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Exploration and fulfillment in BDSM Mistress Alisa is a professional and lifestyle Dominatrix who offers BDSM Counseling. Her specialties are in issues pertaining to the BDSM lifestyle, lifestyle-related addictions (sex, pornography, and masturbation), and healthy relationship building. You, too, can explore and find true fulfillment in BDSM.

Exploration and fulfillment in BDSM Mistress Alisa is a professional and lifestyle Dominatrix who offers BDSM Counseling. Her specialties are in issues pertaining to the BDSM lifestyle, lifestyle-related addictions (sex, pornography, and masturbation), and healthy relationship building. You, too, can explore and find true fulfillment in BDSM.
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Exploration and fulfillment in BDSM Mistress Alisa is a professional and lifestyle Dominatrix who offers BDSM Counseling. Her specialties are in issues pertaining to the BDSM lifestyle, lifestyle-related addictions (sex, pornography, and masturbation), and healthy relationship building. You, too, can explore and find true fulfillment in BDSM.




What Is A Dominatrix?

There are so many definitions of what a Dominatrix is and is not. Mistress Alisa challenges the status quo and introduces personal insights into what a healthy version of a Domme looks like. Mistress Alisa has made a name for herself in BDSM as a Dominatrix who helps Her clients to peace in the lifestyle. Her clients embrace and live their personal truths. Being a Dominatrix does not give one a license to be an immoral person. Being a Dominatrix is an honor and it requires a great deal of...

Duration: 00:30:52

Freedom In Letting Go

The importance of "letting go" cannot be underestimated - both in life and in BDSM. Mistress Alisa explains what it means to let go, and for the first time She publicly recounts a precautionary tale of what happened when She was in a relationship with a wolf in sub's clothing. She explains how in letting go, She was able to find Her truth and move deeper into Her own destiny - which just happened to include creating her own brand of BDSM. Mistress Alisa warns that if you are so preoccupied...

Duration: 00:37:17

I'm Addicted. Please help.

I received an email request today. On the surface, the message may seem simplistic in nature, but underneath the surface, the message is full of complexity. In this podcast, I delve into an answer that will shed light on what it takes to start to work one's way out of sexual addiction. The original email message: "Hello Mistress, I am a married man who seems to have a growing interest in blackmail. I started off just reading stories and then went to having cam sessions but not showing...

Duration: 01:05:38

The Two Voices In Your Head

One of the most important things for a sex addict to be able to do is to identify when the voice of his addiction is speaking, as opposed to the voice of his truth. Determining which voice is speaking is a game-changer in the life of an addict. In this scenario the addict becomes accountable and he becomes empowered. Which voice does he want to listen to? Will he feed his destiny or his addiction? What is he missing? Where does he hurt? What is he afraid of? What kind of help does he need....

Duration: 00:27:39

Challenges Facing Recovering Sex Addicts

Sex addicts as well as those who love them are oftentimes overwhelmed by the challenges that face addicts on the journey to recovery. It can be difficult to know what is going on in the mind of a sex addict, especially when he has become so accustomed to checking out mentally and emotionally that he, himself, is not fully aware of where he is on his journey. Understanding what to expect as an addict can go a long way to helping you to be better prepared for the journey ahead. What are the...

Duration: 00:37:29

How To Know If You Are Ready For BDSM Counseling

If you struggle with , sex, or masturbation addictions, you may have considered getting counseling. This podcast will help you to know if you are, in fact, ready for that counseling. What does it take to receive support for addictions of a sexual nature? What frame of mind should one be in to receive said support? Though an unlicensed professional, Mistress Alisa is a leading expert in the field of BDSM Counseling. For those who are interested in seeking support for addictions of a sexual...

Duration: 00:35:11

How Did I Become Addicted?

Men seek assistance for sexual addiction everyday. They want to understand how they became addicted. They want to know if they can be helped, and if so, how? I received a question today that moved Me. After answering the individual's question, I decided to turn our interraction into a podcast. I hope that this will help someone. The question: "Hello mistress Alisa, I am a married man who fantasies about this lifestyle. I cannot get it out of my head and it has been affecting my sex life....

Duration: 00:11:02

What Is BDSM Counseling?

Let's take a closer look at what BDSM Counseling is, what it is not, and why it exists. When I decided to transition from Dominatrix to kink-friendly counselor, I struggled with finding an effective way to describe to clients the service that I was offering. Finally, the term "BDSM Counseling" came to mind, and over the past few years it has stuck. In this podcast, I give a clear explanation of what this special service is all about.

Duration: 00:22:38

Moving Out Of Dysfunction

If the relationships in your life are bound by the glue of dysfunction, and you decide that you want to move out of the dysfunctional space, it is only a matter of time before the people in your life start to take notice. And chances are that the ones closest to you - you know, the ones that connected with you because of the dysfunction - are not going to like it. Here are some helpful insights.

Duration: 00:10:18

Holiday Triggers and The Sex Addict

Holiday seasons are known for being joyous occasions, but they can be excruciatingly painful for individuals who find themselves isolated because of their past actions. And the same actions that led to isolation can, ironically, seem compelling to an individual who finds himself in the depths of despair. Add a holiday season to this mix and things can become even more challenging. This is a reminder to those who are on their journey, to keep their focus.

Duration: 00:07:02

Confessions of a Submissive Man: FrankS #1

FrankS joins Mistress Alisa in an open talk about the implications of depression on sexual addiction. Tune in to hear this true submissive speak about finding himself obsessed with kink, and the methods that he is using to walk into a healthier space. Mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually, he is healing and he has some insights to share that will absolutely help others on their journey. If you are struggling with sex, , or masturbation addiction, this is an interview that you...

Duration: 00:46:35

Confessions of a Submissive Man: MarkX #1

MarkX has been a BDSM Counseling client of Mistress Alisa's for close to a year and a half. Mistress Alisa and Mark begin this interview in the middle of a "heated" discussion in which Mark's ability to trust and to truly submit are called into question. Moving forward in the interview, Mark discusses the issues that he experienced with addiction and depression which lead him to contact Mistress Alisa, initially. This is a candid dialogue about the issues that commonly face sex, , and...

Duration: 00:44:26

'What You Want' vs. 'What You Need'

In the world of addiction, the addict becomes so consumed with what he wants that, it is only after he gets what he wants and grows bored with it, that he even begins to consider what he actually needs. Addiction recovery has a lot to do with acknowledging what one actually needs and committing to those needs. Do you need for your penis to orgasm several times a day with strange women or do you need to save your marriage and commit to your children? Do you need to conquer the heart of "a...

Duration: 00:31:16

Confessions of a Submissive Man: SamS #1

SamS has been on a year-long BDSM journey with Mistress Alisa - a journey in which She is the Dominant female who directs his path and one in which he is the submissive male who learns to submit. He opens up about the ups and downs of his relationship with Her during that time. Sam speaks frankly about his feelings and the lessons that he has learned. He also shares some of the mistakes that he has made along the way. This is a very open conversation about matters of a sexual nature and...

Duration: 00:36:41

Embracing A Kink-Friendly Lifestyle

The BDSM lifestyle can be quite compelling, and yet it can also be pretty intimidating. It can be harmful and yet it can be fulfilling. It can stunt one's emotional and sexual self, and yet it can free those very same parts of a person. Mistress Alisa gives an overview of 5 things to do before becoming involved in the lifestyle. Whether you are interested in becoming involved in the lifestyle or are already an active member, this list will empower you to be pro-active in making choices...

Duration: 00:26:35

The BDSM Revolution

Why should there be a podcast dedicated to BDSM and relationships? There are numerous shows that deal with both topics, individually: BDSM - the lifestyle that allows you to explore your sex-crazed fantasies, and relationships - a basic human need and yet so many of us "do" relationships in an unhealthy manner. With kink-friendly books, movies, and radio shows popping up all over the world, we are inundated with talk of BDSM and all of its sex-filled "glory." But where are the convesations...

Duration: 00:22:33

Religion and The Sex Addict

In the face of seeing an increase in the number of religious leaders battling with sex, , and masturbation addictions, Alisa has decided that it is time to speak up on the issue. She touches on the trends of hiding behind religious rituals and titles, of doing the right things for the wrong reasons, and of investing more heavily in creating the appearance of holiness than in actually committing to living what one teaches. This is a wake-up call for religious leaders.

Duration: 00:32:09

The Pitfalls of Porn

The pitfalls of are almost too numerous to count, but Mistress Alisa lays out some of the most detrimental of them all. She also includes some helpful advice for finding your light at the end of the tunnel.

Duration: 00:17:51

Loving Yourself

Knowing who you are, what you want, and what you need will help guide you to one of the best gifts of all – being able to love oneself. Learning to love yourself will help create a healthy space for you to abide in, it also helps you to be able to love another with integrity.

Duration: 00:13:07

Meeting Mistress Alisa

Heart And Soul Episode #1: An Introduction. Who am I? What do my 17 years of experience equate to? In this first episode, Alisa shares a bit about herself and her experiences in the BDSM lifestyle. She also gives you insight into her inner workings as a Dominatrix (as both a professional and a lifestyle Domme). This first episode allows you to hear her voice and get a “feel” for the tone that she sets in sessions. If you are looking for support with your efforts to work through a sexual...

Duration: 00:11:02