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Dedicated to real talk about the harder aspects of separation and divorce.

Dedicated to real talk about the harder aspects of separation and divorce.
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United Kingdom

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Dedicated to real talk about the harder aspects of separation and divorce.

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English

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07769296235


Episodes

Parenting approaches post Divorce (Ep012)

2/12/2018
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Divorce Sux the podcast - EPISODE 12 Tuesday, 13 February 2018 - Parenting approaches post divorce. Welcome in to episode 12 of Divorce Sux the podcast. In this episode, we have a chat with Audrey Cade about parenting approaches post divorce. Audrey Cade - the Divorce Warrior - is the author of Divorce Matters: help for hurting hearts and why divorce is sometimes the best decision. She has written dozens of articles and is a regular contributor to Stepmom magazine, Step parent magazine,...

Duration:00:31:45

Trying to make sense of Narcissism (Ep011)

1/18/2018
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Friday, 19 January 2018 - Trying to Make Sense of Narcissism. Welcome in to episode 11 of Divorce Sux the podcast. In this episode, we discuss some behavioural traits that narcissists exhibit as well as speculate as to what may be driving these behaviours, in an attempt to try and better understand them. Narcissism exists on a continuum. A healthy amount of narcissism can mean that you’re empathic, ambitious, caring and confident. If however, you are at the extreme end of the continuum,...

Duration:00:29:12

Cool things to look forward to after your divorce (Ep010)

1/13/2018
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Sunday, 14 January 2018. Welcome in to episode 10 of Divorce Sux the podcast. In this episode, we talk with the delightful Lisa Arends, Divorce Force’s number 1 influencer 2016 & 2017. Our focus is on the cool things you can look forward to after your divorce, including: • More free time • Space to breathe • Improved emotional equilibrium • Gratefulness • Looking after yourself • Better parenting • Improved mental health • Reconnection with yourself • Hope for the future • New beginnings /...

Duration:00:31:48

Divorcing a narcissist (Ep009)

1/6/2018
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Sunday, 07 January 2018. Welcome in to episode 9 of Divorce Sux the podcast. In this episode, we talk with Wendi Schuller about her article ‘Divorcing a Narcissist’. So what is a narcissist? The website Psychology Today advises that ‘Narcissism exists on a continuum, but someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is grandiose (sometimes only in fantasy), lacks empathy, and needs admiration from others, demonstrated by five of the following nine traits: 1. A grandiose sense of...

Duration:00:39:15

New Years 2017 BONUS EPISODE!

12/30/2017
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This short episode was recorded on New Years eve 2017 as a BONUS for you, as a small token of appreciation for joining the discussion in 2017. In this episode, I share the audiobook version of chapter 3 of my book 'Divorce Sux: a dad's journey through marriage breakdown and divorce'. W Photo by Morvanic Lee on Unsplash

Duration:00:04:51

6 practical steps to start your divorce (Ep008)

12/28/2017
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Friday, 29 December 2017. Welcome in to episode 8 of Divorce Sux the podcast. This is the second of the 2-part series on ‘deciding to divorce’. In this episode, we discuss six practical steps you can take to get the ball rolling on your divorce journey. Step 1. How much effort are you going to put into your divorce? (01:34) • Are you the kind of person who needs to ‘know’ all the detail? • Or would you prefer that a trusted expert take care of the finer details? Step 2. Is the relationship...

Duration:00:29:47

Thinking about divorce? (Ep007)

12/21/2017
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Friday, 22 December 2017. Welcome in to episode 7 of Divorce Sux the podcast. This is the first of a 2-part series on ‘deciding to divorce’. In this episode, we focus our attention on the question once posed by the clash, that being, ‘should I stay or should I go?’ Today we begin by discussing an article by Wendi Schuller, titled ‘When is it time to divorce?’ (01:09) We also explore high and low conflict relationships, and how these can impact you, as well as suggestions of help and...

Duration:00:31:46

Handling the school holidays (Ep006)

12/16/2017
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Sunday, 17 December 2017. In episode 6 of Divorce Sux the podcast, learn strategies for handling the school holidays. Today we begin by discussing how I went way overboard for the first Christmas I had with the kids without their mum (00:57). We then discuss practical tips on how to avoid going overboard as well as getting your kids involved (06:03). We also discuss strategies for comforting your kids if they are unsettled with their new situation (09:09). How do you handle hard questions...

Duration:00:23:42

Negotiation: Getting agreement without giving in (Ep005)

12/9/2017
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Sunday, 10 December 2017 In episode 5 of Divorce Sux the podcast, learn about Negotiation tools and tactics, and how to get agreement without giving in. Today we begin by discussing the core problem of negotiation, positional bargaining (02:20). In the book Getting to Yes: Negotiating an agreement without giving in by Fisher, Roger, Ury, William, the authors outline their method for principled negotiation, that includes four steps: 1. Separate the people from the problem 2. Focus on...

Duration:00:30:41

Why is divorce like the grieving process? (Ep004)

12/1/2017
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Friday, 1 December 2017 In episode 4 of Divorce Sux the podcast, learn about how the divorce process is similar to the stages of grief. Reader of the week Carl asks ‘do you think if you guys stayed in NZ, things would have worked out differently? Or just prolonged the inevitable?’ (00:55) We consider the view offered by Karen and Nick Woodall - the leaver and the left - and that how we experience the end of the relationship depends on whether you are the one to instigate the divorce or...

Duration:00:31:37

Episode 003 - Communicating with the ex

11/24/2017
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In episode 3 of Divorce Sux the podcast, we dive a bit deeper into Communicating with the Ex. According to Google trends, the search term ‘Divorce’ peaked in the first week of 2017 for all the western countries (01:16). Today we discuss where difficult conversations come from and how we actually engage in three dialogues at once, those being: 1) The ‘what happened’ conversation, 2) The ‘feelings’ conversation, and 3) The ‘identity’ conversation (03:11). We discuss practical hints and tips...

Duration:00:31:11

Episode 002 - Parental Alienation: A crime against kids (and parents)

11/16/2017
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Friday, 17 November 2017 In episode 2 of Divorce Sux the podcast, we dive a bit deeper into Parental Alienation. Today we discuss what Parental Alienation is and why it is a topic close to my heart (03:55). I go on to discuss how some of my behaviours when my wife and I separated had me on the slippery slope toward it (04:33). I also discuss how I forced myself to change my thinking when it came to my wife Manu, which enabled me to change the messages I gave to my kids about their mum...

Duration:00:28:12

Ep001 - Why I wrote the book 'Divorce Sux'

11/9/2017
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Friday, 10 November 2017 In the first-ever episode of Divorce Sux the podcast, I dive a bit deeper into why I wrote the book ‘Divorce Sux: a dad’s journey through marriage breakdown and divorce. I reflect on my journey through divorce and how a series of events culminated in a book being written on my iPhone during the morning commute to work (01:26). I discuss why I think men aren’t particularly good at talking about hard, emotional topics like separation and divorce (08:14). I also talk...

Duration:00:19:44