The Happiest Lives Podcast

Welcome to part 3 of The Relationship Foundations Series. Are you certain about your loveability? What if we told you it's not about becoming more loveable but about realizing that your loveability is already absolute and unchanging? Join us today on Happiest Lives podcast as we take a deep dive into the profound connection between our capacity to love and our relationship with God. We'll uncover the transformative power of God's love and discuss how it influences our self-worth and relationships. Have you ever wrestled with the concept of unconditional love? It's about loving someone wholeheartedly, irrespective of their actions, without expecting anything in return. It's not easy, but it's highly rewarding. Let's chat about how God's love can provide us with solace and strength and guide us to let go of resentment, hurt, and bitterness. By accepting that we are loved beyond measure, we can extend this love to others and create a ripple effect of love in our surroundings. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode, we continue the series Relationship Foundations as we dive into the subject of Boundaries. Because relationship boundaries start in your mind, having a clear picture of where you end and another begins is crucial as you decide how you want to respond in your relationships. Sometimes we may need to declare a boundary and enforce a consequence for violations; however many times we simply need to honor our own boundaries. Boundaries are never about controlling or punishing another person but are about protecting and taking responsibility for yourself, all the while honoring another's free will to do as they choose. Join me this week as we continue our journey to healthier, happier relationships. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Join me for part two of the series, Relationship Foundations, where we look at the core concepts that will change the way you approach the people you love. This week we talk about Desires and Wants. What do you truly want in your relationship? What if your partner doesn't want the same thing? How should you feel about your wants and desires when they seem to cause you pain? Dealing with things on your own (*lonely*) and turning toward your partner and constantly being let down (*frustrating*) aren't the only two options when it comes to desires in your relationship. In this episode, I show you a third alternative. Wanting is a big part of being human. Connecting with shared wants is a meaningful way to love each other. I'll show you what to do when your expectations aren't met and share a practical exercise to help couples align their wants and build a more genuine connection. Join us on this transformative journey and redefine your relationship. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and fuel your relationships? This episode promises to take your understanding of relationships - with yourself, others, and God - to a whole new level. Imagine an engine where each part is connected, all contributing to the overall function. The same goes for our relationships; our thoughts, feelings, and actions are all required to keep the engine smooth and robust. We dive into the dynamics of these interactions, scrutinizing the impact of our perceptions on our relationships, the pitfalls of attempting to control others, and the power of authenticity. Shift your thought gears and prepare for a journey to transform your relationships. We'll explore the power of changing your thoughts and the profound ripple effect it can have on our relationships. We take a hard look at how our stories about the past, shaped by our current thoughts and feelings, can evolve over time. We emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for our own feelings and choosing our thoughts intentionally to create healthier, more loving relationships. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

What if the key to success lies in our failures? Buckle up for a riveting conversation where we dissect failure and how it shapes our identity. This episode is the last in our series on Being & Doing, and it's a game-changer! When we stop perceiving failure as a setback, we experience it as a stepping stone to resilience, confidence, and determination. After listening to today's podcast, you'll realize that avoiding failure could actually be costing you more by disconnecting you from the very essence of your life. This thought-provoking discussion aims to reimagine and redefine failure as a catalyst for growth, opening doors to new experiences and opportunities. This episode will fuel you with the courage to take risks, learn from your mistakes and create the life you've always envisioned. I'll share my insights on how our beliefs about failure mold our identity and how being receptive to failure can lead us to our true selves. I can't wait to hear your personal stories of failure and how you've transformed them into stepping stones. Here's a toast to embracing failure and perseverance despite the occasional stumble. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Your aspirations reflect your core values and dreams, while goals are the building blocks to realizing your aspirations. Join Jill Lillard, MA LPC as she explores these concepts in a spiritual context, discussing the role of faith in shaping our lives with intentional and disciplined goal setting. This episode is part of the series on Being & Doing, and unveils the importance of daily practices that honor God, helping us to love others and perceive ourselves in relation to the greater whole. Uncover how to effectively set goals that align with your aspirations and create impactful results. We'll use the scientific method to draw hypotheses and guide our goal-setting process, providing insights into the importance of prayerful commitment. As we walk through this process, you'll learn that working towards your goals doesn’t have to be a burden. We also delve into the energy required to realize our aspirations. Prepare yourself to journey through life and faith, grow in character, and experience the greatness of God. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

What if you could unlock the secret to living a life fueled by emotions on purpose? As we explore the relationship between Being & Doing, we delve into why we want what we want and what it is that we think will make us happy. You will learn how to feel on purpose, owning your emotional experiences. In this episode Jill shares valuable techniques for identifying the desired feelings and sensations you want to experience, as well as crafting thoughts that lead to those emotions. Learn from three essential scriptures that emphasize choosing our thoughts to redirect our lives. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This episode is part of the four-part series on Being & Doing. You will learn why we do certain things and why we may not do what we want to do. I introduce The Heart Scan Process as a way of gaining a deeper understanding of your life and creating change. You will discover: Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

The Hallmark of happy couples is NOT that they never have disagreements or regrettable incidences. What sets the "masters of marriage" apart from the "disasters of marriage," as Gottman likes to classify them, is Repair Attempts. If you can have a fight but come back together and effectively move forward, learning from your last conversation that didn’t go well, then you are on the right track for a growing relationship. This week I show you how to repair your conversations by tapping the breaks, taking a time out, and coming back together. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Do you have issues in your marriage where you don't see eye to eye? When the topic comes up, do you lock horns and get stuck in hurt? Nothing is wrong that you have a "problem." However, if you become gridlock over it, you may decide, "It's better to deal with this on my own," a thought that ignites the cascade of distance, loneliness, and isolation. Though the fighting has stopped, you are now separate lives. There has to be another alternative to move forward and get unstuck. I tell you how here. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Here I explore four habitual ways of engaging that shut down communication and can destroy your relationship. If you want better conversations, I will show you what to do instead. This is part of the Better Conversations Series. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

The Talk Table is a conversation tool that will allow you to stay calm, listen better, and effectively share. Learn four tips for using this tool so you can create better conversations. This is part of The Better Conversations Series. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This episode is part of The Better Conversations series. We have the amazing opportunity and capacity to exchange thoughts and feelings with others. However, sometimes conversations don't go as planned, and we decide that conversations can be hard. In this episode, I tell you the ONE reason your conversations are hard and give you three tips for creating Better Conversations. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

True Joy is rooted in a relationship with Christ and others. Join me with special guest Becky Harling as she walks us through four aspects of joy highlighted in her first group devotional book Rooted Joy, part of The Girlfriends Gathering Series. You can find Becky's books and more at www.beckyharling.com Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Happiness does not mean we have positive feelings all the time. Life is 50/50; to create a happy life, we must make room for negative emotions. All your feelings, the negative ones included, can be portals to experiencing more of God's presence. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

If you want to feel better, you must first understand the REAL reason why you are feeling the way you are. In this episode, you will discover seven sneaky thought errors and what to do about them. When you get to the root of your dissatisfaction, you can take your power back regaining peace and joy. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

There are many different ideas and questions about happiness. Does being happy imply that we will never feel terrible? Is there a formula for happiness? Is being happy something we should even strive for as Christians? I answer all this and more as I give you 5 Biblical teachings on happiness that you can apply to your life. Unlike momentary, fleeting pleasure, true happiness can sustain us through the worst times. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Though where we are is uncomfortable, getting to where we want to be can feel terrifying. Oftentimes we sit on the shorelines of our life, choosing familiar discomfort over our deepest longings. Between where we are and where we are going, we find ourselves in a sea of struggle or surrender. Everything changes when we invite the Lord into the misery of becoming, surrendering to him rather than our circumstances. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

When you received Jesus, you received a new identity. The old is gone, yet you are still becoming who you already are, awaiting this transformation's fullness. This is a paradox that we can't fully understand. When we think things should be different than they are, we become discouraged. In this episode, I give you six tips for living in the tension of the already but not yet. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Creating change starts with our intellect, emotion, and will. Actions must follow. Even as we press on, we will experience unwanted emotions that seem to work against our deepest desires. When we declare new truths and take action despite these feelings, we will keep moving forward and build a better relationship with ourselves as we honor our greatest values. Take this work and apply it in my cost-effective coaching group Clarity+Courage, where you will get live coaching, application tools, workshops, lessons, Scripture studies, and other tools that help you apply the concepts so you can create change. When you join, you get access to a whole vault of classes, tools, and coaching calls. Learn more at https://www.myhappyvault.com. Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com