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You were made for fulfilling relationships. Listen each week to stories of people finding hope and encouragement in their relationships so that you can too. Host and award-winning author John Certalic, together with his guests, share principles of life-giving relationships. John’s relationship story starts with his birth to a single mother and placement in foster care for the first 16 months of his life. From this comes four different careers, 48 years of marriage to the same wife, and much he has learned about relationships. John draws from all this, along with inspiring stories from his guests, to share how you can find more fulfillment in the relationships you were made for.

You were made for fulfilling relationships. Listen each week to stories of people finding hope and encouragement in their relationships so that you can too. Host and award-winning author John Certalic, together with his guests, share principles of life-giving relationships. John’s relationship story starts with his birth to a single mother and placement in foster care for the first 16 months of his life. From this comes four different careers, 48 years of marriage to the same wife, and much he has learned about relationships. John draws from all this, along with inspiring stories from his guests, to share how you can find more fulfillment in the relationships you were made for.
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You were made for fulfilling relationships. Listen each week to stories of people finding hope and encouragement in their relationships so that you can too. Host and award-winning author John Certalic, together with his guests, share principles of life-giving relationships. John’s relationship story starts with his birth to a single mother and placement in foster care for the first 16 months of his life. From this comes four different careers, 48 years of marriage to the same wife, and much he has learned about relationships. John draws from all this, along with inspiring stories from his guests, to share how you can find more fulfillment in the relationships you were made for.

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Episodes

023_Reminding Each Other of Our Own Stories

4/17/2019
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“The most powerful words in the English language are ‘tell me a story,’” says Pat Conroy. Today’s episode contains two relationship stories that illustrate the power of doing something small that achieves something big. I can’t seem to get the episode from two weeks ago out of my mind, #21, “The Most Important Relationship of all.” The relationship story I talked about certainly is an active part of my life, but it’s the quote of the week that lately seems to be following me around wherever...

Duration:00:18:43

022_Pay it Forward with Our Stories

4/10/2019
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Relationships are often built upon what we learn from others who share their stories with us. We grow when their story becomes part of our story, so we then have something to pay it forward to others. Listen in to learn how. I’ve been thinking more about last week’s episode #21 “The Most Important Relationship of All.” It was about a story told to me when I was 19 that set me on the path I’ve been following ever since. I can’t imagine how my life would have turned out if it were not for...

Duration:00:10:55

021_The Most Important Relationship of All

4/3/2019
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Relationships are important, but there is one that is more important than all others. What we decide about that relationship will set the trajectory for the rest of our life. Listen in to learn more. Am I the only one, or do you ever think about how the trajectory of your life has been shaped by a single event you experienced many years ago? And how when that event occurred you had no idea how it would alter the rest of your life? Each year, when tomorrow comes around, April 4th, I can’t...

Duration:00:22:36

020_Relating with People Who Talk Too Much

3/27/2019
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What should our relationship be with people who talk too much or otherwise annoy us? Should we write them off as too self-absorbed and move on? Or is there another way to relate? Today’s episode explores this issue. A listener in Florida contacted me recently about a problem they were having that I sometimes have: People who talk too much. People who talk AT you, rather than WITH you. “It is so very draining,” this listener commented. I can certainly relate. A few days ago I was at at a...

Duration:00:20:40

019_Encouraged by a Millennial and Her Gen Z Sister

3/20/2019
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Our relationships are enriched and encouraged when we get to know people outside our own generational and relational box. Today’s show brings encouragement in abundance from a Millennial and her Generation Z sister. The last two episodes, 17 and 18, about the relationship between two sisters, has triggered some thinking in me that I want to share with you today. There’s been quite a bit written about Millennials, and increasingly more about the generation coming up behind them, Generation...

Duration:00:14:41

018_Two Sisters - Part 2

3/13/2019
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Today I want to finish the interview we started in last week’s episode 17, ” Two Sisters - Part 1.” If you listened to that show you may recall that I spoke with two sisters in their ’20’s, Hannah and Abby Barbeau. It was to learn what we could from them about sibling relationships, and also their thoughts about other relationship matters. Their perspective, as a millennial and someone from Generation Z, - suggest principles we can all apply to OUR relationships, regardless of our...

Duration:00:35:59

017_Two Sisters - Part 1

3/6/2019
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I recently had breakfast with a pastor friend who retired last year. A very young 70-old guy who is now off doing other meaningful things with his life. Among other things, Mike and I talked about the transition he led his congregation through to prepare for his passing the baton on to the next generation of leadership at his church. He talked about the importance of the older generation disciplining and mentoring the younger crowd. Mike said, “I encouraged people my age to ‘adopt a...

Duration:00:28:34

016_Two Ways to Care for a Missionary

2/27/2019
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Relationships between missionaries and those who send them are designed to be mutually beneficial. Today’s episode describes how to care for that relationship, and what the people back home get in return. Listener Responses to Prior Episodes The first one is from a missionary who served in Asia, and is now living in Germany. She responded to Episode 9 Shadows Connect Us with Each Other. “I was touched by the point you made about ‘healing takes time.’ It sums up last year’s journey for me...

Duration:00:20:20

015_When There Are No Words

2/20/2019
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Listener Responses to prior episodes I find that the study of relationships and people is a life long journey I am glad to be on. Although sometimes it is rather depressing, when people don’t want to embrace change or grow out of destructive patterns. That being said, I find that to engage in deep relationships both parties must be willing, there must be a level of truth and honesty along with love & listening.Thank you for your study of people and your deep caring, listening and now...

Duration:00:16:46

014_Relationship Skills - Level 4

2/13/2019
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Hello everyone and welcome to episode 14, Relationship Skills - Level 4. This episode is the last of our series on the 4 levels of relationship skills. But before we dive into this topic, I want to share some listener responses to our podcast that have been coming in since we started at the end of November 2018. December 19. Hi John, I just wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed the last two podcasts specific to joy. It made so much sense to me. ~ C.M. - Wisconsin December 24. Hello...

Duration:00:21:03

013_Relationship Skills - Level 3

2/6/2019
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Hello everyone and welcome to episode 13, Relationship Skills - Level 3. If you are a first time listener, please know that this podcast is all about relationships and transforming them into the best they can be. We started a series on the four levels of relationship skill a few weeks ago. And today we’re focusing on level three. I’ll have links to the previous tywo episodes in this series at the bottom of the show notes. In the two prior episodes we talked about our varying stages of...

Duration:00:17:29

012_Relationship Skills - Level 2

1/30/2019
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In episode 11 last week I mentioned that the first step in improving our relationship skill is to assess the level we are it in our relational development. Knowing our starting point helps us see what how far we have to go to become more skilled in our relationships. It can motivate us to move to higher levels of relational expertise. Let me run through the four levels real quickly, then we’ll come back and focus the rest of our time on level 2. I hope as we go through these you will see...

Duration:00:21:34

011_Relationship Skills - Level 1

1/23/2019
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Last week in episode 10, I talked about the two features found in every good relationship, the first being want. The desire to want the relationship to be the best it can be, as evidenced by taking action to enhance a relationship. Relationships take work and if we’re not willing to work at it, they’re not going to be sustainable. We have to want it bad enough to work for it. That’s the first feature. The second feature of every good relationship is skill, we can want a good relationship...

Duration:00:18:19

010_Two Features of Every Good Relationship

1/16/2019
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If you’ve listened to any of our previous episodes you’ll know by now that this podcast is all about relationships. Relationships are what we are all made for. Fulfilling, life-giving relationships. Some of our relationships are like that. But others sometimes are not. What’s the difference between good relationships that work well and those that don’t’? It comes down to two words. The first is want. The second word I’ll save for the end of the episode, so be sure to hang around until...

Duration:00:12:02

009_Shadows Connect Us with Each Other

1/9/2019
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In last week’s episode 8, I was going to comment at the end about my interview with Charley and Ruth Shirley, but our executive producer, Carol thought that would detract from what they had to say. So rather than prattle on (Carol hates prattle), she suggested I put my comments in the show notes, which I did. At the end of the show I mentioned that today’s episode would be about the four levels of relationship skills, which I’ve been looking forward to discussing. But in our production...

Duration:00:17:48

008_How a Wife and her Daughter Brought Healing

1/2/2019
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Hello and welcome to all our listeners to episode 8. Today’s show is a day of firsts. It’s the first episode of 2019 - Happy New Year, by the way - and it’s also the first interview we’re doing in the podcast. I want to get the new year off to a good start, so I’m sharing this particular interview because it’s something I think you’ll find uplifting You know, most of us have at least 1 or 2 relationships we would characterize as good. As healthy. There’s nothing wrong at all with them. And...

Duration:00:21:31

007_The Year in Review. The Year Ahead.

12/26/2018
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Welcome to episode 7, the year in review and the year ahead. I like to think of it as the best of 2018. But since we only started on November 28th, it’s also the ALL of 2018. By way of a brief review, and for any first-time listeners, this podcasts is all about relationships. Experience and observation have taught me that relationships are one of the most rewarding aspects of life, and at the same time, one of the most frustrating. The goal of this podcast is to help people experience more...

Duration:00:17:52

006_The Gift of Joy - Part 2

12/19/2018
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Today in "The Gift of Joy - Part 2" I need to admit that all the joy we hear around Christmas time often doesn’t register with me. For me, the more melancholy Christmas carols drown out the mood of the joyful ones. The ambience around “I’ll be home for Christmas” and “White Christmas” more typically characterize my emotions than “Joy to the World.” My heart tend to drift the melancholy side of life anyway, and Christmas tends to push me even more in that direction. Most of it has to do with...

Duration:00:15:28

005_The Gift of Joy - Part 1

12/12/2018
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I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but it seems too me there’s an awful lot of talk about joy this time of year. December. The Christmas season. The Christmas carols. It’s even gotten into marketing, the joy of this, the joy of that. It seems we all want joy. But for all the talk, where do we see joy and how do we get it? More joy in our life. More joy in our relationships. In this episode, and the next, I want to talk about joy as a gift we can give ourselves. We can give this gift to...

Duration:00:12:05

004_The Gift of Even Though

12/5/2018
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Many of us have holes in our heart. I’m not thinking of the physical kind, I’m thinking about the emotional kind. The emotional holes in our heart. I’ve noticed that some people never get over what’s missing in their life, while other people compensate for what they don’t have , and redeem this lack in their lives by filling that hole with something else that is good, and noble, and pure. In today’s episode I’ll share with you a recent telephone conversation Janet and I had with a...

Duration:00:20:01