. She explains how in letting go, She was able to find Her truth and move deeper into Her own destiny - which just happened to include creating her own brand of BDSM. Mistress Alisa warns that if you are so preoccupied...


I'm Addicted. Please help.

I received an email request today. On the surface, the message may seem simplistic in nature, but underneath the surface, the message is full of complexity. In this podcast, I delve into an answer that will shed light on what it takes to start to work one's way out of sexual addiction. The original email message: "Hello Mistress, I am a married man who seems to have a growing interest in blackmail. I started off just reading stories and then went to having cam sessions but not showing...


The Two Voices In Your Head

One of the most important things for a sex addict to be able to do is to identify when the voice of his addiction is speaking, as opposed to the voice of his truth. Determining which voice is speaking is a game-changer in the life of an addict. In this scenario the addict becomes accountable and he becomes empowered. Which voice does he want to listen to? Will he feed his destiny or his addiction? What is he missing? Where does he hurt? What is he afraid of? What kind of help does he need....


Challenges Facing Recovering Sex Addicts

Sex addicts as well as those who love them are oftentimes overwhelmed by the challenges that face addicts on the journey to recovery. It can be difficult to know what is going on in the mind of a sex addict, especially when he has become so accustomed to checking out mentally and emotionally that he, himself, is not fully aware of where he is on his journey. Understanding what to expect as an addict can go a long way to helping you to be better prepared for the journey ahead. What are the...


How To Know If You Are Ready For BDSM Counseling

If you struggle with , sex, or masturbation addictions, you may have considered getting counseling. This podcast will help you to know if you are, in fact, ready for that counseling. What does it take to receive support for addictions of a sexual nature? What frame of mind should one be in to receive said support? Though an unlicensed professional, Mistress Alisa is a leading expert in the field of BDSM Counseling. For those who are interested in seeking support for addictions of a sexual...


How Did I Become Addicted?

Men seek assistance for sexual addiction everyday. They want to understand how they became addicted. They want to know if they can be helped, and if so, how? I received a question today that moved Me. After answering the individual's question, I decided to turn our interraction into a podcast. I hope that this will help someone. The question: "Hello mistress Alisa, I am a married man who fantasies about this lifestyle. I cannot get it out of my head and it has been affecting my sex life....


What Is BDSM Counseling?

Let's take a closer look at what BDSM Counseling is, what it is not, and why it exists. When I decided to transition from Dominatrix to kink-friendly counselor, I struggled with finding an effective way to describe to clients the service that I was offering. Finally, the term "BDSM Counseling" came to mind, and over the past few years it has stuck. In this podcast, I give a clear explanation of what this special service is all about.


Moving Out Of Dysfunction

If the relationships in your life are bound by the glue of dysfunction, and you decide that you want to move out of the dysfunctional space, it is only a matter of time before the people in your life start to take notice. And chances are that the ones closest to you - you know, the ones that connected with you because of the dysfunction - are not going to like it. Here are some helpful insights.


Holiday Triggers and The Sex Addict

Holiday seasons are known for being joyous occasions, but they can be excruciatingly painful for individuals who find themselves isolated because of their past actions. And the same actions that led to isolation can, ironically, seem compelling to an individual who finds himself in the depths of despair. Add a holiday season to this mix and things can become even more challenging. This is a reminder to those who are on their journey, to keep their focus.


Confessions of a Submissive Man: FrankS #1

FrankS joins Mistress Alisa in an open talk about the implications of depression on sexual addiction. Tune in to hear this true submissive speak about finding himself obsessed with kink, and the methods that he is using to walk into a healthier space. Mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually, he is healing and he has some insights to share that will absolutely help others on their journey. If you are struggling with sex, , or masturbation addiction, this is an interview that you...