Re-frame and manage disappointment and aversion. See setbacks as opportunities. See failure as an event not an identity. Be open to new information and be willing to change your mind. Create a habit to motivate yourself.
To live a life that is less reactive it is necessary to put the Ego in it's place. View situations with clarity. It takes two to do this but it has to start somewhere. This podcast looks at the Spotlight Effect, Egocentric Behavior and Self Awareness.
We are the ones that individually decide who we will respect. Are we respecting more people or fewer people? Is our personal criteria more stringent or are there fewer people deserving of our respect? Respect is earned not just given, yet we need to give respect to receive respect. Respect does not necessarily require agreement.
Realistically, we all like the positive feelings of expressing validation. This validation includes those from our children, our spouse, our friends, our boss and our co-workers. Do you give validation to others? We should.