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In this show, we'll explore and discover things that you haven’t been aware of regarding the nature and design of human relationships. Produced by Heard Not Seen Media, Inc.

In this show, we'll explore and discover things that you haven’t been aware of regarding the nature and design of human relationships. Produced by Heard Not Seen Media, Inc.

Location:

United States

Description:

In this show, we'll explore and discover things that you haven’t been aware of regarding the nature and design of human relationships. Produced by Heard Not Seen Media, Inc.

Language:

English

Contact:

760-603-8343


Episodes

023 Compromise In Relationships

10/28/2020
Today our topic is “Compromise in Relationships" recorded with the community on October 10, 2020. Happy Halloween! Anyone can join in on these calls by going to our Community Page and sign-up to receive notifications about upcoming calls. Contact Us Sandy & Lon Golnick www.RelationshipByDesign.com 760-603-8343

Duration:01:26:22

022 Community Call: The Pitfalls of Promises

9/1/2020
Today our topic is “The Pitfalls of Promises” on our twice-monthly Zoom Community Call. At the end of the call, someone asked if there would be a replay of the call? We took a poll to make sure nobody would have any problem if we shared the complete call. Nobody objected so here it is. The complete 1-hour and 18-minute audio version of the call. The complete video version is available from our YouTube channel and can be found here. Anyone can join in on these calls by going to our...

Duration:01:18:26

021 Community Call: You can do it. Or you can pretend you can’t.

8/25/2020
The original title of this episode recorded on August 15, 2020, was “Do you have your relationship handled? Part 2" HOWEVER at the top of the call Lon asked the question “What’s possible with going forward?” So as it is with all relationships, things change. Carol England gave us permission to use her extended comments about how she and Jeff are thriving in “possibility” these days. You’ll want to hear about that. Do consider joining us in the conversations we’re having twice a month....

Duration:00:29:01

020 Community Call Exploring: Do You Have Your Relationship Handled?

8/4/2020
We thought today we’d give you more excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. If you like what you hear, consider joining us for the next call by going to the Community page on our website at RelationshipByDesign.com and sign up to receive notifications about upcoming calls. Conversations and Topics Covered Today Introduction to the topic for todayLon, Paul, and...

Duration:00:19:00

019 Community Call Excerpts July 11, 2020

7/21/2020
We thought today we’d give you some excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. If you like what you hear, consider joining us for the next call by going to the Community page on our website at RelationshipByDesign.com and sign up to receive notifications about upcoming calls. Conversations and Topics Covered Today Introduction.Power.What do I have to lose?Choice and...

Duration:00:31:25

018 What if a Snarky Remark is a Red Flag?

7/7/2020
Have you ever said something snarky, spiteful, unkind, or just plain thoughtless, to someone you love? How did it go? Did you get into a fight or hear a defensive reaction? Or worse. Perhaps you ended a relationship. It happened to us and opened a door to greater intimacy. As Paul started to take lunch to his desk, Carol let fly this one: “So, do you like your computer better than your wife?” The tone was accusatory, not inviting. As soon as Carol said it, she knew that it had come out...

Duration:00:03:21

017 Irritations in Relationships

6/23/2020
At the beginning of our workshop, “Relationship: The Real Deal,” some participants are startled when we announce this intention: “The issues you have been dealing with, trying to fix, or just plain tolerating … dissolve/disappear simply by being in relationship.” For people who believe that successful relationships require work, that intention seems improbable, even outrageous. For Paul and me, issues dissolving and disappearing is a daily occurrence. Recently, I was irritated and...

Duration:00:03:22

016 When Your Relationship Isn’t Working, What Should You Do?

6/9/2020
Well, our first question for you is, “Are you willing to set aside your penchant to fix, change or leave your relationship?” Leaving, either physically or emotionally, surely doesn’t resolve anything. It simply transports your concerns to your next relationship. But staying and trying to deal with it doesn’t resolve anything either - especially when you don’t know what you’re dealing with. Fixing and changing do not work when you don’t know what you’re working on in the first place. So...

Duration:00:02:47

015 Ordinary to Extraordinary… in a Moment

5/26/2020
How do people move from ordinary relationship to extraordinary relationship? In ordinary relationship, we react to upsets by pulling out of the experience of relationship, the experience that we actually long for. It’s extraordinary to be aware that upset, irritation or annoyance are simply our individual reactions to ordinary events. At any given moment, you can choose to interrupt your automatic instinct to blame another for your being upset, and to stay connected to that other person....

Duration:00:04:51

014 Distancing Relationship

4/16/2020
For many of us during this time of “physical distancing,” we’re finding ourselves at home, sheltered in place, and in close-quarters with family members, and just maybe feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all. As Lon&Sandy said in this episode, “It could be said that family - is a network of relationships.” If you’d like to join us on the Zoom community calls we have, head over to RelationShipByDesign.com and go to the Community Page. At the bottom of the page, there’s a place to sign-up and...

Duration:00:40:56

013 Parents: Outside The Trap Workshop

3/18/2020
In this episode, Sandy&Lon continue with John briefly educating us on a coaching course they had done years ago for parents titled Parents: Outside The Trap. Are you interested in knowing more about the course? Let us know here. If you’d like to join us on Zoom for community “What’s On Your Mind?” calls, click here and add yourself to the notification list. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About Relationship Contact Us Sandy & Lon...

Duration:00:08:32

012 Relationships: Arrangements and Understandings

3/4/2020
In this episode, John Biethan the producer of the podcast, asks Sandy&Lon for their comments on his thoughts about "arrangements." In some family relationships, in certain conditions, and when people get together in relationship and marriage, there “may” be a conscious or unconscious “arrangement and/or agreement” at play. In the next episode, Sandy&Lon discuss their workshop titled “Parents: Outside The Trap.” If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About...

Duration:00:04:59

011 Strike 3: Hostile Backdrop

2/19/2020
Subtitled: An Individual-based paradigm In this episode, we’ve taken the liberty of starting off with the last few minutes of the previous episode 10, Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 2, where Sandy&Lon talk about relationships during the holiday season. For more insights into the impact the holidays may have on your relationships, listen to episode 6, Strike 1: The Fantasy, and episode 8, Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here:...

Duration:00:12:25

010 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 2

1/30/2020
www.RelationshipByDesign.com Continuing on from episode 008 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1, today Sandy&Lon take a deeper look into fear and what happens when it feeds into relationships when they're shaped. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About Relationship Contact Us Sandy & Lon Golnick www.RelationshipByDesign.com 760-603-8343

Duration:00:18:19

009 Is Resignation Shaping Your Relationship?

10/15/2019
www.RelationshipByDesign.com If you really listen to yourselves talking about your relationships, you’ll hear (1) how often you exaggerate with “always” and “never” - which fills your future with your past - and (2) how often you unconsciously talk about what happened in the past as if it’s happening now - which also fills your future with your past. Having a future filled with the past - which is, in a very real sense, forfeiting your future to the past - is the definition of resignation,...

Duration:00:02:49

008 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1

9/26/2019
www.RelationshipByDesign.com Commitments and promises are the foundation for every relationship. What is the basis for your relationships? For ALL relationships? There’s a foundation that all relationships rest, lay, or stand on. For the most part, as human beings, we haven’t really looked at what our relationships stand on. Today, Sandy and Lon explore what the basis is for all relationships. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About...

Duration:00:11:17

007: Are We Doing Politics The Way We Do Relationships?

9/17/2019
www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Paul Bennett from Relationship By Design is reading his blog post about Politics and Relationships. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in American politics today. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in relationships, too. Could there be a connection? All of us want politics to deliver what we want. What does your own list of wants include? Safe communities, a clean environment, world peace, sound infrastructure, education? What...

Duration:00:04:25

006 Strike 1: The Fantasy

9/12/2019
www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Sandy and Lon Golnick are talking about the “fantasy” in a relationship they call Strike 1. They’ll be covering the problems; what you’re looking for; everything you want, all the time, everywhere, w/everyone, forever - and that fantasy is not going away. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About Relationship Contact Us Sandy & Lon Golnick www.RelationshipByDesign.com 760-603-8343

Duration:00:14:47

005 What’s Hidden From View

9/6/2019
www.RelationshipByDesign.com Unseen conditions undermine effectiveness. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick take a look at what’s hidden from our view when we have upsets or concerns, and breakdowns in relationships. So what happens when you don’t see what’s actually going on? If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About Relationship Contact Us Sandy & Lon Golnick www.RelationshipByDesign.com 760-603-8343

Duration:00:06:45

004 What Is A Relationship?

8/29/2019
www.RelationshipByDesign.com Subtitled: Synonyms, characteristics, actions; you don’t know; problems; blame. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick have a short conversation discussing “What is a relationship?” The question is not answered here, but what’s given are a few things to consider when attempting to understand what a relationship is. If you’re new to Relationship By Design start here: Episode 001 Get Real About Relationship Contact Us Sandy & Lon...

Duration:00:05:42