Yes, your emotions are real and your emotions are often out of touch with reality and the facts. If that's true, then getting others to acknowledge and validate your emotions is misplaced, unproductive, and potentially dangerous.
Dr. Marlin Howe used submarines and destroyers as a great way to explain dominant and manipulative behavior. Submarines are difficult to detect, stealthy, under the surface. Destroyers are easy to see, on the surface and when fighting, fire depth charges into the ocean trying to sink the submarine. The submarine takes evasive action, sometimes becomes silent, but will unleash some powerful and destructive torpedoes without warning and often after a conflict is over.
You know the PROBLEM - making everything about ME, and the SOLUTION - pursuing the best for others; patiently, kindly, sacrificially and unconditionally. Now here is a simple way to remember 4 critical tools that solve 4 relationship crippling mistakes. Remember T F F C.
Tolerance is used as a weapon against truth, standards and boundaries. There is a blatant effort to use tolerance to move or erase the boundary between good and bad. The sledgehammer of tolerance tries to expand the limits for bad behavior. But, worst of all, people talk as if tolerance and love are the same thing. Those two words are very different.
When in relationship pain, your thought can easily become "Just stop the pain!" Too often that means a lack of interest in God's desire and His complete PERFECTION! Trying to get out of pain is especially true when you hear the stories of broken marriage and families, because of divorce.
Radio Show / Podcast #106: After the third divorce, for the next 4-5 years Deborah was mad at life and men. Then she started listening to God. Part of her restoration was Hope for the Family, created by Dr. Marlin Howe, which was the seed that has grown into GR8 Relationships.
God does not like the proverb about sour grapes repeated. He clearly states in Ezekiel 18:3 "As I live," says the Lord GOD, "you shall no longer use this proverb in Israel." What's is it about that proverb that God does not like!
You may be like others who aren't quite willing to elevate self-governance and discount self-esteem. That is very understandable, because of the emphasis from our education system and society that has an unhealthy focus on esteeming self.
The vast majority of self-help gurus, psychologists, and educators promote and support something that Satan absolutely loves and practices. And, if that isn't bad enough, what is being promoted is the key element that destroys civilizations.
Sarah went to the computer to find some information she needed. What she ended up finding was devastatingly painful - pornography! At first she tried to rationalize it by wondering if someone had come in and used their computer, but that made little sense...
A precious little girl first abused at the age of 5. "I remember asking God to rescue me when I was 5, but it didn't happen. And, I didn't become His child until I was 42. I've hated that little girl, she caused me so much pain and shame. Many times in my life, I looked for God."
If I choose to submit that seems like I am giving up all of my rights. Is that true? For example, does submitting mean that I do not have the option or even right to explain what I am thinking about the issue?
People and circumstances are in your life for your best no matter how you feel or think about them. Every good thing, every bad thing are in your life for a perfect reason. BUT, you cannot and will not see life that way, because "ME" fills all of the space in your eyes, mind and heart preventing you from seeing God's perfect work unfolding right in front of you.