Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry
Lola Davina
Sex work is "easy money?" Hardly. The adult industry is riddled with pitfalls and dangers. Erotic labor is often emotionally demanding, draining, and complex. It can be hard to know who to turn to for advice on keeping yourself safe and sane. Lola Davina, former stripper, dominatrix, porn actress and escort, provides the life skills you need to prosper, including:
• Cultivating friendships, community, and romance
• Mastering money
• Debunking sex industry myths such as you have to be flawless, or clients hate to hear "no"
• Avoiding trigger states, like loneliness, fatigue, boredom, anxiety and depression, that lead to bad decision-making and burnout
• Surviving bad calls, shifts, and shoots — and so much more…
Thriving in sex work means having a healthy body, mind, heart, and bank account. No matter your job title or gender, whether you're independent or work for someone else, if you want to succeed in sex work, this book is for you.
Duration - 7h 25m.
Author - Lola Davina.
Narrator - Lola Davina.
Published Date - Sunday, 21 January 2024.
Copyright - © 2018 The Erotic As Power Press LLC ©.
Location:
United States
Description:
Sex work is "easy money?" Hardly. The adult industry is riddled with pitfalls and dangers. Erotic labor is often emotionally demanding, draining, and complex. It can be hard to know who to turn to for advice on keeping yourself safe and sane. Lola Davina, former stripper, dominatrix, porn actress and escort, provides the life skills you need to prosper, including: • Cultivating friendships, community, and romance • Mastering money • Debunking sex industry myths such as you have to be flawless, or clients hate to hear "no" • Avoiding trigger states, like loneliness, fatigue, boredom, anxiety and depression, that lead to bad decision-making and burnout • Surviving bad calls, shifts, and shoots — and so much more… Thriving in sex work means having a healthy body, mind, heart, and bank account. No matter your job title or gender, whether you're independent or work for someone else, if you want to succeed in sex work, this book is for you. Duration - 7h 25m. Author - Lola Davina. Narrator - Lola Davina. Published Date - Sunday, 21 January 2024. Copyright - © 2018 The Erotic As Power Press LLC ©.
Language:
English
Opening Credits
Duration:00:00:13
Dedication
Duration:00:00:08
Opening Quotes
Duration:00:01:22
My First Time
Duration:00:07:15
Introduction
Duration:00:19:46
Part I: Demons
Duration:00:00:21
Fear: An Introduction
Duration:00:03:06
Making Friends With Our Fears
Duration:00:12:14
Managing Acute Anxiety
Duration:00:05:24
Physical Safety
Duration:00:09:36
Practical Advice: Learn Self Defense--No Excuses!
Duration:00:05:22
Heartfelt Advice: Surviving The Bad Call
Duration:00:05:02
Practical Advice: The Law And Legal Trouble
Duration:00:17:15
Practical Advice: Safer Sex
Duration:00:06:00
Shame: An Introduction
Duration:00:02:41
Shame, Low-Self Esteem, and Stigma
Duration:00:09:46
Exercise: Spending Time With Shame
Duration:00:02:46
An Open letter: Shame, Fear & The Erotics Of Discretion
Duration:00:04:56
Coming Out And Being Outed
Duration:00:02:56
Heartfelt Advice: How To Come Out
Duration:00:08:57
Heartfelt Advice: If You've Been Outed
Duration:00:07:25
Practical Advice: What To Do If You've Been Outed
Duration:00:04:11
An Open Letter To My Fellow Sex Workers: Respect The Work
Duration:00:02:40
Low Self-Esteem: An Introduction
Duration:00:03:39
Feeling Ugly And Unworthy
Duration:00:06:24
Aging
Duration:00:07:32
Plastic Surgery
Duration:00:03:22
Anger: An Introduction
Duration:00:02:12
Anger
Duration:00:12:22
Empathy Exercise
Duration:00:03:43
Forgiveness Exercise
Duration:00:02:56
Envy: An Introduction
Duration:00:02:27
Envy
Duration:00:06:11
Heartfelt Advice: Navigating Insecurity, Resentment, And Envy In Coworkers
Duration:00:02:53
Heartfelt Advice: Navigating Insecurity, Resentment, And Envy From Clients
Duration:00:03:49
Part II: Tools Of The Trade
Duration:00:00:14
The Biz: An Introduction
Duration:00:02:44
Building The Business You Want
Duration:00:21:17
Marketing
Duration:00:09:19
Motivation
Duration:00:09:08
Keeping Up With New Technology (Or Not)
Duration:00:04:59
Clients: An Introduction
Duration:00:03:45
What Do Clients Want?
Duration:00:05:14
Exercise: Your Ideal Client
Duration:00:03:06
Practical Advice: Cultivating The Clients You Want
Duration:00:09:19
Intimidation And Coercion
Duration:00:04:59
Review Sites
Duration:00:03:54
Heartfelt Advice: When A Client Makes You Feel Like Crap
Duration:00:05:52
Money: An Introduction
Duration:00:02:39
Money Exercises
Duration:00:07:11
Practical Advice: Money Challenges
Duration:00:24:53
Voluntary Simplicity
Duration:00:02:44
Part III: Sex Work & Self Care
Duration:00:00:27
Sex Work & Self Care: An Introduction
Duration:00:02:47
You Need A Buddy. Better Yet, A Bunch
Duration:00:05:31
Get Yourself A Good Therapist (No Excuses!)
Duration:00:06:31
Have A Hero/ine
Duration:00:02:37
Trigger States
Duration:00:12:40
Sadness, Depression, & Suicidal Thoughts
Duration:00:13:22
Practical Advice: Winter
Duration:00:05:37
Dissociation
Duration:00:04:29
Pleasure
Duration:00:02:32
Part IV: Sex Work And Relationships
Duration:00:00:14
Sex Work And Relationships: An Introduction
Duration:00:02:59
Sex Work And Relationships
Duration:00:11:32
Heartfelt Advice: How To Work With A Broken Heart
Duration:00:06:31
Part V: Life After The Life
Duration:00:00:14
Life After The Life: An Introduction
Duration:00:04:22
Heartfelt Advice: What To Expect Getting Out
Duration:00:06:12
Don't Fear The Future
Duration:00:08:13
When Falling In Love Means Getting Out Of The Biz: Marriage & Retirement
Duration:00:05:13
Heartfelt Advice: Work After Sex Work
Duration:00:03:54
Practical Advice: Work After Sex Work
Duration:00:08:04
Conclusion
Duration:00:05:09
Back To The Future
Duration:00:03:09
Special Thanks & Acknowledgements
Duration:00:00:42
About Me
Duration:00:03:39
Closing Credits
Duration:00:00:18