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Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.

Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.
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Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.

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English


Episodes

52 - BITE Model and Missions

10/28/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the BITE Model as it pertains to the Mormon mission experience. Spoiler alert: Mormon missions are extremely cult-y. Also, Cari and Kelsae both totally know that the honorific for male missionaries is “Elder,” regardless of what you might hear on this, their very own podcast. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/052

Duration:01:27:45

It's a mother-effing minisode

10/20/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae put together a minisode responding to some listener feedback in lieu of just taking the week off. Life is all kinds of up in the air right now, friends, so bear with us. Also, at the end, Cari says “auspiciously” when she means “ostensibly” and as she writes this she’s too anxious to just assume you’ll know she isn’t an idiot. Cheers! For fancy social media links and other info about the podcast, head to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com

Duration:00:10:27

51 - General Conference (can suck it)

10/14/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the gaslighting pile of crazy that was this latest session of MORMON General Conference. And now, a tribute to Russell M. Nelson and Lucifer himself: MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON....

Duration:01:10:48

50 - One year in, a retrospective.

10/7/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae celebrate No Man Knows My Herstory’s one year anniversary! They share some memories of creating the podcast, discuss some big changes in their lives over the past year, and share listeners’ feedback, news, and stories. Thanks so much, listeners. We continue to be blown away by your support and how awesome y’all are. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/050

Duration:01:50:59

So ... we need another week off.

9/30/2018
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Hi friends! Cari and Kelsae are practicing some mother-effing radical self care and taking another week off. We swear to gob the retrospective episode is coming! Here’s a few minutes of us saying that very thing, AND ALSO! We went to the screening of the new documentary Room To Grow tonight, so there’s a few minutes of that too. If you’d still like to send in something for the retrospective episode, email us at: nomanknowsmyherstory@gmail.com.

Duration:00:05:28

Another totally-not-real episode.

9/23/2018
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We need a break this week, friends. Don’t fret, we’ll be back next week to celebrate the ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY (!!!) of No Man Knows My Herstory! Holy fetch. Please enjoy this short message of us saying that same thing (basically) and don’t forget to email us your favorite, most interesting, most swears-in-one-episode memories! Send ‘em to: nomanknowsmyherstory@gmail.com. GO AND DO THE THING!

Duration:00:01:48

49 - Boundaries, THE SEQUEL! Listener questions

9/15/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae revisit boundary setting with Mormon family members and hear feedback and stories from listeners. It’s a wild ride. Keep yourselves safe out there, friends. CONTENT WARNING: Mentions of self harm, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and general discussion of traumatic family interactions. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/049

Duration:01:18:44

48 - McKenna Denson crashes sacrament meeting and is a BAMF

9/8/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss McKenna Denson’s showing up to Joseph Bishop’s ward and calling him and the Mormon Church of Mormon Latter-day Saints right out. McKenna is a hero; we’re sure of it. Also, please send us your stories of your Mormon family members pushing or decimating your boundaries, or of you standing up to them, for our upcoming follow-up episode to last week’s. Email those to nomanknowsmyherstory@gmail.com, please and thanks! CONTENT WARNING: Discussion of sexual...

Duration:00:41:00

44 - MOAR MORMON TROPES!

8/4/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae continue last week’s topic by ranting about yet more crappy Mormon tropes. Among these are fake service, “knowing,” codependency, and nonsense reasons to explain why folks apostatize. We’re excited to be doing all this yelling together again. Reunited and it feeeeeeels so goood! For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/044

Duration:01:30:13

43 - Just a few terrible Mormon tropes

7/28/2018
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This week, Cari goes solo since Kelsae is out of town at mothertucking RollerCon! Thanks to the lovely fans in our Facebook group who supplied her with suggestions, Cari discusses just a few terrible Mormon tropes and other crappy, trauma-inducing nonsensical ideas, including the idea of the “adversary” (that totes means Satan, you guys, and it’s super creepy) and of suffering in this life being justified by rewards in the next. There are a lot of clips of talks and intermittent solo...

Duration:01:06:33

42 - Happy birthday to Kelsae and a coming out story

7/20/2018
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This week is Kelsae’s motherducking birthday episode. Kelsae is coming out -officially! - as a lesbian at the age of 31, fresh out of a mixed-orientation relationship. Cari and Kelsae discuss the consequences of being raised as queer Mormon kids and how they are still paying the price. CONTENT WARNING: Mentions and brief discussions of sexual assault, rape, abuse, and suicidal ideation. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/042

Duration:01:17:55

We're taking the week off

7/14/2018
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Sisters Cari and Kelsae are taking the week off again (because self care is important, folks!). We'll be back next week for a very special episode to celebrate Sister Kelsae's 31st birthday. Hooray! See you next week!

Duration:00:00:53

41 - A follow-up conversation re: Believer documentary

7/6/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae have a follow-up to last week’s episode, including encouragement to leverage your privilege. Oh, and there was the time they had a phone conversation with Tyler Glenn about our opinions regarding Believer and LoveLoud. Cari and Kelsae: Now conversing with legit rock stars. CONTENT WARNING: Discussion about suicidal ideation and self harm (including some specific methods) during Good News Minute section. For full show notes and links, go to:...

Duration:00:53:25

40 - Why we're pissed about Dan Reynolds' documentary Believer

6/29/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the Dan Reynolds documentary Believer, which was made available on HBO this week. Lots of people have been lauding it, but (spoiler alert which should surprise no one) Cari and Kelsae think it has a lot of shortcomings to say the least. There's a lot of anger, a lot of swearing, and a lot of Imagine Dragons songs unfortunately now stuck in our heads. This documentary is NOT about queer people or the youth suicide epidemic in Utah or the Mormon church's...

Duration:01:36:38

39 - Our amazing LGBTQIA heritage

6/23/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss American LGBTQ history and heroes because queer folks deserve to feel proud of where they come from rather than just not hating themselves. They discuss Stonewall, the US AIDS epidemic, LGBTQIA activists to know, and more. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/39

Duration:01:46:00

38 - LGBTQ Mormons in history

6/16/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae review some stories of LGBTQ early Mormons. They discuss Evan Stephens (director of the Mormon Tabernacle Choir who was totes gay), Ada Dwyer Rusell (an actress of Mormon descent who was a lesbian), Kate Thomas (writer of an openly lesbian poem that was published in a Church magazine), and Almerin Grow (Salt Lake resident who was exiled to southern Utah by Brigham Young for gender nonconforming behavior). Happy Pride month, y’all. Go find the LGBTQ early Mormons in...

Duration:00:48:48

37 - Gays do it better, especially Louie B. Felt

6/9/2018
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This week, in celebration of Pride month, Cari and Kelsae discuss a rad lesbian from Mormon herstory, Cari’s great-great-great aunt, Louie Felt. Louie and her longterm partner, May Anderson, ran the general Primary for decades and started the Friend and Primary Children’s Hospital. Warning: The story of another Felt family member toward the end takes a dark turn. We would love for you to hunt down the stories of your LGBTQ Mormon ancestors and share them with us! For full show notes and...

Duration:00:42:44

36 - Mormonism and mental illness

6/2/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss several mental health disorders and how Mormonism feeds into them. Mormonism is the worst. So is mental illness. Sorry if you, like us, have both. CONTENT WARNING: general discussions and mentions (no explicit details) of sexual assault, rape, self harm, suicidal ideation, and suicide attempt. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/36

Duration:01:03:24

35 - You don't have to take our word for it

5/25/2018
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This weekend is Cari’s 30th birthday, so it’s a short one. There’s one brief note about last week’s episode about white privilege, and then they do something completely different and read a story of their own creation. Have a chill Memorial Day, apostates. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/35

Duration:00:18:37

34 - A secular come-to-Jesus-meeting for white ex-Mormons about our privilege

5/19/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae, two white ladies, gather up other white ex-Mos for a discussion about white privilege and how it makes us into a**holes. White ex-Mormons, particularly those who create ex-Mo content, should be talking about white privilege, implicit bias, and racism. We need to hear more from marginalized groups. We need to believe them when they say they are hurt and we need to support them in the ways they want to be supported. We also all fail, and we should own it. In that...

Duration:01:23:02