The C.S. Café

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode we break down the men's version of love. I've talked to a lot of men about love and their first time they notice that they loved someone. Our first love could start as early as pre-k or as late as adulthood. This doesn't mean the more intimate love we all talk about but love in general. When was the first time you knew love? Send us your answer. Support the show

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! People talk about love like learning a new vocab word and saying it excessively. That doesn't mean you know how to use it properly. Often times we think we're "in love" but you never truly love someone until you "choose to love them". Marriage isn't always the good times. That what the vows prepared you for. Do you really love your spouse? Did you have to grow to love them? Let's get into this episode. Support the show

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! How many of you got that one person that vents about their problems but ever solves them. It becomes a dumping ground upon your mental health but does nothing to them. Sometimes you have to put a pause on people who just vent just to vent. Tell me about your good times, accomplishments, goals, etc. If all they have to bring to the conversation is negatives then drop the conversation as a whole. Protect your mental health as well as your physical health. Do something about the issues. Walk away! Apply for college! Leave them! Start that Business! Just take the necessary steps already! WE are entering a VENT FREE SPACE! Support the show

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Put them kids to sleep! It's time to get into Seduction 101. Let this episode seduce you but you can't touch the merchandise. Grab your partner and you know what to do. Support the show

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Hide your kids tonight. This episode is a call to action of finding someone who can match the freak in you. some people like to omit/lie about what all their into but when it time to pull up they backdown. Handle what you can handle and if you're an explorer then find someone who matches your kink or open to learning how to. It's not easy telling people what you're into without it being thrown in your face or taken advantage of. Be careful who you share your desires with and happy trails. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Too many people are walking around with things they never let go of and they're bounded by the pain. Communication gets lost in translation. We tend to punish the future dragging the past behind us. We never go to therapy for it but we punish future partners and our children for our hurt. Others can see and so can we. Sometimes people choose not to get over it because they feel they can control the narrative. Baby, get over that shit! Go to therapy! Harboring pain for years makes your body pay for things you never let go of. Stress can form tumors that can be malignant and why should our body suffer for things we left unsaid or things we never communicated. Say what or who hurt you. Tell them how it made you feel. Talk it out. Listen to understand instead of trying to get your point across. Stop bottling up everything as a mechanism to cope. Stop shutting down when you hear what isn't palatable to you. You have free range to identify the problem, come up with how to communicate the problem, then say it with your chest without remorse. By all means SPEAK THE HELL UP! Get some help! Take your ass to therapy! Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! There are seven stages of grief and we all go through it at different rates. Some of us take a lifetime to fill the void that that person was. Sometimes grief hits you in an instance. Anything will make you reminisce and cry. Sometimes during the process things go unsaid. People don't get told off. Sometimes we off the whole world just for a quarter of peace. It doesn't matter who you lost, just remember that grief has no time limit. It's okay to keep going but you can't skip the process. Take all the time you need but don't pause in time stuck on death. Grieve and grow. Cry and walk the mile. Make peace but don't ever let someone walk all over you. Stand up for yourself in the worst part of the process. Be kind to those going through the process because grief has no address. It will overstay its welcome. Get counseled. It's a must! Reach out to a grief counselor near you and say, "It's time I learn to let go!" You're not letting them go because they live in you but you're letting go of all the negative an unsaid words you've hidden since. Please go to therapy. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! The truth is always a hard pill to swallow. Often times we stay running from it. Some of us hide it because we have a lot to lose. The truth will come out and you can't always take it to your grave. Deal with it. Take your ass to therapy if you must! Take the truth in, learn from it, don't repeat it, don't fight it, and move on from it. I can tell you right now someone is hiding something from you. Right now you are hiding something from yourself. The truth will always find its way out. Be ready! Let's get into it. Tune in. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Nothing has changed in the hunt to gun down innocent African Americans. I'm not going to put another hashtag to a person's name as if it solidifies that that was all they were. There was much life lived before they were murdered and it's about time we started talking about that. There needs to be reform and consequences for individuals whose actions are spiraling or too tense for working in public service. The goal is to protect and serve not kill on demand. We are not tallies on a board or target practice. Let's get into this episode. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Over the years there have been many well known black poets. In the arts, we've had to fight to have our say. Fight to have our books published. Fight to own the rights to our words. Through all of those who fought before me I'd never want to be anything but a poet in the black. What has poetry in the blck done for you? Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Everyone has a boiling point. Eventually you will say it with your chest. The truth will push out no matter how hard someone tries to stifle it. They say black Americans badger you with never forgetting that our ancestors were slaves and that we never got any reparations for that. Truths have a funny way of snatching reparations one way or the other. Tune in now! Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Tell me where you was when you had that thought. Yes, that kind of thought at the most inopportune time. Where you're at work, in church, court, etc and you keep thinking of that person who turned you out. Could you control where your body sent you? Did you want to? Might want to make sure there are no kids present during this episode. Enjoy! Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Have you ever looked at the next generation and wondered where they child's play is at. Who nurtures children for adulthood? Why are these kids so consumed in video fames, streaming services, and tv? The imagination of children is fading. Role play in children are not as big as it was in the generations before. Let's get into it. Let me take you down memory lane in the process. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! It' time to crank it up a bit so you might want to leave your kids in another room if you have them. Let's lay it all on the floor and and come explore the four seasons on 7 continents but never leave the bedroom. You down? Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode we pay homage to Reading Rainbow and talk about banned books. There are many banned books on the public school lists across the US but many books should not be there. Books about different cultures apart from ours. Where do we draw the line? Is one race's history the only history we should know? I would think not! Hidden in this piece are banned book titles. Can you find them all? Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode we're sounding the alarm for everyone who's ever been judged by their pen, told to censor their art, told to stick to one genre, been a victim of plagiarism. We are the mold. We don't move to anyone's tune. Build your art and say it with your chest. Let them choke on your message. Let's get into it! Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! There are too many wars going on across the pond. There are too many children dying as casualties of war and never getting the chance to just be. Mothers dying on cold streets. Kids losing lives in classroom. Hiding from enemy lines and although I can't be there in the natural I can be there in spirit and advocate to stop the genocide from both sides. How much more death has to be done before it's over? How many generations have to wiped off the planet to get the message? Tune in. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode, we pay homage to Avatar, The Last Airbender and flip it into the poetic version of mastering all elements of poetry. Are you ready to see a poet master erotic, trauma, teaching, and bars in one piece? Let's get into it. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! Happy Mother's Day. In this episode, I pay homage to my lineage of mothers before me. What they stood for, What some died for, What some lived for. Although everyone before me were broken in some way, their pieces shaped a whole me. I pray this piece keeps you close to your mom. If your mom is no longer here, I pray this piece makes you reflect on your mom. Although she may be gone, like an avatar she lives in you and you can pull from your DNA at any time. Support the Show.

You feeling this episode? Send us a text! In this episode, we delve into foster care kids who are aging out or have aged out already. Most foster care kids don't have a village to fall back on when they age out the system. Most of them don't even have the basic necessities to be on their own so a percentage of them end up homeless or fighting to survive. Articles pit them as invisible but I see you and have saw you the whole time. If you ever need an ear or direction. inbox us at connect@thecscafe.org. Support the Show.