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Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.

Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.
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Join two queer ex-Mormons as they unpack years of generational trauma and explore what it was like to be raised in a Christian cult.

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English


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61 - Oaks is the worst

3/10/2019
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the nonsense one Elder Oaks got into during the month of February. But Sisters, you may say, it is now March. That’s right, it is. And honestly they’re still upset about what he said, so chances are you are too. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/061

Duration:00:39:10

60 - Endure to the end, suckers

2/4/2019
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TRIGGER/CONTENT WARNING: Mentions of suicidal ideation/other consequences of poor mental health due to participating in a cult. This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss that old Mormondy Mormon favorite, enduring to the end and the myriad ways it can mess up your mental health. It’s almost like being told to just hold on in spite of everything being awful to get some imaginary benefit after you die is bad for meaty monkey brains. In fact, it isn’t almost like that. It is that. In case you haven’t...

Duration:01:13:00

59 - PTSD, neuroception, and Mormonism

1/27/2019
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and how it pertains to the ex-Mormon experience (hint: all cult survivors have trauma!). Sisters Cari and Kelsae (but mostly Kelsae, let’s be real, yay for MSWs!) discuss symptoms, brain chemistry, and one special part of your brain that may interpret your history of trauma as meaning that you are in danger only all the time. Join us on this journey, though lo, it is fraught. For full show notes and links, go to:...

Duration:01:28:54

58 - Russell Mormon Nelson changes the temple ceremony to be maybe kinda a little less sexist

1/6/2019
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the recent changes to the temple ceremony which remove some of the most overt sexism. This is clearly cause ol’ Rusty has the red phone to Jesus and not because of the work of exMos, progressive Mormons, or, oh I dunno, Ordain Women, am I right? Tangents abound, as does rage at anyone telling anybody to give the Mormon cult any kind of credit for these changes. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/058

Duration:00:49:18

57 - Survey and goodbye 2018

12/30/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae review the results of a survey they put out into their Facebook group regarding negative experiences within Mormonism. They also say goodbye to 2018, both for the podcast and themselves, and set some intentions for 2019. There have been big changes, which we are proud of, and we hope you have some to be proud of, too. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/057

Duration:01:04:10

56 - Mormon temples

12/16/2018
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CONTENT/TRIGGER WARNING: A few mentions of suicidal thoughts. This week, Cari and Kelsae get stoned and watch a recording of the Mormon endowment ceremony, per listener request. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll rage against the cult. If you are watching the ceremony along with us, use the link in our full shownotes (on our website!) to the version we watched and pause the video after every room change. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/056

Duration:02:04:55

A minisode on suicide

12/6/2018
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CONTENT/TRIGGER WARNING: Frank discussion of suicide (including some details of a recent suicide in the news), suicidal ideation, and mental illness. Sister Cari put together this minisode discussing the recent suicide of a 19-year-old woman at BYU. She talks about her own BYU experience, and how the culture (heavy on the cult) of the institution helped create the situation of her own suicide attempt at age 20. She also talks about how her experience writing for the 100 Hour Board (an...

Duration:00:25:20

55 - Scientology and the Aftermath

12/2/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss Leah Remini’s show Scientology: The Aftermath and why y’all should go watch it. They’ll get to the temple (they promise), but it just wasn’t happening this week. But seriously, go watch some cult documentaries. Scientology may be a scarier, more aggressive cult, but watching the experiences of Scientologists has helped Sisters Cari and Kelsae put their own experiences into context. (And yes, if you’ve done the math, Cari was 10 in 1998, not eight, and yes,...

Duration:01:16:52

54 - Apostate gratitude and call to do some temple prep!

11/22/2018
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This week, Sister Cari does a solo episode in which she shares apostate, queer, and just general gratitude from members of the No Man Knows My Herstory Facebook group. Also, we are doing an endowment ceremony episode next week, so think back to your innocent days of believing the temple would actually be awesome and spiritually enlightening instead of creepy and culty. Imagine what you believed about it all before you knew better, and bring that state of mind with you into next week. For...

Duration:00:22:04

53 - Rusty goes fundie

11/1/2018
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534367 This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss recent comments made by the prophet of the Mormondy Mormon Church of Latter-day Mormons and his wife which are, let’s say, concerning. There’s a lot of joking, fun-poking, and swearing. Ol’ Rusty Nelson would not approve and Jesus is probably totes offended. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/053

Duration:00:38:17

52 - BITE Model and Missions

10/28/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the BITE Model as it pertains to the Mormon mission experience. Spoiler alert: Mormon missions are extremely cult-y. Also, Cari and Kelsae both totally know that the honorific for male missionaries is “Elder,” regardless of what you might hear on this, their very own podcast. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/052

Duration:01:27:45

It's a mother-effing minisode

10/20/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae put together a minisode responding to some listener feedback in lieu of just taking the week off. Life is all kinds of up in the air right now, friends, so bear with us. Also, at the end, Cari says “auspiciously” when she means “ostensibly” and as she writes this she’s too anxious to just assume you’ll know she isn’t an idiot. Cheers! For fancy social media links and other info about the podcast, head to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com

Duration:00:10:27

51 - General Conference (can suck it)

10/14/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss the gaslighting pile of crazy that was this latest session of MORMON General Conference. And now, a tribute to Russell M. Nelson and Lucifer himself: MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON MORMON....

Duration:01:10:48

50 - One year in, a retrospective.

10/7/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae celebrate No Man Knows My Herstory’s one year anniversary! They share some memories of creating the podcast, discuss some big changes in their lives over the past year, and share listeners’ feedback, news, and stories. Thanks so much, listeners. We continue to be blown away by your support and how awesome y’all are. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/050

Duration:01:50:59

So ... we need another week off.

9/30/2018
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Hi friends! Cari and Kelsae are practicing some mother-effing radical self care and taking another week off. We swear to gob the retrospective episode is coming! Here’s a few minutes of us saying that very thing, AND ALSO! We went to the screening of the new documentary Room To Grow tonight, so there’s a few minutes of that too. If you’d still like to send in something for the retrospective episode, email us at: nomanknowsmyherstory@gmail.com.

Duration:00:05:28

Another totally-not-real episode.

9/23/2018
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We need a break this week, friends. Don’t fret, we’ll be back next week to celebrate the ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY (!!!) of No Man Knows My Herstory! Holy fetch. Please enjoy this short message of us saying that same thing (basically) and don’t forget to email us your favorite, most interesting, most swears-in-one-episode memories! Send ‘em to: nomanknowsmyherstory@gmail.com. GO AND DO THE THING!

Duration:00:01:48

49 - Boundaries, THE SEQUEL! Listener questions

9/15/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae revisit boundary setting with Mormon family members and hear feedback and stories from listeners. It’s a wild ride. Keep yourselves safe out there, friends. CONTENT WARNING: Mentions of self harm, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and general discussion of traumatic family interactions. For full show notes and links, go to: https://www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com/episodes/049

Duration:01:18:44

48 - McKenna Denson crashes sacrament meeting and is a BAMF

9/8/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss McKenna Denson’s showing up to Joseph Bishop’s ward and calling him and the Mormon Church of Mormon Latter-day Saints right out. McKenna is a hero; we’re sure of it. Also, please send us your stories of your Mormon family members pushing or decimating your boundaries, or of you standing up to them, for our upcoming follow-up episode to last week’s. Email those to nomanknowsmyherstory@gmail.com, please and thanks! CONTENT WARNING: Discussion of sexual...

Duration:00:41:00

47 - Boundaries with Mormon family

9/2/2018
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This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss creating and maintaining boundaries with families, especially abusive families or families who are still involved in a cult which harms you. They talk about their own personal journeys setting boundaries with their families and all of the accompanying pitfalls and feelings. Feelings are gross but also important, or so Cari’s therapist tells her all the effing time. Also, Cari and Kelsae are soliciting your stories of your families and why they need...

Duration:01:16:08

This is not a real episode.

8/26/2018
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Hello friends! Cari and Kelsae are taking the week off. Please enjoy the following short audio message saying that exact same thing. okayseeyounextweek, byeeeeeeeeeeeee. For fancy social media links and other info about the podcast, head to: www.nomanknowsmyherstory.com

Duration:00:01:18