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31: Ep. 31 - #MeToo. Our Stories - Part 3

She's baaaack!!! Hello lovely Choisters! Sorry I haven't been able to post for a couple of weeks. But don't worry, I'm back full force! Here is the third and final episode of the #MeToo. Our Stories Series!!! Once again, I want to thank every woman who shared their stories with me here on Choi Says. I also want to thank all the women out there who are sharing their stories and standing up and standing together. I learned so much and felt so much pride in being a woman while I made this...


30: Ep. 30 - #MeToo. Our Stories - Part 2

We're back with stories from more brave women. Thank you to all of you amazing women for sharing your stories. I stand with you. <3 **CONTAINS ADULT CONTENT AND LANGUAGE** Stories of their sexual assault. Stories of sexual harassment. Stories of shame, fear, and everything else that comes with it. Through this series, I hope to reach as many women as possible to encourage them to speak up. Tell their stories. Own your body. Own your past. Own your assault. I hope to reach men to understand...


29: Ep. 29 - #MeToo. Our Stories - Part 1

I've put together an amazing series of episodes of some amazing brave women and their stories. **_CONTAINS ADULT CONTENT AND LANGUAGE_** Stories of their sexual assault. Stories of sexual harassment. Stories of shame, fear, and everything else that comes with it. Through this series, I hope to reach as many women as possible to encourage them to speak up. Tell their stories. Own your body. Own your past. Own your assault. I also hope to reach men to understand the movement a little more and...


28: Ep. 28 - My Mental Health Journey

Whoa Nelly...! In this episode I get real up close and personal. I had quite the journey in my mental health. I think the biggest chunk of it was rather I accepted my mental illness or not. I credit all you lovely people listening to this for allowing me to be open and vulnerable about something I am learning to become OK with myself. I sincerely hope that this episode reaches someone and helps someone. In feeling like you're not alone. In feeling that you can talk about your mental illness....


27: Ep. 27 - The Invisible Illness

This week, my guest, Michael Lomas and I talk about how depression affected his life. How the stigma people had about depression made Michael stop seeking treatment at a young age. It wasn't until fairly recently, that he went back to getting treatment again and started being able to be more open about this. I connected with Michael's story in many ways and the brief conversation I had with him after the interview has helped me in a big way. Mostly in feeling less afraid to be open about my...


26: Ep. 26 - Choi Says Podcast

Happy 6-month anniversary to Choi Says Podcast!! Or is it a 6-month birthday? I'm not sure!! ANYWAY!!! I am so happy that I started this podcast. This podcast has brought me closer to my friends and helped me look deeper into myself. I've truly become a better person because of this podcast. In honor of hitting the 6-month mark, I did a little solo episode about Choi Says Podcast. How it came about, how it's affected me, and how I believe and hope it's affecting others. I hope you enjoy it....


25: Ep. 25 - How Do You Not Get Out Of It?

In this episode, my guest, Danny Longdon talks about the tragic death of his parents and how he's been dealing with it for the past 7 years. He talks about the great support system he had in his brother and his friends and how focusing on bettering himself has been greatly helpful in moving forward with his life. Danny does some work with [Next Door Solutions](, an organization in Santa Clara County that helps victims of domestic violence. They offer housing, support groups,...


24: Ep. 24 - 10 Principles of Burning Man and Choi

***Before I begin, there's a weird glitch between 8:17-8:36 but it does stop and it does not come back!!! Sorry about it!!*** HELLO! If you follow my personal social media, you must know how much Burning Man FOMO I've been feeling this past week. So I thought it was only fitting to do an episode about it as well. I truly grew so much as a person from going to Burning Man ONE TIME. Sadly, I did not go this year, but will be there next year. But while we're all here, and not in Black Rock...


23: Ep. 23 - You'll Be OK. Don't Give Up

This week's guest, Raya Belmonte, and I talk about the many adversities she experienced in her life. Beginning in her childhood with lack of positive attention from the people in her life. This led to her causing a lot of trouble in her younger years and struggling with her self-worth. Raya opens up about the ways she's wronged others in her life because of how low she was feeling. Also, about how she ended up with significant others who treated her horribly, also due to how low she felt....


22: Ep. 22 - Guilt

Guilt. What a difficult thing to overcome, right? In this episode. I talk about the effects that guilt can cause psychologically as well as physiologically and how you can deal with guilt and turn it into a positive thing for your life. You're not alone. We've all been through it. We all go through it. Enjoy the episode! KTHANKSBYE<3 Sources: [Psychology Today](


21: Ep. 21 - Moving Forward After A Loss

In this episode, guest, Bri and I talk about some of the ups and downs of growing up in a not-so-practical family structure. Also how the way she was raised shaped her into who she is today. Also we talk about a loss she experienced in a miscarriage and what her process of dealing with that and overcoming it was like. We discuss how not enough women talk about miscarriages and it really should be something that is talked about more openly. So many women blame themselves for the loss of a...


20: Ep. 20 - Fear Of Starting Over

In this super short and sweet mini episode, I talk about the fear of starting over. The fear of change. Inevitably, we all will need change in our lives in one or more aspects of our lives. Does it bring you joy? It's as simple as that. It's a tool that I try to use in my life each day. I hope it can come in handy for you as well. Enjoy! KTHANKSBYE<3


19: Ep. 19 - Respect The Process

In this episode, guest, Chrissy and I talk about addiction, mental health, and loss. How her struggles with those in her own life gives her a great perspective on how to help her clients as she works toward her doctorate degree in counseling psychology. Chrissy also speaks at great lengths about the role of privilege in one's mental and physical health, as well as in how it affects addiction. If you are struggling with mental health issues or addiction, please know that you can talk to...


18: Ep. 18 - Addiction

****Something very important that I forgot to include in the episode**** If someone you love is going through addiction and you don't know how to help them or how to deal with it emotionally, please look for an [al-anon meeting here]( or a [nar-anon meeting here]( These meetings can help you tremendously through a hard time of being there for someone with a drug or alcohol problem and help you along the way of being there for your loved one. In...


17: Ep. 17 - She Made The Move

CHOISTERS!!!! This week, I speak with my friend, writer Amelia Lovelace. She is the creator and the writer of [She Made The Move](, a lifestyle blog, which is categorized into dating, food, and everything else. Amelia Lovelace is her writing name. She remains faceless for this interview as she does for her blog and published writing because of the nature of a her blog which can get quite personal and, well, pretty steamy. We had so much fun recording this episode, and...


16: Ep. 16 - PRIDEFUL

Happy Pride Month!!! I volunteered for the NYC Pride March this weekend and just wanted to share a few thoughts on it. I loved being surrounded by love and feeling the oneness of HUMANS of all walks in their lives marching for one cause! It was beautiful and I'm so glad my friend Marco asked me to volunteer! LOVE IS LOVE <3 Check out [NYC Pride]( to learn more about the organization! Happy Listening! KTHANKSBYE<3


15: Ep. 15 - But It Ain't Gonna Rain Forever

This week, I talk to my non-blood brother, Mike Wang. We talk about his journey through life, growing up in a broken family, but making it work through the support of amazing family members and friends. Also assimilating to a new culture in moving to the States as a young boy without his parents and being a trouble maker through his adolescence and young adulthood. We talk about how he got out of a pattern of negative situations and got himself above all difficulties he faced as a young man....


14: Ep. 14 - One World, One Love #Bourdain

"**Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you… You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind**." -**Anthony Bourdain** You sure left some good behind. Thanks for allowing so many people to travel the world with you. Bon voyage. This week, instead of an interview episode, I record another solo episode in memory of the late Anthony Bourdain and...


13: Ep. 13 - You Are Not Alone

Today, I get a little personal, yet again. I talk about my struggle with mental health and finally getting some help with it. ADHD is a tricky condition that a lot of people think is made up and not taken seriously. I am finally starting to realize it can get better and taking action. Mental health is IMPORTANT. Mental health is REAL. Mental health makes you STRONG, not crazy. Talk to someone. Be heard. Be understood. You'd be surprised how big of an impact being heard can do. Thanks for...


12: Ep 12 - Listen To Yourself And Accept Help

This week, I talk to my amazing friend Melissa Meyer. Cover art photo - circa 2006? We laugh, we cry (ok, let's be honest… I CRY…), we just had the best conversation. Melissa opens up to me about an abusive relationship that she was in that caused her to cut people out of her life, myself included. We talk about at what moment she realized there was a problem and how she got through it. Below are some links and phone numbers to hotlines and support groups for anyone who may need a place to...