The 90-10 Rule

Anthony uses the fact that he's the host of a relationship podcast to watch all the crazy relationship shows on TV. One trend he's been noticing is that several of the young participants of these reality shows have NEVER been in serious relationships. Being in reality TV relationships doesn't give you the emotional intelligence to deal with serious relationships. Plus, what constitutes a serious relationship in terms of duration? For a young person in their early thirties it's considered a red flag not having been in more than 3 relationships that lasted 6 months or more. There are cultural changes in the new generations regarding dating and relationships. This new generation doesn't get into a lot of serious relationships like the older generations did - it seems they hop around less intimate relationships that don't last too long. Could it be that the new technologies and dating apps have affected the way young people have relationships nowadays, and influence how long these relationships last? Listen to this episode to find out if you have enough serious relationship experience to get married or if you're one of the young ones who switch partners as often as they change clothes. Support the show

This episode starts out with Anthony reciting some old school poetry from Mr. Wiggles, the song from Parliament. Queen Nina is getting ready to make a trip around the world and when she returns she'll be filled with new experiences and observations to share on the podcast. Everyone knows Tom Brady is the GOAT and his skill is unmatched. However, the recent divorce rumors have been concerning - what could be the factors that led to it? When Gisele married Tom, did she know who she was "getting in bed" with, and that the football was the first wife and she was just the "side chick"? Once you marry someone, can you force them to stop doing what they love doing? Is it fair to give someone an ULTIMATUM to put the marriage first? Some tough and complex issues regarding relationships and priorities are raised in this episode. Listen in to ponder whether you're just in an affair with your spouse and you're actually married to your career. Support the show

Virgins, virginity and celibacy. In this episode the topic deviates from the usual experience of sex to instead focus on the experience of not yet having it yet. Why do people abstain for having sex, and is such a thing biologically possible? Is sex a need or a want, and could masturbation be sufficient to suppress desire or satisfy libido permanently? Anthony shares situations from the television series, “Married At First Sight” where emotions and companionship might be troublesome in making the decision to marry someone, and if people are on the show to get laid or to find true life partners. Plus, the differences in the intricacies of sexuality for men and women - do men have a more basic need for it while women require and enjoy an emotional connection from it more than the sex itself? Listen to the episode to learn more about why people abstain from sex for religious reasons or otherwise, and where does sex rank in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Support the show

Queen Nina has a crush! In this episode she blurts out the details of the entire process of how she got to have a crush on a guy who's chasing her romantically, while Anthony dishes out similarities between her current situation and how he came to be married to his wife. Who is this mystery man that has captivated Nina's attention? You'd never believe it, Rulers, it's an older white Jewish guy from Long Island! Nina shares how she's dreamed of him asking her out and them both kissing, how deep have they gone so far in the relationship, what she plans on doing next as well as how their work situation might be an obstacle for their romance. Listen to the episode to learn about how she's playing hard to get not just to make the relationship last but because she knows he likes the chase. Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina discuss and analyze the nuances of being a "F. Buddy" and how it compares and differs from being friends with benefits or being in a committed relationship. They each share stories from their past on how they experienced a F. Buddy situation. Plus, how complicated does it get when your F. Buddy catches feelings or wants something more, and how do you end up dealing with that situation? Nina reminds us that women are the gatekeepers for sex, because they have the "cookie", and how they can use that to keep men coming back for more. Listen to this episode to get the best from your F. Buddy relationship, and learn how to manage it if someone involved catches feelings and wants something more than just sex. Support the show

Rulers, are you ready? In this episode you will learn the top 21 things to woo your woman (according to an old Instagram reel). The interesting part, however, is that to woo men, only two are needed: show up naked and bring food! Anthony discusses this interesting piece of internet advice and why there is such a difference regarding what it takes to keep men and women loyal and satisfied in the relationship. Plus, we learn some statistics about marriage and divorce while Queen Nina argues how infidelity plays an important role in those numbers. The debate ensues as to why there is such a lopsided difference between the needs and wants of both genders, or if there really is any difference at all. Listen to this episode to learn ALL the 21 things to woo and keep your woman, or the two simple things required to woo and keep your man. Support the show

Anthony is outnumbered when he welcomes Queen Nina and Queen Tones Motivates back to discuss the acceptable levels of complaint in a relationship that seems perfect. Does having a good man who provides and is attentive to the family enough to invalidate any complaint a woman might have about the relationship? Is being a responsible man who steps up to the plate when it comes to being a good husband and a good father simply not enough for women nowadays who seem to just want more and more and will complain about anything? Plus, would women who have the perfect man in the perfect relationship still complain about something? The girls claim there is always room to grow together, and that it's not always about being a provider or a good father, but about the quality of the relationship. Join the gang in this lengthy debate discussing the several factors of what makes a healthy relationship and learn a thing or two about taking a man for granted. Support the show

Uh Oh! Everybody’s honesty and integrity are questioned when Anthony asks, "Are you Really Just a Liar?" What makes someone a liar? Can a bunch of little white lies, spinning, twisting details and exaggerations be dismissed as something innocent and harmless or is that enough for the person in question to be considered a liar? Anthony talks about a childhood friend who lies a lot, and how that plays into how people feel about them - surprisingly, people still like them! Plus, what lies could be a deal breaker in a relationship, and is "exaggerating" about income a lie or just "spinning the truth"? There is a big difference between putting an "untruthful" detail in your resumé and omitting your feelings about someone who isn't part of the relationship. Listen to this episode to learn the "truth" about lying. Support the show

After finally plugging social media handles in the episode Anthony and Queen Nina discuss "What You Won't Do For Love" based on the famous song, and what are the things that people in a relationship wouldn't compromise in order to maintain the relationships. From moving and relocating to choosing different career paths, there is a limit for every person as to what they won't do for love. Plus, is there a difference on what people are willing to sacrifice for the relationship based on how young or old they are? They discuss some segments of the lyrics and what they mean and what is probably going on in that relationship, and even share some of the craziest things they did for love, as well as what sacrifices they did or didn't make. Listen to this episode to learn about "What You Won't Do For Love". Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina start out this episode with a little bit of movie trivia and some interesting facts and opinions about The Color Purple, and the fact that many people think it was made by a black director instead of Steven Spielberg. On to the real discussion: is it important for women to have a label in a relationship? Nina goes into what women really want from a relationship, and they both discuss a situation from one of the previous hosts, Tone. What makes a relationship, and what makes it official? Is living together and regularly being intimate with each other enough to be considered an official relationship? And why do so many people (especially men) fail to introduce the person they're with as their official boyfriend/girlfriend? How many dates would it take for a couple to be considered mutually exclusive? The debate ensues as too what is the specific criteria to define the labels of a relationship. Listen to this episode to get some critical insights into relationship labels and how much it takes to be official in these modern times. Support the show

A lot of digression in this one, Rulers. Before getting to the main topic, Anthony and Nina talk about lotteries, gambling, TV shows, and even discuss separating the art from the artist when the artist is involved in a scandal, from Kevin Spacey, R. Kelly and Michael Jackson, and why people still accept their work or not. They proceed to the real subject of the episode: does your perspective of the future change when you find "The One"? It might depend on the person. Nina shares her experience on how her perspective changed when she thought she had found The One, and how her life was affected due to the choices she made. And are they still The One even if they spend years away, or is the bond strong enough to withstand the test of time? Anthony goes into how for him, filmmaking was "The one that got away." Also, who sacrifices their dreams more for their family, men or women? Listen to this episode to learn about the sacrifices people make for love. Support the show

Anthony tells Queen Nina about a quote he heard in a movie, "Money Is Never Just Money" and they both ponder how that applies to real life relationships. Anthony shares the tale of his female friend who has interest from online, (swipe right suiters), with two different men, one of which is doing well financially, and the other who seems to not have any money, but how she has better chemistry with the one who seems to not have any $$$$. They go on to talk about the history of money and the reasons why women prefer men who make more and then the discussion gets derailed again when they debate what socialism actually is. What does money actually mean and how does it play into the dynamic of relationships? Listen to this episode to learn about if it's the wallet or the heart that weighs more in the scale of relationships. CHA-CHING! Support the show

Ghosting... What is it and why do people do it? Anthony and Nina share tales of ghosting and discuss the reasons that lead people to just disappear to someone else without notice or explanation. How rude is it to just decide to not see or talk to someone ever again without even telling them why? If for any reason you're not a match with someone and don't want to see them again, is it justifiable to just ghost them or is it proper etiquette to let them down easy? Is ghosting the price of online dating today, and is it acceptable? Listen to this episode to learn what are some of the things that lead to ghosting and maybe how to avoid it as well as how to be polite to someone you don't want to see or talk to anymore without resorting to ghosting. Boo... Support the show

Do you believe that behind every good woman is a trail of men? The woman with the drama and the crazy or not, if she claims so. Are you willing to hurt your own feelings for her? In this episode of the 90-10 Rule, Anthony welcomes back Jackie J to talk about her national and international travel experiences, plus her ‘trail of men’. Listen in to get juice on some of Jackie’s relationship adventures with the LOCO and what she claims to be NO DRAMA. “Behind every good woman, there’s a trail of men.” Support the show

On this epic musical episode of The 90-10 Rule, the whole team join in to give their take on the legendary Bill Withers song, Use Me. They each give their opinion on whether or not it’s a love song, what is going on in that relationship, who is really using who and why as well as if the brother is hating or just jealous. The crew sing the Stevie Wonder version of happy birthday to Anthony, who reveals his outro was inspired as a homage to the iconic Frankie Crocker the Chief Rocker, a top DJ of WBLS who later became program manager and who’s outro is poetic and moving all on it’s own. Everyone shares their favorite Bill Withers song and in the end they all join in for a group reading of the lyrics. You can’t miss this episode filled with musical history, good taste and tons of fun! USE ME! "I wanna spread the news that if it feels this good gettin' used, oh, you just keep on usin' me! Support the show

In this episode Anthony and Queen Nina discuss the question of why is it that men rule the relationship, but women rule the marriage? And is there a difference between marriage and the relationship? Is it that men control the relationship before the marriage, but after the "I do" then the woman is in charge? They discuss the idea that women are the gatekeepers of sex, while the men are the gatekeepers for marriage, and what that boils down to. They revisit the topic of the different criteria that men and women have for finding a significant other, whereas women prefer someone who can provide security and are intellectually mature enough to be mentally engaging, while it seems that most men just want some young child-bearing hips and don't really care about how smart women are. Listen to the episode to learn about some interesting theories as to why some common stereotypes about men and women might actually make sense. Support the show

Are You Through with Love or is Love Through with You? Join this scintillating and insightful conversation between Anthony, Queen Nina and Jay. In this episode the team share details from previous relationships in different times of their lives, and how those relationships affected their mindset, how their mindset affected their relationships or their interest in being in one. Are times or circumstances in people's lives when it's probably best to not be in a relationship? Or is it best just focus on academics or a career instead of a love life? Sometimes relationships find you when you're not even looking, and maybe that's when it arrives best. Are You Through with Love or is Love Through with You? Maybe drama, maybe trauma, or just love fatigue. The conversation then progresses to a myriad of topics. Listen and learn about the miracle child Breezy. Listen to this episode to figure out if you're through with love or if love is through with you. Support the show

What does it actually mean when women say that they need the so called "Quality Time"? Doesn't all the time spent together with your significant other have quality? Ms. Lady D joins the conversation with Anthony to elaborate on this riddle and try to explain what that means for women. What is ultimately the difference between regular and "quality" time together? The standard differs for men and women, since for men just being together is quality enough, but women seem to need a special activity and to have deep conversations about their feelings. The conversation gets even more complex when the topics of "me time" and "alone time" come into play as well! Listen to this episode to figure out what "quality" really means for your significant other and how to keep them from complaining about it! Support the show

This week Anthony welcomes his long-time friend Craig to the studio to share some funny and interesting stories about their wives. Anthony revisits the hilarious tale of when his wife almost got them both arrested for drug smuggling when they went on a cruise, and Craig talks about the time when his wife, a hardcore sports fan, got upset over a comment he made about her favorite team despite the fact the game was already won. The boys tell more funny stories (including a special occasion when The 90-10 Rule took place!) and reminisce about the times when things went hilariously wrong. Listen to this first installment to hear the boys tell some war stories from interesting situations with the missus and also get a laugh or two. Support the show

Do women ask too many questions? Queen Nina thinks it's just a matter of men not saying enough, but maybe it's just that there just isn't that much information available to begin with and there's just no point insisting. Anthony takes Nina on a few examples of some cases where there just ISN'T any more info available, but Nina keeps on playing the 20 question game, but to no avail. A heavy discussion then begins about communication and feelings, and how those play into the relationships and how stressful it might be for women when they don't feel appreciated enough to be told the important things. And do most men have trouble communicating while women over-communicate? Plus, Nina gives a lesson on how to distinguish a compliment from a catcall and how it plays into breaking the ice with a woman. The team revisit Nina's obsession with Idris Elba. Also, Mr. Jay once again jumps at the chance to holla at Nina. Please Pray for Tom, he was in a bad wreck! Support the show