No More Desire Addiction Recovery

Today I want to talk about how to let go of shame and addiction and how living with more simplicity and presence can help us recover. Something I’ve witnessed in myself and others I’ve talked to is that those of us who get worked up over the details or are really hard on ourselves often struggle with addiction. I often see perfectionism and addiction go hand-in-hand - in other words a propensity to expect too much of ourselves and to feel very worried about mistakes - I know I’m that way and it drove much of the addiction in my life - maybe you can relate. So, I want to talk more about how this works - why we get so worked up over little things and how this leads to addiction. And then to talk about how we can stop doing this so we can start working out of addiction. Because addiction, at the end of the day, is not about stopping the behavior - it is about changing your mental state by working through emotional obstacles, feeling more peace, and becoming closer to God and those around us. For more addiction help, learn the keys to quit porn with this Simple 8-Page Guidebook. Or listen to my Addiction Recovery Story or check out my Calming Forgiveness Meditation. Much love. Blog Article for this Episode https://www.becomeagoodman.com

If you want to learn how to stop watching porn, you need to understand the addiction and recovery trinities. Porn addiction has several causes that play off of each other. They are physical, mental, spiritual, and relational. If you want to quit porn, you need to know what each of these are, how they work, and why it is so hard to break free of porn addiction. I learned how to stop watching porn 8 years ago. It doesn't mean that I never have challenging thoughts or that I don't still deal with cravings from time to time. The difference now is that I understand addiction, and I have the tools I need to work through mental illness and other difficult experiences. In this video, I will teach you how to do this too. Guidebook for quitting porn (FREE DOWNLOAD): https://www.becomeagoodman.com/ Private Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomeagoodman 5-Month Program: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course Other Courses for mental health and addiction recovery: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/courses Blog article: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/learn-how-to-stop-watching-porn-with-this-powerful-unique-approach-4-keys-to-quit-porn https://www.becomeagoodman.com

What are the 2 root causes of porn addiction? Knowing these can help you quit porn, as you learn what leads to it in the first place. To learn how to break free of porn addiction, it's necessary to talk about stress. Our mental state is like a pressure gauge. When it's in the green, we typically don't experience porn cravings. When it's in the red, however, we can last for a while, depending on who we are, but when we are in a heightened state of unchecked stress long enough, we almost always begin experiencing cravings. This is why we need to know the root cause of porn addiction - the two emotions that drive negative feelings and trigger us to view porn. If we want to stop watching porn, we also need to know the root cause of porn recovery, right? Because it's not enough to simply know what causes addiction. We also need to know how people stay sober long-term. What is their secret?... In this video, I share the 2 emotions that underlie porn cravings, as well as 3 things that keep us clean and sober long-term... Guidebook for quitting porn (FREE DOWNLOAD): https://www.becomeagoodman.com/ Private Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomeagoodman 5-Month Program: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course Other Courses for mental health and addiction recovery: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/courses BLOG: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/the-2-roots-of-porn-addiction-vs-the-3-elements-of-porn-recovery https://www.becomeagoodman.com

This Christian meditation for mental health comes from years of my own meditation practice and integrates teachings from both eastern and western faiths - Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, and Taoism. This anxiety meditation is also helpful for depression, self-worth or self-esteem issues, or to simply calm the mind. TO EXPERIENCE THE OTHER 4 MEDITATIONS IN THIS COURSE, CLICK HERE: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-anxiety-meditations God bless. Explore other addiction recovery and mental health meditation courses Explore the 5-Month Recovery Program Join the Private Facebook Group to help you quit porn Download my free ebook & audiobook with tips on quitting porn YouTube: https://youtu.be/wY_mvahrrdE https://www.becomeagoodman.com

I’m going to tell you why I became addicted to porn, and what kept me addicted for 10 years. It had nothing to do with craving sex, or “manly urges.” Porn addiction has to do with your state of mind. Porn addiction recovery is about transforming that state of mind from one that is susceptible to addiction to one that isn’t. The answers may not be easy, but some of them are simple. And while I can’t wave my magic wand or tell you “3 secrets that get you sober permanently”, I do have some advice and information I hope will help you in your journey. Join the Private Facebook Group to help you quit porn Download my free ebook & audiobook with tips on quitting porn Explore the 5-Month Recovery Program 15 Tips for Porn Addiction Recovery The Addiction/Fear Cycle | Where Pornography Addiction Comes From To hear my full Porn Addiction Recovery Story, click here Why People Become Addicted to Porn If we are trying to stop watching porn, or seeking to understand a loved one who is addicted, we need to know that porn addiction has very little to do with the sexual act itself, and far more to do with getting a “fix”. Research shows that pornography physically changes the brain. We can’t get the same “dopamine hit” during normal sex that we can during a session with porn. Why? Think about the novelty that porn offers; the number of different partners and new experiences available at the click of the button. Think about how quickly someone can go from 0 to 100 with one of those “partners” in an instant… Is any of that like having sex in a real relationship? How can sex in real life possibly compete? Porn addiction becomes addictive in part because it outdoes any sexual experience the human brain is meant to have. In addition, it is addictive because of the amount of shame that is often involved in the experience, which I’ll talk more about soon. Why I Became Addicted to Porn As a kid, I was high-strung, perfectionistic, and somewhat impulsive. I felt stressed out much of the time and had so much inner intensity that I simply didn’t have the skills or understanding to deal with. I also had low self-esteem, and, more importantly, a low sense of self-worth. I didn’t believe I was worthy of good things. I had negative self-talk and was worried others didn’t accept me. In my experience, this is quite common for those with addiction. Whether that be an addiction to porn, sex, cocaine, gambling, or some other “drug of choice”. As a kid, I sought out video games and junk food as a way to cope with all of the stress I was facing. These helped me self-soothe, albeit ineffectively and temporarily. When I was 13, I then sought out porn as a way to cope. I didn’t know that I was high-strung or stressed out. To me, it was just normal life. These negative feelings fueled my need for a “fix”, just as they do for others I have worked with and observed. Shame and Porn Addiction https://www.becomeagoodman.com

I'm going to tell you how to quit porn in 30 days using 15 tips for porn addiction recovery. You probably know I’m not a fan of big, bold claims, but… After 8 years of sobriety, I’ve learned a few things about how to quit porn. Secrets for porn addiction recovery that have helped me out…and now I want to share them with you. I know your “hype detector” is probably sounding the alarm right now. I’m not here to tell you that I have all of the answers, nor do I think that quitting porn in 30 days is a realistic endeavor. BUT… I do believe that you (just like I did) can get a really excellent start for porn recovery in as little as 30 days. A start that will help you get clean for months…and then years. It’s hard to avoid porn these days. It is so easy to access, and there are so many things we face that don’t make it easy to avoid the temptation. I’ll give you 15 tips that are different from most of the buzz going around. Secrets that are genuinely helpful, some of which you may never have considered. So, here are my 15 tips to help you stop watching porn…and start your recovery within 30 days… 5-MONTH PORN RECOVERY COURSE: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP FOR ADDICTION RECOVERY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1352257385317746/ FREE EBOOK & AUDIOBOOK WITH 3 SIMPLE METHODS FOR RECOVERY: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook Blog: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/how-to-quit-porn-in-30-days-15-tips-for-porn-addiction-recovery YouTube: https://youtu.be/3C2Px54PQDg https://www.becomeagoodman.com

Listen to this calming forgiveness meditation to learn how to forgive others and yourself. Forgiveness is not for the benefit of others. We do it to release ourselves from emotional burdens. When we forgive someone else, we set ourselves free. The meditation music in this guided God centered meditation is designed to bring peace to the mind as I take you through the 7 Steps of Unconditional Forgiveness. I developed this 7 Step process using ancient teachings of Eastern and Western Faiths. Let go of the past, find self forgiveness and forgiveness for others, and invite God into your mind and heart. For more MENTAL HEALTH MEDITATIONS go to: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/meditations Learn more about the 7 Steps of Unconditional Forgiveness used in this God centered forgiveness meditation: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/forgiveness-how-to-break-free-of-porn-addiction Blog: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/calming-forgiveness-meditation-the-7-steps-of-unconditional-forgiveness YouTube: https://youtu.be/2QVKzH2p1qU https://www.becomeagoodman.com

To know how to break free of porn addiction, we start by exploring the deep pain underneath the surface. Porn cravings come as a result of mental and emotional pain. Everyone deals with this pain to one extent or another. When we struggle with addiction, it simply means that this pain has reached a more intense/frequent stage than it has for some. For this reason, there is no shame in porn addiction. It simply means our ego - our mind - sought out a way to cope with mental and emotional pain, and it chose pornography addiction as a way to do that. If we want to stop watching porn, it requires us to find forgiveness for ourselves and others. This is a major part recovery. But when we deal with deep wounds, we are left wondering HOW to forgive. Because it can be difficult, right? Not just to say "I forgive them/myself", but to really MEAN IT. In this video, I teach you the 7 Steps of Unconditional Forgiveness so you can release emotional burdens and experience genuine porn addiction recovery. Ep. 3- The Addiction/Fear Cycle: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2056963/11791587 If you want to know how to get rid of porn addiction, sign up for my FREE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY MASTERCLASS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/masterclass FREE EBOOK & AUDIOBOOK THE S.A.W. METHOD to decrease porn cravings: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook THE MEDITATIONS TO QUIT PORN: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-meditations-to-quit-porn MENTAL HEALTH MEDITATIONS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/meditations PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COURSES: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/courses Looking for ONE-ON-ONE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COACHING? Reach out to me: jake@becomeagoodman.com Blog: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/forgiveness-how-to-break-free-of-porn-addiction YouTube: https://youtu.be/LDGUFgP2HaY https://www.becomeagoodman.com

When asked where pornography addiction comes from, many of us are tempted to say “sex cravings”, lust, dopamine, or “boys will be boys.” These all play a part, but I feel that none of them get to the core of the issue. I’ve spent 12 years coming to understand addiction by living my own recovery. I’ve dug deep, seeking for the true roots. I didn't want to just quit porn addiction, but to lose my desire for it entirely. After living addiction recovery, and studying it in both ancient and modern wisdom, I created The Addiction/Fear Cycle. This Cycle outlines not only the cause of porn addiction but all addiction. It deals with the fundamental reasons we crave and seek out worldly attachments. If you want to know how to get rid of porn addiction, sign up for my FREE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY MASTERCLASS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/masterclass FREE EBOOK & AUDIOBOOK THE S.A.W. METHOD to decrease porn cravings: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook THE MEDITATIONS TO QUIT PORN: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-meditations-to-quit-porn MENTAL HEALTH MEDITATIONS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/meditations PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COURSES: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/courses Looking for ONE-ON-ONE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COACHING? Reach out to me: jake@becomeagoodman.com Blog: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/post/the-addiction-fear-cycle-where-pornography-addiction-comes-from YouTube: https://youtu.be/JHbIZKd-tZk https://www.becomeagoodman.com

Welcome to this Healing Social Anxiety Meditation by Become A Good Man. I’m Jake Kastleman, and I’ll be your guide today. I struggled with social anxiety for over 15 years. It was so intense sometimes that I even felt it when I was by myself. I searched for answers for years. I wanted something that not only calmed my mind in the moment, but reshaped my very thought patterns and beliefs so that anxiety disappeared. This social anxiety relaxation technique - which is called Alignment Meditation - does exactly that. It is derived from ancient teachings of both Eastern and Western Faiths and has taken many years to perfect. If you find this meditation helpful, download the social anxiety meditation course. This series of 6 specialized meditations trains your mind to allow conversation to flow naturally in the moment & helps you feel confident in social situations. You’ll find a link to it below. Throughout this meditation, I will use the word “God” to refer to Higher Power. This word means something different to everyone. Let it represent your Higher Power. Whether that be Krishna, Christ, the Buddha within, the Tao, Universal love, or otherwise, my intent is for you to find peace and connect with the essence that transcends the physical mind and body. SOCIAL ANXIETY MEDITATIONS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-social-anxiety-meditations ANXIETY MEDITATIONS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-anxiety-meditations MEDITATIONS TO INCREASE MOTIVATION & CONCENTRATION: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-focus-meditations MEDITATIONS TO QUIT PORN: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-meditations-to-quit-porn FREE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY MASTERCLASS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/masterclass FREE EBOOK/AUDIOBOOK to help you curb porn cravings: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook 20-WEEK PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COURSE: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course ONE-ON-ONE ADDICTION RECOVERY COACHING: jake@becomeagoodman.com https://www.becomeagoodman.com

This addiction recovery meditation is the product of 12 years of meditative practice and studying both Eastern and Western faiths to create guided meditations that reshape thought patterns and beliefs and bring relief to the mind. I use Alignment Meditation to relieve stress and anxiety and overcome addiction. These guided meditations walk you through a process to align with Higher Power and find inner peace. It is a guided meditation for God’s help. For a deeper experience, check out The Meditations to Quit Porn, a 10-part series that helps you undo the 4 pillars of addiction, stop seeing people as a collection of body parts, and find a deeper connection with inner Self. MEDITATIONS TO QUIT PORN: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-meditations-to-quit-porn ANXIETY MEDITATIONS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-anxiety-meditations SOCIAL ANXIETY MEDITATIONS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-social-anxiety-meditations MEDITATIONS TO INCREASE MOTIVATION & CONCENTRATION: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-focus-meditations 20-WEEK PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COURSE: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/no-more-desire-course FREE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY MASTERCLASS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/masterclass FREE EBOOK/AUDIOBOOK to help you curb porn cravings: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook https://www.becomeagoodman.com

What if I told you that you are only good? That there is no bad in you? What if I told you that your being contains no evil or fear, but only love? Most likely, this sounds like a strange concept. Either it brings up memories of pop songs that say “You’re amazing just the way you are” or mother’s kissing their children on the forehead as they tell them “you’re perfect.” Before you head out on a road of misgivings, let me explain. Porn addiction recovery requires a major shift in perspective. If we want to quit porn, we must learn over time to center our focus on the things of peace, connection, and depth. And so, we must understand that we - and all around us - are, in truth, only good. This is because there is not only one “you”. Rather, there are two versions of you, my friend. What are these two versions? They are the ego and the True Self. Addiction comes from ego - or the false self. The ego bases its identity upon past and future, strengths and weaknesses, history and choices, and the opinions of others. The ego bases its self-worth upon what is fallible - possessions, accomplishments, status, etc. It feeds off of fear and seeks to remain separate from others. Porn addiction is born within this mental and spiritual space of separation. Then, there is the True Self. This is the self we must come to recognize if we want to overcome porn addiction. The True Self is whole. It knows only the present moment. Past and future do not exist for the True Self. It knows its oneness with all beings and with Higher Power. Its only desire is to extend goodness to everything that exists. Which of these versions of self do you believe is the real you? To learn more about how to tap into the True Self and get rid of pornography addiction, listen to my latest podcast episode: Ep. 2: You Are Only Good: Get Rid of Porn Addiction by Knowing True Self. Register for my FREE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY MASTERCLASS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/masterclass FREE EBOOK & AUDIOBOOK THE S.A.W. METHOD to decrease porn cravings: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook THE MEDITATIONS TO QUIT PORN: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-meditations-to-quit-porn MENTAL HEALTH MEDITATIONS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/meditations PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COURSES: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/courses Looking for ONE-ON-ONE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COACHING? Reach out to me: jake@becomeagoodman.com https://www.becomeagoodman.com

I'll share my porn addiction story to teach you how to get rid of pornography addiction through first-hand experience, with tips to overcome porn addiction that I’ve learned through over 7 years of sobriety. These are the methods I’ve used for my own pornography addiction recovery. What many don’t understand about porn addiction, is that the addiction is just a symptom. It is not the problem. The problem is disconnection, insecurity, anxiety, negative thinking patterns, etc. These come in part because of mental and emotional pain and a perceived lack of self-worth. These are lies the ego (or the addict brain) uses to keep us in addiction. Just like me, you can learn step-by-step how to overcome porn addiction. Once you start to understand where your suffering stems from, you can then take the steps to quit porn addiction. I hope you find hope in my porn addiction recovery story and it empowers you to overcome your sex addiction, or to know how to help someone who is addicted to porn. Sign up for my FREE PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY MASTERCLASS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/masterclass Download the MEDITATIONS TO QUIT PORN: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/the-meditations-to-quit-porn FREE EBOOK & AUDIOBOOK- 3 simple techniques to SIDESTEP PORN CRAVINGS: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/free-ebook Learn about my 20 WEEK PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY COURSE: https://www.becomeagoodman.com/course YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/JlfRq4nHKOI https://www.becomeagoodman.com