Radio show / Podcast #118: Based on some great research by Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann, there are 5 conflict styles that people use. Based on your development, you will learn to use some more than others. Generally, people will overuse some and under use others. Here is the most important news - all of the styles are good. All of them have problems and benefits, so you need to learn to use each one for the right situation.To access this post, you must purchase Radio Member or The...
Radio show / Podcast #117: What do you think about when you hear the word "conflict?" Most people would list words like fight, anger, war, bad feelings, strife, etc. Conflict is most often thought of as something negative, but it doesn't need to be that way. In fact, conflict can be constructive and beneficial if you have the right thinking.To access this post, you must purchase Radio Member or The ULTIMATE Great Relationships Shortcut.
Yes, your emotions are real and your emotions are often out of touch with reality and the facts. If that's true, then getting others to acknowledge and validate your emotions is misplaced, unproductive, and potentially dangerous.
Dr. Marlin Howe used submarines and destroyers as a great way to explain dominant and manipulative behavior. Submarines are difficult to detect, stealthy, under the surface. Destroyers are easy to see, on the surface and when fighting, fire depth charges into the ocean trying to sink the submarine. The submarine takes evasive action, sometimes becomes silent, but will unleash some powerful and destructive torpedoes without warning and often after a conflict is over.
You know the PROBLEM - making everything about ME, and the SOLUTION - pursuing the best for others; patiently, kindly, sacrificially and unconditionally. Now here is a simple way to remember 4 critical tools that solve 4 relationship crippling mistakes. Remember T F F C.
Tolerance is used as a weapon against truth, standards and boundaries. There is a blatant effort to use tolerance to move or erase the boundary between good and bad. The sledgehammer of tolerance tries to expand the limits for bad behavior. But, worst of all, people talk as if tolerance and love are the same thing. Those two words are very different.
When in relationship pain, your thought can easily become "Just stop the pain!" Too often that means a lack of interest in God's desire and His complete PERFECTION! Trying to get out of pain is especially true when you hear the stories of broken marriage and families, because of divorce.
Radio Show / Podcast #106: After the third divorce, for the next 4-5 years Deborah was mad at life and men. Then she started listening to God. Part of her restoration was Hope for the Family, created by Dr. Marlin Howe, which was the seed that has grown into GR8 Relationships.
God does not like the proverb about sour grapes repeated. He clearly states in Ezekiel 18:3 "As I live," says the Lord GOD, "you shall no longer use this proverb in Israel." What's is it about that proverb that God does not like!
You may be like others who aren't quite willing to elevate self-governance and discount self-esteem. That is very understandable, because of the emphasis from our education system and society that has an unhealthy focus on esteeming self.
Multitudes of self-help gurus, psychologists, and educators promote loving yourself - loving "ME". Unfortunately, what's worse is Satan loves this teaching! So, what about you? Do you think loving yourself supports something that Satan absolutely loves and practices? Well, go look at Dr. Carle Zimmerman's research. He says that the self-love that self-help gurus promote is actually the key element that destroys civilizations. And, check out Willpower by Dr. Baumeister, especially chapter 9,...
Sarah went to the computer to find some information she needed. What she ended up finding was devastatingly painful - pornography! At first she tried to rationalize it by wondering if someone had come in and used their computer, but that made little sense...
A precious little girl first abused at the age of 5. "I remember asking God to rescue me when I was 5, but it didn't happen. And, I didn't become His child until I was 42. I've hated that little girl, she caused me so much pain and shame. Many times in my life, I looked for God."