Why our kids do not date
This post is not about dating VS courtship... so you can relax.
This post is about the wisdom (or lack of wisdom) that is inherent in the cultural practice of dating... and what can be done about it in YOUR family.
When my oldest son was very small, my wife and I prayerfully decided that our children would not "date" in the typical sense of the word. Our experiences had not been all that great, and we knew there had to be a better way for a Christ-centered...
Our culture tends to be a really self centered. There is not much grace for the personal weakness of others.
And so, in step with our culture, a lot of the things that you hear talked about when it comes to the difficulties of married life have to do with one of the partners being bothered by the actions or attitudes of the other partner.
As a result we hear complaining - we hear wishes of the things that the other spouse would do differently - and I think while that’s totally...
A while back my wife and I were talking about absolutes...
As we sat over coffee at our favorite local hangout (my favorite drink is a "Honey Badger," with a little extra "badger" - you should try one), we were trying to soak in the blessings God has poured out on our lives. We both teared up at times (which happens when you realize how much you don't deserve all the goodness you get from God).
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Why would I throw in my thoughts on such a popular and written-to-death sort of subject? Because what I consider to be the KEY to raising godly children has not been said enough, or loudly enough.
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The key to raising godly children is to first be a godly parent.
Don't hear me saying you have to be perfect. Don't hear me saying you have to make no mistakes.
DO hear me...
A spiritual leader is not the person who has all the right, holy-sounding answers.
A spiritual leader is a person who humbly goes first in serving others.
That’s one of the many lessons I’ve learned about what it means to be a spiritual leader in my family over the past almost-30 years.
This episode of the Christian Home and Family podcast is aimed at gaining a greater understanding of two of the key biblical passages that speak to the issue of spiritual leadership in the home. In each...
I hope it’s your desire to learn everything you need to know about parenting from the Bible.
I say that because, in my experience, the Bible is all we need.
Psychology has its place, as do good books from Christian authors. But in the end, the truth expressed in scripture about how we live our lives as Christ-followers applies across the board.
That means that how the Bible instructs us to behave as Christians can and should be applied to the way we lead, teach, and discipline our...
The foundation of a marriage is an important thing.
That’s because foundations are important. You don’t think about them much, but without them everything falls apart.
Behind the three vital things I’ve covered in the last few episodes - Commitment, Communication, and Connection - there rests a foundation that holds them all in place. And like the foundation of a house, without this foundation every marriage, Christian or not, will be far less than what it was intended to be.
I was recently asked to speak at a marriage retreat here in the mountains of Colorado. My topic, for four sessions was this...
The 3 Cs of a Christ-Honoring Marriage
Those 3 Cs are: Commitment, Communication, and Connection.
This episode features the first of those talks - Commitment. And it's not the kind of commitment you might think of when you consider marriage.
Take a listen to this episode to find out about the...
I am one of those people who believes that marriage restoration is possible for any Christ-following couple who is willing to seek God for the type of healing that only He can bring. I’ve seen it happen. So I can confidently say that there is hope for your marriage if you are willing to humbly submit to God’s plan for restoring it. This episode of the podcast is a recording I made as I was driving to pick up my wife from the airport after a visit to her sister’s home in North Carolina....
This one is my story - of how I learned the importance of good stewardship - not over the money or possessions I have been given - but over something much more important. The PEOPLE in my life.
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On becoming "Grand-Pop"
As I've been considering the implications of the birth of this second generation that has sprung from me, I've been sobered. Though Wyatt's upbringing falls mainly on my son and his sweet wife, Hannah, I have a deep conviction in my soul that I am responsible in some very important ways as well. Here are some of the things that come to mind:
A great pattern for prayer
Though I've been a believer in Christ for many years, and have practiced prayer for all that...
Many parents, Christian or otherwise, have the hardest time letting go of adult children. There’s no easy way to do it and no magic formula that makes everything turn out perfectly. But there is a realization that I’ve come to as I’ve watched 3 of my children move into adulthood: God is faithful - even now - even after I’ve not done everything I could have done to set them on the best path possible.
Now that your kids are adults, are you beating yourself up about the way you raised...
Seasons of change are part of life. There’s no avoiding it. Sometimes the season can linger for much longer than we like. Other times it’s fairly brief. And as is common for almost everyone, change is hard to handle. The same goes for me.
I’ve been away from the Christian Home and Family podcast and website for some time. You may have seen a few blog posts pop up here and there when something was on my heart, but the truth is that I’ve been anything but consistent. This episode of the...
Family conflicts can make life inside the home horrendous. Nobody wants to be around when arguing, fighting, and complaining are the norm.
So how do you get past the arguing?
You get past it by preventing it in the first place. And you do that through working hard toward every person in the family having a right relationship with God.
Yes, really. I know we'd all like to know how to stop sinning, and the truth is that the Bible gives us plain, simple instructions for how to do it.
But even though it's simple, it's not easy.
Every believer in Christ has the opportunity to apply what John says (1 John) and stop sinning. It's a daily, step by step discipline we have to develop.
This episode of the podcast is going to highlight the only path to stop sinning, and give some tips on how to move in that direction.
God seems to love illustrations and symbols. The scriptures are full of them: sheep, goats, seeds, plants, vines, brides and bridegrooms, light, darkness - you get the idea.
This episode uses the biblical illustration of light to show you a fun and effective way that you can use light to teach your family that God is light, and what that means for their lives.
There are a million different ways you could get into the scriptures and get the scriptures into you. But here's one that's honestly new to me, taught to me by my daughter. I call it the 30 day Bible saturation, and it's really a cool way to get yourself immersed in some of the main themes of scripture in a very contextual way.
I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE - TRUE OR FALSE?
In this episode of the podcast we'll be considering a very common statement I hear from people who have lived for many years in a painful or hurtful circumstance. "I can't do this anymore." I know how you feel, but is it true? Well, yes and no.
I can't count the number of times I've either heard someone say, or have said myself, "I can't do this anymore." We say it after a prolonged time of endurance, when the difficulty, frustration, we've been...
Life gets crazy. Work demands, soccer games, home repairs, shopping trips, relationships to maintain, and important, ongoing conversations to have. It's enough to make you the most inflexible person alive!
On top of all that is the heart-cry we all have to discover and do what God is calling us to. I don't know about you, but I'm in THAT place almost all the time... wondering what the LORD wants me to do when I grow up.
My family is in that place right now, prayerfully trying to...
OK parents, it's time to get real.
Life is too short for us to spend it in the aimless pursuit of status, stuff, or personal satisfaction. There's too much at stake.
God has given us one of the most wonderful AND most daunting responsibilities we could ever have and it's one that is intended to change the course of history. We're not just living, we're not just raising kids, we're building a foundation of radical Christian faith that can last for generations.You and I are responsible...