Concluding where we started with MLT 89 - discussing the "arc" of boundaries and where/when/how it all goes wrong especially if you have a fear of conflict. Send your comments, questions etc. and we'll talk MORE about this!
In this episode we talk about resistance to "the work" whether it's our program, our therapist, our trusted friends. Suddenly we're smarter than everyone else and no one knows what we know. For the boundaries section, we begin here and will conclude on Episode 90 about Fear of Conflict and Boundaries.
Someone sent me email about women who write to men in prison and other signs of codependency large and small. It happens on a curve - and everyone can be guilty of giving too much to too many for too long. The GPYB program is the way out
Part of our recovery is making decision all along the way as to who and what we are as a person and as a couple. Before you get back into a relationship, you need to decide what you're going to be and how you're going to decide if this person is for you. It's about "you get what you put up with" and how you arrive at what you put up with.
I have gotten a lot of email about ambivalence and "is there something wrong when I feel nothing or don't know what I'm feeling?" NO and AMBIVALENCE is part of the package of ALL human relationships. It's more than okay. It's part of the journey.
By special request - from a Meanie - some general topics we talk about a lot....is it GIVING or is it MANIPULATION???? When we are codependent and have little self-esteem, we have to think about this. We're talking about giving, getting involved with "project people" and fixer uppers, boundaries, self-esteem and narcissists.
In this episode it's a preview of the stalking material. Stalking is an epidemic and police departments are woefully undertrained in dealing with it. I have gotten emails from listeners around the world telling me about different cases. I think it's important to understand the epidemic that is stalking.
Boundaries keep us safe and tell the world you deserve to be treated this way and not that way. It's very clear that sometmes all about us are losing their heads and blaming it on us.Sometimes we must explain that we're not explaining. Healthy boundaries are respected by healthy people. Unhealthy people challenge and lose their heads over it.