If you were to lose your job, your family, your relationship, who would you be?
Would you be you? Or would you be lost?
When your identity comes from things outside you, when you lose them, you lose yourself.
In this episode we talk about looking inside to determine your identity so that it's not dependent on things that can be taken away.
Anger and sadness are really two sides of the same emotional coin. When we’re sad we feel depleted, joyless, unmotivated, and helpless. When we’re angry we feel energetic, focused, motivated, and powerful. Both of these emotions are natural and necessary to experience in your healing journey.
RHE had a way of showing people that they were unbroken, that they had value, and that they were loved. Her legacy of meeting life with humility, compassion, humor, and courage will live on through every person whose life she touched. Eshet Chayil, Rachel.
One year ago, I wanted to die. The weight of all my decisions and actions came crashing down on me in one gigantic emotional tsunami. I cried. I raged. I broke my favorite glass. And I questioned whether I had any value to myself or those around me. The demons almost won. Almost. Therapy saved my life.
Not getting what you want in life, even when you put a ton of time, energy, and effort into it, can hurt. It can make you feel like the universe is conspiring against your happiness. You may even think that if it weren’t for bad luck, you’d have no luck at all. That’s not true. Most of the time not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise.
When a relationship breaks, you lose a lot. You lose friends, family, yourself, and your identity. If you focus on what you’ve lost, you’ll never find your way to healing. You’ll also find yourself again. Not the you you once were, but a new you, who rebuilt yourself putting all the broken pieces back together in a different way.
Sometimes sh*t happens. If we were happy all the time, we wouldn't be people, we'd be game show hosts. Honor the negative feelings then switch your mindset by focusing on what's next rather than what happened.
In the immediate aftermath of a tragic loss, your body's natural self defense systems kick in. These are the twin sisters of shock and denial. In this episode learn how to negotiate the immediate aftermath of a traumatic event so you can get on the road to healing.
We’ve all said them or heard them at least once in our life. “Happy wife, Happy Life” ”They’re my better half” ”I’m looking for someone to complete me” ”Opposites attract” The problem is all of these are a prescription for disappointment, resentment, and failed relationships.
One of the biggest challenges, and most dangerous pitfalls, in relationships today is the confusion between being important and being a priority. But how do you know if you’re a priority or an option in your relationship?
“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. Just change their height and hair color. No one ever once has recognized him or herself in my fiction. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should've behaved better. - Anne Lamott”
If you’ve ever made a mistake, you’ve inevitably defined yourself by that mistake. In this episode, I discuss how you can flip the script on the negative events in your life so you can use them to refine you instead of letting them define you.
That’s the question everyone asks themselves when their relationship, their career, their world falls apart. Any relationship breaking is a loss. And with any loss, there are stages of grief that must be passed through before you are healed and healthy enough to start another relationship.
You may think that your past mistakes define you, that all your broken relationships mean you are broken. Well you’re not. Your past doesn’t define you, it refines you. Welcome to the freedom that comes with being unbroken.