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027: Because It Makes Me Happy

8/15/2018
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We went out on the town in Portland, Maine. I was going a little crazy with all of the unusual rain and clouds this summer. The RV gets pretty small when all five of us are inside with no sun in sight. The funny thing about this episode is that I totally changed the format of the podcast outline on Jon, and even during our pre-meeting, we were both on a different page entirely! He thought the story of meeting the two guitarists at the restaurant was just the pre-show banter, while I had...

Duration:00:20:06

026: Facebook vs. Us

8/8/2018
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Are you comparing your relationship on Facebook to other couples on vacation or celebrating a romantic night out? Yah, I can relate. I might snuggle into bed after finishing my evening chores and spot a Facebook notification on my phone. Which then leads into my endless and mindless scrolling. It can also lead to something I am really good at, comparing. It really depends on how mindful and peaceful I am at that moment on the effect the scrolling can have on me. Perhaps, I had a difficult...

Duration:00:20:08

025: Jema Fell Down

7/27/2018
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In this episode of our marriage podcast Something Like Marriage, we talk about how falling down led me to think more about accepting who I am. Running in flip-flops in the rain is probably not the best idea. Jon talks about how he has learned to accept that he will always have ideas for songs to create, but may never really get around to creating that rock or Reggae hit. Some things are easier to accept about ourselves than others. It takes time to accept our deeper weaknesses and flaws as...

Duration:00:26:43

024: Safe Spaces for Loving Conversation

7/7/2018
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In this episode of our marriage podcast Something Like Marriage, we talk about creating safe spaces for loving conversation in your relationship. We cover three main ways to create a loving space - decide your loving guidelines, choose a physical space, and an emotionally safe space. Loving Guidelines Here is an example of the loving guidelines we have created. No yelling. No swearing. No blaming. No threatening divorce or abandonment. No leaving. No using what is shared to hurt the person...

Duration:00:25:24

023: Three Questions

6/29/2018
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In this episode of our marriage podcast Something Like Marriage, we ask three questions to learn more about one another. (Theme music: Ethan Anderson, Photo credit: Andre Benz) Stream "Three Questions" Podcast Gems: Asking your partner/spouse three questions can create a deeper connection. Your Next Steps: Join our free private Facebook Community Join our email list for new episodes and articles.

Duration:00:35:37

022: Living a Secret Life of Shame and Sexual Anorexia

6/14/2018
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In this episode of our marriage podcast Something Like Marriage, I describe living a secret life of shame and sexual anorexia. I had experienced sexuality that was unwanted and confusing when I was young. I had feelings of arousal, fear, and shame like Jon described on I Feel Uncomfortable Talking About Sex that I dealt with through repression. It was a way I could bury my thoughts and desires in a place where it would remain unconscious. As I walked through life, it seemed that there was...

Duration:00:39:56

021: I Feel Uncomfortable Talking About Sex

6/7/2018
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In this episode of our marriage podcast Something Like Marriage, we discuss how I feel uncomfortable talking about sex. Sex was not really a topic we had practice talking about with anyone. While Jon was caught up in a cycle of abstinence and binging, I was in my own cycle of repression and avoiding. Jon's work in therapy was to begin talking openly about his sexual experiences and his guilt and shame about his sexuality. He found the practice to be freeing and healing. His dark secret and...

Duration:00:37:13

020: Why Do Men Hide Their Feelings?

6/2/2018
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In this episode of our marriage podcast Something Like Marriage, we talk about why do men hide their feelings. We also relate how men and women are alike in not sharing their vulnerable feelings such as sadness, shame, guilt, and fear. Culture seems to have a role to play in what are acceptable emotions for a man to express. As children, we expressed a spectrum of feelings as emotional beings. When we were happy we screamed with delight, laughed, and jumped up and down. When we were sad we...

Duration:00:26:58

019: Letting Go of the Outcome

5/24/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we discuss letting go of the outcome. We took the family to Cedar Point, the roller coaster capital of the world! The favorite ride was Steel Vengeance, their new hybrid coaster built from wood and steel. I could get all carried away with the fun we had there, but it would be better storytelling for you to just listen. The theme park challenged me in so many ways from fear of heights to, yes, letting go of the outcome. Just...

Duration:00:28:36

018: I Can't Hear You Over My Anxiety

5/10/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we chat about anxiety. "I can't hear you over my anxiety" was a phrase our son told us during a conversation. It has become a fun way to express how powerful anxiety can be in our lives when it demands to be heard. Anxious thoughts like to be the loudest! Both of us had high anxiety throughout our childhood and adulthood. We thought such high anxiety was a normal part of life. Our anxiety seemed to be motivated by people...

Duration:00:31:40

017: Learning to Talk About Sex

4/25/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we share our journey from having separate sex lives to learning to talk about sex. At the beginning of our relationship, we kept our sexuality to ourselves and crossed paths to have sex. We didn't discuss it or really share with one another our inner desires. I checked it off like another chore from my list of things to do and later learned of my disassociating during sex. Jon was afraid to share his sexuality and the...

Duration:00:27:24

016: Let's Do Stuff Together

4/13/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we talk about finding common interests as a couple. Every relationship is like a unique fingerprint, with each couple deciding what they want their relationship to look like. Some couples have very different interests and live more independently, while others do everything together, or a balance of both. Sometimes our partners or spouses don't know it is our desire to connect and spend more time together. Also, we may...

Duration:00:30:30

015: The Challenges of RV Living With Kids

4/3/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we discuss the challenges of RV living with kids. As we discussed last week there are many benefits to RV living, however, as with any lifestyle, there are also challenges. Bonus points for living in a small space with kids (you know who you are)! Living in an RV has now become a familiar way of life for us, and there are times when the challenges of it all motivate our family to take a vacation from traveling in the...

Duration:00:29:01

014: The Benefits of RV Living With Kids

3/1/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we discuss the benefits of RV living with kids. Our plan was to sell our life and live in a motorhome for only one year after the sale of our house. We soon realized that raising our children in a small space encouraged us to become more connected with one another. We were also having more fun! In the beginning, we thought the amazing places we visited would be the best part of our RV adventure but soon found that it was...

Duration:00:23:07

013: Why Did You Decide to Live in an RV?

2/22/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we talk about why we decided to try living in an RV full time with a family. We chose full-time RV living in January of 2011 to travel with our four kids in a motorhome. RV living with our family was motivated by a marriage crisis and our need to heal our family life. In 2008 our marriage fell apart, it was a moment in our lives where we decided to face the giants of fear and dig into therapy to save our relationship. It...

Duration:00:29:19

012: How Not To Suck When Talking To Your Sweetheart

2/12/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we discuss our roles in conversation. No one wants to be bad at conversation, especially when we are all trying so hard to understand one another! In the past, we were not doing well with our conversations because we didn't really understand what each other really needed. Jon thought I wanted him to solve the problems I was sharing with him, while I just wanted to be heard and affirmed. I seem to process my days through...

Duration:00:22:01

011: It's Embarrassing

2/5/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we answer a listener's question about how to handle embarrassment with a spouse or partner. Everyone handle's embarrassment differently. Sometimes we repress our embarrassment, get angry, or can laugh about what happened for years to come. The goal is to be able to talk about all emotions with your lover, including embarrassment. (Theme music: Ethan Anderson, Photo credit: Abigail Keenan) Relationship Podcast Gems: Sharing...

Duration:00:28:00

010: Facing Depression Together

1/29/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, I tell my depression story of recovery. The process of becoming healthy began with my self-care after I had spiraled down into severe depression. Recovery included medication, exercise, diet changes, and therapy. My husband also supported me during the journey by giving me perspective. (Theme music: Ethan Anderson, Photo credit: Yaoqi LAI) Relationship Podcast Gems: What brought sunshine into my life to help with my SAD...

Duration:00:37:01

009: Understanding Depression

1/22/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we talk about what is it like to be depressed? I share with Jon what it felt like for me as I struggled with depression, shame, and motherhood. The Baby Blues are what really tipped the scales of depression for me as a young mother. The hormonal influx after delivering my children would send me time and time again into a downward spiral of clinical depression. My moods were off, my thinking was gone, and I didn't want to...

Duration:00:33:24

008: The Two Sides of Depression

1/12/2018
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In this episode of our relationship podcast Something Like Marriage, we talk about depression and marriage from two viewpoints - how it feels to be the person suffering from depression and how it affects the partner/spouse in the relationship. Depression and Marriage Were Normal My depression became apparent to me after having children and my doctor named this sadness that I had felt since I was young. Depression had become such a normal thing in my life that it didn't feel like something I...

Duration:00:29:08