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155: Q & A: Relationships, Triggers, And Narcissists

Rob bares it all out as he takes your questions—about love, relationships, and all other concerns—and answers it with honesty and sincerity. Explore the difficulties of developing a crush on another person during marriage; learn how to share your own shadows with your partner; find the generosity to your partner when facing big fundamental triggers […]


154: Sexual Taboo: Tapping Into Your Authentic Self

We all have them—sexual taboos. And usually, they’re our biggest turn-ons. Why is “The Forbidden” so erotic? Taboo rules most religions; it’s launched wars, divorces, and probably some of the best sex you’ve ever had. Acclaimed sexologist, Eva Clay and, spiritual teacher and therapist, Tobin Zivon unravel the allure and share their perspectives on how […]


153: Conflict And Mess with Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Nas is the host of the highly successful and amazing podcast, The Gender Knot. Our first meeting was when we recorded my guest appearance on the show about men and shame. There are many ways that I can describe my experience of this first meeting and the best way I can describe it is this […]


152: I Brag

What do you do when life is so good that you don't know what to do with it? How does one confront when things are going your way? How do you stay sane when all you've known is stress and pain to motivate you? It's no easy feat. Listen to your own internal voice. Say […]


151: The Bold Life with Adam Gilad

Boldness is the courage to get free and be free. That means internally getting free from your ego and from anything that keeps you smaller. Adam Gilad has excavated boldness in conversation, presentation and lifestyle choices. He’s been a dating, relationship, lifestyle, and business coach and teacher for fourteen years. He says you've got to […]


150: You’re a Free Woman

When I first started dating Morgan, I said to her a simple phrase, "You're a free woman." I explained that when it came to our dating or engaging in physical intimacy with other people, she didn't need to ask me permission, owe me an explanation, or even have to tell me ahead of time. She […]


149: Six Conversations 4.1: How We Hide Behind Our Superpowers with Tobin Zivon and Eva Clay

Sometimes a whole pattern or strategy in life can be set into motion in one moment. Growing up a raging introvert, acclaimed sexologist Eva Clay was always nervous during family gatherings and would sit during the whole gathering with this book open pretending to read it. It gave her incredible comfort and set into motion […]


148: The Motivations For Overcoming Adversity with Luke Storey

All of us have great dreams and great things we want to do. We may implement great practices in order to achieve them, but how do we motivate ourselves mentally to do that? Luke Storey is an amazing human being. After kicking heroin, alcohol and crack at 26 years old, he went on to become […]


147: The Wisdom Of The Warrior Sage with Satyen Raja

The warrior aspect within us is the one that's willing to feel and walk on the path where there are inconveniences in our life, where we have a contracture, where we hold back from magnifying our full destiny. For Satyen Raja, the warrior is the one that moves forward, in spite of fear, in the […]


146: Social Confidence with Myke Macapinlac

Women these days are starting to look for something else. Being a provider as a man, to succeed these days, at least from a dating perspective, isn't enough. You have to have social confidence. You have to become the person who brings the whole package, someone excited about his life, someone who's got his own […]


145: The Three Paths at the Cross Road

You could be subconsciously unaware or undeliberately playing small in your little straight jacket to ensure that there will be no disruption between yourself and the person you’re in a relationship with. Sometimes, you’re taking steps to minimize yourself to protect myself from the fear of being abandoned or the chasm that may be created […]


144: Why Women Want Bad Boys with Esmee A St. James

Esmee A St. James is the Dating Muse helping singles find each other in this challenging world of romance. She first found this calling as a professional model and photographer where she felt her fascination around the attraction between the sexes. She is releasing her book, "Chick Magnet: What Men don't know what women wish […]


143: When It’s Time To Hire

A viewpoint in business says hire slowly, fire quickly. The concept of that is take your time for strategic hires into your business. Take your time to figure out the right fit and the right thing fit into the culture. The fine line between the power of working alone and the time to hire, you […]


142: When Self-Help Isn’t Helping with Samantha Skelly

I had a blast doing Samantha Skelly's show Hungry for Happiness. It was one of those interviews where we started ending each other's sentences. We'll be talking about the vicious cycle of self-care and love in today's world. Sam writes, "The idea that happiness, wholeness, and joy is conditional upon getting ‘there’ goes against the […]


141: Time to be an Adult: Time to be a Kid

In the news this week, a 30-year old man moves out of his parent's house after they took him to court. He had lived there for eight years with no signs of ever leaving. He said that there were never any expectations of him to pay rent, contribute to the household, or even clean. A […]


140: Six Conversations: What We Want You To Know

In the final show of Season Three of Six Vulnerable Conversations between a gay and a straight man entitled What We Want You to Know, we will be discussing our messages to each other and the world on how we can better relate to each other. We'll be taking off the gloves and speaking the […]


139: From Desire to Creation – The Million Dollar Collar

After Rob Kessler's wedding, he looked at the day's photograph and was unhappy with how he looked. He described himself "looking like a beach bum". Inspired, he started to look on the internet for the ideal shirt to no avail. Most people at this point would have given up. Instead, Rob created the “Million Dollar […]


138: Six Conversations 3.5 – Living in Today’s World

Jeff lives as a gay man in Los Angeles. Rob lives as a straight man. Both of us have partners, have jobs, go grocery shopping, pay our taxes, and have very common experiences. However, underneath that, what are the differences of our lives in today's society with our different sexual orientations. We will be discussing […]


137: A New Framework For Your Evolution

In last week's show, we discussed the hero's journey as discussed and described by Joseph Campbell. In this week's show, Robert will discuss his framework for your evolution (i.e. growth, expression, expansion, or just finishing a damn project). He will walking the listeners through his frame work and how it can add value to your […]


136: Six Conversations 3.4 – Stereotypes

As a man born of this society, my mind is filled with thousands of misconstrued gay stereotypes, having absorbed this from mainstream media portrayal of gay culture since the day I first started watching TV. Upon closer inspection, 95% of these stereotypes are probably incorrect. But what if they are correct? Are there stereotypes that […]